What am I doing wrong with my Aries friends?

First let me say that I love Aries people, they're awesome in general and I value their friendship. I have this one Aries friend who I've gotten close to recently (this year) but I feel like she is kind of pulling away from me. I could understand why, I act weird and say weird things and just am weird and confused in general. The grand cross was kinda confusing and hard for me and I feel like something changed! Me and her have similar cardinal placements and are really similar overall so i know she was probably affected too.

Also, this sag girl in our group she has gotten close to-- we both have but in the past week idk I feel like she likes her better than me. And I'm not even saying this because I'm sensitive or anything (I'm not) but just from my observations I feel like she doesn't like me much anymore and it makes me mad because I value her friendship a lot!

This is kind of an odd post, sorry, I'm not really expecting a miracle cure here. I mean I guess I know why, I have sag mercury and it gets kind of weird for everyone involved when dealing with a sag mercury.
I'm capricorn sun, gemini rising, Aries moon and everything else in either aquarius or sag. + aquarius stellium in 9th house
She is Aries sun, Virgo moon and capricorn rising and most of her other planets are earth.
She is really kind of aloof with a cool demeanor and isn't a feely type more of detached silly and doesn't take life too seriously ( and I'm the same but I'm just.idk)

Okay basically what I am asking is, what are some things that turn off an Aries, friendship wise? I am probably doing all of those things because I am crap at everything besides talking lol. I really dont want to lose her friendship, because we are really similar and our home-life situations are nearly the same and I haven't found anyone else in the same situation as me (it is very odd indeed) and we have really great conversations about everything and everyone and just. Idk

The first thing I noticed in your post was your low self esteem...if your always putting yourself down..I can see why she distanced herself. I personally dont like people that kiss my ass, people that put themselves down, and people that talk about other people. It takes alot for me to dislike someone. Or maybe your doing nothing wrong and she just has,a better connection with the sag. Distance yourseld and if she makes an effort.. she really does like you...if she doesn't then let her go

I think you should just ask her because she might not even notice that she's neglecting you in the friendship. I'm an Aries sun with Capricorn rising, so often times i can be cold and withdrawn without noticing it. So just talk to her and be upfront.