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Is holding onto grudges way too long a gateway drug to astrology? I look at when I was into astro, it was a bad argument with someone where I felt misinderstood and I couldn't just build a bridge and get over it. Anyone else or just me?
tiziani
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Is holding onto grudges way too long a gateway drug to astrology?

I look at when I was into astro, it was a bad argument with someone where I felt misinderstood and I couldn't just build a bridge and get over it.

Anyone else or just me?
Cookieo
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Posted by tiziani
Is holding onto grudges way too long a gateway drug to astrology?

I look at when I was into astro, it was a bad argument with someone where I felt misinderstood and I couldn't just build a bridge and get over it.

Anyone else or just me?


I thought libras didn't hold grudges.

I've been hurt by people I thought were my closest friends. For some reason it's always when they are going through a difficult time. I am a very loyal friend I will try my best to be there for them but I always end up being their punching bag instead.

In the end I just realized they never saw me as a friend.

I don't hold grudges. I understand people really well. That's why I think it's better to direct your energy towards positive people and let go of those who have wronged you.





I have a hard time get over something when I can't sense of it or understand the reason why.
wagtail
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Can definitively see what you're saying Tiz
Hadn't thought about it like that before actually, Eh think it's a fairly good point tbh and my answer is possibly maybe yes
More like preemptive astrological grudge holding tho.
Unwording
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I think feeling misunderstood is the bigger culprit.

Or at least it was for me.
tiziani
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Posted by Cookieo
Posted by tiziani
Is holding onto grudges way too long a gateway drug to astrology?

I look at when I was into astro, it was a bad argument with someone where I felt misinderstood and I couldn't just build a bridge and get over it.

Anyone else or just me?


I thought libras didn't hold grudges.

I've been hurt by people I thought were my closest friends. For some reason it's always when they are going through a difficult time. I am a very loyal friend I will try my best to be there for them but I always end up being their punching bag instead.

In the end I just realized they never saw me as a friend.

I don't hold grudges. I understand people really well. That's why I think it's better to direct your energy towards positive people and let go of those who have wronged you.





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I definitely agree in principle. Though just to be clear, I was more ruminating on my reasons for getting into astrology. The way I deal with feeling misunderstood is very important too and what you're saying seems right, but I'm not sure if I even pick up books (of any kind) when I feel completely understood in my life.

Kind of like how when things are all going to plan, your art suffers.

I was just thinking about that this morning.
tiziani
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Posted by Rozaeon
Me too, however that was not after a bad argument, but because i was tired of being misunderstood
I took interest in Astrology a long time ago but i didn't took it seriously at first, i prefered studied tarot etc and then, when i was doing some introspection i went back to Astrology
The feeling of misunderstanding is the same though or even worse haha but as long as i understand myself more it's the principle


At the risk of me hijacking my own topic: I often get the sense that "understanding myself" is a trap. I think that's pretty much called the "Introspective Illusion".

I'm not saying it's the same for you or anyone else. But as far as being misunderstood goes and what you said about that, I relate for sure.
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Posted by 8434E
I hold grudges that will keep people at bay for security of myself and of them, because no one wants to truly hurt everyone who wrongs them, it's best for both parties.

I am quick to let go, but do enough damage and you are dead to me, if i see you and you attempt to be nice, i will just ask what the treetrunk do you want? and walk on.


Do you feel that is linked with your reasons for getting into reading charts?
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Posted by sierraleoone
when i don't like a certain memory.. i tend to forget that it ever happened

it makes it easier to forgive people when i don't remember what they've done to me

but i guess there's a danger in that too..

i sometimes find it hard to distinguish between a memory and a dream ive had..

i don't blame others even when i feel misunderstood coz it's not their fault that they can't see or feel the same way that i do


I do this often lol I know what you mean.


Makes me think of the film Memento.
tiziani
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Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
I have a hard time get over something when I can't sense of it or understand the reason why.


I'm better at this not looking for reasons behind this now then before.

Eventually for me it got to a question of how I want to spend my time, rather than understanding or not.

I take my perception of someone and run with it for as long as it makes me feel good or safe, and vice versa. sometimes it works out, other times not. But when you can see the time just ticking away into repeat arguments, that's when I stop reasoning and just plan my next pizza.
tiziani
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Posted by wagtail
Can definitively see what you're saying Tiz
Hadn't thought about it like that before actually, Eh think it's a fairly good point tbh and my answer is possibly maybe yes
More like preemptive astrological grudge holding tho.


Were you looking out for any particular Sun sign at the time? I had Aries in mind
Posted by tiziani
Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
I have a hard time get over something when I can't sense of it or understand the reason why.


I'm better at this not looking for reasons behind this now then before.

Eventually for me it got to a question of how I want to spend my time, rather than understanding or not.

I take my perception of someone and run with it for as long as it makes me feel good or safe, and vice versa. sometimes it works out, other times not. But when you can see the time just ticking away into repeat arguments, that's when I stop reasoning and just plan my next pizza.
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It's hard for me to stop thinking and analyzing something to death but I'm working on it

I miss Italian pizza ?
Cookieo
female
Posted by tiziani
Posted by Cookieo
Posted by tiziani
Is holding onto grudges way too long a gateway drug to astrology?

I look at when I was into astro, it was a bad argument with someone where I felt misinderstood and I couldn't just build a bridge and get over it.

Anyone else or just me?


I thought libras didn't hold grudges.

I've been hurt by people I thought were my closest friends. For some reason it's always when they are going through a difficult time. I am a very loyal friend I will try my best to be there for them but I always end up being their punching bag instead.

In the end I just realized they never saw me as a friend.

I don't hold grudges. I understand people really well. That's why I think it's better to direct your energy towards positive people and let go of those who have wronged you.








I definitely agree in principle. Though just to be clear, I was more ruminating on my reasons for getting into astrology. The way I deal with feeling misunderstood is very important too and what you're saying seems right, but I'm not sure if I even pick up books (of any kind) when I feel completely understood in my life.

Kind of like how when things are all going to plan, your art suffers.

I was just thinking about that this morning.
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Is it because you needed to understand them or yourself? Was it because you felt they misunderstood you that you couldn't let it go?
tiziani
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Posted by Unwording
I think feeling misunderstood is the bigger culprit.

Or at least it was for me.


I read something that made me think of your username, last week.

"There is nothing left on which there is nothing to say."
tiziani
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Posted by 8434E
Posted by tiziani
Posted by 8434E
I hold grudges that will keep people at bay for security of myself and of them, because no one wants to truly hurt everyone who wrongs them, it's best for both parties.

I am quick to let go, but do enough damage and you are dead to me, if i see you and you attempt to be nice, i will just ask what the treetrunk do you want? and walk on.


Do you feel that is linked with your reasons for getting into reading charts?


Not at all, astrologically i have no grudges, my grudges are against real people whome i don't even know anything about them astrologically.

I got into astrology after being blown away by how amazing my first Scorpio was.

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