Can not hugging a child damage them emotionally?

The guy I'm dating says he can't remember a time when he was hugged or kissed by his mother or father. He also said that he doesn't remember his parents being physically affectionate towards each other-while in front of him. This made my jaw drop-in my head of course. I didn't want to react like I didnt think this was normal, but I don't. I can't imagine a woman who wouldn't have the desire to cuddle and kiss her child.

Were your parents affectionate with you & your siblings? What about with one another? What makes a person not affectionate in terms of astrology? His mom is an aries. Idk about the rest of her chart though. Also, what long term affects can not being affectionate with a child have on them? I'm wondering if it would have an impact on a long term relationship with him & future children.

YES!

Posted by JBG
The guy I'm dating says he can't remember a time when he was hugged or kissed by his mother or father. He also said that he doesn't remember his parents being physically affectionate towards each other-while in front of him. This made my jaw drop-in my head of course. I didn't want to react like I didnt think this was normal, but I don't. I can't imagine a woman who wouldn't have the desire to cuddle and kiss her child.

Were your parents affectionate with you & your siblings? What about with one another? What makes a person not affectionate in terms of astrology? His mom is an aries. Idk about the rest of her chart though. Also, what long term affects can not being affectionate with a child have on them? I'm wondering if it would have an impact on a long term relationship with him & future children.

this creates an emotionally damaged child. it will surface in adult relationships

My parents were very affectionate during my developmental years, my moms affection died out when I hit the pre teen years, but before then she kissed and hugged me so much & it made me feel good! My dad still kisses and hugs me EVERYTIME we are together, I'm in my late 20s. When I see a child, even ones I don't know, I usually get the urge to hug them & play with them. So I can't understand how a mom wouldn't do these things.

My mom & dad used to slow dance & kiss when I was little. My mom and stepdad always play with one another & touch affectionately when they aren't fighting. Lol it just seems normal for people to display live pysically to me. It makes me scared to be with him bc idk how that will affect his emotions down the line.

When you run into a Virgo or Cap without water modifiers who is capable of expressing affection let me know-it'd be a first in my 60-odd years of experience!

It could definitely affect a child. Unless they spend a good amount of time with others who show affection frequently, then they'd probably grow up not being sure how to express their emotions. At least not physically. Once a person is old enough, they can learn to change themselves, however. But, I imagine there'd still be a high chance of being closed off emotionally somehow. Like others, I've experienced this myself. I have learned to be affectionate in intimate relationships but it's still a little awkward to hug friends and what not. I'm not a fan of PDA and I also can't handle kids very well who like physical attention and who are very free-spirited.

I would assume so. My parents rarely hug, kiss, touch or say I love you. I didn't really grow up thinking it was weird tho, I was content doing my own thing all alone and didn't really yearn for any physical affection. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable when either of them loves on my on the rare chance. I asked my mom if my dad was dying of cancer because he randomly hugged me and told me he loved me. It really freaked me out lol.

As for affection as an adult, I hug my friends but not because I need it. More for them knowing how I feel. I get tired of "well its not like you even hug me". But depending on the partner, I get super affectionate. It throws them off at first lol.

I think how it effects someone depends on soooo many different factors! My ex was showered with affection and hugs from his very smothering Aries mother (he's Taurus with no water), and he was affectionate at the beginning of our relationship, but all of that came to a crashing halt, after a slow receding of it.

I know some people who are inlaws (married into the family via one of my siblings) who were never physically affectionate until they got around my family. Now they're very huggy and warm acting.

Posted by Impulsv
Op yeah I grew up with affectionate parents towards each other. Ex Leo like I said did not but also his parents were alcoholics. I remember a thought of red flag but I didn't want to punish or judge him for his upbringing. But I'd did affect the relationship obviously we are divorced now.
But in ur case it might be different. I dismissed signs of if when dating. Do u see signs? ishe is currently affectionate ? Take ur time to know each other that's the best indicator. Years u will see how u interact with each other.

Well we have known eachother since 2012, but have only been dating for less than a year. We have not had sex yet bc I want to be totally sure-I'm looking for a husband this time around not just a bf. I find that most men are very affectionate before sex & afterwards things can change. So that scares me bc he is affectionate now.

What kind if things happened in your marriage in terms of affection?

Posted by PVandJellay
BTW. Just cause my parent weren't affectionate, doesn't mean I felt unloved. Their love style was acts of service and gifts. They made sure we have everything we ever wanted or needed. I had a good childhood. They just weren't the demonstrative type as far as lots of hugs.

This is how my mom is now, she doesn't hug me anymore but she buys me so much stuff! & I'm not a kid anymore. Lol I figure that's how she shows she loves me.

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Posted by JBG
The guy I'm dating says he can't remember a time when he was hugged or kissed by his mother or father. He also said that he doesn't remember his parents being physically affectionate towards each other-while in front of him. This made my jaw drop-in my head of course. I didn't want to react like I didnt think this was normal, but I don't. I can't imagine a woman who wouldn't have the desire to cuddle and kiss her child.

Were your parents affectionate with you & your siblings? What about with one another? What makes a person not affectionate in terms of astrology? His mom is an aries. Idk about the rest of her chart though. Also, what long term affects can not being affectionate with a child have on them? I'm wondering if it would have an impact on a long term relationship with him & future children.

this creates an emotionally damaged child. it will surface in adult relationships

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yup. Alot of these people can't have good relationships perhaps. Also, many of them commitment phobic.

Posted by JBG
The guy I'm dating says he can't remember a time when he was hugged or kissed by his mother or father. He also said that he doesn't remember his parents being physically affectionate towards each other-while in front of him. This made my jaw drop-in my head of course. I didn't want to react like I didnt think this was normal, but I don't. I can't imagine a woman who wouldn't have the desire to cuddle and kiss her child.

Were your parents affectionate with you & your siblings? What about with one another? What makes a person not affectionate in terms of astrology? His mom is an aries. Idk about the rest of her chart though. Also, what long term affects can not being affectionate with a child have on them? I'm wondering if it would have an impact on a long term relationship with him & future children.

My dad grew up in a household like this. He has a lot of bitterness about it, especially after he married my mom and saw first hand what a real family was like and realized how he got cheated by his own. Said they felt like they were only born to be free labor on the farm. His brothers feel the same way. Needless to say, his family is not close and never will be because they all carry so much resentment.

He has a hard time expressing love and affection with anyone but my mom.

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Posted by JBG
The guy I'm dating says he can't remember a time when he was hugged or kissed by his mother or father. He also said that he doesn't remember his parents being physically affectionate towards each other-while in front of him. This made my jaw drop-in my head of course. I didn't want to react like I didnt think this was normal, but I don't. I can't imagine a woman who wouldn't have the desire to cuddle and kiss her child.

Were your parents affectionate with you & your siblings? What about with one another? What makes a person not affectionate in terms of astrology? His mom is an aries. Idk about the rest of her chart though. Also, what long term affects can not being affectionate with a child have on them? I'm wondering if it would have an impact on a long term relationship with him & future children.

My dad grew up in a household like this. He has a lot of bitterness about it, especially after he married my mom and saw first hand what a real family was like and realized how he got cheated by his own. Said they felt like they were only born to be free labor on the farm. His brothers feel the same way. Needless to say, his family is not close and never will be because they all carry so much resentment.

He has a hard time expressing love and affection with anyone but my mom.

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Even with you?

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Posted by tiziani
5 secs after sex there is always the moment where you feel very cold towards her or sometimes maybe wish she was dead. It only lasts about 5 secs max though. It's a carnal evolutionary kind of thing. The people who stretch that emotion out beyond into hours or days are probably emotionally unbalanced, yes.

what is this tiz?


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Yea Tiz! Expound...

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Posted by JBG
The guy I'm dating says he can't remember a time when he was hugged or kissed by his mother or father. He also said that he doesn't remember his parents being physically affectionate towards each other-while in front of him. This made my jaw drop-in my head of course. I didn't want to react like I didnt think this was normal, but I don't. I can't imagine a woman who wouldn't have the desire to cuddle and kiss her child.

Were your parents affectionate with you & your siblings? What about with one another? What makes a person not affectionate in terms of astrology? His mom is an aries. Idk about the rest of her chart though. Also, what long term affects can not being affectionate with a child have on them? I'm wondering if it would have an impact on a long term relationship with him & future children.

My dad grew up in a household like this. He has a lot of bitterness about it, especially after he married my mom and saw first hand what a real family was like and realized how he got cheated by his own. Said they felt like they were only born to be free labor on the farm. His brothers feel the same way. Needless to say, his family is not close and never will be because they all carry so much resentment.

He has a hard time expressing love and affection with anyone but my mom.

Even with you?

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Pretty much. When I was little sure, he hugged me, but once I reached a certain age, not so much.

I know he loves me, he just doesn't say it or give hugs.