Rejected a Libra now I want him...

(Warning: Long post incoming xD)

Alright so I know it’s a really REALLY stupid and shallow thing to do (aka rejecting him) then after a time starting to like him... but at that time I was in the darkest point of my life and was sorta lost and had a hard time processing things... especially emotionally.

And the thing is.. I rejected him twice because at that time when he asked me to be his girlfriend I wasn’t actually interested in him (I think) I told him that I wasn’t ready for a relationship and we stopped talking.. after a few months later he hit me up and we started to talk... then after a fun time he told me he still had feelings for me and honestly I’m not sure if I had feelings for him there and then but.. I accepted them and we became a couple.

Later on things just got darker and darker in my life (not with my relationship), my mother passed away due to a car crash and I had no parents left so I had to live with my grandparents.. (me and the Libra guy was still together) but then I sorta ran away.. not actually running away from my new home but I deleted social media and everyone from it...I became depressed, and well, I deleted him as well without saying a word....

Then... after a few months... he found me again through social media after I sorta got into it again and we started talking, and I explained him everything, he forgave me but told me that he still wanted me in his life as his girlfriend and wife. At that point I was just shocked, honestly, probably as shocked as you are reading what I did to this guy, he was the sweetest and most loving and handsome guy I’ve probably ever met and I still wonder why he wanted me out of everyone he knew..

Anyways, it ended up with me telling him that I loved him still, but that we should probably give this relationship time (He also said that he got mad over it all because I ran off and didn't explain him anything) so I thought giving us both time would be beneficial. He agreed but wasn’t mad about it.

After all that, we barely talk now. It’s been months, but I honestly can’t blame him over likely losing interest in me after everything that I’ve done and said out of an uncertainty, but now, I am 100% sure that I want him, literally, I’ve been dreaming about him and thinking about him everyday now for weeks.. As I said, I cannot blame him for acting or reacting like this and I am honestly not surprised, but he has turned so cold and distant.. I hit him up twice after he subtly hit me up but without any emotion at all through text (I am a Capricorn sun, Pieces moon, Aquarious Ascendant. Idk his full chart but all I know that hes a Libra. The 27th September is his birthday) .... So, my final queation is:

Is there any chance for me to get him back? What should I do? Be direct about my feelings and tell him that I am ready for a relationship? Or should I start slow and bond with him first and then ask? Or just give up and somehow move on? Any advice is appreciated

just tell him outright that you are now ready to get out there and date and to start a relationship and ask if he is still interested because you are

Just explain to him what happened and wait for his response. Its better to find out right?

I would need to see his placements.

But I do respect your honesty and vulnerability.

The tables have turned.

Be direct and ask.

Wait for your answer.

Okay I’m going to ask, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird or shady if I randomly hit him up saying; ”hey! I like you (etcetc)” when I’ve literally rejected him twice?..

Posted by Nicoalita

Okay I’m going to ask, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird or shady if I randomly hit him up saying; ”hey! I like you (etcetc)” when I’ve literally rejected him twice?..

didn't you express the reasons why you rejected him - because you were not ready ? I may have misread but I thought that was the scenario

Posted by Nicoalita

Okay I’m going to ask, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird or shady if I randomly hit him up saying; ”hey! I like you (etcetc)” when I’ve literally rejected him twice?..

Leave this man alone.

You dont want him

You're just bored and probably have no real options.

Sounds like, you wouldnt accept anyone back if they rejected you multiple times because you yourself knows that is messed up. And for the rejector to come back, you wouldnt give them any respect.

Leave him alone and let him find his happy with a woman who deserves him.

Posted by tctaap

Posted by Nicoalita

Okay I’m going to ask, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird or shady if I randomly hit him up saying; ”hey! I like you (etcetc)” when I’ve literally rejected him twice?..

didn't you express the reasons why you rejected him - because you were not ready ? I may have misread but I thought that was the scenario

click to expand

yes you’re right, but we just haven’t spoken a lot for the past months.. And then out of the blue I show up saying that I have feelings for u and that I am ready. Should I say something else first or just get straight to the point and confess?

Posted by Nicoalita

Posted by tctaap

Posted by Nicoalita

Okay I’m going to ask, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird or shady if I randomly hit him up saying; ”hey! I like you (etcetc)” when I’ve literally rejected him twice?..

didn't you express the reasons why you rejected him - because you were not ready ? I may have misread but I thought that was the scenario

yes you’re right, but we just haven’t spoken a lot for the past months.. And then out of the blue I show up saying that I have feelings for u and that I am ready. Should I say something else first or just get straight to the point and confess?

click to expand

stop farting around and get to the point - tell him how you feel - you don't have to have an immediate response - leave it at that and then be prepared to just move on. if he contacts you in the future you can decide at that point what to do

Posted by DMV

Posted by Nicoalita

Okay I’m going to ask, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird or shady if I randomly hit him up saying; ”hey! I like you (etcetc)” when I’ve literally rejected him twice?..

Leave this man alone.

You dont want him

You're just bored and probably have no real options.

Sounds like, you wouldnt accept anyone back if they rejected you multiple times because you yourself knows that is messed up. And for the rejector to come back, you wouldnt give them any respect.

Leave him alone and let him find his happy with a woman who deserves him.

click to expand

I appreciate this comment, gives me a lot of insight, thank you

Posted by tctaap

Posted by Nicoalita

Posted by tctaap

Posted by Nicoalita

Okay I’m going to ask, but wouldn’t it be a bit weird or shady if I randomly hit him up saying; ”hey! I like you (etcetc)” when I’ve literally rejected him twice?..

didn't you express the reasons why you rejected him - because you were not ready ? I may have misread but I thought that was the scenario

yes you’re right, but we just haven’t spoken a lot for the past months.. And then out of the blue I show up saying that I have feelings for u and that I am ready. Should I say something else first or just get straight to the point and confess?

stop farting around and get to the point - tell him how you feel - you don't have to have an immediate response - leave it at that and then be prepared to just move on. if he contacts you in the future you can decide at that point what to do

click to expand

You have a point.. thank you for your comment

are you really ready? what happens the next time your life goes dark? how can you say you love someone but in the same breath say it needs "time" and then say you barely speak. are you sure you know how to be in a relationship?

it does seem like you want this guy around when it's convenient for you. i'm sort of siding with dmv here, might be best to leave him alone.

it sounds like you've developed an infatuation for a guy you never really had any sort of deep feelings for.

Posted by jeane

are you really ready? what happens the next time your life goes dark? how can you say you love someone but in the same breath say it needs "time" and then say you barely speak. are you sure you know how to be in a relationship?



it does seem like you want this guy around when it's convenient for you. i'm sort of siding with dmv here, might be best to leave him alone.

it sounds like you've developed an infatuation for a guy you never really had any sort of deep feelings for.

I am certain now, however, what you and DMV said isn’t completely wrong considering I was unsure before and didn’t handel it in a serious manner obviously.. I don’t think theres any point to go in depth of my traumatic past with my family. But yes I openly admit that I used to have trust issues, and easily got overwhelmed to a whole other level.

But with all this time in between I feel like I finally was able to figured things out and move on from my mother passing away and improve my issues stated above.. I am still trying to improve as a human being and seek balance in life, thank you for your comment

Posted by Nicoalita

Posted by jeane

are you really ready? what happens the next time your life goes dark? how can you say you love someone but in the same breath say it needs "time" and then say you barely speak. are you sure you know how to be in a relationship?



it does seem like you want this guy around when it's convenient for you. i'm sort of siding with dmv here, might be best to leave him alone.

it sounds like you've developed an infatuation for a guy you never really had any sort of deep feelings for.

I am certain now, however, what you and DMV said isn’t completely wrong considering I was unsure before and didn’t handel it in a serious manner obviously.. I don’t think theres any point to go in depth of my traumatic past with my family. But yes I openly admit that I used to have trust issues, and easily got overwhelmed to a whole other level.

But with all this time in between I feel like I finally was able to figured things out and move on from my mother passing away and improve my issues stated above.. I am still trying to improve as a human being and seek balance in life, thank you for your comment

click to expand

ok. i've had trust issues in the past to and i am working on improving them so i can understand that.

if that's the case then tell him how you feel, explain the work you've been doing, be honest with the mistakes you made and show that you've gained some awareness.

for yourself, make a plan or commitment that when things go bad and you want to revert to old habits you won't.

and with that i wish you good luck. i can't promise that he'll still be around but you have to give it a try and if it doesn't work out in your favour at least you gained some personal growth from it.

Posted by jeane

Posted by Nicoalita

Posted by jeane

are you really ready? what happens the next time your life goes dark? how can you say you love someone but in the same breath say it needs "time" and then say you barely speak. are you sure you know how to be in a relationship?



it does seem like you want this guy around when it's convenient for you. i'm sort of siding with dmv here, might be best to leave him alone.

it sounds like you've developed an infatuation for a guy you never really had any sort of deep feelings for.

I am certain now, however, what you and DMV said isn’t completely wrong considering I was unsure before and didn’t handel it in a serious manner obviously.. I don’t think theres any point to go in depth of my traumatic past with my family. But yes I openly admit that I used to have trust issues, and easily got overwhelmed to a whole other level.

But with all this time in between I feel like I finally was able to figured things out and move on from my mother passing away and improve my issues stated above.. I am still trying to improve as a human being and seek balance in life, thank you for your comment

ok. i've had trust issues in the past to and i am working on improving them so i can understand that.

if that's the case then tell him how you feel, explain the work you've been doing, be honest with the mistakes you made and show that you've gained some awareness.

for yourself, make a plan or commitment that when things go bad and you want to revert to old habits you won't.

and with that i wish you good luck. i can't promise that he'll still be around but you have to give it a try and if it doesn't work out in your favour at least you gained some personal growth from it.

click to expand

Thank you so much for your advice! Really do appreciate it, have a nice day

Posted by Gobby

The flakiness is strong with this one...

As if you never done or said anything flaky in your life? lmao

Posted by Gobby

Posted by Nicoalita

Posted by Gobby

The flakiness is strong with this one...

As if you never done or said anything flaky in your life? lmao

Triggered... and projecting...

click to expand

That’s what I though

Posted by Sleepyquantro

Posted by Nicoalita

(Warning: Long post incoming xD)

Alright so I know it’s a really REALLY stupid and shallow thing to do (aka rejecting him) then after a time starting to like him... but at that time I was in the darkest point of my life and was sorta lost and had a hard time processing things... especially emotionally.

And the thing is.. I rejected him twice because at that time when he asked me to be his girlfriend I wasn’t actually interested in him (I think) I told him that I wasn’t ready for a relationship and we stopped talking.. after a few months later he hit me up and we started to talk... then after a fun time he told me he still had feelings for me and honestly I’m not sure if I had feelings for him there and then but.. I accepted them and we became a couple.

Later on things just got darker and darker in my life (not with my relationship), my mother passed away due to a car crash and I had no parents left so I had to live with my grandparents.. (me and the Libra guy was still together) but then I sorta ran away.. not actually running away from my new home but I deleted social media and everyone from it...I became depressed, and well, I deleted him as well without saying a word....

Then... after a few months... he found me again through social media after I sorta got into it again and we started talking, and I explained him everything, he forgave me but told me that he still wanted me in his life as his girlfriend and wife. At that point I was just shocked, honestly, probably as shocked as you are reading what I did to this guy, he was the sweetest and most loving and handsome guy I’ve probably ever met and I still wonder why he wanted me out of everyone he knew..

Anyways, it ended up with me telling him that I loved him still, but that we should probably give this relationship time (He also said that he got mad over it all because I ran off and didn't explain him anything) so I thought giving us both time would be beneficial. He agreed but wasn’t mad about it.

After all that, we barely talk now. It’s been months, but I honestly can’t blame him over likely losing interest in me after everything that I’ve done and said out of an uncertainty, but now, I am 100% sure that I want him, literally, I’ve been dreaming about him and thinking about him everyday now for weeks.. As I said, I cannot blame him for acting or reacting like this and I am honestly not surprised, but he has turned so cold and distant.. I hit him up twice after he subtly hit me up but without any emotion at all through text (I am a Capricorn sun, Pieces moon, Aquarious Ascendant. Idk his full chart but all I know that hes a Libra. The 27th September is his birthday) .... So, my final queation is:

Is there any chance for me to get him back? What should I do? Be direct about my feelings and tell him that I am ready for a relationship? Or should I start slow and bond with him first and then ask? Or just give up and somehow move on? Any advice is appreciated

I’m not a Libra, although I have Libra Mars and rising, but I’m not trying to answer this from a Libra standpoint.

I’m sorry for your loss and everything you’ve been going through. You’ve faced a tragedy and I don’t think you did anything to him honestly. Given the situation, depression and isolation can be expected. I think he should understand that, I know I would.

Now that you feel ready, I would have a heart to heart.

click to expand

I appreciate your kindness and understanding, thank you for your comment and have a nice day