scorpio24356
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Serious relationship??
Posted by ImpulsvIt's a culture thing. He is the man. He makes the decisions. So I told him that's fine as long as we discuss things and he considers my concerns and opinions. Then I will let him make the final decision. It generally works out pretty well, and he listens to me. He told me that if I tell people without it being a mutual decision, then he will break up. He said that at the beginning of our relationship, and then he allowed me to tell some specific people and my family. I don't want him to feel betrayed by telling everyone when he isn't ready.
Why would u hide! U can tell anyone u want he does t control u
Or does he?
What culture is this??
Which culture?
Capricorn likes to be in charge like most earth signs, water signs bring the well needed emotional bits to knock them off their robotic high horse kind of ways.
In other words, if he loves you and takes you serious then he should probably stop over analyzing the relationship and listening to everyone on the outside who has an opinion about it. He needs to loosen up. Go with the flow and let go of control. It's like he has a tight grip on the relationship but if he holds on too tight it (or you) will start to crack.
Capricorn likes to be in charge like most earth signs, water signs bring the well needed emotional bits to knock them off their robotic high horse kind of ways.
In other words, if he loves you and takes you serious then he should probably stop over analyzing the relationship and listening to everyone on the outside who has an opinion about it. He needs to loosen up. Go with the flow and let go of control. It's like he has a tight grip on the relationship but if he holds on too tight it (or you) will start to crack.
Also, all possible astrology aside. there comes a time when you need to keep an eye out for controlling people in your life.
The man is the head but the woman the neck
OR
The man wears the pants but the woman controls the zipper.
Speak up and don't be afraid to be heard, you have the right to lead and help make decisions.
The man is the head but the woman the neck
OR
The man wears the pants but the woman controls the zipper.
Speak up and don't be afraid to be heard, you have the right to lead and help make decisions.
Posted by scorpio24356You seem to have something great. I have no doubt that in today's society, you will encounter many people (specially women) who will try to convince you that something is wrong with the dynamic between you and your man, and that, as a modern woman and assumed "feminist," it's an obligation on you to combat him and change how your relationship with him works. I think that you understand him well. The only advice I can give you (because it seems as though you both communicate quiet well) is to have PATIENCE. You know you're in a relationship with him and he knows he's in a relationship with you. Both of your families know, and I'm sure your close friends and his close friends know. That's all that matters at the moment! You will get your coming out, it will just take some time. I believe it's his way of protecting the relationship. I say this because that was my reasoning when I didn't want to "go public" with my Capricorn. Give it time. He did me, and before he knew it, I was introducing him as my boyfriend. Had he tried to push me, I would have felt extremely stressed. Privacy is not always indicative of something wrong, believe it or not. It can be a sign of a very good thing, indeed.Posted by ImpulsvIt's a culture thing. He is the man. He makes the decisions. So I told him that's fine as long as we discuss things and he considers my concerns and opinions. Then I will let him make the final decision. It generally works out pretty well, and he listens to me. He told me that if I tell people without it being a mutual decision, then he will break up. He said that at the beginning of our relationship, and then he allowed me to tell some specific people and my family. I don't want him to feel betrayed by telling everyone when he isn't ready.
Why would u hide! U can tell anyone u want he does t control u
Or does he?
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Posted by LillyPetalPosted by scorpio24356You seem to have something great. I have no doubt that in today's society, you will encounter many people (specially women) who will try to convince you that something is wrong with the dynamic between you and your man, and that, as a modern woman and assumed "feminist," it's an obligation on you to combat him and change how your relationship with him works. I think that you understand him well. The only advice I can give you (because it seems as though you both communicate quiet well) is to have PATIENCE. You know you're in a relationship with him and he knows he's in a relationship with you. Both of your families know, and I'm sure your close friends and his close friends know. That's all that matters at the moment! You will get your coming out, it will just take some time. I believe it's his way of protecting the relationship. I say this because that was my reasoning when I didn't want to "go public" with my Capricorn. Give it time. He did me, and before he knew it, I was introducing him as my boyfriend. Had he tried to push me, I would have felt extremely stressed. Privacy is not always indicative of something wrong, believe it or not. It can be a sign of a very good thing, indeed.Posted by ImpulsvIt's a culture thing. He is the man. He makes the decisions. So I told him that's fine as long as we discuss things and he considers my concerns and opinions. Then I will let him make the final decision. It generally works out pretty well, and he listens to me. He told me that if I tell people without it being a mutual decision, then he will break up. He said that at the beginning of our relationship, and then he allowed me to tell some specific people and my family. I don't want him to feel betrayed by telling everyone when he isn't ready.
Why would u hide! U can tell anyone u want he does t control u
Or does he?
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Agreed …..I currently have this exact situation going on except with different stipulations but we discussed it have an understanding of the fact that we are partners, nobody else is getting the flesh emotions time etc... It's just timing with certain stipulations, but I'm surprised it's a Scorpio showing the Capricorn to run it usually I'll see Scorpio's advice needed bout this pairing.
Posted by scorpio24356
So, I'm a Scorpio woman with a Capricorn BF. He is super patient and understanding...for the most part.
Our relationship is very serious. We have only been dating for about 5 months, but we knew each other before. I am the first girlfriend he has ever told his family about and they love me. My family loves him too. Everyone knows that we ultimately plan to get marrried, but we just wanna give it a little more time first and prepare things, plan, make some money, the normal stuff.
In his culture when you say you want to marry someone, it means you are completely committing to that person forever. So I take him pretty seriously, and for the most part his actions have proven to me that he is serious and he loves me.
But occasionally he will just change his mind about plans that we have. Not plans for simple things like dates, but relationship goals and plans that we set. Most of the time it's for the good of our relationship and I understand that, but I'm starting to feel like I don't wanna get excited to make plans anymore.
For example, he absolutely forbade me from telling most of my friends about our relationship. But a few weeks ago he told me he was finally ready to make our relationship public. I'm an impatient scorpio, so when he finally made that decision I was so unbelievably happy and we planned a specific time to for it, because that's how he likes to do things. Not right in the moment.
So today, he had a conversation with someone who told him that he isn't ready for a serious relationship because he has too many other life goals (which we are currently working to accomplish together). After that happened he told me that no person can change his mind about me. Then he went on to tell me that he doesn't wanna go public with our relationship and he doesn't know when he will want to in the future. He said it's not just because of a fear of people's reactions but I know it is.
I'm just wondering... do you guys think he will change his mind or do you have any advice?? Do we still have a serious relationship?
I just feel tired because recently he has changed a few plans without considering my feeling. I talked to him about it, but he just keeps saying, "Why do u need to tell everyone? We can just keep everything between us, that's fine. I'm good with that."
I know he is good with that, but I'm not.
I think there is nothing to worry about anything here except the changing plans part. Does he change other plans as well ? If so, then you should be concerned otherwise everything seems fine here.
Let me tell you about my Capricorn. When he starting pursuing me CLOSE friends already knew that he like me. And when we started dating he told his family about me as well so there was no hiding on his part but mine. Its a culture thing here that we especially girls cannot tell people about the guys they are dating (Continued)
(Continued) So it was me who tried to hide our relationship from everyone BUT I WAS DAMN SERIOUS ABOUT HIM. Once (when I got a paranoia fit) I asked him if I could tell about our relationship to one of my female friendS and he was like "oh that's completely your choice why are you even asking me this You can tell anyone you want to"
The reason I am telling you all this is that it can go both ways I was not willing to tell anyone in the beginning because of the culture thing but now I have changed my decision and I can tell anyone about us.
You said he told his family ? right? Then That's what matters the most. GoodLuck
The reason I am telling you all this is that it can go both ways I was not willing to tell anyone in the beginning because of the culture thing but now I have changed my decision and I can tell anyone about us.
You said he told his family ? right? Then That's what matters the most. GoodLuck
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But occasionally he will just change his mind about plans that we have. Not plans for simple things like dates, but relationship goals and plans that we set. Most of the time it's for the good of our relationship and I understand that, but I'm starting to feel like I don't wanna get excited to make plans anymore.
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So today, he had a conversation with someone who told him that he isn't ready for a serious relationship because he has too many other life goals (which we are currently working to accomplish together). After that happened he told me that no person can change his mind about me. Then he went on to tell me that he doesn't wanna go public with our relationship and he doesn't know when he will want to in the future. He said it's not just because of a fear of people's reactions but I know it is.
I'm just wondering... do you guys think he will change his mind or do you have any advice?? Do we still have a serious relationship?
I just feel tired because recently he has changed a few plans without considering my feeling. I talked to him about it, but he just keeps saying, "Why do u need to tell everyone? We can just keep everything between us, that's fine. I'm good with that."
I know he is good with that, but I'm not.