Virgo man and his push and pull behaviour- why?

I am an Aries 26 y o woman. 2 years ago I met some new friends, there was an Virgo guy that I was into. He was into me as well. I thought he would want to have even a casual relationship with me.

It didnt happen. We Just had an intimate encounter and he 'ran away' some weeks after.. Even in between he was meeting with his other friends, my (girls) friends- didnt talk to me... I felt so bad, like someone had been escaping.

After 5-6 months he was talking to me in a strange was like he would like to start over again- but what start over again? When I told him to tell me more- he remained silent. Didnt tell me anything more even after.

After anothe few months he was sometimes ignoring me in a company, treating me just like a friend, like - oh someone whatever-. I was so stressed out whenever I saw him because I wanted to explained thing... I was getting irritated because he didnt want even to treat me like a friend- he was ignoring me, pushing me away ( mentally) and etc. So I started doing my things, my own business, started being focused on my own persona and etc.

I started collaborating with his few friends with school projects. When he realised it he was being too curious, asking every friend about me and etc. When he saw I had other interest from other boys - even his best friends - he started to be , behave jealous.. Its so weird.



He is a virgo man, working hard, and partying hard as well. He could be focused on work alone, perfectionist, can be organised with life and etc even has the weird serious expression. and he can be the 1st party guy, dating chicks, and dancing with other girls, like a playboy- macho.

Whenever he sees me its a weird feeling. I have no idea why he is alone - still. So many younger girls, party girls.

I deeply feel that when he sees me he is jealous or idk. SO weird in his eyes.

Additionally- I met him in a weird period of my life- I was graduating, I study architecture which comparing to his only 'theatre studies' ( like writing essays and etc) is a massive creature. I was 'closed' I was an alien, I am still stressed working in an architecture field. But I like him.



He has a Scorpio Rising, Moon in Capricorn, Sun in Virgo.

I have Leo Rising, Moon in Capricorn and Sun in Aries.

And I reckon I am too serious and 'old' in my mind for him. Even though I started attending parties, I gained more friends since 1 year... I am more confident with my body, my personality- not only books, books. I think that he only sees younger girls because girsl our age ( he is my age) are usually focused on their work now.

I actually graduated, dont have a boyfriend, I want to relax and I started partying.

And I have no idea how I can make him come back to me.

Because we have been friends for 2-3 years... Usually his previous gfs were very intelligent - architecture, law, medicine... And now I think he is in a party mood. But I am as well.

I dont want to be focused only on studies... Architecture took 5 years from me , even 6 - without good partying, only computers and nerdy friends...

I am so fed up- I am 26 and I want to live like a teenager... Im so pissed off. Everyone thinks I am very serious, and I am very detail- oriented- organised. But they do not see me as party girls, girl that they have fun with.

I think its in my mind- why don't even they want to date me or have a casual relationship... Its always me who is 'friendzoned' because they care of me. His friends told me this some day- because they care about me- because they are party boys and they can have chicks- and Im not a chick from a club..



What if I like one of those party boys.....



Should I focus on totally somoenone else?

:/

Because I have been stressed out because of my studies and I want to live my life now.

And actually Idk because he liked me when I was myself- organised architecture student who is ok with rare partying...

I dont wanna be the biggest party girl in town but I decided to go out more often

Virgos run hot and cold. They can be very romantic and then disappear on you for weeks/months. I dated a Virgo and we never even broke up. He was just gone and then we spoke like 5 months later. We made great friends but they are so closed off and I couldn't handle the hot/cold behavior. Not really sure what it was but they seem to be indecisive about their feelings.

Maybe it's your Leo Asc impelling you in this party mode direction? You're an Aries. Focus on you and let others come to you if they want to. Let your Leo Asc. guide you in your creativity. That's an awesome ascendant for someone in the arts like you. As for the Virgo guy, only you can fully understand the attraction and how important it is. You both have Cap moons which are duty driven. You've got a Cardinal Sun and Cardinal Moon, you're going to be more action oriented than your Virgo guy, so make sure you're moving in the right direction.

Im doing my thing. My mum told me I impressed him because last year I was telling him I would like to do sth and now after one year Im doing it by myself.. But Im not probably the gf material- just friendzone, a buddy from a company.

Sometimes he writes with :* 🙂 😛 sometimes telling me 'yo', homie, 😆'

Its like day after day. Should I put a friendzone on him first?

I feel so weird he is sometimes like this and sometimes I feel he is jealous of me. Like he doesnt want me to dissapear from his life BUT he doesnt wany anything serious from me.

Even few months ago he was irritating me being offensivE telling me i should have a bf.

And now? Likes me again—

Posted by Annabanna
Virgos run hot and cold. They can be very romantic and then disappear on you for weeks/months. I dated a Virgo and we never even broke up. He was just gone and then we spoke like 5 months later. We made great friends but they are so closed off and I couldn't handle the hot/cold behavior. Not really sure what it was but they seem to be indecisive about their feelings.

I haven't came across a Virgo that has ran hot/cold. Just out of curiosity, do you know your exes birth chart info ?

yes i can upload it

Ok thank you for advices