How can I become more Submissive?

I just recently broke up with my Virgo boyfriend and he made a comment that I heard plenty times before. "I love the fact that you're strong & independent, but you act like you don't need a man. And you always like to control situations." I am so tired of hearing this same comment over and over again. I realized that me not being 'submissive or needy' is actually ruining a lot of my situationships. I don't know how to turn it off at all. Not sure if it's because of all the fire I have in my chart or what. Any thoughts!?

Sun 25 Ari 44' 58" 9

Moon 27 Leo 18' 41" 1

Mercury 07 Tau 49' 54" 9

Venus 28 Ari 31' 28" 9

Mars 21 Gem 42' 24" 11

Jupiter 06 Gem 19' 52" 10

Saturn 13 Cap 53' 06" 5

Uranus 05 Cap 18' 59" R 5

Neptune 12 Cap 23' 01" R 5

Pluto 14 Sco 18' 35" R 4

Ascendant 20 Leo 55' 26"

House 2 13 Vir 21' 46"

House 3 10 Lib 47' 09"

House 4 13 Sco 32' 15"

House 5 18 Sag 49' 16"

House 6 21 Cap 57' 02"

House 7 20 Aqu 55' 26"

House 8 13 Pis 21' 46"

House 9 10 Ari 47' 09"

MC (Midheaven) 13 Tau 32' 15"

House 11 18 Gem 49' 16"

House 12 21 Can 57' 02"

Transit Planet Longitude Natal House

Venus 14 Sag 23' 28" 4

Mars 04 Sco 06' 26" 3

Jupiter 23 Vir 13' 26" 2

Saturn 12 Sag 12' 36" 4

Uranus 16 Ari 40' 06" R 9

Neptune 07 Pis 48' 24" R 7

Pluto 15 Cap 23' 56" R 5

It's got to be some middle work. Not too dominant or submissive and if two power signs is both strong who bends.

I was a dominant my whole life until I fell in love

with someone who takes me any way I am.

He doesn't mind if I am dominant, however

I am becoming less and less dominant and

at the moment I just want him to rule.

I am melted. Feels good. Peaceful.

Try, you might just going to love it!

Posted by Nevermore
Never let your guard down.

Especially what people told you to change.. He can't handle it since he wants to be dominant over you.

Find someone who's more submissive to you.

OR

Find a middle ground.

Like @FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428 mentioned.

This is the process of finding a middle ground:

Posted by tiziani
Hang around with people who don't need you. People with Aries and Leo themselves, in their own chart. Then you will see what you're comfortable with in terms of your best and worst habits reflected back to you. At that point, you'll know whether you want to change or not.

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The point is, don't change just because someone says they want you to. Change because you feel it will benefit you and whoever comes along in the future, in the long run.

With Aries and Leo with earth sign can find that middle ground but it's hard no cupcake party either. So like if two are power then it would feel the woman might be alittle more submissive overall with fire signs as an earth sign.

Yeah I'm both though masculine and feminine. With fire especially Aries, and Leo they will 90 be masculine, which earth signs totally feminine regardless how they interact.

Meaning Aries or Leo are dominant type born. Taurus aren't dominant too much and if they are you will know the power in both personalities. You'll spot it. Since earth signs are fixed. You'll see the difference between the two parties. Earth sign aren't born to be dominant as I learned. If you have fire placements or fire sign parents We are taught or raised by watching other people and who is normally independent and whose in control.

My mom was Virgo but my dad is sag fire sign.i seen it.