When Men have Sisters

Do you think it helps them in dating?

Do you women feel like there is a difference when they dont have sisters or a female influence?

Posted by tiziani

I spoke to a man last week who said he felt taking cues from his older sister in how to treat women made him too effeminate.

Now this is interesting. Ive felt this "effeminate" nature but i thought it was his moon and merc in capricorn.

Posted by beautifuldiaster
My ex's younger sister was my age and when she'd stay over she would steal my clothes and makeup...

I was 17 so I went to him but I should have built a relationship with her that was separate of him. She and I never had trust after that. We got into a fight a year later and I slapped her and it made for intresting christmas gatherings when we'd drink and play games. It was downright competitive between us.

O_O was it at her family gathering? I cant imagine that her family would stand for you to do that to their daughter/sister.
normally they'd tell you to get out if you did that. since blood is thicker.

Nope. Just teaches them how to talk, lie and manipulate women to their liking. The relationship with a mother or grandmother is key; if he doesn't respect her then don't expect much, look elsewhere.

Posted by JustALeo
I have an older sister, 6 years older than me. She raised me growing up mostly, more than my mom and I would say to me she's had an influence on dating. If I can't see this girl as someone I can bring home to meet my sister, I won't try. I won't even think to try to take advantage of them because my sister taught me to treat women right and if a girl can't appreciate that then she isn't for me. Also, having a feminie influence most of the time growing up, I have a lot of emotions but I am only vulnerable to close friends of a SO until they do something to mess that up. I have 5 older brothers and if I had them as the people I looked up to, I'd treat women like they were nothing and I would think dating 2 or 3 at a time were the right thing.

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Posted by DMV
Do you women feel like there is a difference when they dont have sisters or a female influence?

Yes, they may not talk know how to talk to women and have zero clue how to approach her. but this may not be true if he has a close relationship with his mom or grandmother.

Posted by DMV
Do you women feel like there is a difference when they dont have sisters or a female influence?

I had never disadvantage because of the sister(s) of my bfs. Not a single bad memory.

But my two brothers married three women. These women did not like me. Probably neither my sister and my mother.

I don't think it makes any difference. I have seen men who have sisters who treat women like shit and have also seen men with no sisters treat women with respect. This doesn't mean that men with no sisters treat women better than one's with sister's. It all depends on the guy irrespective if he has a sister or not.

Didn't seem to help my brother lol

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Posted by VenusStar
Nope. Just teaches them how to talk, lie and manipulate women to their liking. The relationship with a mother or grandmother is key; if he doesn't respect her then don't expect much, look elsewhere.

What If hes disguisted by him mother ( obvious has mother Issues) But loves his grandma who says Mainly raised him?
I could tell he needs women to prove themselves they are not like his mother then he warms up.

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I actually met a guy like this; he said all kinds of thing about his mother (which I don't think is fair but he resents her because he's always had to fix her f*ups) but he adores his grandmother because she raised him. He told me he changed his life around (around 20ish) went back to school became first in his class and on to law school all in honor of his grandmother. He has a girlfriend that he treats like gold. He married her and now they own their own business and everything he does is for his girlfriend/now wife. I would attribute his success to his close relationship with his grandmother now deceased.

Posted by Rambunctious76

Posted by VenusStar
Nope. Just teaches them how to talk, lie and manipulate women to their liking. The relationship with a mother or grandmother is key; if he doesn't respect her then don't expect much, look elsewhere.

My Virgo ex was an only child. But he was very close to his mother and treated her like a queen. She didn't like me very much though, and always made excuses not to meet me. He pretty much treated me the same way he treated his mum, with much love and respect, albeit sometimes he did get a little overprotective.

Our breakup was because I was going away to study and he didn't think he could deal with me being away for long periods.

We are still friends today (almost 20 years).

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it's very true if he treats his mom/grandmother like a queen he'll transfer that to his spouse; there are some exceptions because there are some guys who treat their mother well and believe that no other woman can live up to his mother but generally if a guy treats no female in his family with respect or he tells me his grandmother and mother are cookiemonsters, that's someone I won't even give the time of day.

Not only should you look closely at his relationship with those women but how they interact (is he borrowing money, manipulative, credit in her name, is his mom/grandma pushovers and vice versa.) because it will effect you greatly if you decide to marry the man and comingle finance.

@Rambucious76 - on the OWN network Iyanla Vanzant on Fix My Life had a man in his 30s who had 34 children and she wanted to get to the route of the why this man thought that behavior was okay. Iyanla met with this man's parents to find out that as a teen, his father would severely beat his mom; eventually his mother left his father. At this meeting it was sad because the man wouldn't say ANYTHING negative about his father but had plenty to say about his mother who raised 3 children on her own. This made my blood boil because I see behavior like this all the time where a single mother is suffering and trying to raise her children to the best of her ability yet the son feel the need to disrespect her and treat her like trash because his father isn't around. It is very hard to find good solid men out there.

Posted by LittleStar
The Pisces has two older sisters. I think he's used to issues women go through.

He's pretty sensitive either way. I love it though because he's honest about what he's feeling.

this is what im hoping for.

Posted by PastelPlum
Ideally the family has only two males
These two males will compete in a good way and they prolly will both marry early

He isnt the only male. he has a brother, i dont know much of their relationship yet.

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Posted by VenusStar
Nope. Just teaches them how to talk, lie and manipulate women to their liking. The relationship with a mother or grandmother is key; if he doesn't respect her then don't expect much, look elsewhere.

My Virgo ex was an only child. But he was very close to his mother and treated her like a queen. She didn't like me very much though, and always made excuses not to meet me. He pretty much treated me the same way he treated his mum, with much love and respect, albeit sometimes he did get a little overprotective.

Our breakup was because I was going away to study and he didn't think he could deal with me being away for long periods.

We are still friends today (almost 20 years).

it's very true if he treats his mom/grandmother like a queen he'll transfer that to his spouse; there are some exceptions because there are some guys who treat their mother well and believe that no other woman can live up to his mother but generally if a guy treats no female in his family with respect or he tells me his grandmother and mother are cookiemonsters, that's someone I won't even give the time of day.

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yeah my ex leo had a great relationship with his father. his mother, not so much. it showed in how he treated me and women in general; disrespectful. i could sense how he saw his father as a hero and friend and his mother as a hindrance, bothersome. she kicked him out of her house. looking back now, that was the flag i should have not ignored. but here i thought i was dating some bad boy.

Posted by VenusStar
Not only should you look closely at his relationship with those women but how they interact (is he borrowing money, manipulative, credit in her name, is his mom/grandma pushovers and vice versa.) because it will effect you greatly if you decide to marry the man and comingle finance.
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my ex leo was notorious for looking for his mother (parents) to bail him out of every lil thing. i was soooo green back then and did not make the connection. No wonder he would get enraged with me when i stopped coming to his rescue.

Posted by DMV
Do you think it helps them in dating?

When men are aware I think it helps them with dating.

I've dated twins and in both cases they were oblivious to the needs of women simply because he didn't care to be.

My ex has six sisters and he was quite understanding and somewhat responsive to my needs. However being an air sign he wasn't into emotional outburst or "excessive chatter" unless it stimulate a "deeper understanding of things".

He was great when it came time to wash, blow dry and straighten my hair. He was better than my stylist. No heat damage And knew a trim meant 1/8-1/4 of an inches, not 2-3 inches 😄. Freaking hairdressers....

Posted by Layna
I think it's more accurate to ask if the guys have females they care for.

+1. My ex (the same one I mentioned above) was extremely protective and felt he always had to provide for the women he dated. I feel this was influenced by the fact that he had to care for his mother (she had an addiction and very abusive) and take care of his sisters even though he was the second youngest in the family. I'm not sure having sisters was as much an influence as his mother's addiction was.

Posted by Layna

But, in the end... it is up to them to choose whether they want to care for you, sister/female influence or not.

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