Undatable for Water Signs?

This topic was created in the Astrology forum by SirHorns on Sunday, February 8, 2015 and has 24 replies.

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@SirHorns
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Is emotional self-sufficiency a turn off?
To elaborate, I'm asking if someone who isn't emotionally frail turn most of them off?
Using myself as an example, I have no problem letting you know how I feel about anything or anyone if asked or if they triggered a strong enough visceral reaction.

If just seeing a person makes me want to break their face, no problem admiting it. I enjoy a thing or if a thing taps into my sympathies.

With how I grew up, I never had to deal with emotional co dependancy and always saw my emotions as my own to be dealt with by myself unless they were something out of my control, which at that point I'd analyze it and conquor it if possible.

Just randomly sharing every feeling with someone is foreign to me. I can't seem to bring myself to do it without feeling fake, uncomfortable and that its more to make the other person feel better or give them a sense of power of me, rather than being a cathartic venting experience.

Tried asking a cancer chick about this and she couldn't get it. Can any of you?

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Posted by PVandJellay
Emotional self sufficiency is not a turn off. Emotionally closed off is. Water signs very much communicate in the realm of emotions.

I have a tendency to ask people how something made them feel rather than what they thought, not because I lack objectivity, but because for me things that resonate with me hit beyond the mental. Like with art, if all you're seeing is pretty colors on paper, then you're missing the essence of it. Damn. Now I wonder if I'm making sense.

My point is it's okay to deal with your issues on your own, but water signs don't mind their partners discussing their issues and emotions with them. We call it intimacy. If that makes you uncomfortable though, you can't fake it. Just friend zone water signs, date earth and air signs. Trust me, earth and air signs appreciate emotional self sufficiency.

pretty much this in a nutshell. For water signs, or at least for me, we like and even need emotionally sufficiency, it shows emotional maturity. But We connect through emotions, that is how we feel we can truly know someone, so being emotionally open and connecting to those you care about through these emotions is essential to how we process stimuli and life in general.

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Posted by GENERALIZOD
idk about scorpios. it's the water sign i have no experience with but IME water signs are so caught up in their own emotions they don't even look at yours, which is actually ideal for an earth sign.

Couldnt agree more with this statement.

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Posted by PVandJellay

Posted by Damnata
Me, interacting with water signs:

Don't think passing out is gonna end out conversation when we're in the mood to discuss feelz. We'll just talk until you come to, and fill you in on what you missed. 😄

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Funny enough it was a Cap who did that to me.

I fell asleep in the middle of him lecturing me about falling asleep. Then I fell asleep again. Then in the morning I forgot all about it and was being my sunshine self. He kept the bitchy attitude for a week..feeling neglected and uncared for. The nerve..

I honestly thought he was joking for the first 3 days..like pulling my leg. No, he completely got offended that I fell asleep during his lecture and he carried it close to his heart for a week. Closer than his wallet.

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Posted by Damnata
Much like SirHorns..he had a Taurus Moon. Everything was worth carrying a grudge over.

And the cap sun/taurus moon combo..stubborness knows no limits.

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As for everyone else. Younger water signs, I don't expect too much on the emotional maturity front.
As for older ones ...yeah, let's not talk about that one two incidents.

I'm not running from emotion or holding them to appear stoic, more I'm just harder to emotionally rile up in general. Also where are the crabs?

...which water sign do you think would be a good experience for me? Had bad ones with all three, but I refuse to give up till one tries to kill me and turn my dead body into a puppet they hide in their closet to cuddle at night.

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Posted by PVandJellay
Emotional self sufficiency is not a turn off. Emotionally closed off is. Water signs very much communicate in the realm of emotions.

My point is it's okay to deal with your issues on your own, but water signs don't mind their partners discussing their issues and emotions with them. We call it intimacy. If that makes you uncomfortable though, you can't fake it. Just friend zone water signs, date earth and air signs. Trust me, earth and air signs appreciate emotional self sufficiency.

+1000

I have a lot of water in my chart. My venus in Capricorn helps me to be more stable and logical in my feelings. It took me a while to balance it though. Thankfully I learn from myself, and my fire, air and earth family members and friends that I shouldn't dwell on my feelings all the time! I need to let it out and get over it. Sometimes its hard (depending on how much the situation effected me emotionally) but I learn to not let my emotions dwell on my life or other people.

I do not mind having a partner that expresses his feelings. Some people need to vent and express their emotions to a person that they can trust. I want a partner to listen and comfort me when I'm emotionally stress out. That shows me that we are on a deeper emotional level in the relationship. However, my partner needs to be emotionally stable as well. He needs to have a logical and emotional balance to make it work. Too much negative emotional energy will drain me.