Why are Libra men soo confusing??

I met a Libra man exactly 1 year ago at a bar that my friend had worked at. We hit it off right away and even shared a few things in common. He had just gotten out of an 8 year relationship, and I was still in a relationship in which i dreaded being in. We spent a lot of time together, but I did let him know that I hadn't left my significant other yet. At that I was attending nursing school full-time so it was going to be hard for me to see him. So I told him i'd keep in touch with him as often as i could. 2 weeks went by and i called him, no answer. I went to the same bar that weekend and bumped into a mutual acquaintance of ours, and she had told me he was working it out with his ex girfriend. At this point i was really bothered that he wasn't up front with me. So a month later i go to this bar again, not expecting to see him, and there he is. He appologized about not calling and said he was busy. When i confronted him about his ex girlfriend he said that it wasn't true. So I had some time off and managed to spend more time with him. He expressed his feelings to me over and over again of how much he cares for me, and how he's never met anyone like me before and even introduced me to his mother. Out of no where he simply stops calling and his number is disconnected. This was the end of August. So my friend ends up throwing her birthday party at the bar sometime in October, and can you take a guess what happend next?Boom again he pops up. At this point I'm infuriated, especially because i never got to speak my mind, and i'm a gemini that's just a must. So i Basically pulled him to a corner where no one was around, chewed his head off and spit it out. He kept appologizing to me saying he really cared for me and he was going through a lot of things at the time. At this point I'm not an idiot, I put 2 and 2 together and figured he was still chasing after his ex-girlfriend which i then came to find out doesn't want him anymore. So i ended up asking him to leave and he did. I bumped into him on another occasion after that and i just made it short and simple.hi and bye, though i still had massive amounts of feelings for him, but i couldn't do it to myself anymore. Now 4 months later my friend that works in the bar tells me that he's been showing up there asking for me. So i end up going there because i'm a complete moran, and yes i bumped into him again.He tells him how much he cares about me and even says he's in love with me and can't stop thi

wow...really long story lol...so he keeps on about how he can't stop thinking about me and so on, and i fall for it again...at this point i'm not too sure if he really feels that way. Why does he keep looking for me? Do libras do that if they truly don't care? Is he just using me as a distraction from his ex? So we spent the night together, which happend to be valentine's day. (mind you never had sex at all since i met him, and i still have a boyfriend this whole time.) During that time i told him i still had a boyfriend and he was totally understanding ab it. (at least it seemed) So he texts me during the week and says he misses me already and all this stuff. and i text him that friday that i was going to be around to call me when he got the chance. He says of course, and never calls. I called his phone and no voicemail picks up. I haven't heard from him eversince and i refuse to call. So at this point i don't know what to think.... are libras always this confusing? Do they mean what they say? Is there aeason why he keeps running back to me? I obviously really like this guy, and maybe i should just forget about him already, but i feel like something deep down is telling me not to.

GROW UP and sort your own shit out before even trying to complicate someone elses. You are getting as good as you deserve and that is being stuffed around because of what you are doing to your own bf. Why do you think you deserve to be treated any better and why do you think he owes you anything other than treating you with the same respect you are showing to your own partner—? He'll never take you seriously You're a cheater and will cheat again!!!

lmao @ winterborn

Lol..........

1. He's not over his ex and probably won't be for like 5 years. LEAVE HIM ALONE!

2. Your making yourself look like a hoe. You have a boyfriend and your having an thing with him. I agree with sweethearts, a libra would never take someone like that seriously.

3. He is just using you as a distraction. (This is when libra's are at the worst) Do yourself a favor and WALK AWAY.

well sweethearts there's more to the 6 year history of me and my boyfriend. i'm not saying what i've been doing is right, but it's besides the point. and winterborn lol...yeah i didn't kill anybody but i sure as hell told him off. In my book I think it was just flat out rude and disrespectful for him to just disappear without a word as to why. I'm not saying they aren't pleasant, because they sure are. He isn't the first libra i've dated, and they all seem very indicisive. My father is actually a libra as well and he is also very pleasant to be around. All that i'm asking is it normal for them to say they love you, inroduce you to his mother, spend all this time together, and then dissapear? can anyone make any sense of it? lol

Thanx Sag=0) I think i just may take that advice. but are they really know for using people like that? and as for the "hoe" label, i would actually agree with you saying that i looked like a "hoe" if i was actually sleeping with him, but i wasn't. What does that make of him if he still had his "ex"-girlfriend in his life and LIED about it? At least i kept it real with him since day 1.

Yeah, it just appears you are. (That's good your not sleeping with him) Yes, they are. Their trying to fill a void. It comes from having low self-esteem and a need for a person to fill that space with love that they can't from within. Some have better control over it and others don't. Just kinda how the sign is. Don't take it too personally and certainly don't think about it too much. If you really like the guy and respect him as a person be his friend. You don't really care for him than cool he's gone. But don't take anything they do to heart to much because the next day they may feel different or unsure. Exspecially after a break-up. If your in a relationship with them it's much different. But your not so don't. See?

That makes a whole lot of sense now...Yeah i do care for him a lot but i don't think i can do the friend thing. It just seems a little too selfish on his part

to be honest it doesn't matter what is in the history of you and your bf of 6 years. You owe it to him and yourself to leave and make a clean slate. Why are you hanging in there?

As any other relationship, you won't/cant ever be trusted because you are CHEATING on your partner, whether you are kissing or just looking you are sharing intimate moments with someone else and that is CHEATING!!! Who will ever take you seriously? And personally I dont think it comes down to a "Librian" I think you will find most guys will have the same attitude. I'm of the belief that the way it starts will be the way it will end...ie: start by cheating end with being cheating...

This guy is undecided as to whether you are a descent enough person for him to be with, he may like you alot but your true colours have been revealed through your actions it's no wonder his scales are all out of balance with you.

tHANKS FOR THE ADVICE GEMGAL...YOUR WORDS ARE GOLDEN. AND YOU'RE ABSOLUTLY RIGHT ABOUT ME KNOWING THE ANSWERS..AND AS FOR SWEETHEARTS. WHAT WOULD YOU CALL HIM DOING IF HE LIED TO ME ABOUT HAVING ANY CONNECTIONS WITH HIS SO CALLED EX GIRLFRIEND? MEANWHILE HE WAS SEEING ME AT THE SAME TIME??

He owes you absolutely NOTHING!!!! No explainations or faithfulness. You are nothing at all to him...Certainly NOT his GIRLFRIEND because you are someone elses girlfriend!!!

Do you honestly think he should be honest with YOU or faithful to YOU or not have his options open because in my experience you only get that, if you can give it back! AND YOU CAN'T!

BTW Why havent you dumped your bf? It's been another year... Are you holding on until you have a replacement?

Do yourself a favour go back and read your story again and look at it, as if it was someone else telling it...

Winterborns right you've created a fucken mess!

I actually did go back and read it again a few times...and if it was someone else telling it i would've been more OPEN-MINDED, because there is in fact a reason for everything. I'm not going into details with you as to why i've been "cheating" on my boyfriend because frankly I don't owe you, nor anyone else an explanation. and i really don't understand y you're spazzing out.... "sweetheart" I guess the story hits close to home??

Not at all, I dont tolerate cheating and certainly dont entertain it. My MIND will never be OPEN to that!

You are here looking for empathy for your situation trying to make your librian look to be the "Bad Guy" when in fact you are two timing and proving everything I've read about gemini women.

As for spazzing out...I have no emotions in this at all, all I'm doing is pointing out your faults by asking you questions to maybe enlighten you to your own situation to which you are blantantly blind or chose not to see yourself and the way you uphold morals.

Your heading "why are librian men so confusing?" Maybe because they like to play around with confused girls!??!?!?

You see as in an affair with a married person they can have their cake and eat it when and if it suits them because there is no worry of the pressure of settling down having kids etc because the other party is already spoken for. So he can play his games with you and never really have to own up to anything!

Well I agree with Sweethearts. He owed you nothing and why you got mad and confronted him is beyond me. You are being a huge hypocrite. Think about it. YOU are in a relationship but are "playing" relationship or trying to start with Libra he disappears on you and you are upset about the ex? How does that make sense.

Oh... if he disappeared on you he must not think very highly of you or he would't have done that. Maybe he found out the truth about you. 🙂

Gemgal I'm really happy and thankful you understand where i'm coming from...I am in a relationship in which I feel like im trapped and at the time i wasn't looking anywhere else but my boyfriend. When I met the libra it was really unintentional. I NEVER cheated on my boyfriend before or even had the thoughts about doing it. But the Libra kind of opened up my eyes to see that there's so much better out there, and I shouldn't be tolerating what I have been for the past 6 years. I viewed him as a security blanket and a ticket out. Which I see now was a big mistake.

(For YOU, and your own good...(nothing else) it is better if you kick this guy out of your life)
You're absolutly right. I do need to leave him, and it's in my plans to do so...it's just not as easy as it sounds. BUt it will happen.

(he wanted a woman that is into him so he would get quick sex. At the end you gave it to him)
As crazy as it sounds and I'm sure a lot of you won't believe me when I tell you this, but I NEVER HAD SEX WITH HIM!!lol
I think i mentioned that earlier as well but I guess it was overlooked. I can't say what I've been doing isn't cheating (making out, spending all of that time together), because in fact it is. But firstly, I don't have it in me to sleep around with another man while with someone. Secondly, I know the guy wouldn't take me seriously if I did so. Which boils down to why I'm so confused. If I did have sex with him, then it would make so much sense as to why he keeps coming back, and I probably wouldn't have all of these questions.

(when in fact you are two timing and proving everything I've read about gemini women.)
Sweethearts, Are you really bashing gemini women?? Because it sure looks like it to me...

just to add to that..
(You are here looking for empathy for your situation trying to make your librian look to be the "Bad Guy")
lol...Are you serious?? I'm not asking who the bad guy is, nor who the good guy is in this situation. If that was the case I wouldn't have headlined it as "why are Libra men so confusing"...
My sole purpose was to see if anyone any similar situations with a libra man, and or had any input as to understanding him and where he's coming from...
It sure as hell wasn't to look for empathy either, or at least I wouldn't be looking for it over the internet..

Just to add to that,gingerscorp... you're right he probably didn't owe me anything, but honesty. That's all I really asked for. I never lied to him once, I told him the whole time where my boyfriend and I stood. Why couldn't he do the same? It's not like I would've spazzed on him for telling me he was working things out with his ex...Because in all reality, it sure as hell wasn't my place to. The reason I did flip out was because he lied to me, and there was no reason for it...


(Maybe he found out the truth about you.)
He knew my situation since day 1. I think you need to take some time out and read the story again....

Thanks Gemgal...I'd love to hear about it=0)...and mostly thanks for being open-minded and understanding because not a lot of people are. I will definitly keep in touch with you..

Oh how adorable. Gemini bonding...

PS: Every man seems confusing and indecisive when you're CHASING them.



Girls don't chase after boys. Let them chase you. That's what they were designed to do. They're the conquerors.

If you really can't find the strength to break up with your boyfriend you can always act like a banchi and maybe he'll do it lol. I know a cap girl who's doing that..seems to work.

lol glad to see it had such an impact on the digestion of your breakfast winterborn (kind of gross if you ask me)...and lol Sag I should try that one out! There's an idea that never really crossed my mind...lol Well I just want to thank you all for your input on my crazy chaotic situation...and maybe this "treetrunken mess" will resolve itsef soon. I will definitly take what you all said into consideration...thanks again!

SoOo I'd like to share with everyone that the "confusing libra" and I have been officially together for 3 months now=0) I finally decided to leave my boyfriend a few months ago and I think it was the best decision i ever made. He in the other hand was so confused because of his feelings for his ex-girl..but she's competely out of the picture now and knows that we are together..so hopefully all goes well...Just wanted to let you all know that there is, sometimes, a rainbow at the end of the road...much luv! xoxo (by the way...i must say..everyone should experience a libra at least once in their life, because they are absolutley amazing!!)

Libra men aren't confusing.

The first mistake you made was meeting a guy at the bar and taking him seriously... And I completely agree with Sweetheart and GS.

lol...well thanks depressed angel and i can totally agree. It's one of the best matches I've had so far!

and as for xtina...bar, club, park, school, library.. Wherever we did meet, we fell in love. and if that's what you call a mistake, then it's the best mistake i ever made =0)