1 month, am I supposed to do something??

My boyfriend reminded me today that tomorrow is our 1 month "anniversary" and I was kind of shocked that he was the one to bring it up (isn't that stereotypically the girl's job) anyways.. I'm totally inexperienced with this and I'm not really sure if I'm supposed to do something? Like should I get him a card or a gift? He brought it up so I'm assuming it means something to him, I'm not sure...he seems really sentimental but I really don't know what's normal when it comes to celebrating that kind of stuff. Any advice would be appreciated (especially from sentimental cancer men!)

Get him a card, but don't GIVE it to him. Put it on the windshield of his car or put it somewhere you KNOW he will see it. However...don't mention the card or the one month anniversary to him. Pretend you forgot, BUT make plans for the day after he finds the card like walking in the park or grabbing a casual bite to eat or going to an arcade.

He's going to act SO SALTY because you don't mention it, but when he finds the card AND knows you planned to go out you will see how his face lights up.

Enjoy your day with him. 🙂

Oh, and when you go out...make sure the "girls" are front and center. 😉

thanks everyone...I normally wouldn't do anything for a 1 month anniversary, but considering all the stuff he's done for me, I do feel like I should. I'm not saying that I "owe" him anything, but I also don't want to appear as a greedy little bitch who gets everything she wants and when a milestone comes around I don't even care.. you know what I mean? And wineaux and ck.. you guys bring up good points about the intensity/stalker potential thing. I really don't think he'd actually STALK me or anything like that, but I do know that if we did break up he'd be extremely hurt. Did I tell you about what happened Thursday night when my friend got drunk and blamed me for something I didn't do, kicked me out so I had nowhere to stay that night in my school town.. I told him and 10 minutes later he had a hotel room waiting for me?? It was super, super sweet and very nice but at the same time, a few of my friends have been like wtf that's something a husband does for his wife, not a bf/gf thing.

he treats me so well though, I don't want to think about that right now. he's like straight-out-of-the-book perfect boyfriend. i don't think it's an act, because it's been going on for a long time... and who knows if we end up together but I DO know that whatever woman he ends up with... he will make her EXTREMELY happy.

Oh and I forgot to mention that we went to a bar on Friday and ran into his ex (he dumped her) she was nice but wow, talk about awkward.. I felt really bad sitting across from her with his arm around me

i think you should confront him with "wtf why are you doing all the right things to the point that they're too right and too nice. my internet friends say you could be a stalker. STOP TRYING TO BUY ME! DOOR HOLDING IS SO 50's! It's not a month...it's 720 FREAKING HOURS!" make sure to practice your scowl in the mirror beforehand, then egg his house and put sugar water in his gas tank.

i'm of course kidding. just take it easy, if you want to spend some cash on a card then do so, if not, then don't. the wonderful part of relationships is that they are all unique and you can make them into what you want them to be. it's even better if you both are happy with what you've made in the end. and if you're not happy with it, then you have learned something about him and yourself early on which you could use in the next relationship. just whatever you do, make sure it is something that is truly reflective of who you are. this of course is a problem if you dont know who you are, but that can be a different thread. but anyways, it's still early in the relationship, enjoy it...you can dump him later 😉

Posted by thomas1214
okay i am sober now and what you should do is what you feel like doing even if it is sex. be who you are and do what you want to. so in other words your gift ,although it will most likely be some material good or if he's lucky an action, is being yourself and thats a way better gift then any material. that way he can see who you are and you will hopefully see how he is.

Well I'm still not comfortable with that yet.. but I decided to write him a letter. I think he'll appreciate it more than a card and that way I can tell him how much I care about him and everything he's done for me.

hahaha... it's okay, I'm sure he'll love it. I just don't wanna be too intense.. the "L" word hasn't come out yet and I'm not quite there yet.

On our 1 month he said "Do you know what day it is?" and I said "Yea" and we kissed.

Then on our second month I said "Do you know what day it is?" and he said "Yea" and we kissed.

*shrugs*

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Posted by roxyfalcon2006
hahaha... it's okay, I'm sure he'll love it. I just don't wanna be too intense.. the "L" word hasn't come out yet and I'm not quite there yet.

eww no. save that for when you both are ready to say it to each other.

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yeah don't worry.. I'm not planning on saying it anytime soon. I'm definitely not in love yet. Although, I really don't know if I would even know if I was...but my gut instinct right now tells me no.

Also, I'm not a mushy person usually and can't really take things like that seriously.. which is why I'm asking about the one month thing. I really don't think it's that big of a deal, but considering he basically reminded me yesterday.. it seems important to him.

Ummm... I would wait for the one year mark. We're adults now.

Well you know she's dating the potential stalker sociopath lmao

I agree with CK and rabidtalker...Who does a 1 month anniversary? SMDH, the only people that I know of that do this are desperate and crazy.

Posted by tiki33
Well you know she's dating the potential stalker sociopath lmao

I agree with CK and rabidtalker...Who does a 1 month anniversary? SMDH, the only people that I know of that do this are desperate and crazy.

lol, that's why I came on here asking! I've only had one other relationship and it was like 2 years ago, so I have no idea what the status quo is on this...I wouldn't have done anything except maybe say "happy one month" or something... but he mentioned it last night. I really hate it though, that society has molded us to believe that if a guy out there does all the right things, he must be a potential stalker sociopath. Thus far he's been nothing but kind and generous to me, and sure maybe a little TOO generous but he hasn't been possessive or creepy or anything like that. His brother is the same way.. they are both just really generous with their friends/significant others. I guess we'll see in time, but I really, really, really hope he's not like that, and I've just gotten extremely lucky with a perfect gentleman who knows how to treat his woman right.

Your so cute roxy it's hard being sarcastic with you lmao....I think a nice note or a cute card will be okay anything other than that is too much IMO, you've been given some pretty good suggestions by everyone thus far especially the male cancers.

haha sorry.. that's the blonde coming through.. it's also difficult to tell sarcasm through text haha. I wrote him a letter and folded it this cute way me and my best friend used to when we'd pass notes in school.. i think he'll like it

something else to consider, he only gave you a day's notice that it was your 1 month anniversary. if he expected something, he'd have mentioned it ahead of time. i'm pretty sure he either is being sentimental or he might be setting the groundwork up for something nice tonight.

Hey you guys... all of ya'll ... I need a favor! 😢 Please... I'm new. Can ya'll go read my thread in a little while and tell me what ya'll think... need so expert advice...

Is he a Cancer? Than "YES!" anyways, Uhm yeah, those little dates mean something to us, if you brush it off he may give you the cold shoulder and think your some heartless bitch and rethink why he is even with you in the first place. TRUST ME, Get him something, he has probably already hinted about it, Thats what we do best. Ever talk with him and he say "Yeah i always wanted....."blah"!!! Uhm, try and get said ""blah"", he will appreciate it and even more so if he thinks you were actually listening to him 🙂

thanks guys! we went to a nice indian restaurant and he ordered this 5 course meal for 2 (so much for working out yesterday -_-) it was reallllly good though. then we went back to his house and watched a movie, and as i was leaving (he always walks me out to my car) i slipped the little note in his hand for him to read. it was cute, but i'm kinda worried it was too much... i kinda get carried away when I write lol. Wineaux I'll PM it to you if you want (i typed out the rough draft before I hand wrote it) and you could tell me if you think it'll send him running lol!

I hate making myself vulnerable, so I kind of cried driving home, then laughed at myself for being so ridiculous.

he texted this to me "I'm glad I met you too and I look forward to getting to know you more. Happy 1 month"

:-/

Posted by WynterBourne
Why the :-/ ? I thought it was a very sweet text, and honest. I would be 🙂 instead.

really? okay that's good i guess.. all my friends were like oh... that doesn't sound good...

Posted by wineaux
welcome back cg!! http://media.photobucket.com/image/dancing emoticon/jesse8807/Emoticon__Dancing_by_Thirteen_Autum.gif?o=6" target="_blank">

@roxy - well...obviously enquiring minds want to know. what was the final verdict??

Thanks Wine! *kiss,kiss* I just needed some "alone" time 🙂 Im back for awhile lol

Posted by roxyfalcon2006
thanks guys! we went to a nice indian restaurant and he ordered this 5 course meal for 2 (so much for working out yesterday -_-) it was reallllly good though. then we went back to his house and watched a movie, and as i was leaving (he always walks me out to my car) i slipped the little note in his hand for him to read. it was cute, but i'm kinda worried it was too much... i kinda get carried away when I write lol. Wineaux I'll PM it to you if you want (i typed out the rough draft before I hand wrote it) and you could tell me if you think it'll send him running lol!

I hate making myself vulnerable, so I kind of cried driving home, then laughed at myself for being so ridiculous.

he texted this to me "I'm glad I met you too and I look forward to getting to know you more. Happy 1 month"

:-/

what did you write?

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Posted by roxyfalcon2006
thanks guys! we went to a nice indian restaurant and he ordered this 5 course meal for 2 (so much for working out yesterday -_-) it was reallllly good though. then we went back to his house and watched a movie, and as i was leaving (he always walks me out to my car) i slipped the little note in his hand for him to read. it was cute, but i'm kinda worried it was too much... i kinda get carried away when I write lol. Wineaux I'll PM it to you if you want (i typed out the rough draft before I hand wrote it) and you could tell me if you think it'll send him running lol!

I hate making myself vulnerable, so I kind of cried driving home, then laughed at myself for being so ridiculous.

he texted this to me "I'm glad I met you too and I look forward to getting to know you more. Happy 1 month"

:-/

what did you write?

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i'll pm it to you