Any cancers out there happy to give some insight on my dilemma? :slight sex lol

To make things clearer I'll call him John. My name will be Anna. Sorry i think it's easier in third person 😛

John and Anna have known each other for a few years, living in the same town and having mutual friends. They are both young, late teens , early twenties.

They both are known to talk with lots of people from the opposite sex. Anna always accepted this with John and was fine with it, as they were not exclusive.

(DETAIL FOR STORY - the times when John and Anna hung out in person, before "the incident", John always treated Anna kindly, giving her compliments, teasing her, making her laugh, caring for her etc. Making Anna feel really good. )

One day Anna and John slept together. John made jokes that Anna was "nervous" etc. John came pretty fast, thinking Anna had cum as well. He said "you're still coming", and Anna replied with "I didn't cum". (Harsh, I know. but really i was naive and offended). John made no attempt at helping Anna finish.

Inside this slowly built a resentment towards him as Anna expected more from him.

One week later John saw Anna out in a club and flirted with her.

THE INCIDENT:

Anna being (naive, drunk and stupid and emotional) went out to another dance floor to find another male friend she was seeing. Her plan was to bring him back to the table and make John jealous, hoping he'd try harder to pursue her. LOL wrong. Both males ended up leaving the club in separate directions, neither keen to see Anna. One week later Anna saw John out at the shops, and he was happy to stop and talk for a while to her. Yet, he turned hot and cold with her again. From here on Johns actions towards Anna became hurtful or empty. He would ask her to do favours for him with nothing in return eg, pick him up from long distances or simply "give him a blow job". Anna confronted John about this and he said he was sorry. Eventually (months later) they arranged for John to come over to Anna's house, to which John never showed up. For the next 6 months John and Anna did not really talk at all. (we both had really tough personal times too)

UNTIL. (the comeback lol)

After almost 6 months Anna and John hung out again. 6 months ago She went over his house and spent the night with him. John treated Anna really nicely, flirting, teasing, complimenting etc. He was saying what made him think about Anna and how she has to come see his new car. They ended up having sex again and referred to doing it again. Since then Johns and Anna's friendship has been a lot stronger and friendlier. Anna has also noticed that John seems to be a lot shier and nervous around her and stares at her while she is near him. Yet he has still not arranged to see Anna again one on one and plays the whole "coming and going" tactic.

The only reason I can think of why is that he still considers other boys a threat. This is because of Anna's sluttish history and the fact she is still "friends" with other guys

Really interested in Cancer's opinions!! 🙂 x

I can't believe I read this.

This is ducked up.

John and Anna went up the hill to fetch a pail of water.

John came down...

And didn't finish her off...

And Jill came trolling after.

Now Anna has lost her Cancer

And doesn't know where to find him

Rather than to leave him alone,until he comes home

Wagging his p&nis behind him.

She gets him jealous instead

And gives him head

Still didn't finish her off...

And Jill IS still trolling after.

Since I don't see a direct or specific question in this, here's my opinion: John and Anna are still really young and haven't figured out how to be mature about sex. Anna needs to learn to be more direct about what she wants and how she wants it. John needs to learn not to be a little boy when his feelings get hurt, and since he sucks in bed he needs to learn how not to suck at sex. Anna also needs to learn how to have boundaries. Does Anna want a real relationship or does she just want to fuck boy she does favors for but who doesn't get favors returned? Personally, I can't figure out why Anna wants to have anything to do with John now that he has a track record for being a little dickwad.

Hes treated you with disdain and disrespect, don't keep hankering after him hun, your young, pls don't do this to yourself, treat him like trash, cause that is how he is treating you! Return the favour sweetie, be the the stronger better person, move away from him and mean it! Don't put yourself in a cycle of being treated like this, your lovely, if he isn't making you feel like you are, hes not for you xx

Posted by MoonArtist
Since I don't see a direct or specific question in this, here's my opinion: John and Anna are still really young and haven't figured out how to be mature about sex. Anna needs to learn to be more direct about what she wants and how she wants it. John needs to learn not to be a little boy when his feelings get hurt, and since he sucks in bed he needs to learn how not to suck at sex. Anna also needs to learn how to have boundaries. Does Anna want a real relationship or does she just want to fuck boy she does favors for but who doesn't get favors returned? Personally, I can't figure out why Anna wants to have anything to do with John now that he has a track record for being a little dickwad.

I agree!

What are his placements and yours?

Posted by surferpisces
Eventually (months later) they arranged for John to come over to Anna's house, to which John never showed up.

That alone should've made you close up shop.

But I'm seeing your friends with benefits. Whats the dilemma?