Cancer and Taurus complication.

Let's try get straight to the point, I am A Taurus and my ex now is a cancer. we were both together for 10 months but she ended it out of the blue, our relationship didn't have any real complications, no arguments we got on pretty damn well and I adore the girl and love her to pieces.
we have now been split up for almost a month, I did confront her afew times why she broke it off but she was always confused and changed her answer alot, finally she said she doesn't know if she is 'in love' with me because this is her first serious relationship and has nothing to compare it to, so by that I knew I shouldn't dwell on things and proceeded to try and move on the issue is we both attend the same college and have the same friends so we see eachother regularly.
for the first week she decided she wants to be 'close friends' with me meaning she basically still treated like we are together, holding hands etc it went on through the second week but I called no contact for a few days and we were both miserable from it so she ended up breaking the 'no contact' so on tuesday (couple of days ago) I confronted her and said what she wanted, does she still treat me like a couple because she cares or out of habit. she said she cares but not in the same way as she did I don't think, more as a close friend but today at college she still was extremely close, trying to touch me and be with me through out the day. so what I am asking is cancer women please help me understand, is she just asking for attention or does she intend something to happen in the long run? ALSO to add we never had a friendship to begin with, so through the relationship she was so so closed up and wouldn't tell me much about her self im guessing that is normal for a cancer women.
any advice? Im trying to move on but it still doesn't feel the relationship has full ended if you get me.

you have a fair point about the age thing, I do think she is a very emotional person and finds it hard to make decisons. she did admit to me she did enjoy the relationship, she keeps reminiscing to me about our past like even today getting close and remind me of small things we used to do :s

The forth coming thing I would agree but she has never really opened up to anyone in her life she likes to bottle things up she doesn't even confide in her parents so the closest she has got to opening up is me.

Posted by Brittfuzz


..........finally she said she doesn't know if she is 'in love' with me because this is her first serious relationship and has nothing to compare it to, ............

In theory this is the match of the zodiac.
Honestly, it works better after Cancer girl has been through a few fire and air signs. *Sigh*

I'm going to answer based on what came out of her mouth.

She sounds confused because she really likes you but isn't ready to commit; she wants more dating experience.
Are you two having sex? Is it exciting? Is there passion between you?
I had this issue, wanting to commit yet wanting to date a lot of guys for variety and experience.
I felt I needed to make sure I was making the right choice from knowing I had exhausted my options, among other things.
If she meets a guy and it doesn't work, she may be back to you.

Can you post her chart please? I'm very curious of her moon and mars.

My reply still stands. 😉

Haha oh god, yes I know a few people would eventually catch on that I'm not straight :') I know you already answered in my other thread LunarMaiden but il still answer 🙂
we did, the only issue is she has a very low sex drive and I have a very high one she prefers cuddling, kissing and being a couple basically she told me she never thought of sexual stuff that much in the past, at first I thought I was bad in bed...but after confronting to her about it she just said it's who she is and she enjoyed being close to me instead we still did things but I left it down to her when she wanted. when we first started dating it was very often after a good few months we would have it once or twice a week maybe.

this sounds silly but I have no idea about charts I woundered if I could get some help of finding out my own and hers? 🙂

Okay I shall check up now on the chart :3

It's no offensive I was quite curious about this aswell, I know Im quite open with my sexuality (me being a taurus) but I haven't been with a man to verify if I dislike or like men I have only been with women so Im open to experimentation when I go off to uni if I remain single.

as for my ex partner (the cancer) she says she can't label her sexuality I suppose, she said she has always liked women even from a young age and has has crushes on women since she was smaller she insists that she prefers women, although as I said she can't label herself she says she isn't a lesbian or bisexual I think she finds men attractive and has done in the past had crushes but she doesn't feel that she could date a man.

crabcakesandmayo: I think you are right there, she did say she was unsure if she was 'in love' with me, and said she did love me as a person. Im just weighing up the pro's and con's really if staying friends now would be a good option since I can't guarantee if she will ever fall in love with me so I don't know if I am just hurting myself :/

squeeflee: yeah I understand I have a tendency of wanting other people to be happy more than myself so I end up getting hurt majority of the time. Yeah she is young and confused, so am I to an extent since I don't really know what went wrong in the relationship but at the same time I can't keep over analysing the situation over and over.
I started my boundaries last week, since she's clingy natured she didn't like the look of my boundaries haha it's to be expected but if I allow her the comfort of her clingying to me she gets the best of both worlds and makes it easier for her to move on since it appears nothing has changed whilst I suffer I suppose

My chart is now in my images of you want to see 🙂

I know, it's just hard when Ive always had the habit of caring for everyone all the time haha same I know what you mean I help people with there relationship situations alot and they always end up great but taking my own advice doesn't happen. I guess I need to be more selfish about the situation, it's just hard when im in lessons my mind is just filled with thinking and over analysing every scenario, what is she thinking, if she likes someone else etc I never give my brain a break!

oh right I see, what star sign is your brother? I have quite a tight knitted family my mums and aries, my dad is Pisces and my brother Aquarius. aries and Aquarius supposedly my biggest clashes we get on fairly well when we do get annoyed with each other it's not calm :L