Cancer Females confuse me...

So hot and cold, off and on, good mood and bad mood... very unstable.

I tend to have good conversation generally when they are "feeling" it. I'm a Virgo and I enjoy depth and intellect in my conversation which I can get... at times.

I really don't know how to go about dating one though... all my life experiences tell me that if she does not like me, I have no chance, with all signs that is.

I'm a Virgo so if there is any doubt, I move on. I don't have time for hard to get or to chase.

From what some of my Cancer female friends say though, you have to WANT to be with her and possibly smother her.... soooo not my style ...

Advice?

I do all of these things... I'm a funny guy with lots of charm and wide knowledge of topics.However, when it comes to making a date.. things go a wry.



The time would come and they would do something else or say they don't "feel" like going anymore. I am usually around to here them talk up other people and make their own plans to go out.

This makes me feel unwanted and unimportant.

Cajun,

I'm a cancer female and I'm trying to deal with a Virgo..believe me you guys are very confusing too

i think it's equally hard to get through Virgo barriers as it is hard to get through the cancer shell..patience is needed for sure, but once you are there..it's worth it

if you can specify more..i can tell more

are we really freaky as in friggin freaky and you guys dont have the guts to face us - as the typically unassuming emotional-mood swings-pain in the arse people

Evan, I am not needy at all, I'm a VIRGO.
I hardly call anyone. I would make plans once and call the day before once.
Most girls think I'm a player, so that's what i'm working on presently...

Lucky Libra, I know all that... it's just to catch them in my net first... they are notorious for saying they will hang out with me then they change their mind.

Miasma, Virgos are direct with everything save "emotions"
If we do feel them, they are immediately controlled and most people can not ever read us.

I personally hate emotions, they make me feel weak and impair my judgement.

Cancers on the other hand... tend to be very emotional and clingy.
The clinginess can freak us out.

Virgos love to plan and Cancers go by emotions, which ultimately means plans are going to fall apart A LOT of the time.

I would really like to try a relationship... but... I can't seem to get them interested in me. One told me there was no "air" between us.
I was and still am confused by that statement.

She also doesn't like the fact I'm a show off lol

"tend to be very emotional and clingy."
Not all could get very emotional and clingy so to speak..
unless if you find some reason of not giving enough then yes... but emotional..dont ever get some of those moods? bad mood? good mood? lazy mood?

You seem cold to me since you take emotions as weaknesses..

"One told me there was no "air" between us."
that means that was no chance of you to be with any of them. you aura with them is not enough to charmed any of those women...sorry.

And oh... no one like show off people.. 🙂 especially not cancer women

oh and by the way..if you want to start a relationship with a cancer.. you seems to have figure out yourself that "The clinginess can freak us out.Virgos love to plan and Cancers go by emotions, which ultimately means plans are going to fall apart A LOT of the time."
so why bother?

Lostsoul, I am cold, frigid and icey.
Yes, I do recognise Cancer ladies are not amused by show-offs.

I bother because I am interested in seeing how such a relationship would go.

Like I stated above moon_eyes, you have to want it badly. I personally don't want many things and a girlfriend is one of them.

I may like to have a girlfriend but I don't need one nor will I act in that way.

I am not willing to try too hard or yield to someone who is finnicky, unsure and unstable.
I am willing to understand though and that is where we can connect.
And when we do connect, it's pretty awesome.

I just get turned off by the sometime-ish ways.

I do realise that the only way a relationship could ever happen is if SHE WANTS me, which is unlikely to occur 🙂

The one and only Virgo man that I met was a total arse... All he did was pick apart everything I said... He was so critical of everything?.I guess that was intellectual side, IDK...

One thing I can say is I am very easy going with a guy I am interested in. I am also very intuitive too so if I feel like there is no real interest on your part or that you may have underlying motives that I don't see myself agreeing with I will steer clear of dealing with you. I have learned to be direct in that area because I don't want to mislead people.

Good luck!

Oh yeah..i concur what moon_eyes says..

Above all that you mentioned.. your definitely not gonna find fit with cancer women or any women if your not willing to bend..i know it sound pretty harsh but it always takes two to tango. I'm not belittle you but your have say all your qualities and what you dont want to tolerate or accept with any of us cancer women.

Well that's why I want a relationship with a Cancerian woman, to find out if it's what I can work with.

I don't understand how my logic is crap... how can I convince someone who does not like me to change that?
The way I see it, is that she must have some kind of interest for me to act on.

I can't stand rejection nor can I sense emotions... so I'm really out of my field when it comes to understanding Cancers.

I have been in 4 other relationships, none of them required me to bend. They were not with Cancers obviously.

Well you have said what you have said...

i could say that evan and LL have said it pretty well and also with moon-eyes and Hotgirl..try to read back on their comment and comprehend if you still want to pursue any of cancer women. But you're the one who mentioned that you can't stand them being unstable and etc..

You need to take a lot of patience and much understanding about us. When we really like someone, we tend to be shy around them. You'll have to open your heart to feel and see that. But we're not some kind of test plan or analysis you could use to see if we're perfect for any relationship. If you like any of them, you need to show them and be gentle and honest. We could sense and see right through you if you're not being true or have some hidden agenda.

anyway Good luck!

I understand what you are all saying, thank you kindly for sharing your personal views.

LOL, cancer males are worse. Especially for a cappy like me...

Trust me moon eyes, I knew all these things before hand... just checking to hear it from the horse's mouth...

I honestly can never put myself in a position to be "chasing a women"

The same girl who said there is "no air between us" eventually got into a relationship with an Aquarius who constantly pestered her and was around.
His whole "reason" for wanting it is because he found her "hot"

I was stunned, not only is he incompatible he is also a stalker like guy. But that's what she fell for over me a well grounded guy.

Hey I can't fault you if that's how it works, just don't expect me to do it.

Haha Branh, I have a lot to learn!!!

How would I ever know is Cancers are right for me pushit?
There must be some kind of experience.

I can woo but like i've been saying, getting to that point is the issue...