Cancer girl's need to be always in a relationship?

I dont know about you guys, but sometimes i find myself flirting with guys right after ending a relationship... i guess thats my way to deal with a breakup..i am not the kind of person that cries for days I actuially try to keep my mind distracted byt going out with new people , meeting new guys and flirting.. I still get melancolic when i think about my previous relationship but i alwasy move on fast. I always need the moral support and the emotional balance of being in a relationship maybe to compensate the inestability of being a cancer? Because of that people think i am a heartbreaker... cause i start a new relationship after another one. SO I want to know if this applies to all cancer girls out there. Do you always feel the need to be in a relationship?

Women tend not to care too much about the other person, they know they can always find someone else, so it's no surprise.

No, I don't always need to be in one but I can say after I've been heartbroken or had a tragic ending to a long relationship I would go out and try to meet someone new or allow anyone new to come into my life just cause I've always gotten over the last one that way.

Not right after, It depends. One man i broke up with it took me 6 months before i could date again. BUT If i leave the man, i could easily flirt with a guy the same night. I Know its over when a guy i am with gets hurt and instead of taking care of him i tell him to suck it up... LOL Seriously!!

Posted by prettyladii
No, I don't always need to be in one but I can say after I've been heartbroken or had a tragic ending to a long relationship I would go out and try to meet someone new or allow anyone new to come into my life just cause I've always gotten over the last one that way.

I agree with this. It takes me a long time to get over someone, but I like to throw myself back into the mix to occupy my mind. I flirt, but always keep it casual until my interest is really peaked... that doesn't happen too often.

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Posted by lichii
I dont know about you guys, but sometimes i find myself flirting with guys right after ending a relationship... i guess thats my way to deal with a breakup..i am not the kind of person that cries for days I actuially try to keep my mind distracted byt going out with new people , meeting new guys and flirting.. I still get melancolic when i think about my previous relationship but i alwasy move on fast. I always need the moral support and the emotional balance of being in a relationship maybe to compensate the inestability of being a cancer? Because of that people think i am a heartbreaker... cause i start a new relationship after another one. SO I want to know if this applies to all cancer girls out there. Do you always feel the need to be in a relationship?

i don't think it's all cancers, but the need to be loved is pretty strong so there might other cancers who do.

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I agree with this i think is more about the need to be loved and feel loved... cause i am constantly looking for "the one".

Posted by CancerianGoddess
Not right after, It depends. One man i broke up with it took me 6 months before i could date again. BUT If i leave the man, i could easily flirt with a guy the same night. I Know its over when a guy i am with gets hurt and instead of taking care of him i tell him to suck it up... LOL Seriously!!

Totally!! people tell me I am mean... but i think if your feelings for someone changes is better just to let them know than trying to "fake" feeling that dont exist anymore.

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Posted by prettyladii
No, I don't always need to be in one but I can say after I've been heartbroken or had a tragic ending to a long relationship I would go out and try to meet someone new or allow anyone new to come into my life just cause I've always gotten over the last one that way.

I agree with this. It takes me a long time to get over someone, but I like to throw myself back into the mix to occupy my mind. I flirt, but always keep it casual until my interest is really peaked... that doesn't happen too often.

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Thats exactly whats happening to me right now.... seeing a lot of people now ... nothing serious but I understand I am exposing myself to fall for someone fast and get heartbroken. 😢

I think that us Cancer girls love to love and thats the need to move on so quickly. Yes I do find it easy to move on from a relationship with someone else new. I have done that in the past. But it has led me down destructive paths that I would not want to live again. I got married at 19 and when I separated from my husband, I dated plenty and haven't been single since I joined the army 2 yrs now. Now it seems like I don't even know how to date but I was such a serial dater.

But lemme tell you replacing some1 with some1 else just cause more damages internally. You have to appreciate being by your self and taking care of you. No guy can give you the love of loving yourself. You have to give yourself time to get over it, especially if it was a meaningful relationship.

Because I went from relation to relation, I never gave myself to enjoy ME. To learn more about myself and lost myself with these men I was dating because I was missing a certain love my father couldn't give me. I had to learn how to love me AND if you're going from guy to guy after a break then there is something missing that you have to fill yourself.

Plus you don't want to end up in situations likes numerous baby fathers like some cancer women I know. Two cancer women I know have 3 kids by 3 different guys. One of these women being my nephews mom

Cont.>>>>> and as soon as she left my bro....she moved in with another man. Eventually he left her. Its easier in the beginning to move on because you with some1 new, but everything resurfaces if its not dealt with properly.

One of my biggest regrets was going from my ex-husband to my Cap ex....because everything carried over and I learned the hard way because he was my best boyfriend to date. ANd he truly loved me but all that happened with ex-husband (I walked in on him sexing another chick in our home and our bed) carried over. I blame myself 65% for the reason that relationship ended. I never healed, I never forgave my ex husband and everything my ex Cap did that was vaguely similar I would get upset.

Now I know what it feels like to get blamed for somebody elses mistake cause I had a Cap "friend" who did that to me recently.

In the end, its not a good idea to go relationship jumping bc there are horrible consequences when you don't take care of you. Hope you make better decisions than I did. I'm still young so things will be ok. But learn from mistakes and not always make decisions based on emotions. :-)

Posted by justSophs

Because I went from relation to relation, I never gave myself to enjoy ME. To learn more about myself and lost myself with these men I was dating because I was missing a certain love my father couldn't give me. I had to learn how to love me AND if you're going from guy to guy after a break then there is something missing that you have to fill yourself.

Plus you don't want to end up in situations likes numerous baby fathers like some cancer women I know. Two cancer women I know have 3 kids by 3 different guys. One of these women being my nephews mom

Wow , This dating issue started when my dad past away, before I was OK with being alone. I dont know i usually like guys that remind me of my dad .. is hard to find but I just realized it maight be that I need to fill that emptiness that losing my dad left in me.Maybe cancer women just need a lot of affcetion and be reminded of that all the time.. at least tahts what I need!

great insight on this thread. I love how cancer woman delve so deep...

Just realized this is the longest time I've been single in about 6 years! I went from my longtime Aqua -ex, to my Scorp. The Scorp relationship (re-kindled from before my Aqua) was a mess and now I can see why. I think I'm just starting to understand how I tick and it has been a crazy, crazy roller coaster ride. There is noway I would have taken the time to do the inner reflection if I was busy throwing myself into a relationship. I would have sacrifices much of myself for love, just like I've done in the past. No wonder cancers seem impossible!

Thank goodness I fell for a Pisces who forced me to put on the brakes. I'm still not ready yet... 😢 this I know.

Oh ya, and Daddy (parent) love issues? I'm just scratching the surface of that...

Posted by shellshocker
great insight on this thread. I love how cancer woman delve so deep...

Thank goodness I fell for a Pisces who forced me to put on the brakes. I'm still not ready yet... 😢 this I know.

Oh ya, and Daddy (parent) love issues? I'm just scratching the surface of that...

Same here shellshocker!These experiences with Pisces boys are seriously making me realize that I need to take some time for me instead of spending all day thinking about how lonely I feel sometimes.I do go out ( a lot!! haha ) but I still have an empty feeling that only a person can fill with his/her uninterested love towards me...

About my daddy issues, i just noticed I was always a truly romantic before my dad past away but i was never in the need to be with someone i was in love with love and if i was alone that was ok with me... but ever since he died I juat had to be with "someone"!

Posted by lichii
I dont know about you guys, but sometimes i find myself flirting with guys right after ending a relationship... i guess thats my way to deal with a breakup..i am not the kind of person that cries for days I actuially try to keep my mind distracted byt going out with new people , meeting new guys and flirting.. I still get melancolic when i think about my previous relationship but i alwasy move on fast. I always need the moral support and the emotional balance of being in a relationship maybe to compensate the inestability of being a cancer? Because of that people think i am a heartbreaker... cause i start a new relationship after another one. SO I want to know if this applies to all cancer girls out there. Do you always feel the need to be in a relationship?

YES !
Relationship after relationship i will always jump right into another one. Even after i convince myself that "i'm staying single this time" , i still end up with someone less than a month later maybe. i think ever since i was 14 this has been going on. Pretty much to get over my ex. i mean hey its a big world out there why stress. Not I .

YES !
Relationship after relationship i will always jump right into another one. Even after i convince myself that "i'm staying single this time" , i still end up with someone less than a month later maybe. i think ever since i was 14 this has been going on. Pretty much to get over my ex. i mean hey its a big world out there why stress. Not I .

wow! same here! i just feel i have so much love to give .. that if i find a guy that really appreciates that i have no problem to get into a relatioship to get over the last guy and maybe fall in love again! =)

Being young and in love is great. Just don't do it just to do it because of loneliness. I say fall in love with someone you really feel it for, its all in the way he treats you. Just don't go for the jerk who degrades you, or says mean things or does mean things. Just be smart about it, sometimes we can go for the mean hot guys but thats not love. True love is loving yourself.

My daddy issues I think will always affect me and you will always miss your dad. I don't think that piece of us will ever go away. Its about being an adult about it and realizing we all have or cross to bare, we all have our pain but life goes on and you have it and none of those guys will never replace my dad, or yours.

You have a great life ahead of you if you just be strong, being alone and taking care of youis whats important. Edcation and financial stability.....focus on that and the right guy will come along. :=)

Amen justSophs!!!....o and if dats u n da pic...u r sexy=)jus like a cancer hehe

lol.....no she just resembles me a bit. She is Kenya Moore.....former Ms. USA. but thaks lolololololololol

Posted by justSophs
Being young and in love is great. Just don't do it just to do it because of loneliness. I say fall in love with someone you really feel it for, its all in the way he treats you. Just don't go for the jerk who degrades you, or says mean things or does mean things. Just be smart about it, sometimes we can go for the mean hot guys but thats not love. True love is loving yourself.

My daddy issues I think will always affect me and you will always miss your dad. I don't think that piece of us will ever go away. Its about being an adult about it and realizing we all have or cross to bare, we all have our pain but life goes on and you have it and none of those guys will never replace my dad, or yours.

You have a great life ahead of you if you just be strong, being alone and taking care of youis whats important. Edcation and financial stability.....focus on that and the right guy will come along. :=)

I absolutely agree with you.

Women (especially Cancer women) who feel compelled to change relationships like Soldiers change their socks are doomed mentally and emotionally.

It is both selfish and destructive to jump from one big relationship to another without any time off to reflect and heal from the last relationship's ending.

Whether the relationship ended on amicable terms or not, each person should spend time to think about what went right, what went wrong and what needs improvement for the next relationship.

Anyone who has been in a strong relationship for several years will tell you that when it ends, there should be a couple of years of recovery to follow.

At least, if the relationship was very special to that person.

Not this Cancer. I don't want to be in a relationship to be in a relationship. I need to feel sincere, genuine, love and chemistry a spark to retain a relationship with someone and it doesn't come often.

I do too Prettyladii, the problem is that sometimes you have to risk it!!! Time is relative...