Cancer guy broke my heart :(

Hi guys, I finally told the Cancer guy I'm in love with that I have fallen for him. I told him my deepest thoughts and feelings about him and I did all these revelations through email because that was the appropriate thing to do at the moment. What made me decide to tell him that I'm in love with him and I don't want to lose him is when he told me that he might move back to another city. About 4 weeks ago he told me that he isn't dating anyone and he asked me if I have someone in my life and I said no. Then, all of a sudden he tells me that he kind of started seeing some girl that he dated before and that he's not sure where it's going to lead to and that he might move to another city. After telling him my deepest feelings for him he told me that he doesn't have those kinds of feelings for me. What confuses me is that for half a year he would give hints, say things that a guy would only say to a girl when he's interested, did things that made me think that he's into me and all of a sudden he said he doesn't have the same feelings as I do and he said it in such an insensitive manner especially knowing that somebody had treated him that way in the past. He should know how hurtful could that be. He didn't even have the decency to at least say "thank you for loving me that much" or something like that. I was really shocked because the guy I knew wasn't like that. He was always sweet, kind and sensitive. Now, I felt like he just lead me on for that long. I'm really really hurt but I love him so it's just right to let him go and I'll move on with my life. I just don't get why he did and said all those things and yet he tells me he doesn't feel the same way as I do......and before all this happened he called me over the weekend but didn't leave a message and I tried to get a hold of him for a couple of days and when I finally got a hold of him he said that he was just busy and that he might move back to another city. I'm still confuse with everything. Can somebody please try to help me understand him? I can't believe a Cancer person can be that insensitive. I need some insights, please. Thanks so much!

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Baseball bat and big dark van can pick him up at 83...Just kidding of course fiona,attempt to make you feel better at least my side of it is.Thats the reason you can't rely on astrology that much.I'm a scorpio but im one of the biggest wussys that ever existed.A leo I know is more like the astro description of a cancer.Due to the circumstances he could have reacted that way because you knew he was leaving,he may have thought it was really bad timing for you to finally come out and say it.Other then that maybe those things werent hints and you were just a friend to him.Either way sorry to hear that and don't get to down on yourself about it(hint,hint)I have read your other posts and the fear of getting hurt can hurt you worse than not risking anything because of it.

If you let him get the best of you, he's won the game (which is all I think it was), so don't let him.

Get mad about this for a little while.

Jl_fiona

I guess I?ve said it before in your other post that ?E-mailing? is not a proper way to express the deepest feelings, you didn?t listen and this is the result, sorry to say that but I don?t feel sorry for you because this incident is your fault.

Tell me, if I start to email you and say it how much I l love you, would you believe that..? also you may ask yourself how silly I am to say such a thing and still have hope that you accept it! Same goes for that cancer man.. Or anyone else under 12 signs!

Now ease up on yourself and see the bright side.. at least you dared to say it, next time?with the other guys? dare to say it face to face! Don?t use these silly Email or SMS, it shows how coward you are!

And also start sharing your feelings without fear, what do you going to loose.?

Thanks guys for your replies! See, I invited him to meet me somewhere but in his email to me he didn't say anything about my invitation. All he mentioned was that he might move back to another city and that he kind of started seeing someone, so I figured he doesn't want to talk to me or something.....and that's when I decided to just email him and tell him everything.

Cancer men can be very charming and flirtatious (maybe not even meaning to be flirtatious, they just know what to say and how to say it prettily)... however, if you have any doubt that a Cancer loves you then he probably doesn't because they do not hide that emotion very well despite all their defenses. This is probably why they can sometimes appear distant... they are afraid of loving the wrong person because once they do they are in it with all their hearts. I tried to explain that to you in another post but I guess I didn't do it very well.

Don't allow yourself to pine after him. Let him go. Any guy can be an @ $ $ h0l3 no matter what their sign... but don't get caught in a Cancer's web. It's not a fun place to be and can make you miserable. Their charm can melt your heart and keep you coming back for more. I'm not down on Cancers... believe me, I'm very much in love with one... but I know how they can be with women when they are NOT in love and it ain't pretty. It's an emotional roller coaster.

Hello Fiona! I wish you strentgh to cope up with what you have gone through.

Hi taurusgirl!

You are so right! You are the first person i have come across presenting the cancer so realistically. I do admit that most behaviour patterns cannot be sign specific. But it is true that the Cancer cannot hide his/her emotions. How much ever they like to believe that they are being subtle...all they feel gets reflected in their actions. It is not difficult for their loved ones to figure out their emotional state. Their facial expressions which maybe like a poker player...suddenly turn into klaedeoscope of emotions- when in LOVE...LOL... They feel so much and so deeply that it becomes difficult for them to verbalise their feelings. And many may find difficult to believe this- a cancer understands and accepts human follies....no matter how much anger they project-outwardly.

If they are in love, they dont leave any stone unturned to make sure that the loved one knows. They are territorial - you see. If they are not sure....their behaviour shows their confused state of mind. To get around them just tell them how you cherish it when they share with you. If they are sure of your love for them, they love to pour their heart out to yours & theirs heart's content.

Thanks looneybird 🙂

It's funny because once you "get" a particular Cancer's emotional code (e.g. getting pouty means they want to be told they're loved, withdrawing means they're hurt or afraid, etc...) they are actually easier to decipher than other signs who don't understand or portray their emotions at all. A person who loves a Cancer needs to be very intuitive and patient... but once you crack the meaning behind their defenses you've got it made! This is probably why their best matches are water signs (intuitive) and taurus (patience). I'm sure they up the ante now and then to keep you on your toes... but that just makes me love them even more! I LOVE being kept on my toes 😉

Hi guys! Just an update 'bout my situation with Mr.Cancer......well, him and I decided to be friends and to my surprise.....he even remembered my birthday 🙂 ...which was last week.....that really touched me 🙂....I wasn't expecting it. It still hurts but I'm hangin' in there.....a part of me just don't want to give up.....I don't know how to explain whatever I'm feeling 'coz I can't even put it into words.....I just know that it's going to be worth it in the end.

There's just one thing that makes me think up to this moment.....why did he even bother telling me that he might be moving to another city? He didn't have to tell me, since he said he kind of started seeing someone. I don't get it.

It's very cancerian to keep in touch with friends so it doesn't have to mean anything.My female cancer friends keep track of my age and b-days better than I do and it's my b-day.Yes,he cares about you but I don't think he's interested in that way at least not at the moment.

Thanks for the comment Tiamat! Somehow it gave me some hope that maybe...I hope maybe one day he'll see me through new eyes. He told me before to stick with him because he REALLY needs our friendship and that's what I intend to do. I truly care about him that's why I'm stickin' around 🙂

Fiona please move on. I am a Gemini girl also and I know how hooked we can get on Cancer men but if they are acting funny towards you you are really wasting precious time. I wasted 9 1/2 years of my life on 2 Cancer men born in June that I cant get back. The last one of 5 years was a complete liar. Sold me so many dreams that never came true. Its like tauruslady said they know how to charm and hook you until you keep coming back for more like a drug but it is an illusion if they are not ACTING like they should. I know how intense the feelings are between these signs but it is obvious he is just not into you. He is not doing ANYTHING to show real love interest. Talking about dating someone else and moving to a new city are not things that a man does when in love. Remembering your birthday is not that big of a deal. Did he take you out, buy you a gift, spend it with you? I am pretty sure of that answer is no. When a man really likes you that is what he does on your birthday. Not to be harsh but I have been through enough experiences with a Cancer man to know how they act. Cut him off and meet someone else that is into YOU not a fantasy of a relationship in your head.

...why you bringin' up old shit?

(slandering cancers like that... show your sister some love LMAO)

stop chasing him...

Oh wow. All the comments are very interesting and I definitely can relate to my story. I was (unluckily) dating a Cancerian guy for almost 7 months. One of you guys was right, when he wanted to win my heart, he was chasing me like a puppy and showed his loving dovey towards me. He cried for me, and went crazily jealous and I swear he really cared about me a great deal.

Then..he knew a lady that can offered him a green card/PR in the states, then he left me. Throw me like a garbage after i had confessed my undying love and trusted him with a whole of me. The separation has been more than 7 months now and there was never been a day that I did not think of him. It is not that I want him back, what he did to me was so deep that it made me think I can never love anyone again. I was so depressed, I was bleeding because I did not eat right. I had to make emergency calls and slept at my friends' so I didn't have nightmares.

Again, one of you was right that he wanted me to be his friend, shot me a text saying that he misses me and still wanna see me. Until I kinda told my friends he was stalking me, then he stopped because...

I just wanna share my story so that you guys know, that the selfish people do exist, that they don't care if you are gonna hurt for a long time as long as they get what they want. And there is also another woman, who is more selfish than ever, never feel guilty of breaking and stealing something that already belong to someone. I just hope they know that karma is a b****.