Cancer Men

Just out of innocent curiosity, is it a bad sign if a Cancer male does not want to open up about his emotions to a female friend of his? Should his friend feel like maybe they haven't been a good enough friend to him or proven themselves as a friend if he (the cancer male) does not or cannot open up to them?

Thanks for your thoughts. 🙂

I've never met a cancer who opened up his feelings. Sort of morbid, eh?

lol... i'll try that scratching behind the ear one some day.

CANCER MEN SUCK!!!

aND THAT'S THE END OF IT!!!

I'm sorry, but with my experience with cancer men has been just too emotionally lopsided, if you know what I mean.

It's very frustrating...

very funny morgan...

she doesn't really mean that. She's just a little out of her mind after suffering the downfalls of two cancer men. she'll get over it.

ERRRGGG!!!!!>>>>>>
I'll get over it only to fall for ANOTHER cancer!!! Just wait, that will be my luck!!!

and let God in his infinite forgiveness pity them.

hahaha... but who the hell's going to pitty me—

😢

FORGET IT!!! I DON'T WANT YOUR PITTY!!!

Thanks everyone...Morgan, good luck in your quest for Mr. Pefectcancer, I'm sure he's out there! Parallax, I really appreciate the response, seeing as how there is a serious lack of males on these boards and a serious need for the male perspective on many issues. Mucho gracias 🙂

P.s. It's kinda weird, I have two male cancer friends who inspired me to ask this question...astrologically, it's amazing how accurate things seem sometimes. I don't know...I'd have to say that if I was forced to choose the one thing that upsets me with cancers, it has to be this. But I can deal with it, especially now that I know it isn't me (thank you for clearing that up, I was having major self-doubt issues). It's strange though because everyone else in my real life practically tells me their life story withing an hour of meeting them (even if I haven't asked them anything! lol), but Cancers are the only ones I have not experienced this with. And I guess I don't really have a right to complain, because I usually don't open up either, but for some reason it makes me sad when I know they're going through a bad time or something's wrong and they're hiding it from me.

I'm really tired so I hope that made sense 🙂

*within* did i mention i was tired? 🙂

p.s.s.

and then it's an endless cycle of like, silent warfare or something...they hide things from me, i get suspicious and bitter thinking they don't trust me enough to tell me stuff, then they pick up on me being in a bad mood, i won't tell them why because i don't want to seem needy or whiny or nag-like, blah blah blah. lol

The proplem with cancers is that they make me feel useless... They always go out of their way to comfort me, but they won't let me comfort them in return... It's weird, and I feel odd like they don't trust me or something, except that I know they do... I just like it better when everything is out in the open, real easy to understand with no way for misinterpretations of feelings to occurr...

so basically, the opposite of cancers. lol. I know what you mean, all kidding aside. There's this forcefield around them that is sooooooooo difficult to penetrate.

Maybe I haven't answered your question Phoenix but at the same time I think I have entertained myself, and therein lies the answer.

WiseOl'Cwab😢

Taken from Albert Einstein's book on cancers "How To Deal With Problem Crabs"

"A common mistake people can make with cancerians is to think that weakening their shell, by hurting them, making them feel upset, cry, or applying pressure, can bring them out of their shell and result in improved relations.
Even if it does bring them out, the results could make both parties look bad. Cancerians can be very, very mean. In conclusion, stay the f?ck away from them"

I wholeheartedly agree and would recommend a leo instead.

WiseOl'Cwab😢

I hope these 2, now 3 insights, into the mind of the greatest cancerian, also known as me, will help.

There is ABSOLUTELY no need to thank me.

HumbleCwab😢

Someone once asked me, "WiseOl'Cwab😢? Why don't you stop being so defensive and just open up?"

"Open up?" I thought. "Just cos I'm not saying anything you say I should open up. Just cos you want some drama, you accuse me in this way? I just don't have anything to say. If you really want to know what I'm thinking about, well, I was thinking about having a wank. I'm not very profound and don't make much use of my time."

But I said nothing.

WiseOl'Cwab😢

lol. Cwab & Company, though you said there's absolutely no need to thank you, I shall thank you anyway, because you made me laugh. 🙂

(thank you)

Here's the thing about how it could be bad to apply pressure, make them cry, etc...I never try to do any of that, in fact I try to be super sensitive toward all cancers because I know how delicate they are internally. I've rarely seen them be mean, but I know they can be (I got in a fight with a cancer bf of mine a long time ago and it was...scary. lol...but we're close friends now, all is forgiven).

LOL @ jackbutter...thanks for the insight. lol. I did indeed say "penetrate" (one of my favorite words), but looksie, Cwab said Fck 😛

hehe

I always thought that the best way to get a the crabmeat out is to break open the shell with pinchers and devours what's inside.

Just a thought :p

LOL, gwen... Yum... hehehe

Anybody hear like soft shelled crab—

*here

Cwab!

Why I oughta! (Study the 3 Stooges)...

Albert is my dream man and I know he didn't write that book!

(I am laying low...as much as possible...but, some things I just gotta say!!)

I savor every word that you type...it has great significance as you are a Cancer...

I am soooo proud of you!

Your-Could-Be-Mom-Who-Is-Dancin'-Under-The-Light-Of-The-Moon!!

Star

well actually i started to answer this but, then i thought, what are u crazy? i feel the need to hide the way i feel about my feelings.hehe

very funny...

lol, i'm curious what you think about all this.

WOW! You guys are killing us cancer males. As a cancer male who has in fact shared his feelings, opened up, was honest and forthcoming, was loving and caring...for what? For they were taken for granted, smashed, abused and betrayed. So, then you wonder why we have a forecefield, and why the shell is so hard to penetrate. It takes ALOT for us to trust, and let someone in. So, when we do, and this kind of crap happens, it's hard for us to trust again. I'm not saying this is a good or bad thing, it just is what it is. saing thi

I understand.

Floater you *ussy!

Phoenix were you being sarcastic..no? hippy!

Cwab😢

Star..help me mommy

don't be shellfish😢

ScaredyofPhoenixCwab😢

Lets throw floater a SulkyParty

hahaha, i'm so *not* a hippy, but i wasn't being sarcastic.

Don't be scaredy of me, I'm just a tiny little woman!

And I think we should have another nekkid partay 😛

And p.s., you and dxpnet are like, THE funniest cancers I've ever "known"

I wish my cancers were funny... My cancers make me cry 😢

I don't want to make light of a hurtful subject for some, but I think testicular cancer is pretty funny.

When I thought I might have it..

I said "bollocks"

😢

Cwab😢

My name is StonedCwab😢

hello

Who wants to check my meat and two veg

Morgan -- don't mean to give the wrong impression, I've been through some serious pain with a couple of Cancers before. They've made me cry, too. lol. You're not alone.

Cwab, what are "bollocks"? lol...I think I might know, but I'm not sure...do they have something to do with "baby batter"? lol

Hello StonedCwab, nice to meet you, I'm NaughtyPhoenixCwab 😉

And by no means am I a vegetarian. Meat sounds delicious

LOL 😛

My experience with cancer men is as follows:

My so-called best friend of 7 years is a cancerian male. Apart from the last 6 months, the only time i really heard from his is when a relationship for him broke up. If he doesn't like someone, he tries to manipulate me against them and then when he's ready to make friends with that person, he leaves me out in the cold. All he does is stay home and 'home-make', which gets quite boring after a while. It is only in the last 6 months he has started asking me 'how' i am going when he talks to me. In the past he has spent the entire conversation complaining about how his dad treats him in the business they're in and how much he hates his dad. He turns up at parties, gets drunk and then gets abnoxious. He made me go to a nightclub one night at 4:30am cos he said he got sexually molested by a guy, but really it was his fault cos he was drunk. He is so depressing and i feel that when i talk to him i am talking to someone with blinkers on. Apart from that, he can be a nice guy, i am sick of playing mum to him.

The things with cancer's is, yes, everybody is sensitive, but they're not the only ones. Everyone is opening themselves up to hurt when they become vulnerable, it's just that cancer men think that they are the only ones. If you go about acting all precious about yourself, you are setting yourself up for a fall, who in their right mind can cope with that sort of behaviour for too long, without losing heart? It's usually too much hard work for me and when the work outweighs the rewards, im outa there. Sorry, no offense to cancerians, just answering the question.

But i must admit, crab meat is pretty good! And tickling behind the ears sounds like a good suggestion 😉

yes, crab meat is awesome. being a cancer i cant say i dont like them, but i kinda get what u mean. my pisces moon makes my move away from negativity. my dad and an ex girlfriend are both cancers- july 17th. my dad seems to think im his therapist or something and all he talks about are sad and depressing things and although i love him, he makes me feel bad when i listen to him, like im absorbing his mood. which i dont mind doing if i can make that person feel better again, but no matter what i say to him he comes back and talks about the same damn things the next time. i dont hate my dad, but it makes it hard to be around him. the ex girlfriend does the obnoxious thing. she had leo rising which made her want to be the life of the party, but outside of those situations she was very boring to me. its like all the pride but none of the backbone of a leo.

i really enjoy most other cancers, they can be excellent friends and very easy for me to be around. i guess it just depends on the person.

Seriously, don't you think that everyone (regardless of sun sign) absorbs negativity from others?

Unfortunately, some (regardless of sun sign) exude more negativity than others...

Live and let live...have fun...leave them to the misery they choose (if possible!)...

Do Your Best To Be Happy!
Star

well regardless of sun sign the post is about cancers, of which i am also one, and that was the interaction i was trying to describe(regardless of sun sign).

🙂

sorry star i didnt mean for that to sound rude. it kinda does i guess. sorry

I'm feeling negative.

C17 - you are annoying, especially the pisces moon part. Sly, irritating b*stard.

As for libragirl..I have not yet criticised librans but I find you most obnoxious, and most disagreeable. Yes I am sure your libran qualities could win me over but I think i appropriate to express my utter digust. And the way you tell tales about your experiences with others (perhaps yourself?) suggests it is you who is overly sensitive!

I am now retiring for the evening to have a wank,

Regards,

PoshProvocativeCwab😢

C17 - it did sound rude. It sounded rude, because you were being rude. In fact, you were being quite rude. I'd even go as far as saying that you were being a rude b*stard. Apologising now doesn't change this - it just makes you even ruder.

You're a rude b*stard, I guess. Sorry.

CheekyCwab😢

I would like to read a statement prepared by CheekyCwab😢 on his behalf.

"If anyone pairs the terms 'backbone' and 'leo' in the same sentence on this messageboard again this year I shall resign permanently."

CheekyCwab'sAgent😢

Don't resign, CheekyCwab😢

CheekyCwab'sNo1Fan😢

f*** off crab cakes