cancer man? any way to get him back?

cancer man? any way to get him back?

"I am done being an ATM. I hate pretentious people that get behind my

back and play 2 sides, you can complain to your friends that I am

forcing you to throw your clothes out and not bring everything over,

complain that my mum is trying to stir shit, complain everything under

the sun about work. Complain no table, you get a table for artwork but

in the end 'Too busy for art' and ask me buy another table for myself.

Complain no mirror, the whole living room, toilet has mirrors and even

a small one in my room even when I told you from the start I paid

money to get rid of the dressing table and mirror else there will not

be any space. You just want everything your way, no point negotiating

with a selfish person, it only makes me regret knowing you. No point

having a 'friend' whom I don't even trust.

Nothing you said have been done and I am sick of it. Instead of

repaying me once you start working, you still stubbornly refused to

bring your purse out. Your priorities in life is to move out, much

more than what you have promised and you are questioning me now?

What kind of people ask for help to pay outstanding phone bills and 2

of them somemore? So if I don't pay, wait for them to send you court

letter for small claims tribunal?

. So again who was

it that said will repay me in life and repay me on these expenses when

she starts work? Relationship that constantly require button presses

to move in the right direction and still being seen by you as 'I

already sacrifice a lot nothing I do will make you happy' in your

recent sms. Even finding job requires button presses, from the day at

until August, how long ago was that? How is room untidy

require packing even justifiable reason for doing nothing in life for

so long? And you have no shame that you need to forge your credentials

to have a better chance in job application.

Did I force you to move in, I merely told you that you are welcome to

stay over, my folks don't mind? Did I force you treat your diseases, I

only force you to go for a check up. And for all this you still have

the audacity to tell me 'Who asked you to treat me?' If you don't want

to treat, you should have just told me straight and I would have just

break up with you and see which unlucky soul gets to meet you in

future.

You are just plain selfish, never listen and persistent on your

ways. I won't expect anymore from you, from the start I should not

have expect anything since you cannot even get along with people who

brought you to this world. What do you even stand to gain by telling

people about my litter fines, so that I get shitload of counselling or

to prove that I am lousy to my folks? What do you get by telling them

I knew you through the internet rather than by normal means any couple

would have, when I told you straight they don't trust strangers

especially those I don't personally know for long. I am just a joke

nowadays, letting someone I don't even know in real life in my house

ending in a disaster of poor judgement, personality mismatch and no

common interests.

There is no action, mostly words. No automatic forward movement, only

standstill... you used to be like this, you used to be like that. I

only know, I used to be single and that's all I remember now."

its just endless accusations and twising of facts... i will create another topic on the full details.. he has told me not to contact him anymore, however when i contact him, he is always attacking me, and told me not to contact him.

Above is the latest. Yesterday we exchanged email and i have transfer money to him, i asked if i can repay him 500 first? he reply he received , he told me for remaining money to pay him back $ 50 every month.

is there any way to remedise the situation, i have only replied subtly in 1-2 sentence but i have not done a full explaination yet... are there still feelings? pls tell me what should i do?

i can understand you venting...

However, the million dollar question is...

"Why do you want him back?"

Not if he resents everything about you and has 100 reasons why he doesn't want to be with you. It seems like that bridge has been burned.

two weeks after we broke up, i re-setup dating profile (after all the blocks and scolding sms) first, then one day i saw he setup his profile, i got emotional and i sms him, without telling him i saw his profile, and his reply is if i wan friend, i should go to the app to find!, and he blocked me everywhere (facebook, sms, whatsapp) but he did not block me in the dating app... is this the so-called jealousy thing?

yesterday i apologized to him formally in email.. today i emailed him if we can talk like penpal, asking how is he? he replied in an hour saying he is good, asking about me? what does it imply..i just replied him after few hours, asking about his work

anyone pls?cancer pls help me reply pls? i really wish to know what is he thinking? and how can i resolve this pls?

Why do you want him back?

So, let me get this straight. You decided to talk shit about your boyfriend to people. Get pissed off at him when he was asking you to go to a doctor, because he cared about your health. Let you move into his place, without knowing you in person before hand. Financially took care of you, while you were unemployed, which looks like you took awhile to get a job, and blamed cleaning and unpacking as the excuse for that. Bought you an art table to do things on, but you never used, but got upset when he used a table you didn't.

And then you emasculated him, while he took care of you.

K.

hey i already said he was accusing me, its all his accusations... i did none of these

every point was twisted... i did not forced him to accept me how could it be, think abt it, even so when he found out he can leave if he wanted to, right? how can someone force someone to be in a rs, think about it.

He blocked you everywhere, but not in app dating because he wanna stalk you and see what happens.

Move on, and forget about him.

im here to get help,

Posted by TaurusBull1977

i can understand you venting...

However, the million dollar question is...

"Why do you want him back?"

I’m wondering that myself.

Unevolved Cancerian energy manifests itself into victimhood. Instead of taking responsibility for his part of why everything fell apart, he’d rather dump all that on you so that he doesn’t have to look like the “bad guy”.

To put it bluntly, he’s gaslighting the shit outta you.

FOH, don’t play yourself OP. Keep that BS moving.

Posted by aaa333

hey i already said he was accusing me, its all his accusations... i did none of these

LULZ

So if you didn't do all of these things, and these are merely accusations, then why are you having to pay him back money? Cause I mean, that would mean he didn't support you, and offer you financial help, cause "they are all accusations".

K.