Cancer Man- Interested or Not?

I met and fell head over heels for a cancer man years ago. We came into each others life with just casual sex and in between relationships.I was in a long term relationship and every time it went sour, he was right there. I would call it friends with benefits. Someone in the midst, we stopped seeing one another and I got married. In the midst of a messy divorce, we found each other again.

He has never revealed his feelings to me and only recently has he asked me about my feelings for him. After I confessed my feelings he responded by saying that I have a genuine heart and really support his dreams... nothing else! I am so confused. I have never been so infatuated with someone. He is perfect and I admire everything about him. But our lives are so different now but I cant help but wonder if he's attracted to me. If he's not, why does he keep coming back. He sometimes shows jealous and possessive traits and then sometimes he's distant and cold. He even has a little pet name for me and often reaches out to me when he's sad or having a bad day. I kinda feel like his comfort zone but then I really can't tell. We have been doing this cat and mouse game for years.

- Confused Virgo

met and fell head over heels for a cancer man years ago. We came into each others life with just casual sex and in between relationships.I was in a long term relationship and every time it went sour, he was right there. I would call it friends with benefits. Someone in the midst, we stopped seeing one another and I got married. In the midst of a messy divorce, we found each other again.

He has never revealed his feelings to me and only recently has he asked me about my feelings for him. After I confessed my feelings he responded by saying that I have a genuine heart and really support his dreams... nothing else! I am so confused. I have never been so infatuated with someone. He is perfect and I admire everything about him. But our lives are so different now but I cant help but wonder if he's attracted to me. If he's not, why does he keep coming back. He sometimes shows jealous and possessive traits and then sometimes he's distant and cold. He even has a little pet name for me and often reaches out to me when he's sad or having a bad day. I kinda feel like his comfort zone but then I really can't tell. We have been doing this cat and mouse game for years.

- Confused Virgo

For one this sounds like a very karmic relationship. By chance are there any hard aspects with Saturn involved in your synastry?

If he's a little possessive id say he has some interest but being distant and cold would make sense if he wants to be with but isn't.. he probably hasn't said anything because he wants to feel secure in how you feel for him first, like he wants to make sure the relationship where it is now will be stable in the future if you both choose to make it more serious.

Talking face to face about this would help get the answers you need also explaining how you feel. I know you said you talked to him before, it try asking him what he would like to do or where he sees the both of going in the future.

Cancers like the other water signs need a certain sense of security before saying certain things or acting upon them.