@cclove_1969
9 Years
♋Cancer boyfriend
Whose name is the lease in?
Posted by cclove_1969
I have been dating/living with my cancer bf for over a year.. I am a Pisces. A week ago without any notice. It was the day after June 1St the rent was paid he said he didn't see a future and broke up and know he is acting really cold hearted towards me.. We didn't fight everything was fine the night before he refuses to tell me why? And what's with the coldness?
Could he have met someone else and fallen in love with them?
3 reasons in my opinion: he either didnt want to fight about it because he just wasnt interested anymore. 2: rent payments (this is more of a personal financial thing so i wont ask specifics. You DID mention it so this could be one thing though). 3:he found someone else, hopefully not this.
Either eay, do not speak with him at all. Dont text or call. If everything was fine and he left on a whim, he'll remember you and may come back. Just improve yourself, go through the 5 stages without interacting with him.
I asked if it was another woman he said NO!!!
Are names are both on the lease..
The thing that gets me he gave notice that we wouldn't be renewing it on May24th and he said he told me he did it June 2nd.... Which was a lie
Yeah unfortunately we are still under the same roof until end of month. but refuses to talk to me unless to ask me for something?
Posted by urbane101
3 reasons in my opinion: he either didnt want to fight about it because he just wasnt interested anymore. 2: rent payments (this is more of a personal financial thing so i wont ask specifics. You DID mention it so this could be one thing though). 3:he found someone else, hopefully not this.Either eay, do not speak with him at all. Dont text or call. If everything was fine and he left on a whim, he'll remember you and may come back. Just improve yourself, go through the 5 stages without interacting with him.
Thanks I am now just ignoring him and giving him his space but I am just shocked at his behavior not to say what happened as adults.. He went from loving to cold... I guess I will never know... I am moving and letting go I know I don't deserve this
Posted by cclove_1969
Posted by urbane101
3 reasons in my opinion: he either didnt want to fight about it because he just wasnt interested anymore. 2: rent payments (this is more of a personal financial thing so i wont ask specifics. You DID mention it so this could be one thing though). 3:he found someone else, hopefully not this.Either eay, do not speak with him at all. Dont text or call. If everything was fine and he left on a whim, he'll remember you and may come back. Just improve yourself, go through the 5 stages without interacting with him.
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This is definitely going to be hard for you, but my advice to you is that if he is ignoring you, you should ignore him. Find someone else to spend your time with and just leave him alone for now.
Of course, your love is RIGHT THERE and if you could just get it out of him then you could work through it, right? You want to know WHY it all has gone downhill, but it isn't a good idea, I don't think so, at least not wit this stand off. Don't even interact with him at all. just do your thing, and go about your business, regardless of what he does. Go running around the park as a new hobby. Do the OPPOSITE of what you want to do regarding him and try and be unpredictable and surprise yourself. Also take the time to privately be sad! dont bottle it up.
Posted by cclove_1969
Thanks I am now just ignoring him and giving him his space but I am just shocked at his behavior not to say what happened as adults.. He went from loving to cold... I guess I will never know... I am moving and letting go I know I don't deserve this
Nobody does, but do not speak ill of him. It's stupid, crazy, hurtful, etc. but until a few months have passed after the breakup, I would hold my tongue (hard lesson learned) about him until then. You enjoyed this person, let him sort his self out. He may have his reasons but I do feel like coming out of the blind side with this news was not too fair.
Really strange. I would HAVE to know why and whats going onZ.
I asked him but he he refuses to say he doesn't love or care for me...
He is just being unfair I should be the one acting cold
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
What are your moons. I'll break up with someone like that if i have no more feelings towards themI can't pretend to love someone i don't
Maybe he doesn't have feelings. and refuses to say he don't love me anymore... It would make sense.
I am born on March 12th and he is born July 23rd
He said he always felt he was more of a cancer than a Leo
I noticed when he started having financial problems he just shut down refused to talk.. Saying it was stressed about his bills.
Wow. Im a Leo and my fiance is a Pisces. We're having sort of the same issue only she was being cold with me. Its a difficult relationship.
Wow his actions r a turn off
agreed hang out with your friends loved ones although dont get them involved just embrace their support and what it feels like to be a individual.. try new hobies put them running shoes on go 4 a walk n nature keep busy because in life when ever there is a change or you are trying to change.. you meet force.. it takes force to change.. but if you meet force (with more force) that will only cause friction.. the only way to let force change something is to surrender to it and let it take actions.. treat urself as a bystander to this dont take anything personally see it all for what it is.. standing for the outside
I feel there's more to the story.
Strange a cancer would cut you off cold 4 no reason
How long did you date before moving in together?
How long were you living together for?
Posted by urbane101
3 reasons in my opinion: he either didnt want to fight about it because he just wasnt interested anymore. 2: rent payments (this is more of a personal financial thing so i wont ask specifics. You DID mention it so this could be one thing though). 3:he found someone else, hopefully not this.Either eay, do not speak with him at all. Dont text or call. If everything was fine and he left on a whim, he'll remember you and may come back. Just improve yourself, go through the 5 stages without interacting with him.
What's 5 stages?
Posted by cclove_1969
I asked if it was another woman he said NO!!!Are names are both on the lease..
The thing that gets me he gave notice that we wouldn't be renewing it on May24th and he said he told me he did it June 2nd.... Which was a lie
Yeah unfortunately we are still under the same roof until end of month. but refuses to talk to me unless to ask me for something?
Have never heard Yes to a question about another woman! It's old as earth itself.
So he doesn't talk to you unless he needs something? Don't answer. See what he will do. He isn't cuisidal I hope...
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by LazyK
I feel there's more to the story.Strange a cancer would cut you off cold 4 no reason
He's a leo.
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Ok.
I feel there is more to a story.
Strange a LEO will cut you off cold 4 no reason.
?
Figure out where you're going to live and ask questions later.
Posted by Gemitati
Posted by urbane101
3 reasons in my opinion: he either didnt want to fight about it because he just wasnt interested anymore. 2: rent payments (this is more of a personal financial thing so i wont ask specifics. You DID mention it so this could be one thing though). 3:he found someone else, hopefully not this.Either eay, do not speak with him at all. Dont text or call. If everything was fine and he left on a whim, he'll remember you and may come back. Just improve yourself, go through the 5 stages without interacting with him.
What's 5 stages?
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Sorry, the 5 stages of grief. I'm basically saying to become less attached to him the best you can so you don't suffer as long. I know it's probably not easy since you're under the same roof, however I think you should try something to get your mind off of it. What are your hobbies that NO ONE knows about? that you don't let anyone touch or know? do those. That's what has helped me, although we ARE different people. Give that a shot 😉
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by LazyK
I feel there's more to the story.Strange a cancer would cut you off cold 4 no reason
He's a leo.
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It clearly says he's a cancer in the title
Or is he one of those cancer that pretend to be Leo's because of placements
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by LazyK
Posted by CaramelizedCoffee
Posted by LazyK
I feel there's more to the story.Strange a cancer would cut you off cold 4 no reason
He's a leo.
It clearly says he's a cancer in the title
Or is he one of those cancer that pretend to be Leo's because of placements
June 23rd leo
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Oops!
I would flip the fuck out if this happened to me, especially without any warning ... I would automatically think it's another woman too , that's just me though
Posted by SofiaV87
I would flip the fuck out if this happened to me, especially without any warning ... I would automatically think it's another woman too , that's just me though
Well I thought that at first... But no..... I am thinking maybe he is more a Leo than a cancer....
Posted by cclove_1969
Posted by SofiaV87
I would flip the fuck out if this happened to me, especially without any warning ... I would automatically think it's another woman too , that's just me though
Well I thought that at first... But no..... I am thinking maybe he is more a Leo than a cancer....
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Tell us what happens, I hope u find the truth !
I don't know he won't even talk to me he just wants to be left alone... So I haven't talked with for like 5 days. So I don't know if I will ever get the truth just trying to stay away at this point.... Not fair to be treated this way.
Posted by cclove_1969
I asked if it was another woman he said NO!!!Are names are both on the lease..
The thing that gets me he gave notice that we wouldn't be renewing it on May24th and he said he told me he did it June 2nd.... Which was a lie
Yeah unfortunately we are still under the same roof until end of month. but refuses to talk to me unless to ask me for something?
Most men will deny another woman. Women kill me when they expect a guy to be honest about that! It's too much of an hassle. But seriously if you're so out of tune with him that you don't know intuitively or psychically what would have made your man turn like that it's best that you go your separate ways cuz you guys are not in sync.
But baby girl if YOU don't know what is going on with YOUR MAN who you lived with, How the f*** do we know? Lol!
I thought Cancers were supposed to be intuitive? The astrologers claim that the water signs are so superior to the rest of the elements with their ability to know what another person is feeling and thinking and without asking.
Well apparently all cancers are not endowed with that intuition gift.
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I have been dating/living with my cancer bf for over a year.. I am a Pisces. A week ago without any notice. It was the day after June 1St the rent was paid he said he didn't see a future and broke up and know he is acting really cold hearted towards me.. We didn't fight everything was fine the night before he refuses to tell me why? And what's with the coldness?