Posted by nikkistar
Bumping this butter
Some of you markers need a reminder.
Posted by Diondra1908
Hello. So I'm a cancer female dating a cancer male. He's 27 and I'm 22. We met in June and started dating in July. He was the perfect gentleman taking me on dates and even out of town. He never disrespected me. He took his time to get to know me. We didn't even kiss until about a month of talking. In July while we were out of town he basically just told me we were in a relationship now he didn't ask but I thought it was cute. Everything was great. We got along just fine with only a few small arguments for the first four months. We even seriously talked about marriage. Now let me give a little back ground information on him. He got married at the age of 19 and stayed married for 4 years. He had one serious relationship after that were he proposed to his ex but soon after called it off. Then there's me. He told me he loves me first and says I can read him so well. We often talk about marriage and starting a family. He's currently working in London for a few short months. He flew me to London to visit him for Thanksgiving. It was nothing short of perfect and this is where I feel I fell in love with him. He came back home for Christmas and things were a little shakey. He was extremely stressed not knowing whether he was going back to London for his job or a more hostile country. He broke up with me twice for no longer than a day and we charged it to stress. We talked about it and I told him this was unacceptable. Things went right back to normal and we enjoyed his last few days in the states. Once he got back to London he was extremely busy and communication wasn't the same but he still text and called me telling me how much he missed and loved me and hated we hadn't talked as much due to his phone messing up. After a few days of him being in London communication was much less. He told me he had been really sick and irritated bcuz things weren't going his way but still managed to tell me he loved me and that he would call that evening but never got around to calling. By the second week of him being in London he's only texting me once in the morning but never calling. So we really haven't talked much. He told me a lot had happened since he's been there and we needed to talk about our future. I told him we just needed to work on our communication and not to be so quick to jump off the ship. He started to become even more distant. I questioned his actions and he apologized and told me he loves me. This was the last I heard for him. Yesterday was our 6 month anniversary and he didn't contact me at all. He didn't even open the message I sent him. I noticed he changed his relationship status to single on facebook. His mom called and told me he asked her to come pick up his car and I'm just confused. She was confused also saying he didn't state why. Again today he hasn't opened my messaged called or any kind of contact. I guess we are broken up but He didn't even tell me. I don't know what to do. I know he's under a lot of stress. He comes back home in a month. What should I do? Do I just let him be and wait it out? Will he come back to me?
Posted by tvljvh
IM AN ARIES WOMAN!! So initially, my cancer man broke up with me. He insisted that I was jealous and crazy. He said we argued too much. Usually about petty things, and that I also hurt him repeatedly, with things that I have said unknowingly. He wanted space to figure stuff out, but I lashed out and sent many heartfelt messages begging for him back. He said he wanted to be friends, and that he stilled loved me and that he will always love me. He also stated that he would not be looking for another female anytime soon and that he is not looking for a relationship. Us being "friends" Was no different that our relationship, he treated me the same. We both attended a party a couple days later and before the party he texted me "Do you. Don't let me get in your way. We are friends." So I did. He saw me with another guy and did not say anything, and acted totally normal. His friend had called him and told him that he should get back with me. MY cancer man agreed, but seemed to have changed his mind. He texted me again, told me he only wanted to be friends. He said that I was making up excuses and that he did not care about what I want. He later then brought up the party and said "You have other guys. I don't care. don't worry about me." Since then we talk everyday, and he usually tries to keep the conversation going for the most part. He throws little jabs at me, and I try to control my temper and not be rude back. Is this a test? He also told his friend that "We are just not close right now." Instead of telling him we broke up. Also, told one of my friends that I was "Special and different from other girls. We'll most likely get back together." Should I cut off all contact with him and move on, or do you think he will come back? THANKS SO MUCH FOR READING THIS PLEASE HELP!!!
Posted by AriellePosted by HouseCleaningPosted by Tubabye89
He did break up with me because he said he wasn't happy. I no longer have hope because he did unfriend me and block me. I can't stand him so freaking petty. Funny thing is that he has another girl already lol
The relationship was all a joke. I hate cancer guys.
I am a cancer woman and this just happens to me by a scorpio... feeling exactly like you are feeling. Hang in there...click to expand
Posted by HouseCleaningPosted by Tubabye89
He did break up with me because he said he wasn't happy. I no longer have hope because he did unfriend me and block me. I can't stand him so freaking petty. Funny thing is that he has another girl already lol
The relationship was all a joke. I hate cancer guys.click to expand
Posted by SupremeHrH
My Cancer ex, I guess he is an ex now, had a huge fight last Saturday. It was something petty. But he called me a really offensive term. I got so offended and I blew up. I was so mad. He tried to apologize but it was not sincere so I was not accepting. I was so frustrated. We have been fighting more than usual the last few months and I said that it's probably ok if we separated. He initially said no. But eventually he got mad and said he agrees with my decision.
The following day he sent me a link to a song via sms. I did not reply. He tried calling me. On the fourth call I answered. He said oh I forgot you left me. Then he reiterated that He agreed with my decision. He told me that no one would marry me, he's sorry for my future husband etc because I have an anger issue. I told him that my anger was a reaction to what he said. And he went off again on what an awful person I was. Then he had to go and he said he'll call me later.
I went home to my mom because I was so hurt. Then later in the day he sent me a picture of his basketball team. I did not reply. Then he tried calling me. I was not able to answer because I fell asleep and my phone was silent.
When I woke up, he unfriended me on fb. I tried calling him and he cancels my calls. He blocked me temporarily. He's still in my insta and snapchat though. Social media is a big deal for us because we are long distance.
I left him alone. But I was missing him so bad i sent him a text on the third day saying hey, i miss you. His reply was you left me and now you miss me???? With a bunch of sarcastic emoticons. I explained to hime that I said what I said because I was very emotional. And that i was sorry for how I handled things. His reply was wow. I told him that he has the capacity to make me very happy and sad because I value the things he say. And when he says something hurtful to me, it hurts a lot and I lash out. He never replied.
After 12 hours I sent him a voicemail telling him that I miss him and I want to fix things. And that I'm sorry for my part of the hurt. And that I hope he feels the same.
He hasn't replied. This is the fourth day that he refused to call me. And I don't want to push anymore because I already feel that I've been pushy.
Anyway. I need to get that off my chest. Any insight will be appreciated.
Posted by liamee
Hi i am an aries and in love with a cancer man(ex)we had a close relationship for 7 months and he was totally in love with me(hope he still does). He wanted me to meet his parents by this month and was planning to get married. He is 5 years older than me,i thought he was taking it too fast which i was honest about it. I am girl with bad experience in past relationship (very very bad)so this time i was careful with this man because the pain i went through in each relation was exhausting.. however i found him the best in all and everything...very sweet and caring like no other man. for the first time i felt like being in a real relationship.Was ready to compromise that come to my way,however we had this argument one night,he was soooo!angry like never before. I don't know the reason still which kills me,feeling guilty day and night. The reason i somehow assume that was regarding his family which i would never do!!(swear to god!!!)and yes even he knows that. Also he has the habit of using some logic and all which i still don't get. He interrupts me whenever i speak and never let me explain or talk. I knew he was going through some problems,yes also i wont deny it i made many mistakes too but i didn't know how to handle it, his emotions in proper way.He even blamed me for his failure ( to which i don't agree > ) He said so many harsh things to me which still rings in my ear and makes me unhappy...he said about my personality and ambition in a negative way which totally made me feel like a selfish person who is worthless and lives in alice in wonderland.It has dampen my confidence and spirit,what i see now in front of me is blank!! The truth is i really felt we were something together,i am trying to move on,its been like a month we are not in contact.This is our first bad fight, trust me i read all the posts in yahoo and dxp to some how comfort myself and to reach the answers. i also got some great advises from few people that i posted in somebody's thread. I am sorry i am new here and just wanted to share it.All i wanted from him was to spend some time outside his office not inside .I also like other couples, wanted to hang out,late night dinner and movie which we did only at the begining.i wanted some excitement. He thought i was being selfish and needy. If we ever talk in future i just wanted to say to him every couple fight! we are not the only one here. p.s he doesn't even know what all i have compromised for him all this while.
Posted by Skooterz
I am a Libra (Oct 2nd) and my Cancer Ex (July 7th), broke up with me yesterday, in a way that was...really...dramatic I guess I would say to describe it. Here's the story:
When we met it was a instant connection. I never felt such a strong connection, attraction (in his own way), understanding between another person like when I met him/started talking to him. He was really insecure though. His ex had cheated on him.I was so open about everything, b/c he had no reason to worry. I was his. Yet, if I left out a single detail, all of a sudden he'd accuse me of lieing or truly still trying to talk to a ex or like someone bcause they liked me. I was sooooo open about my texts, my fb messages, all of that. Cuz I wasn't doing anything. I wanted him, I wanted to prove to him. Yet, it was never good enough, he STILL made false accusation and belived em. It was really draining having to answer to all of that and prove my innocence DAILY. His mood would change constantly. He'd test me a lot. Try to catch me in a lie or something.
Then one night, we had been drinking and we got into a argument. He was mad and...he just tried attacking my character in relationships. It hurt. So I said stuff too then I said we were done, not serious. He said he takes that stuff serious, then said I should msg my ex-ex and tell him take me back because who ever could handle me for 4 yrs should get a medal. Said a lot more too. I was so hurt. Crying even. So I msged my ex-ex. Said I always think about him and wonder why we broke up? Though I didnt mean it. I sobered up a little and tried deleting it cuz I felt bad and he saw and we literally wrestled over my phone. He finally took it and read msgs b/w me and another guy, (because he wanted me to prove we never talked or did anything) so I did. He got mad that I told the guy some stuff about his insecurities. Then he read the msg to my ex-ex. He grabbed my purse and everything and kicked me out at 4 am. Literally THREW my stuff and pushed me out. Obviously I was wrong for that, but only did it because he hurt me with what he said and I was tired of being accused. How can I prove it wasn't true...and can I gain his trust back? He knows I didnt mean it (I think). How can I get him back? He obviously cares cuz he let me back in and let me lay with him and sober up. But in the morning he kicked me out in a cold way. What do I do I can't be without him. I love him so much. He wont answer my calls or txts. What do I do?
Posted by ultragsm
Cancer bf broke up with me friday night...
The first 8 months were great but we started fighting, i started all the fights because i'm just a jealous scorp. This time, he got really upset as he's been very stressed out with job searching thing. We met at bar and i tried to explain myself..he kept shaking his head, the thing i remember most clear he said was, "sorry i can't trust you anymore".
I know i've lost his trust because i kept on fighting for similar things, but this time, i honestly i want to change, for this relationship, and i'm someone i can change when i realise it's the right thing to do.
I really need this chance to prove how much i love him and want this to work, i dare not to talk to him because im scared he will brush me off. i love him and he feels like one of the most amazing thing ever happened to me ( i stopped dating for two yrs after broke up with ex bf of 6 yrs).
Any advice how to gain trust back from cancer man? I feel like cancer put trust in you from the start of the relationship, and once it's gone, it's hard to get back.
Posted by coumari
I once posted here asking if cancer comes back after he deleted me from facebook and MSN. He had all the signs of love for me.but bcs he was younger than i am,8 yrs backwards,i nvr rejected him ..
First 2 months when he came back to facebook,he was almost stucking me all time.Logging 3 times to fb.
any pic i posted,he liked it and made cumments with adding heats and :*(kisses)
There was a day i didnt logged,he sent me inbox asking why and if am ok !
Later,he didnt log for 4 days.when i asked him,he said he was busy.
Recently,he is logging only once at night for an hr. Thou he knows i miss him lots ..And i loaded a new pic for myself in fb,he didnt even liked it or told me is nice.whn i asked him,for the first time u didnt noticed i uploaded a new pic.he replied i saw it is beautiful but i forgot to tell u :/
Why is he doing so ? whts up ?what should i do ? Never wait him all day for him to log ? and never inbox him why he didnt log ??
Posted by Sagaussi
Hi,I've been looking at this forum now for weeks and finally posting hoping for some solid advice.
I'm a Sagittarian girl and met a Cancer guy while travelling mid last year. We exchanged contact details and texted for about two months before I thought I'd try going back to his city and seeing if anything comes of it (up to that point nothing other than friendship had happened between us but I was very attracted to him and figured since he wrote to me almost every day he might be feeling the same way).
I had 5 weeks with him before I had to leave to go back to my country. We got together on the third day and had the most beautiful weeks together and I was full of hope for the future. I had to leave for two months to visit home but I booked flights to come right back to him. Our problems began only two days after I left. I was searching to understand him and us better and knew he was a cancer so I looked up his star sign and then ended up checking our compatibility. ... All I saw was disaster and warning bells. I ignored it though as I believe with enough work and understanding everything is possible. But the more time passed the more we followed nearly textbook cancer/sag combo. Everything I saw written about this combination was happening. I tried so hard to resist and NOT to behave like a Sag but it was so hard because he never saw any of the efforts I made and constantly accused me of being cold and heartless, of putting him last, of not caring about him. I kept thinking it was just the distance making it worse and if I could hold on until I saw him again it would all be fine. But we kept fighting and finally one day after I'd stupidly let loose another of my sag arrows he decided we would take a break for however long it would take until I realise that I needed him by my side. The thing is, I'm a Sag! I don't need anyone, I resent that kind of thinking, I know whatever happens that I'll be OK and can make it on my own, there's always a rainbow somewhere. ... well I at least had the sense not to say that but the break turned into weeks during which time he became increasingly nasty. At first I kept trying to understand his thinking and excused his behaviour by thinking he is just acting as a typical hurt crab,hiding in his shell and snapping at me. But when he kept getting uncontrollably angry on our calls, would threaten me that he'd leave forever and block me and I'd never hear from him again, would insult me many times and call me names, and would BLAME me for his behaviour even when he deliberately tried to hurt me by saying he had a new gf and after then saying no that wasn't true he by his own admission told me he'd said that in order to "f#** with you"...then when I told him the beautiful gentleman I'd fallen in love with when i met him would never have been so cruel, he told me "you pushed me,you made me like this", blaming me entirely for his behaviour. Eventually I fell out of love with him.not the boy i had met,because in my memories he was still the gorgeous sensitive caring gentleman, but it was like two different people and this person who kept phoning me and insulting me and shouting at me and being nasty to me was someone totally different who I could not love. For a long time I kept thinking just hold on and once you see him in person it will all be OK,but it just started to go to far. Then on my last week at home I saw an old lover of mine who I was still very much attracted to and the more the cancer became nasty the more drawn i felt to my old lover. We slept together twice. I do not consider it cheating as the crab and I were no longer together since he'd decided we were on a break a month prior and had said we could both do what we wanted. I had resisted for so long as I had seen my old lover a few times but was still hoping to resolve things with the crab but finally it had become too much and i was too hurt and broken from numerous nights of crying myself to sleep because of his behaviour toward me. I wanted to feel respected again and while I knew it would only ever be a causal thing with my old lover as he has told me before he does not want a gf, he always treated me well when we were together and he would never hurt me,we will always be good friends despite him not wanting to commit. Well somehow the crab guessed at what happened (I've read about their incredible intuition) and the day before my flight out from my country he phoned me and ironically started out by being very sweet and exactly like the old times. I instantly felt some hope that maybe after all we could work things out,then he told me of his fears that I'd done something and he asked me straight out. I'm a very typical sag- i will not lie.so i told him yes. He went crazy and abused me for 4 hours calling me a sl*t and demanding i tell him exactly what happened leaving out no details. I felt so awful that I'd hurt him as i truly didn't want to hurt him so i just meekly listened and answered all his questions. I felt sick. It didn't even matter that i hadn't actually cheated as we were on our break- he says that he'd decided to try again with me even though he had not clearly communicated this to me. Either way i think he still would have reacted the same. His anger terrified me and he even told me not to dare show up in his city as planned 5 days later and that if he saw me there he'd kill me.that sent me cold. For ages i have been trying to ignore the thoughts that kept flashing through my head at each bout of anger from him that if i was actually in his presence at those moments he might hit me. When he said that it reinforced my fears and i could no longer ignore them. Worse was later that day when i told close friends what had happened, leaving out that part, two had said to me separately that they feared for my safety. The strangest thing (which I've since read and appears to also be typically crab) is that after 4 hours of shouting and abusing me he said he wants to forget it all and try again with me because he loves me and he doesn't want to lose me. It struck me as so bipolar i didn't know how to react. I told him that I'm actually scared for my safety with him because of what he said and how he gets so angry and he apologised and said he'd never do anything to hurt me. His voice had totally changed.he was the same soft gentle sensitive boy I'd first seen. Since then he's been so gentle and keeps assuring me he wants to forget everything and try.but i don't think i should. I've been reading so much since then. I've read that cancers can be prone to crimes of passion which i can certainly imagine him to be capable of. I have also noticed him being manipulative. He's started sending me my own messages I'd written him back when i was trying to tell him that yes we are different but we could compliment each other. Last night i arrived in his city but i haven't seen him yet and today i might be too tired due to jetlag. But he has sent me photos of letters i sent him and he wrote "if these words are true,if they are not lies, then come to see me tonight". I think that is manipulative right? Today i actually looked up 'am i in an abusive relationship' and so much of what is said about emotional abusive rings true with me... and my logic thinks that the very fact i have to ask myself that question is surely an indicator? The thing is i truly do not want to hurt him. I saw something so beautiful in him, so sensitive and helpless and i don't want to cause him any pain. But i don't think our relationship is healthy and i don't think we are right for each other. I asked him if he ever got so angry with any of his past gf's and he said never. So i even said to him that maybe we are just not meant for each other, we bring out the worst in each other. A couple should be about building each other up not tearing each other down. I truly think that i never did anything deliberately to hurt him. Yes i hurt him many times with my stupid sag bluntness and also my independence as i just could not give him the amount of constant attention he wanted,but never deliberately. And as for sleeping with my ex well we were on a break at that point but also i really only did it because I'd already decided i had no future with the crab and i just didn't want to break it off over the phone as i feel he deserved the respect of me going in person to do that. I didn't ever think he would guess what I'd done and i feel so awful for hurting him. On the other hand he has deliberately hurt me numerous times and even by his own admission however he always blames me for everything saying that i pushed him to do it (emotional abuse? ). Also he decided that we needed to be 50/50 so he told me that he was going to sleep with a friend of his to get even with me.... To me that thinking is just so wrong! Besides now i feel awful that he's potentially hurt that poor girl as she was hoping to date him and i just hope that he really explained clearly to her that it was just sex.
I'm really hoping for advice here from people who know more about astrology than me. I think i really have to end things with him but i still have that small feeling inside that tempts me to try again and maybe things will be OK, but then. ...is that just classic sign of an abusive relationship? Is he being abusive or is this just typical of cancer? I'm so confused and feel miserable and sad and sick constantly and nervous to talk to him... which is not how a sag should normally feel. I want to be my positive happy optimistic self again. The worst part is that i am here in his city for 9 days then i leave to go on a holiday and he has a flight booked to meet me there after one week and stay 3.5 weeks with me. If we break up now i don't knew what he'll do. I don't want him to waste his money and i don't want him to go there being sad and miserable. I jus