Cancer man left me Broken

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RegrettablyFlakyLibra
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I am a 23 year old Libra girl and i met this 25 year old cancer guy 11 months ago. When we met we pretty much just jumped into it. Almost as if it was love at first sight. For me it was as though I have known him all my life and we couldn't stay apart we were together almost every day. He was always caring and attentive to my every need when i was with him and i showed the same love whether i was with him or not

Granted i would always make the trips to go and see him. I met his family and friends and became really close to them.

(8months later) I was in my final year at uni or college and he was trying to start his own business. I went through depression as i was struggling with uni and ultimately failed. During this time he was not supportive however i was always supportive of him like his personal secretary. However he didn't even know what course i was doing or little details about my life i thought were important.

I ended up just asking for a break so we could concentrate on ourselves but i still loved him and i told him this. He always had trust issues and always thought i was cheating on him , too accessible or too nice to other guys.He was too possessive .After the break up he wanted to remain friends but it was as though we were still together. The love was never lost, we still spoke everyday.

He then recently started telling me that whoever i will be with in future is very lucky. And was continuously apologising ' for everything he put me through' in almost every conversation.

One night i went to a bbq/party and he was trying to get in contact with me all night as soon as he found out i was out. We weren't even speaking regularly but its as if just because he knew there are males around thats when he got possessive. Until he texted me he just wanted to be left alone and didn't want to speak to me at all. He again apologized for everything mainly his mood swings in the relationship and wished me all the best. He continuously said my life would be better without him and i deserve better when i tried to reassure him. When i asked him if he had sex with someone else since we broke up he said yes.

Its been a week since he asked to be left alone and he has not said a word to me.

This is the longest we have gone without speaking.

Please tell me the harsh truth. Im confused.



(i went on holiday to Miami during the break up and thats one thing he never liked. I spent most of my holiday arguing with him trying to prove that i wasn't doing anything)
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Posted by RegrettablyFlakyLibra
One night i went to a bbq/party and he was trying to get in contact with me all night as soon as he found out i was out. We weren't even speaking regularly but its as if just because he knew there are males around thats when he got possessive.

I spent most of my holiday arguing with him trying to prove that i wasn't doing anything


Why do you feel like you need to justify your actions to someone whom your no longer in a relationship with?

He's acting like a boyfriend because your letting him. Your on vaca, you should've been lying by the pool and chatting up dudes, not calling your ex.
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HarleyTwinFlame
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Posted by TeddyBearMD
Just end the relationship. Cancer & Libra just aren't good matches. He's sensitive, and you're a flaky libra that flirts with every guy she sees. I've been through this torturous relationship. And afterwards, I regretted even beginning the relationship.

As a cancer guy, I will never date another Libra again. The ones I know IRL are air headed sluts, most of them.

Give us Libra Gals another chance!!! Don't give up on us

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Shanmack
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I'm a Libra too and experienced the same thing with my cancer guy. Girl I know exactly how you feel because we Libra females WHETHER WE ARE AIR HEAD SLUTS OR NOT love deeply. It's almost two months since I've heard from my cancer guy after the sacrifices I've made because of his doubts and insecurities. He even put me in the friends with benefits zone. I eventually just text him and told him off then blocked him from my phone and my life. It was hard and we Libras don't just love any and anybody. I know with a cancer guy emotions run very deep. I'm a Libra sun with a cancer moon so yeah my emotions runs deep also.

This is the first cancer male that have done me this. My best friend Paul is a cancer and so was my mom. My guess in all of my situation is that he met someone else while I went away. I asked him and he denied it and says he just doesn't want any relationship just now. Know that's a lie. One thing cancers are famous for is meeting other women who they think are by far more or better than who they got. They are always searching for a certain perfection-which doesn't exist. He will be back.

All I can say is just concentrate on you now. Engulf yourself and your life right back into your studies. Find a new hobby. Good out and make friends and do you. When he does come back then you will know what your strengths and weaknesses are and IF you want him back. He took the shell time to decide that he didn't want you anymore so use your time to do the same
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Shanmack
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FYI.. I think any signs can work. It only takes mutual respect and tolerance of eachother and their faults.

As a Libra I'm supposed to work well with a Aries, Leo, saggitarius or a Gemini. These men I find too aggressive and pushy. I had a Leo and I hate him forever. A sagg ripped me off and the Aries just feels he can turn up whenever... The Gemini was a two faced liar and a straight up in your face cheat.

Even though Im a Libra sun, cancer moon Aries rising I got alot of water placement in my chart-mostly Scorpio. I guess that explains my attraction to this little crab.