ScorpioFish
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My longest was 21 something years. I started dating him in '91. I was 17. Married him 7 years later. Filed for divorce after 15 years of marriage. He's Taurus. It went sour because I was always giving, giving and as long as he always got his way he was easy to get along with. He controlled almost everything: finances, who I could spend time with and how much of it, including limiting my time with my mom. After we had kids the verbal abuse started. I was a "fucking cow", "worthless", a "fucking bitch", etc. No love and affection, that pretty much disappeared. I had no choice when he refused to fix things and refused counseling together. I stayed with the relationship to the very bitter ugly end and then pulled the plug for my kids' sake.
Posted by CluelessCancer
10 years unrequited love with a SCorpio though. I'm going to count that as a relationship. It was in my head.
If we're talking on and off and in our heads..15 years with a Scorpio.
3 years with a Cap, 3 years with an Aries.
I am answering on behalf of my Venus and my crab passport.
Just in case anyone has problems with it. *shrug*
Just in case anyone has problems with it. *shrug*
Right now? With myself lol. 😄
Oh and I forget about my 9 month relationship with the Aqua when I was 9 years old..we even held hands on the street..it was serious business.
He picked me as his team mate in all the games we played..if that's not love, I don't know what is.
But honestly, I loved the genuine vibe when I was a child..everything was so bright and lovely and nice. Guys coming to you blushing "umm, will you be my girlfriend?". It was sweet as hell.
Oh and I forget about my 9 month relationship with the Aqua when I was 9 years old..we even held hands on the street..it was serious business.
He picked me as his team mate in all the games we played..if that's not love, I don't know what is.
But honestly, I loved the genuine vibe when I was a child..everything was so bright and lovely and nice. Guys coming to you blushing "umm, will you be my girlfriend?". It was sweet as hell.
Oh the ages..17-20 with the Cap, 22-25 with the Aries.
Currently hoarding cats.
Currently hoarding cats.
Oh I just stumbled into them..never looked for them really.
I have a saying "I will either date you for a month or for some years"..I figure it out pretty quickly the first month of dating them. I hate dragging shit out.
I feel old as hell..a quarter of a century old. But I lived an interesting life so far..if the Grim one comes at my door I'm like "Bring it, bro".
I have a saying "I will either date you for a month or for some years"..I figure it out pretty quickly the first month of dating them. I hate dragging shit out.
I feel old as hell..a quarter of a century old. But I lived an interesting life so far..if the Grim one comes at my door I'm like "Bring it, bro".
Posted by aquavita
How many cats?
I only have one at the moment but time waits for no one so I intend to get some more.
Let's not derail the thread further, the Cancers will pinch us to death.
Two long term relationships & three real loves in my past.
First one was my first boyfriend and everything. I was 18 and a senior. He was 19 and a freshman at Berkele School of Music. He was a sweet pisces who played the guitar. We last 3 months b/c he got super serious too fast and I was too young for a LTR let alone marriage.
Second one was with a Pisces and we lasted 7 years. I broke up with him because of the age difference, he was 16 years older, and because he had lost his job within a year of dating and never got serious about finding a new one. Was a lovely, kind and caring man but not very practical.
Third one was with a Gemini man and we lasted 9 years. I left this relationship too. He's bipolar and wouldn't take meds for it. He also lost his leg in the first year of us dating and never got back to work again either. So I supported us for years.
Sometimes I think I've got bad karma related to love. I've even joked to myself that I'm bad for a man. Date me and you'll lose your job but that's just a bit of "poor me" and that never looks good on a person. I know I haven't made the greatest choices. I shouldn't have gotten involved with a man who was that much older than myself but I was going thru a lot at that time & I guess I had some daddy issues to work out. And the gemini, I should never have stayed with a man who treated me as badly as he sometimes did. Cancers have a really hard time leaving a relationship that isn't working out. In my last 2 serious LTR, they were DOA about 2 years before I worked up the courage to leave. It's very very hard for this Cancer gal to leave a man. It's got to be dead for a long time before I work up the courage to leave. I've been single for about a year and a half and I'm waiting for a good man, not a good lay.
First one was my first boyfriend and everything. I was 18 and a senior. He was 19 and a freshman at Berkele School of Music. He was a sweet pisces who played the guitar. We last 3 months b/c he got super serious too fast and I was too young for a LTR let alone marriage.
Second one was with a Pisces and we lasted 7 years. I broke up with him because of the age difference, he was 16 years older, and because he had lost his job within a year of dating and never got serious about finding a new one. Was a lovely, kind and caring man but not very practical.
Third one was with a Gemini man and we lasted 9 years. I left this relationship too. He's bipolar and wouldn't take meds for it. He also lost his leg in the first year of us dating and never got back to work again either. So I supported us for years.
Sometimes I think I've got bad karma related to love. I've even joked to myself that I'm bad for a man. Date me and you'll lose your job but that's just a bit of "poor me" and that never looks good on a person. I know I haven't made the greatest choices. I shouldn't have gotten involved with a man who was that much older than myself but I was going thru a lot at that time & I guess I had some daddy issues to work out. And the gemini, I should never have stayed with a man who treated me as badly as he sometimes did. Cancers have a really hard time leaving a relationship that isn't working out. In my last 2 serious LTR, they were DOA about 2 years before I worked up the courage to leave. It's very very hard for this Cancer gal to leave a man. It's got to be dead for a long time before I work up the courage to leave. I've been single for about a year and a half and I'm waiting for a good man, not a good lay.
Dear Cancers,
Thank you for sharing, as I know it takes a lot for a human being to discuss personal information like that.
I am sorry for the losses, turbulence and heartache that you have all been through.
What do you think the future holds for you? Is there someone in your life now that you feel the inclination to try with?
Thank you for sharing, as I know it takes a lot for a human being to discuss personal information like that.
I am sorry for the losses, turbulence and heartache that you have all been through.
What do you think the future holds for you? Is there someone in your life now that you feel the inclination to try with?
Posted by ScorpioFish
Dear Cancers,
Thank you for sharing, as I know it takes a lot for a human being to discuss personal information like that.
I am sorry for the losses, turbulence and heartache that you have all been through.
What do you think the future holds for you? Is there someone in your life now that you feel the inclination to try with?
I've got a big fish on the hook now. He's a cappie who I was friends with in high school and somewhat beyond. He always adored me. We had the best conversations and friendship. But, at that time, I wasn't attracted to him. Now we are both single and he contacted me out of the blue and asked me on a date. He's taking me out to a fancy dinner this weekend. Who knows where this will go but it's wonderful to be asked out and to look forward to going out on a real date with potential. I have a good feeling with this one but I have my standards and I'm not lowering them for any man. Be real. Be a straight up suitor. And we'll take things from there slowly.
Posted by Este8
Two long term relationships & three real loves in my past.
First one was my first boyfriend and everything. I was 18 and a senior. He was 19 and a freshman at Berkele School of Music. He was a sweet pisces who played the guitar. We last 3 months b/c he got super serious too fast and I was too young for a LTR let alone marriage.
Este, if you could turn back time and re-live this with the maturity that you have now...
What would you have done different? Would you have sat him down and told him that you want to be with him, but that you want to take things more slowly?
Where is he now?
Did you cut all contact with him after things went sour?
Posted by ScorpioFish
Este, if you could turn back time and re-live this with the maturity that you have now...
What would you have done different? Would you have sat him down and told him that you want to be with him, but that you want to take things more slowly?
Where is he now?
Did you cut all contact with him after things went sour?
I don't like the "turn back time" questions but yes if I could turn back time, I would have taken him a lot more seriously because I was young and stupid then. It was more about looks than substance although you need a bit of both. He's aged very well and is a major tech programmer. I'm lucky to have caught his eye. He lives about an hour away from me but I'm open to moving back to the city where I have family and friends if things progress for us. Things never went sour between us. Things just didn't materialize romantically and we drifted apart.
Posted by Este8Posted by ScorpioFish
Este, if you could turn back time and re-live this with the maturity that you have now...
What would you have done different? Would you have sat him down and told him that you want to be with him, but that you want to take things more slowly?
Where is he now?
Did you cut all contact with him after things went sour?
I don't like the "turn back time" questions but yes if I could turn back time, I would have taken him a lot more seriously because I was young and stupid then. It was more about looks than substance although you need a bit of both. He's aged very well and is a major tech programmer. I'm lucky to have caught his eye. He lives about an hour away from me but I'm open to moving back to the city where I have family and friends if things progress for us. Things never went sour between us. Things just didn't materialize romantically and we drifted apart.click to expand
Oops, scorpfish. Just realize you were asking about the 18 yo Pisces. That's really hard to say so I'm going with no. It was tragic how badly he spiraled out of control when I broke up with him but we were both really really young. He later go involved with a sketchy woman who already had 2 kids by 2 different men and he got her knocked up. Fell into some pretty bad drug use as well. He was doing some heavy stuff when we met and stopped the drug use while we date. Or that's what I thought at any rate. But we reconnected about 5 years later and he looked like death on a cracker. Looking back on it, I'm sure he was back on heavy drugs. So for that one, no I can't say I regret it.
Very brave @ Este8.
I had 2 long term relationships, the others including my husband not in this category.
Gemini went first. Lasted 3-4 years, remained friends (after breaking up), from time to time he would contact me causing trouble on my ongoing relationship. Courtship was long and good. We're 3 years apart. I was 21, him 24. First 5 months went well, after that not so good. Ordered me to clean house, do laundry, iron clothes, doesn't want us to spend time with my family (he has no sibblings), doesn't want me talking to other guys or hang out with my friends, always scares me we're breaking up (cry cry cry).
I had 2 long term relationships, the others including my husband not in this category.
Gemini went first. Lasted 3-4 years, remained friends (after breaking up), from time to time he would contact me causing trouble on my ongoing relationship. Courtship was long and good. We're 3 years apart. I was 21, him 24. First 5 months went well, after that not so good. Ordered me to clean house, do laundry, iron clothes, doesn't want us to spend time with my family (he has no sibblings), doesn't want me talking to other guys or hang out with my friends, always scares me we're breaking up (cry cry cry).
One time I visited him somebody gave him a rose, I got so jealous, gave him the petals. He got mad at me. I notice he always talk to a girl on the phone,smiling. Wrote him a poem to release my anger, he got mad again. He never introduced me to his parents or family. I did.
He was always kind when he did something wrong. There was a time he was driving a van with a relative, passed me by like he never met me, just a quick glance.
Even said I'm so lazy and stupid. Almost forgot he threw money on my face, I think he was paying something he borrowed from me. Felt depressing and my self esteem was running low. Before we broke up we had a fight and he held my wrist so tight it hurts.It took me 4 years to realize he wasn't worthit.
Second one is Taurus. 16 years apart, I was 25, he was 41. Lasted for more than 2 years. It was hard for me to be myself in front of him and his family. He's outgoing and loves the crowd. I'm very shy. His family is known so I have to act accordingly always. The pressure was too much for me. I've posted comments on him on cancer & taurus thread. We're still friends til now.
Each of you has shown tremendous decency and courage to tell your stories, and I am grateful to read and understand your experiences as I navigate the interactive waters of life.
I am going to contribute and write even more to each of you soon. Right now, I am busy with work related projects and am also leaving for a trip this Friday.
However, I am going to write genuine responses to each of you, but will need some time to get my thoughts together.
Thank you again for your contributions, as they truly do make the difference for those of us trying to figure out relationships and the long term.
I am going to contribute and write even more to each of you soon. Right now, I am busy with work related projects and am also leaving for a trip this Friday.
However, I am going to write genuine responses to each of you, but will need some time to get my thoughts together.
Thank you again for your contributions, as they truly do make the difference for those of us trying to figure out relationships and the long term.
Posted by Oxygenada
Second one is Taurus. 16 years apart, I was 25, he was 41. Lasted for more than 2 years. It was hard for me to be myself in front of him and his family. He's outgoing and loves the crowd. I'm very shy. His family is known so I have to act accordingly always. The pressure was too much for me. I've posted comments on him on cancer & taurus thread. We're still friends til now.
So he was a brute to you?
I read that he tried to use brute force on you by grabbing your wrist. That sounds like bad news.
Was the fact that he is older healthy for you? Do you find yourself drawn to older men for maturity reasons?
Interesting, and I am sorry that it ended badly but it's good that you are still friendly toward each other.
Posted by Oxygenada
Very brave @ Este8.
I had 2 long term relationships, the others including my husband not in this category.
Gemini went first. Lasted 3-4 years, remained friends (after breaking up), from time to time he would contact me causing trouble on my ongoing relationship. Courtship was long and good. We're 3 years apart. I was 21, him 24. First 5 months went well, after that not so good. Ordered me to clean house, do laundry, iron clothes, doesn't want us to spend time with my family (he has no sibblings), doesn't want me talking to other guys or hang out with my friends, always scares me we're breaking up (cry cry cry).
That is really awful that the Gemini wouldn't allow you to see your friends or family. Quite possibly the biggest red flag of them all is that the person doesn't allow you to have regular contact with FAMILY.
What a mess he sounds like, but I am glad you are free from him.
Dear Este,
So the first Pisces boyfriend went into a nosedive of trouble after you two split up? Hmm, interesting. I always wonder how a Cancer woman would respond to her ex-boyfriend if (after she left him) he really improved himself and found a really attractive new girl? Do Cancer women come back to the man if that is the case? Or are they too shy and reserved to re-approach an improved, successful and healthier looking ex-bf?
The second Pisces ex is a no-brainer. Sigh. Our sign has this awful stigma that when we have a setback, that is the supreme end of the universe as we know it. Personally, I refuse to stay down when I am down. I may not be pleased about a big problem, but I do whatever I can to solve it and get back to the swing of things. It's really a self-respect thing. That, and the relationship with God is key. I pray a lot more than I used to.
The Gemini sounds like he was a burden to bear if he refused to work a good job and take his medication. If he really loved you, he would have taken his medication and pursued a job. Handicapped people actually have a better time finding jobs than regular Joes these days because they have so many laws in place advancing their cause over regular people. He should have taken his meds because they would have made him a better person for your shared relationship.
Definitely was the Gemini's loss.
Pisces 1 made bad decisions after your break-up instead of good ones, and Pisces 2 seems to have simply given up on life after the job loss when he should have fought even harder to keep things going.
So the first Pisces boyfriend went into a nosedive of trouble after you two split up? Hmm, interesting. I always wonder how a Cancer woman would respond to her ex-boyfriend if (after she left him) he really improved himself and found a really attractive new girl? Do Cancer women come back to the man if that is the case? Or are they too shy and reserved to re-approach an improved, successful and healthier looking ex-bf?
The second Pisces ex is a no-brainer. Sigh. Our sign has this awful stigma that when we have a setback, that is the supreme end of the universe as we know it. Personally, I refuse to stay down when I am down. I may not be pleased about a big problem, but I do whatever I can to solve it and get back to the swing of things. It's really a self-respect thing. That, and the relationship with God is key. I pray a lot more than I used to.
The Gemini sounds like he was a burden to bear if he refused to work a good job and take his medication. If he really loved you, he would have taken his medication and pursued a job. Handicapped people actually have a better time finding jobs than regular Joes these days because they have so many laws in place advancing their cause over regular people. He should have taken his meds because they would have made him a better person for your shared relationship.
Definitely was the Gemini's loss.
Pisces 1 made bad decisions after your break-up instead of good ones, and Pisces 2 seems to have simply given up on life after the job loss when he should have fought even harder to keep things going.
Posted by Scruffy
12 years with a Capricorn guy. No longer together but I don't feel like giving details.
I am sorry to hear of this, Scruffy.
(HUG)
Posted by MoonArtist
My longest was 21 something years. I started dating him in '91. I was 17. Married him 7 years later. Filed for divorce after 15 years of marriage. He's Taurus. It went sour because I was always giving, giving and as long as he always got his way he was easy to get along with. He controlled almost everything: finances, who I could spend time with and how much of it, including limiting my time with my mom. After we had kids the verbal abuse started. I was a "fucking cow", "worthless", a "fucking bitch", etc. No love and affection, that pretty much disappeared. I had no choice when he refused to fix things and refused counseling together. I stayed with the relationship to the very bitter ugly end and then pulled the plug for my kids' sake.
Wow, MoonArtist. This sounds terrible indeed. True to your Cancer stripes, you stuck it out long past the "sell by" date. Getting out of a bad relationship is so fucking hard for us crabbies. I hope your future will be better than you past. You surely don't need to spend your last days with a man who denigrates you by calling you a "fucking cow." I went thru a similar dynamic with my ex, a gemini. He's bipolar and called me a "stupid fucking cunt" more times than I can recall. Of course, he'd patch things up. Look like he's trying to change. But here we go again. I stayed on in that miserable relationship far far too long. Oddly, in my case, I stayed not out of a fear of being alone. I've never had those fears. I stayed that long because I couldn't accept failure. I thought if I just found the right way to talk to him, things would work out. WRONG. Cancers are slow to get into a relationship and slow to get out of one. Sometimes we're too damned loyal for our own good.
My best friend is a Cancer (female) and she is with a Libra (male). They've been together for almost 5 years! In my opinion I think the reason they work so well together is that they give each other space and let each other do their own thing. Also, they do not live together! I've noticed they've gone through some rough patches because she can become very insecure with herself and some times a little jealous. But other than that they've been together for a long time and have been great together! They are both 23 🙂
Posted by MoonArtist
My longest was 21 something years. I started dating him in '91. I was 17. Married him 7 years later. Filed for divorce after 15 years of marriage. He's Taurus. It went sour because I was always giving, giving and as long as he always got his way he was easy to get along with. He controlled almost everything: finances, who I could spend time with and how much of it, including limiting my time with my mom. After we had kids the verbal abuse started. I was a "fucking cow", "worthless", a "fucking bitch", etc. No love and affection, that pretty much disappeared. I had no choice when he refused to fix things and refused counseling together. I stayed with the relationship to the very bitter ugly end and then pulled the plug for my kids' sake.
(BIG HUG)
I am really sorry, MoonArtist.
It's really awful the way he behaved with you, especially the terrible verbal abuse. I still think he should be thrown through a plate glass window for that.
It is good that your children are number one to you, and I know in my heart that you will continue to value, support and raise them right.
How are things going these days? I am sure they are better, because it cannot rain forever!
🙂
Posted by Este8Posted by MoonArtist
My longest was 21 something years. I started dating him in '91. I was 17. Married him 7 years later. Filed for divorce after 15 years of marriage. He's Taurus. It went sour because I was always giving, giving and as long as he always got his way he was easy to get along with. He controlled almost everything: finances, who I could spend time with and how much of it, including limiting my time with my mom. After we had kids the verbal abuse started. I was a "fucking cow", "worthless", a "fucking bitch", etc. No love and affection, that pretty much disappeared. I had no choice when he refused to fix things and refused counseling together. I stayed with the relationship to the very bitter ugly end and then pulled the plug for my kids' sake.
Wow, MoonArtist. This sounds terrible indeed. True to your Cancer stripes, you stuck it out long past the "sell by" date. Getting out of a bad relationship is so fucking hard for us crabbies. I hope your future will be better than you past. You surely don't need to spend your last days with a man who denigrates you by calling you a "fucking cow." I went thru a similar dynamic with my ex, a gemini. He's bipolar and called me a "stupid fucking cunt" more times than I can recall. Of course, he'd patch things up. Look like he's trying to change. But here we go again. I stayed on in that miserable relationship far far too long. Oddly, in my case, I stayed not out of a fear of being alone. I've never had those fears. I stayed that long because I couldn't accept failure. I thought if I just found the right way to talk to him, things would work out. WRONG. Cancers are slow to get into a relationship and slow to get out of one. Sometimes we're too damned loyal for our own good.click to expand
I stayed for the same reason: couldn't accept failure. I had to exhaust every possible option that we could somehow have a chance at fixing and saving the relationship before I could write it off as a lost cause. I'm glad you got out of your relationship with a bipolar. Having someone be that disrespectful is so draining. We really are too loyal, sometimes.
Posted by ScorpioFishPosted by MoonArtist
My longest was 21 something years. I started dating him in '91. I was 17. Married him 7 years later. Filed for divorce after 15 years of marriage. He's Taurus. It went sour because I was always giving, giving and as long as he always got his way he was easy to get along with. He controlled almost everything: finances, who I could spend time with and how much of it, including limiting my time with my mom. After we had kids the verbal abuse started. I was a "fucking cow", "worthless", a "fucking bitch", etc. No love and affection, that pretty much disappeared. I had no choice when he refused to fix things and refused counseling together. I stayed with the relationship to the very bitter ugly end and then pulled the plug for my kids' sake.
(BIG HUG)
I am really sorry, MoonArtist.
It's really awful the way he behaved with you, especially the terrible verbal abuse. I still think he should be thrown through a plate glass window for that.
It is good that your children are number one to you, and I know in my heart that you will continue to value, support and raise them right.
How are things going these days? I am sure they are better, because it cannot rain forever!
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It's still an up and down thing but mostly up and the ups are more often and longer lasting, and the legal battle isn't over, yet. I'm doing great, though, by not having that crap looming over me all the time. I've learned to love weekends, all over again, and am on the mend and am loving life without the constant stress. The kids are the important thing and hopefully how I raise them will balance out and undo the way he raises them. God forbid they turn out like their father! That would break my heart. I want them to be well adjusted, good men!
With Damnata, with myself.
3 years with a Leo.
5 months with a Scorpio.
3 months with a Virgo.
Hell, basically.
3 years with a Leo.
5 months with a Scorpio.
3 months with a Virgo.
Hell, basically.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by xxbrittxxtay
My best friend is a Cancer (female) and she is with a Libra (male). They've been together for almost 5 years! In my opinion I think the reason they work so well together is that they give each other space and let each other do their own thing. Also, they do not live together! I've noticed they've gone through some rough patches because she can become very insecure with herself and some times a little jealous. But other than that they've been together for a long time and have been great together! They are both 23 🙂
You're a BYTCH and a TROLL. How many nicknames does one need? Did you get dumped by a Cancer? Do you hate Cancer females. Is your boss a Cancer chick?
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No I love Cancer's 🙂 Haha your self esteem must be extremely low lol
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by xxbrittxxtayPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by xxbrittxxtay
My best friend is a Cancer (female) and she is with a Libra (male). They've been together for almost 5 years! In my opinion I think the reason they work so well together is that they give each other space and let each other do their own thing. Also, they do not live together! I've noticed they've gone through some rough patches because she can become very insecure with herself and some times a little jealous. But other than that they've been together for a long time and have been great together! They are both 23 🙂
You're a BYTCH and a TROLL. How many nicknames does one need? Did you get dumped by a Cancer? Do you hate Cancer females. Is your boss a Cancer chick?
No I love Cancer's 🙂 Haha your self esteem must be extremely low lol
Low enough to OJ your ass Jon Bonet Ramsey.
why don't you go fuk off. Like get off the Cancer board. You're really starting to irritate me. and you're FAKE as fuk.
i'm tired of this. How many trolls are we going to get.
this board is getting mad boring.
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Just for the simple fact that I bother you I think I might stay! Thanks for the friendly welcome lmao you're a joke.
Posted by MoonArtist
I stayed for the same reason: couldn't accept failure. I had to exhaust every possible option that we could somehow have a chance at fixing and saving the relationship before I could write it off as a lost cause. I'm glad you got out of your relationship with a bipolar. Having someone be that disrespectful is so draining. We really are too loyal, sometimes.
Yeah breaking up/divorcing is so hard because you do feel like you failed when in reality it just wasn't going to work. I was with my ex for 9 years if you can believe it. I did love him. That's part of why I stayed but he didn't love himself and ended up treating me like shit...over and over and over again. What I learned is that, no matter how much you love another, you can't change them, even if changing them means only getting them to treat you with respect, which is really the minimum, right? I'm single now but looking forward to my first hot and real date tomorrow with a capricorn male I knew from high school. Yeah, we go way back and always got on like a house on fire. At that time, he was into me, I wasn't into him. Now we're both single and things have changed. Wish me luck! I've been single for 1.5 years and celebate for much longer than that. I'm hoping this is the first step toward some romantic happiness. Would be nice to get that for a change. Wishing you the best as well. We're survivors who had the courage to leave a fucked up relationship. Some women never do.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by UncleIrohPosted by xxbrittxxtayPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by xxbrittxxtayPosted by CluelessCancerPosted by xxbrittxxtay
My best friend is a Cancer (female) and she is with a Libra (male). They've been together for almost 5 years! In my opinion I think the reason they work so well together is that they give each other space and let each other do their own thing. Also, they do not live together! I've noticed they've gone through some rough patches because she can become very insecure with herself and some times a little jealous. But other than that they've been together for a long time and have been great together! They are both 23 🙂
You're a BYTCH and a TROLL. How many nicknames does one need? Did you get dumped by a Cancer? Do you hate Cancer females. Is your boss a Cancer chick?
No I love Cancer's 🙂 Haha your self esteem must be extremely low lol
Low enough to OJ your ass Jon Bonet Ramsey.
why don't you go fuk off. Like get off the Cancer board. You're really starting to irritate me. and you're FAKE as fuk.
i'm tired of this. How many trolls are we going to get.
this board is getting mad boring.
Just for the simple fact that I bother you I think I might stay! Thanks for the friendly welcome lmao you're a joke.
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Just ignore and maybe CC will go away 🙂
fuk off maggot. Damn where did all these losers come from.
the cancer board is so weak and wack these days.click to expand
Then go take your A $ $ elsewhere, now your being the whiny b!tch 😉
Posted by Este8Posted by MoonArtist
I stayed for the same reason: couldn't accept failure. I had to exhaust every possible option that we could somehow have a chance at fixing and saving the relationship before I could write it off as a lost cause. I'm glad you got out of your relationship with a bipolar. Having someone be that disrespectful is so draining. We really are too loyal, sometimes.
Yeah breaking up/divorcing is so hard because you do feel like you failed when in reality it just wasn't going to work. I was with my ex for 9 years if you can believe it. I did love him. That's part of why I stayed but he didn't love himself and ended up treating me like shit...over and over and over again. What I learned is that, no matter how much you love another, you can't change them, even if changing them means only getting them to treat you with respect, which is really the minimum, right? I'm single now but looking forward to my first hot and real date tomorrow with a capricorn male I knew from high school. Yeah, we go way back and always got on like a house on fire. At that time, he was into me, I wasn't into him. Now we're both single and things have changed. Wish me luck! I've been single for 1.5 years and celebate for much longer than that. I'm hoping this is the first step toward some romantic happiness. Would be nice to get that for a change. Wishing you the best as well. We're survivors who had the courage to leave a fucked up relationship. Some women never do.click to expand
I'm not sure mine really loved me at all. I think he just put on an act. I fell for it. I asked him a couple of times what he loved about me and he had nothing to say....not one thing, not even after I rattled off a list of what I loved about him. I've learned the same thing about changing people and only being able to change yourself. I don't want anyone to change for me, though, because I resented it when my ex tried to change me.
Oh happy dance! Have fun on your date tonight! Wishing you luck, love and at least a really good time but hopefully more! 😄
Posted by MoonArtist
I'm not sure mine really loved me at all. I think he just put on an act. I fell for it. I asked him a couple of times what he loved about me and he had nothing to say....not one thing, not even after I rattled off a list of what I loved about him. I've learned the same thing about changing people and only being able to change yourself. I don't want anyone to change for me, though, because I resented it when my ex tried to change me.
Oh happy dance! Have fun on your date tonight! Wishing you luck, love and at least a really good time but hopefully more! 😄
If he didn't love you, why did he marry you? He sounds really selfish. As for my hot date tomorrow, well it might be off and I'm kind of sad about it. We made plans last Fri or Sat to meet tomorrow at 7. I emailed him when I got back from buying a new dress for my date and have not heard back. He did this kind of thing b4 and it's only been a month since coming back into contact. This kind of shit doesn't fly with me. It's rude. Plus he asked me to friend him FB last Sat. I tried to do so but it looked like he had some privacy settings on so I asked him to friend me. No friend request and He asked Me. So....another one bites the dust. I have standards and this assclown isn't meeting them....like from the beginning. That's why I'm bouncing. If a man starts off like this, it's not a good sign. We've rescheduled 3 times. It's excuse central with this guy. Maybe he's got too much going on in his world to include me in it. I just wish he didn't email me and excite my imagination with possibilities. Some women would hang in there even after this BS and excuse this piss poor behavior. Not this chica. This is how he starts things off? Really? With men you always judge them by their actions, not their words. And his actions aren't lining up with his words from the beginning. Outta here!
I want a date with a lovely Crab girl, dammit!!!
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Posted by ScorpioFish
A long term relationship is typically defined as 1 year or longer.
Cancers, what are your long term relationships, how long did they last, what was the person's sign you were involved with, and what caused things to go sour?
I am curious to know your ages as well if you feel comfortable posting them.
1 year with Virgo #1 and he cheated on me, 3 years Virgo #2 and he died, 3 years with a Taurus (father of my child) and he hit me and the baby.
I am 24
Posted by Este8Posted by MoonArtist
I'm not sure mine really loved me at all. I think he just put on an act. I fell for it. I asked him a couple of times what he loved about me and he had nothing to say....not one thing, not even after I rattled off a list of what I loved about him. I've learned the same thing about changing people and only being able to change yourself. I don't want anyone to change for me, though, because I resented it when my ex tried to change me.
Oh happy dance! Have fun on your date tonight! Wishing you luck, love and at least a really good time but hopefully more! 😄
If he didn't love you, why did he marry you? He sounds really selfish. As for my hot date tomorrow, well it might be off and I'm kind of sad about it. We made plans last Fri or Sat to meet tomorrow at 7. I emailed him when I got back from buying a new dress for my date and have not heard back. He did this kind of thing b4 and it's only been a month since coming back into contact. This kind of shit doesn't fly with me. It's rude. Plus he asked me to friend him FB last Sat. I tried to do so but it looked like he had some privacy settings on so I asked him to friend me. No friend request and He asked Me. So....another one bites the dust. I have standards and this assclown isn't meeting them....like from the beginning. That's why I'm bouncing. If a man starts off like this, it's not a good sign. We've rescheduled 3 times. It's excuse central with this guy. Maybe he's got too much going on in his world to include me in it. I just wish he didn't email me and excite my imagination with possibilities. Some women would hang in there even after this BS and excuse this piss poor behavior. Not this chica. This is how he starts things off? Really? With men you always judge them by their actions, not their words. And his actions aren't lining up with his words from the beginning. Outta here!click to expand
Maybe he married me for duty. His mom was always pestering about when we were going to give her grandkids. Maybe he's closet gay and I was his beard. Who knows! He is very selfish.
Aw, crap, sounds like the cap is a no show. I had a brief date with one like that. He was really nice, too, but work seemed more of a priority and I can only do so much on my end to meet him half way. I agre
@Moonartist -you did the right thing. 21 years is long time. If I were in your shoes I would have done the same. I hope my marriage lasts. As much as possible we (cancers) wanna keep the peace and keep the family whole. I am the breadwinner. Sometimes it is tiring. He told me before not to worry about it (the bills), like I can.
@That1Girl - Good you're safe now. Should anybody hurt you esp. your baby, end it ASAP. I'm not very patient with the hitting part.
@scorpiofish -I believe you're referring to the gemini with the brute force thing. That was our last fight before breaking up. He's been alienating my relationships after his. Now he couldn't get pass my husband. He wanted to meet me, I declined and told him to stay away, take care of his wife instead and that he is a bad influence.
Nobody knows I'm his ex anyway. 4 years no introduction? A ghost gf? I never wanna see him again.
@ scorpiofish -I'm not strict with age when it comes to love. As long as we jive well. The Taurus ex couldn't handle my mood swings.
Please excuse my english, I would've responded to you guys better if I'm using my own language.
Posted by Oxygenada
@That1Girl - Good you're safe now. Should anybody hurt you esp. your baby, end it ASAP. I'm not very patient with the hitting part.
The second it happened I called the cops, he's gone for good now which is great for me and the baby
Posted by CluelessCancer
I can't wait till your Cancer friend drops you like the jealous turd you are. Whining? Aren't you the one whining about your cancer friend everywhere you go and cancer women overall.
bytch you stink. go take a shower.
I asked about only her, I have many Cancer friends. I just wanted someone's opinion sorry that made you all butt hurt. You must live on this forum, poor you.... get a life maybe?
3 years with a Taurus (father of my child) and he hit me and the baby.
I am 24
I cannot believe that "men" like this exist.
I want to do things to your Taurus ex that involve a pair of rusty pliers, hydrochloric acid and a blowtorch.
Posted by ScorpioFish
3 years with a Taurus (father of my child) and he hit me and the baby.
I am 24
I cannot believe that "men" like this exist.
I want to do things to your Taurus ex that involve a pair of rusty pliers, hydrochloric acid and a blowtorch.
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