Confusion Over Relationship with Cancer Man

I'm sure this is a common questions, but I'm new to the forum, so please humor me. 🙂 I'm very much in love with my Cancer man. I feel I'm always chasing him, and when I step back, he feels hurt and as if I don't like him. I"m just not sure he's all that into me. Any thoughts would be appreciated!

When I met my Cancer a year ago, he was trying to get back with his ex (who we later found out was cheating on him), and we got closer when he eventually (months later) began confiding in me about his betrayal. I saw him go through all that, and it was heartbreaking. He was a typical Cancer man in love with her (consuming and did everything for her), and yet he's not that way with me. I guess I'm just so worried because I saw how he was in love with her, and he's either totally guarded with me or just not that into me. Not sure what to think 😢
I'm 34 years old, he's 42.

The Good:
He cooks for me all the time, I've met all his friends and immediate family -- I get along VERY well with his mom (thank God, right?! LOL), and he invited me to a family dinner this past weekend. I'm at his house every single weekend, and sometimes during the week for a night or 2, he's had me help pick out several new furniture items -- saying he wants my approval since I'm there, too. He's surprised me with flowers a couple times, took me out of town for my birthday and paid for everything, he's my closest friend, he's still a jealous a** and doesn't want me seeing anyone else, he loves my friends, the sex is AMAZING, he loves making me happy, buying me little things and taking me places. He's said multiple times how much I mean to him and how much he cares about me, but doesn't want to admit that I'm more than friends kinda. I write him little notes or funny poems since he leaves work before me, and even though he never says anything to me about them, I noticed he keeps them all in a drawer and he made a comment when i didn't leave him a note once.
The best thing is that he opens up to me about everything now. All the Cancer signs of a man in love, except for the BAD below..

The Really Bad:
There is no affection, other than lots of flirty touches out in public - picking on me, etc. Very flirty, but no hugging or cuddling ever (unless drunk)!! Says he's not afraid to lose me, since he's been hurt so many times before. Never has said he loves me (ok, once 2x when drunk), Kissing is a little during sex and always anytime he's leaving to go anywhere (a sweet peck on the lips -- which I do love), he never compliments me -- like EVER. He lies about stupid little things and I really don't trust him. He gets grumpy as hell and can be flat out rude, he will not ever say I'm his girlfriend, unless a random stranger asks, but he won't admit it to me or our friends. He's also said we're moving too quickly, then the next day he doesn't want me to leave and can't get enough of me.

Wouldn't a Cancer not be able to keep his hands off of a woman he has feelings for?

I'm sure this is a common question, but I'm new to the forum, so please humor me. 🙂 I'm very much in love with my Cancer man. I feel I'm always chasing him, and when I step back, he feels hurt and as if I don't like him. I'm just not sure he's all that into me.

When I met my Cancer a year ago, we were just FWB and he was trying to get back with his ex (who we later found out was cheating on him), and we got closer when he eventually (months later) began confiding in me about his betrayal. I saw him go through all that, and it was heartbreaking. He was a typical Cancer man in love with her (consuming and did everything for her), and yet he's not that way with me. I guess I'm just so worried because I saw how he was in love with her, and he's either totally guarded with me or just not that into me. Not sure what to think 😢
I'm 34 years old, he's 42.

The Good:
He cooks for me all the time, I've met all his friends and immediate family -- I get along VERY well with his mom (thank God, right?! LOL), and he invited me to a family dinner this past weekend. I'm at his house every single weekend, and sometimes during the week for a night or 2, he's had me help pick out several new furniture items -- saying he wants my approval since I'm there, too. He's surprised me with flowers a couple times, took me out of town for my birthday and paid for everything, he's my closest friend, he's still a jealous a** and doesn't want me seeing anyone else, he loves my friends, the sex is AMAZING, he loves making me happy, buying me little things and taking me places. He's said multiple times how much I mean to him and how much he cares about me, but doesn't want to admit that I'm more than friends kinda. I write him little notes or funny poems since he leaves work before me, and even though he never says anything to me about them, I noticed he keeps them all in a drawer and he made a comment when i didn't leave him a note once.
The best thing is that he opens up to me about everything now. All the Cancer signs of a man in love, except for the BAD below..

The Really Bad:
There is no affection, other than lots of flirty touches out in public - picking on me, etc. Very flirty, but no hugging or cuddling ever (unless drunk)!! Says he's not afraid to lose me, since he's been hurt so many times before. Never has said he loves me (ok, once 2x when drunk), Kissing is a little during sex and always anytime he's leaving to go anywhere (a sweet peck on the lips -- which I do love), he never compliments me -- like EVER. He lies about stupid little things and I really don't trust him. He gets grumpy as hell and can be flat out rude, he will not ever say I'm his girlfriend, unless a random stranger asks, but he won't admit it to me or our friends. He's also said we're moving too quickly, then the next day he doesn't want me to leave and can't get enough of me.

Wouldn't a Cancer not be able to keep his hands off of a woman he has feelings for?

He also calls me every night and texts a couple times during the day most days, and he initiates 90% of calls and texts. He (as of recently) opens doors for me, and is SO thoughtful and a total gentleman, opening doors for me, etc. Our relationship has progressed so much, but as it has, the affection has subsided drastically. Makes no sense to me. 😢 And why won't this man commit completely?!

Sounds like a guy with a good heart that still loves his ex but cares a lot for you.

I'm sorry but I don't think he is as committed as you are. My cancer would rent a billboard and never let's me feel insecure about our relationship. He is my man and is so happy to be with me, he doesn't care who knows it. He is always touching me and I love that. He apologizes if he THINKS he has hurt my feelings in any way and explains himself and his mood. He is considerate and caring but most importantly, he is constant. I'm not sure about your dude but people will treat you however you allow them to treat you. Be careful and good luck!