How do you ask Cancer guy for a break?

Besides the "obvious" way of course...

I think moreso I'm asking would it be wise to do so? Not wanting to take a break to do anything or talk to anyone else like that. More like I just need to take care of myself for awhile and be selfish kinda of. In the last few months its been kinda rough and I've spent more energy trying to make sure we/he was ok, and in the process managed to drain myself completely.

I usually take breaks when he does (disappearing), and that used to be for like weeks but he hasnt done that in awhile and I would use that time to refuel if I needed to, but now its only like a day or so.

Just curious.

^^^^^ yurp!

But if you want to be polite just give a heads up. You don't owe him anything.

Posted by Koniuchaa
If a guy is just disappearing, I certainly wouldn't be asking his permission for a break.

Yea, I can understand that. He doesnt do that like he used to on the beginning stages. Now if we have a disagreement or whatever its more like a day or two. But I still feel like I need more time, for whatever reason. Idk

Posted by kissmygrits
^^^^^ yurp!

But if you want to be polite just give a heads up. You don't owe him anything.

Ok cool that works. Thanks!

No problem sweet thang!

You should be asking yourself if he is worth pursuing or continuing a "relationship" with - I use that term loosely. I can tell you like the guy, but you should want to spend a lot of time with the person you LOVE.

It appears he is more or less bringing you down and not being considerate with his whole "weeks of disappearing."

Posted by takemeaway
You should be asking yourself if he is worth pursuing or continuing a "relationship" with - I use that term loosely. I can tell you like the guy, but you should want to spend a lot of time with the person you LOVE.

It appears he is more or less bringing you down and not being considerate with his whole "weeks of disappearing."

Thank you. ☺ï¸

In the beginning we had the issues of disappearing, now not so much. Usually its not more than a day or so, but yea..I feel like I just need some time. I will figure it out. We are long distance right now as well so that adds on top of it.

we cancers start out disappearing for a lot of time but reduce the amount as we get closer. if you need time i'm sure he'll be fine so long as he knows you're not going anywhere, which he probably does.

How do you disappear for a day? I mean, unless you live together is it a requirement that you exchange communication every single day? 365 days out of the year?

Posted by rabidtalker
we cancers start out disappearing for a lot of time but reduce the amount as we get closer. if you need time i'm sure he'll be fine so long as he knows you're not going anywhere, which he probably does.

Thats what I was thinking. Thanks!

Posted by Gennie
How do you disappear for a day? I mean, unless you live together is it a requirement that you exchange communication every single day? 365 days out of the year?

I agree... me personally I dont have to talk everyday. More into the quality of the interaction/communication really than how many times a day or whatever.