Dating a cancer guy I am confused

I'm dating a cancer guy and I'm a Capricorn. Ok so I am SO into this guy!! More than I've been with anyone. I feel worried that I am going to lose him. He started texting less and we have been seeing each other less. Also sometimes he won't answer my texts and I feel really bad about it sometimes and start questioning how much he really likes me. So he is doing these things, but then also doing other things that show he is into me.
Like the other day he spent his only day off helping me paint my room. And his only night off in 3 weeks he called me to go out. When we're together I feel so connected to him. we have tons of chemistry and both feel the same way about each other that way. So everything will feel and seem perfect when we're together, but then he will just not text me or contact me, or answer my texts for a few days at a time. I feel like I'm the one chasing right now and I hate feeling like that! I want him to chase me and be sweet with me like he was at the beginning. It feels like he's not really trying anymore! Maybe I've been too easy?? I have been easy because of how much I like him. In order to get it back what do I need to do? Should I back off and let him come to me? Maybe tell him I already have plans the next time he asks me out last minute? I would love any help because I REALLY like this guy. Like a lot!

That makes a lot of sense. Thank you so much and yeah this helps a lot! You're right- it's is so tough mentally and emotionally. I'm not used to guys acting like this, but it's good for me and I'm learning a lot by being with him. I know I can't take any of this fear to him and start being needy so its teaching me patience and to be content with just me. I am wondering one more thing- should I keep dating other people? we are not exclusive, but when we are together it feels like we are. We act like it and he's a crab man that doesn't want to have sex before being married so we are not doing that, but we're getting pretty close to the line. I know he goes a lot farther with me than he lets himself normally and I know everything we do means something to him. It all means a lot to me too. I feel like we have an emotional connection. Also I know a huge past hurt for him was his gf was still talking with other men. I feel like dating other guys will bring this hurt up for him. At the same time, he is afraid of commitment and we are not exclusive. He has very little time to give me and I think it would be good for me to casually date other people until we are exclusive. I just don't want to hurt him. I would rather not date anyone else than hurt him, but then I also feel like it would be good for me like I said before and I don't want to just sit at home until he comes around when we're not committed. Any thoughts? And thank you!! Oh and I am pretty positive he is not dating anyone else at all right now. But he is also super busy working 60 hours a week..

I want to add one more thing. I feel like this is a soulmate connection. I felt like that the first time I met him and I knew he would mean something to me. I've never felt like this about anyone before so he is pretty special to me

This is typical, but annoying, behavior for Cancer men, m'dear. They love the chase. They charm the hell out of you, want to be around you and in contact with you all the time, and go out of their way to show you how they'll be there for you if you'll be theirs, and then when they finally get you, the chase is over. You've been caught. Most men in general don't put as much effort into keeping their woman as they do when they're trying to get her, but that doesn't mean they care less. He's going to take it easy rather than continue working so hard, and be his natural self with you now. Every woman becomes concerned when their behavior changes because they immediately take it as a sign of losing interest, but really it's just man's nature as a hunter to be that way. As for not hearing from from time to time, he may be busy with other things that he needs to concentrate on. They aren't the best multi-taskers, and they want to be able to give you their full attention when they're with you. Sometimes they can't do that. Also, you won't hear from them when they're in a bad mood. They only want to show you their happy side.
Try not to worry too much about it just now, but also don't feel like you have to chase him. He has his own life just as you have yours. When he needs to focus on his, you do the same. You'll drain yourself if you continue putting in more than you're getting. Just try to enjoy the ride, because that's what a relationship with a Cancer man usually is: a crazy ride with extreme highs and lows.

Last time a cancer men texted me less was when he lost interest

I'm not sure what my moon sign is? We weren't seeing each other for a while. I did something to hurt him and he retreated and wouldn't talk to me at all. So it was like a month of no contact at all. And that month was torture for me! I had people telling me I needed to let him go and he wasn't right for me but I had this super intense feeling that we were meant for each other and I couldn't just let him go. I know it sounds crazy but that's what it is. So I finally got him back. I apologized really sincerely and most important I worked on myself and the things that were causing me to act needy and controlling. We're seeing each other again and I know he likes me, but it hasn't been the same with how he communicates with me. He used to be so sweet and want to see me a lot. Now he is not as sweet (although the past week he started talking to me a little bit in the way he used to but it's not consistent). And also we don't see each other as much. Before he would go out of his way to want to see me. I know he cares though because he sticks to his feelings. If he didn't think it could lead to anything he would not see me anymore. He doesn't play games. But like some of you said, I know he loves the chase. I think I need to get that dynamic back because when I was trying to get him back I had to be pretty forward. It took a lot of work!

He's also told me a lot that he cares about me and likes me. And he also told me there is no one else out there like me. This was after the break too. He wasn't saying it to get anything from me, he was just telling me. He's quiet and he only says what he really means so I know he has feelings for me. Maybe he is being cautious because of what happened? He wants to see if he can really trust me?

This is such a similar story to exactly what I am experiencing right now and it can be so hard and tough. I know what you are going through and the thing I have learned so far is this - Be yourself, try to relax, don't be needy but at the same time don't be afraid to show your vulnerable side or that you love to spend time with him, do not try to play any games and do not try to make him jealous, do not overreact when he is disappearing a little bit because there is no need for too much drama and when you see him again just be happy to see him and spending time with him, believe in the good loving things he says to you and what he does for you and do not forget it, try not to take it too personal if and when he is busy or is disappearing for a little while. If he really cares for you ( which I believe he does ) he will come back to you because his feelings does not change just because his mood changes, and if he does not come back then it is not supposed to be. We have to give them a little more faith as well I think. I also believe that it is important to many Cancerians ( and other people as well ) to take a step back once in a while, analyze, relax, have a little break and bounce back when they are ready again . The Cancerian I am in love with goes "away" when having mood swings just for a very short time, and then comes back to me when she is feeling good again with herself which I think is important to her for being able to see me and I really respect that she needs to feel good around me. ( It is also a compliment for me ) I think it is also important to not only centering everything around ourselves but see that it actually is a possibility that they just "need a little time", and it does not necessarily mean that it has anything to do with you at all. It is always easy to question ourselves and over analyzing everything but we are all just humans and people are different. I am the kind of person who wants to spend almost all my time with the one I am in love with, I give everything in love without hesitating and I used to think that if the other person did not want or act the same - how could they be interested?I am still working on my thoughts every day but it helps working on yourself and people should never stop doing that. Of course I learned a lot and I learned to also work on my own expectations and to understand why people act in different ways. I ask myself - would I be this madly in love with this girl if she was not the person she is? No. I am sure everything will work out just fine with you guys and I hope you will find a way to deal with this and to see all the positive sides in the whole situation, see the big picture and keep yourself happy - regardless if you guys are having a lot of contact, a little or none. If he likes you he will be in your life. Hugs 😄

He is being cautious from what you said, but hes coming out of his shell by the sound of it, you will find he is a lot more sensitive than you probably realize, if you can realize this and respect it, your halfway there.
Just keep being yourself, throw a little charming remark towards him now and again, make him laugh, be his friend, he will warm up to you again I'm sure hun, but most of all don't worry if hes moody sometimes that its something to do with you, let him come out of his shell on his own he will let you know what's happened to upset him, but only when he is ready.
Don't forget he works 60 hours a week so there's a lot of hours of working for him to get peed off with other people or general situations also, so try not to over analyse the situation when hes quiet or seems a little distant, it can make you feel like they are shutting you out, but don't worry they come back all sweet and light again if they know you are there for them and you don't let their mood swings bother you too much.
Hope my advice helps a little hun Š

Leo123, I agree with everything you said 👠you obviously love and respect your lady lots Š

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Leo123, I agree with everything you said 👠you obviously love and respect your lady lots Š

Thank you so much, appreciate it and yes, I do 🙂

Identical to my situation

Thanks so much everyone! I'm feeling a lot better since writing on here. He sent me a really sweet text wishing me a happy Mother's Day yesterday 🙂. I'm going to do what everyone suggested and pull back a little and only give as much as I'm getting and keep being open and loving too. thanks so much! All the support helped me a lot ☺ï¸