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Is this Cancer man really over his ex?
Is a Cancer Man Over His Ex
Cancer men often maintain contact with exes and take time to fully move on. His behavior suggests he may still have emotional ties, but it doesn't necessarily mean he is not interested in new connections. Pay attention to his actions and communication to understand his true feelings and intentions.
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He is not over her. Cancer men are notorious for clinging to past memory
He's over her. I'm friends with all of my exes except the most recent one. Romantic feelings can fade, but you can still care about someone ever after that happens. I'm sure you'll hear from him soon.
Posted by thinktoomuch
Why do they always have to be "clinging onto the past", why can´t it just be, that he isn´t as interested in the present, as she would like?24 hours people!!!!!! 24 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I got what you are saying.. I wish he didn't say we have to meet again soon. then acted disappointed when I said let's keep in touch.
After kisses he was checking if I want my container back. I told him up to you - ,meaning he can keep it even if we dont see each other again. yet he kept checking.
I told a Pisces guy friend, he thinks this cancer man is weird. A Sag guy friend said he only wants sex and told me to get rid of him quick..
Posted by Keres
He's over her. I'm friends with all of my exes except the most recent one. Romantic feelings can fade, but you can still care about someone ever after that happens. I'm sure you'll hear from him soon.
I will take your word as he also has sun and moon in cancer like yourself.
What are the rest of your placement like?
Posted by thinktoomuch
Why do they always have to be "clinging onto the past", why can´t it just be, that he isn´t as interested in the present, as she would like?24 hours people!!!!!! 24 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's not completely unreasonable to want some positive reassurance after you share any type of physical intimacy together. In this case a kiss.
But idk if he's over his ex. And he's probably collecting himself after your kiss. Just stay cool and warm when he gets his courage back up. Also....don't have sex with him until you figure out some more details.
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I get that it's healthy to take time on reflection, you mentioned "when he gets his courage back up" did you mean it's his own emotions that scared him somehow? or things I said in the OP that might have discouraged him?
Posted by Keres
He's over her. I'm friends with all of my exes except the most recent one. Romantic feelings can fade, but you can still care about someone ever after that happens. I'm sure you'll hear from him soon.I will take your word as he also has sun and moon in cancer like yourself.
What are the rest of your placement like?
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Cap rising, Gemini Venus, Cancer mars
Posted by Keres
He's over her. I'm friends with all of my exes except the most recent one. Romantic feelings can fade, but you can still care about someone ever after that happens. I'm sure you'll hear from him soon.I will take your word as he also has sun and moon in cancer like yourself.
What are the rest of your placement like?
Cap rising, Gemini Venus, Cancer mars
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He has aqua rising, Leo Venus, gemini Mars and mercury
I'm virgo sun, aqua moon, virgo mercury, leo venus, leo mars, aqua rising
Posted by thinktoomuch
Why do they always have to be "clinging onto the past", why can´t it just be, that he isn´t as interested in the present, as she would like?24 hours people!!!!!! 24 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's not completely unreasonable to want some positive reassurance after you share any type of physical intimacy together. In this case a kiss.
But idk if he's over his ex. And he's probably collecting himself after your kiss. Just stay cool and warm when he gets his courage back up. Also....don't have sex with him until you figure out some more details.
I get that it's healthy to take time on reflection, you mentioned "when he gets his courage back up" did you mean it's his own emotions that scared him somehow? or things I said in the OP that might have discouraged him?
He may be replaying things you've said but ultimately you told him you'd like to hear from him so he's aware that the ball is in his court. Cancer sometimes retreat when things are progressing but they're unsure where they stand. He's just unsure and collecting himself. But he's still a man and he will take initiative.
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I wish I didn't say things out of nervousness of first kiss. I hope he knows where he stands as I brought him my baking ...
Posted by Keres
He's over her. I'm friends with all of my exes except the most recent one. Romantic feelings can fade, but you can still care about someone ever after that happens. I'm sure you'll hear from him soon.I will take your word as he also has sun and moon in cancer like yourself.
What are the rest of your placement like?
Cap rising, Gemini Venus, Cancer mars
He has aqua rising, Leo Venus, gemini Mars and mercury
I'm virgo sun, aqua moon, virgo mercury, leo venus, leo mars, aqua rising
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Looks like a good match 🙂
Posted by Keres
He's over her. I'm friends with all of my exes except the most recent one. Romantic feelings can fade, but you can still care about someone ever after that happens. I'm sure you'll hear from him soon.I will take your word as he also has sun and moon in cancer like yourself.
What are the rest of your placement like?
Cap rising, Gemini Venus, Cancer mars
He has aqua rising, Leo Venus, gemini Mars and mercury
I'm virgo sun, aqua moon, virgo mercury, leo venus, leo mars, aqua rising
Looks like a good match 🙂
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So far so good, first date lasted for 6 hrs and second date lasted for 6.5 hrs. third date was only 4 hrs. he was gentleman to wait for me to kiss him. He tried to kiss on first date but I told him no, and he respected my value.
Posted by thinktoomuch
Why do they always have to be "clinging onto the past", why can´t it just be, that he isn´t as interested in the present, as she would like?24 hours people!!!!!! 24 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's not completely unreasonable to want some positive reassurance after you share any type of physical intimacy together. In this case a kiss.
But idk if he's over his ex. And he's probably collecting himself after your kiss. Just stay cool and warm when he gets his courage back up. Also....don't have sex with him until you figure out some more details.
I get that it's healthy to take time on reflection, you mentioned "when he gets his courage back up" did you mean it's his own emotions that scared him somehow? or things I said in the OP that might have discouraged him?
He may be replaying things you've said but ultimately you told him you'd like to hear from him so he's aware that the ball is in his court. Cancer sometimes retreat when things are progressing but they're unsure where they stand. He's just unsure and collecting himself. But he's still a man and he will take initiative.
I wish I didn't say things out of nervousness of first kiss. I hope he knows where he stands as I brought him my baking ...
You didn't do anything wrong. You have reservations about him keeping friendly with an ex which is completely understandable. Trust me, he likes that you were nervous.
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Cancer men like nervous girls? like they have some power over her?
jfc ..... now you're over here on the Cancer board carrying on with your insecurities?
One day can't go by without you smothering the fuck out of it?
same shit, different board
Him..we should see each other soon.
You..lets keep in touch.?
Then he made a point about returning your cake boxes more than once, plus you kissed, I think he is a little confused – He likes you, but isn't sure you like him to the same degree now. Those points you made I mentioned really stuck out to me, even I felt a little confused, he clearly thought you were both moving foreword, but then you merely said keep in touch, keeping in touch to me suggests that's as far as this will be going, don't forget men hear what you say as a fact, now you havnt heard from him.
I hope he gets in touch with you soon hun, just my thoughts on the matter, not trying to criticize at all, if your worried call him for a chat,put his mind at rest. x let us know.
Posted by thinktoomuch
Why do they always have to be "clinging onto the past", why can´t it just be, that he isn´t as interested in the present, as she would like?24 hours people!!!!!! 24 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's not completely unreasonable to want some positive reassurance after you share any type of physical intimacy together. In this case a kiss.
But idk if he's over his ex. And he's probably collecting himself after your kiss. Just stay cool and warm when he gets his courage back up. Also....don't have sex with him until you figure out some more details.
I get that it's healthy to take time on reflection, you mentioned "when he gets his courage back up" did you mean it's his own emotions that scared him somehow? or things I said in the OP that might have discouraged him?
He may be replaying things you've said but ultimately you told him you'd like to hear from him so he's aware that the ball is in his court. Cancer sometimes retreat when things are progressing but they're unsure where they stand. He's just unsure and collecting himself. But he's still a man and he will take initiative.
I wish I didn't say things out of nervousness of first kiss. I hope he knows where he stands as I brought him my baking ...
You didn't do anything wrong. You have reservations about him keeping friendly with an ex which is completely understandable. Trust me, he likes that you were nervous.
Cancer men like nervous girls? like they have some power over her?
Not necessarily nervous but he will take pride in the fact that you seem to be innocent when it comes to dating. Uncharted territory. They're strange. He wants to feel like you're the first man he's ever dated.
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Guess it's the male ego thing about feeling like he is your first? He knows I have ex(s) but knows I'm very selective. That probably makes him feel good too.
Posted by piscespoppy
Him..we should see each other soon.
You..lets keep in touch.?
Then he made a point about returning your cake boxes more than once, plus you kissed, I think he is a little confused – He likes you, but isn't sure you like him to the same degree now. Those points you made I mentioned really stuck out to me, even I felt a little confused, he clearly thought you were both moving foreword, but then you merely said keep in touch, keeping in touch to me suggests that's as far as this will be going, don't forget men hear what you say as a fact, now you havnt heard from him.
I hope he gets in touch with you soon hun, just my thoughts on the matter, not trying to criticize at all, if your worried call him for a chat,put his mind at rest. x let us know.
I realized I said the wrong thing when I said keep it touch. I immediately correct it then I kissed him.. but took me a few try as I got nervous to kiss him.. when I really like someone I get shy.. then I screw things up...
he mentioned about container right at the end. I said up to you because I thought I have plenty and also he can use it. I should have said why >
jfc ..... now you're over here on the Cancer board carrying on with your insecurities?
One day can't go by without you smothering the fuck out of it?
same shit, different board
just so you can have something to bitch about, as I know you love trolling. Now you can go fuck youself.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
are we going to have a thread after every interaction. You're being JKATS nowVirgos are overthinkers and fuking annoying
they never let LOVE happen
ruiners of real possibilities.
Like @piscespoppy said my signals were confusing.. I wish I didn't mess up.. nervousness got the best of me..
Posted by piscespoppy
Him..we should see each other soon.
You..lets keep in touch.?
Then he made a point about returning your cake boxes more than once, plus you kissed, I think he is a little confused – He likes you, but isn't sure you like him to the same degree now. Those points you made I mentioned really stuck out to me, even I felt a little confused, he clearly thought you were both moving foreword, but then you merely said keep in touch, keeping in touch to me suggests that's as far as this will be going, don't forget men hear what you say as a fact, now you havnt heard from him.
I hope he gets in touch with you soon hun, just my thoughts on the matter, not trying to criticize at all, if your worried call him for a chat,put his mind at rest. x let us know.
OP shot herself in her foot...
Posted by Arielle83
As a cancer, I don't offer any baking etc until I know we are going somewhere.If dude is over and I've made something, he can have a cookie etc.
However, I'd never make him something specifically. It looks too wifey.
Plus if you're all insecure about him having a connection with someone from his past, why would you make him anything?
You're left feeling like you've put yourself out there for him, so you've FORCED the ball in his court.
What if he doesn't respond to you in time, doesn't praise your baking the way you want etc?
3 dates is too soon for cancer to validate you the way you want.
It's like the anty is upped cuz u feel threatened by this ex he's close to.
Maybe if you make it past this grey area you might meet her too and realise how wonderful she is and why he has her in his life.
However, 3 dates isn't enough to get that close.
I bet he isn't even thinking too much about anything. Just eating food.
You're timing and his might not be at the same pace.
Since when is there any rules for baking? You are a manipulator yourself. Cancer women are nuts
Posted by thinktoomuch
Why do they always have to be "clinging onto the past", why can´t it just be, that he isn´t as interested in the present, as she would like?24 hours people!!!!!! 24 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He's clinging to the past while she's just plain clingy.
Posted by Arielle83
As a cancer, I don't offer any baking etc until I know we are going somewhere.If dude is over and I've made something, he can have a cookie etc.
However, I'd never make him something specifically. It looks too wifey.
Plus if you're all insecure about him having a connection with someone from his past, why would you make him anything?
You're left feeling like you've put yourself out there for him, so you've FORCED the ball in his court.
What if he doesn't respond to you in time, doesn't praise your baking the way you want etc?
3 dates is too soon for cancer to validate you the way you want.
It's like the anty is upped cuz u feel threatened by this ex he's close to.
Maybe if you make it past this grey area you might meet her too and realise how wonderful she is and why he has her in his life.
However, 3 dates isn't enough to get that close.
I bet he isn't even thinking too much about anything. Just eating food.
You're timing and his might not be at the same pace.
Since when is there any rules for baking? You are a manipulator yourself. Cancer women are nuts
Get fucked bitter idiot.
Don't bake to make a man think you're wifey and then get all crappy when he hasn't talked in 24 hours.
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Look who is bitter now. You are a control freak who not only play games to control men. You also like to enforced your backward opinions onto others.
I read the post again and can't find anything that suggested she baked just for him. Also why is baking a wifey thing? Guess Jamie Oliver and Gordan Ramsey really makes good wives.
You and your retarded opinion can get back into your crabshell. Stop spreading drama on dxp just because you can't control your emotions
@arielle83 It's interesting how we all interpret baking differently, I don't associate cooking with motherhood or "wife thing" and such. I see it as a way for me to express my creativity. I did some baking earlier and shared with friends, work and him. As we talked about my recipe on second date, might as well share with him on third. I love seeing how much people are enjoying my food. If they don't I will simply take on the feedback and improve my recipes.
I didn't call him because when I screwed up by saying "keep in touch" I then explained I meant I like you to contact me. He said this is a very feminine thing to say, he likes that because it allows him to be masculine to pursue me. Since he said this is what he enjoys to do, I better leave him to do the contact after the kiss.
Just curious do you stay friends with all of your exs? Do you introduce them to your husband? Why did you break up? Do you just wake up one day and feel like romantic feelings switch to platonic?
@DMVFangirl @piscespoppy @arielle83 @illuminati @SensitiveBlues @Keres
Hey ladies, just some update, he texted me to say he thinks he better contact me now! then explained why he was busy, he told me how much he enjoyed my baking and asking when can he see me again.
Glad he got through the busy day and the confusion I put him through out of my nervousness
@arielle83 That is some interesting insight. Would you elaborate more about "cancer escape time"
Also have they done anything to make you fall out of love? such as being too familiar?
I hope he didn't see it as I was trying to act like wife material with sharing food. He knows I really love cooking, if I win lotto I would open a restaurant!
Posted by Poppyseeds
@arielle83 It's interesting how we all interpret baking differently, I don't associate cooking with motherhood or "wife thing" and such. I see it as a way for me to express my creativity. I did some baking earlier and shared with friends, work and him. As we talked about my recipe on second date, might as well share with him on third. I love seeing how much people are enjoying my food. If they don't I will simply take on the feedback and improve my recipes.I didn't call him because when I screwed up by saying "keep in touch" I then explained I meant I like you to contact me. He said this is a very feminine thing to say, he likes that because it allows him to be masculine to pursue me. Since he said this is what he enjoys to do, I better leave him to do the contact after the kiss.
Just curious do you stay friends with all of your exs? Do you introduce them to your husband? Why did you break up? Do you just wake up one day and feel like romantic feelings switch to platonic?
Nah girl, that´s a little white lie! You know you wanna bake to show him you´re wife material! All the females dating cancer men read about them and read about how cancer men love food and homey and wife material, and suddenly they all want to bake!
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Well if you already have stories made up and refuse to listen to what I have to say, there's no point for me to add anymore to it.
Posted by Poppyseeds
@arielle83 It's interesting how we all interpret baking differently, I don't associate cooking with motherhood or "wife thing" and such. I see it as a way for me to express my creativity. I did some baking earlier and shared with friends, work and him. As we talked about my recipe on second date, might as well share with him on third. I love seeing how much people are enjoying my food. If they don't I will simply take on the feedback and improve my recipes.I didn't call him because when I screwed up by saying "keep in touch" I then explained I meant I like you to contact me. He said this is a very feminine thing to say, he likes that because it allows him to be masculine to pursue me. Since he said this is what he enjoys to do, I better leave him to do the contact after the kiss.
Just curious do you stay friends with all of your exs? Do you introduce them to your husband? Why did you break up? Do you just wake up one day and feel like romantic feelings switch to platonic?
Nah girl, that´s a little white lie! You know you wanna bake to show him you´re wife material! All the females dating cancer men read about them and read about how cancer men love food and homey and wife material, and suddenly they all want to bake!
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lol
a lot of truth to this.
our Gemini step mother inlaw's son is a cancer sun with stellium there, so super cancer-fied, however he has Neptune sag/moon sag. And he has not found a woman yet!!! maybe he is too freedom loving? don't know. *shrug*
but when we do see him during family events ect. He loves food. But who doesn't? However he likes his beer and his food. And he's independent and has his own home/property but when he got ushered out of the house past 30 (because double virgo father in law said it's time he move out and get independent) I think Gemini step mom in law would love to have him there past 40. lol but she follows what double virgo father in law says.
and for a man reaching his 30s he needs to be independent, so that he can get prospective brides in the future, not living with parents. (cause a lot of women don't want to live with in laws)
but I think cooking and knowing how to cook good will help a lot!! I saw it with my cancer sun male relatives, or cancer venus men too.
I'm glad he called you, I hope it works out for you.
I know its hard if its in you're nature to over analize and worry about things, try just being yourself around him and try to have a good laugh with him, it will help you relax, ask who his favourite comedian is, then rent a dvd and watch it together, just a suggestion Š I find it a good ice breaker.
Posted by thinktoomuch
Why do they always have to be "clinging onto the past", why can´t it just be, that he isn´t as interested in the present, as she would like?24 hours people!!!!!! 24 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's not completely unreasonable to want some positive reassurance after you share any type of physical intimacy together. In this case a kiss.
But idk if he's over his ex. And he's probably collecting himself after your kiss. Just stay cool and warm when he gets his courage back up. Also....don't have sex with him until you figure out some more details.
I get that it's healthy to take time on reflection, you mentioned "when he gets his courage back up" did you mean it's his own emotions that scared him somehow? or things I said in the OP that might have discouraged him?
He may be replaying things you've said but ultimately you told him you'd like to hear from him so he's aware that the ball is in his court. Cancer sometimes retreat when things are progressing but they're unsure where they stand. He's just unsure and collecting himself. But he's still a man and he will take initiative.
I wish I didn't say things out of nervousness of first kiss. I hope he knows where he stands as I brought him my baking ...
And you´ve already said it here ^^ wtf, why are you suddenly trying to deny it?
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LOL you really think too much, just like your user name. He knew I was baking, however I wasn't baking for him. I had a choice to share and not share, I chose to share and therefore he should know I like him. That's all. Just like when I bring my baking to work do I share with everyone? hell no, I'm selective with sharing.
Posted by piscespoppy
I'm glad he called you, I hope it works out for you.
I know its hard if its in you're nature to over analize and worry about things, try just being yourself around him and try to have a good laugh with him, it will help you relax, ask who his favourite comedian is, then rent a dvd and watch it together, just a suggestion Š I find it a good ice breaker.
Thanks, we do laugh a lot in person. I'm not sure what hit me. It was the moment we were about to kiss that got me so nervous! *facepalm*
Exes ? No I personally don't keep in touch with them, if I saw them I would be polite, but don't go out of my way to communicate with them.
I wouldn't worry yourself over his, she will probably fade out of his life eventually if they only see each other once a year to catch up and he only sees her as a sister figure, besides you haven't known him long enough yet to judge his honesty, so for the moment just take it as that and don't bother yourself worrying about it, time will let everything unfold naturally.
Sorry hun, wasn't trying to suggest your a bad person or anything I don't judge people, just try to give advice from my own experiences. Š
Posted by piscespoppy
Sorry hun, wasn't trying to suggest your a bad person or anything I don't judge people, just try to give advice from my own experiences. Š
hey no offense taken, from my own experience when ex boyfriend contact me was because they want more. however my judgement is all past base is probably not fair to the new guy. Only time will tell if he is being truthful.
Posted by piscespoppy
Sorry hun, wasn't trying to suggest your a bad person or anything I don't judge people, just try to give advice from my own experiences. Š
hey no offense taken, from my own experience when ex boyfriend contact me was because they want more. however my judgement is all past base is probably not fair to the new guy. Only time will tell if he is being truthful.
Posted by thinktoomuch
It´s so weird how so many of you (especially) ladies here think it´s gonna bother me being told, that I think too much. Eeeehm, you do all realize right, that I chose the username myself right?!? And it´s a fucking joke, because I´m just being real, instead of you sitting around calculating by the hour and by the god damn cookie, whether or not this man likes you. You said it yourself just up there ^^ you are bringing him baked goods, so he should know, that you like him. That´s not the same as being friendly, when you´re dating!But keep lying, I really don´t see the point of it, but it´s a free contry.
I only said that because I thought you would have a good laugh. What's up with all these negative assumptions?
Oh ok Š
Posted by piscespoppy
Oh ok Š
I'm glad you gave constructive feedback while remain neutral with the situation. turns out you were right about his confusion earlier. once he got through he reached out with sweet messages
Posted by thinktoomuch
Why do they always have to be "clinging onto the past", why can´t it just be, that he isn´t as interested in the present, as she would like?24 hours people!!!!!! 24 hours!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He's clinging to the past while she's just plain clingy.
Why is he clinging to the past? How? He´s got an ex and see her once a year to catch up. How is that clinging to the past? Can´t men just lead a normal life without it being scutinized over and over?
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I should have added an lol to my comment above. I don't really feel like he's living in the past, no more than any other cancer that is.
But she's reaching clingon status with her, it's been 3 dates and 24 hours and he HASNT CONTACTED MEEEEE...
What's crazy to me is that the OP, like so many other females, gets swept up in wanting this other person to like them/achieving gf status that they don't focus on what dating is all about, getting to know the person....
You should be looking for red flags, gauging how compatible you are, QUALIFYING this person. Instead you are so ready to jump into a relationship after 3 dates. Clocking how much time you spent with him, analyzing ever word you said, counting the hours between each time he reaches out...it blows my mind.
Sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.
Posted by LadyNeptune
What's crazy to me is that the OP, like so many other females, gets swept up in wanting this other person to like them/achieving gf status that they don't focus on what dating is all about, getting to know the person....You should be looking for red flags, gauging how compatible you are, QUALIFYING this person. Instead you are so ready to jump into a relationship after 3 dates. Clocking how much time you spent with him, analyzing ever word you said, counting the hours between each time he reaches out...it blows my mind.
Sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.
What if I tell you he was the one who starting clocking how much time we spent? At the end of first date, he mentioned at least 3 times about wow we spent 6 hours together, really good sign.
Second date he did the same, when I was leaving he went "YES! 6.5 hrs we broke our record!"
I was simply stating the fact and you call me crazy, what would you like to say when the man who started the clocking? LOL
Posted by FutureSeeker
Hey girl, I think what people are trying to say is you are overthinking. Stay in the present and enjoy the ride. It doesn't matter to anyone but you and him on the little details. The time thing- that must have been kind of like an inside joke.
If you overthink each moment you had together, you are putting way too much energy into this than he is- and you will be disappointed.Instead- be yourself, because that is the person you want him to get to know.
Got it, Try to control the overthinking in Virgo
@futureseeker @ladyneptune
Having said that, don't you judge a guy's interest level and such by time taken? before you really get further?
Posted by Poppyseeds
@futureseeker @ladyneptuneHaving said that, don't you judge a guy's interest level and such by time taken? before you really get further?
That tells me that "quality time" is your love language.
I judge it by actions- follow through. Does he make me laugh? Does he make an effort? Do we both do well in conversation? What is he saying to me? Does it seem genuine? Does he want to know me? If I'm interested- I'm doing those things as well, but not in a way that is bothersome, just natural.click to expand
If we change the measurement to what you listed, he checked all the box 😄
Posted by Arielle83
As a cancer, I don't offer any baking etc until I know we are going somewhere.If dude is over and I've made something, he can have a cookie etc.
However, I'd never make him something specifically. It looks too wifey.
Plus if you're all insecure about him having a connection with someone from his past, why would you make him anything?
You're left feeling like you've put yourself out there for him, so you've FORCED the ball in his court.
What if he doesn't respond to you in time, doesn't praise your baking the way you want etc?
3 dates is too soon for cancer to validate you the way you want.
It's like the anty is upped cuz u feel threatened by this ex he's close to.
Maybe if you make it past this grey area you might meet her too and realise how wonderful she is and why he has her in his life.
However, 3 dates isn't enough to get that close.
I bet he isn't even thinking too much about anything. Just eating food.
You're timing and his might not be at the same pace.
Since when is there any rules for baking? You are a manipulator yourself. Cancer women are nuts
Get fucked bitter idiot.
Don't bake to make a man think you're wifey and then get all crappy when he hasn't talked in 24 hours.
Look who is bitter now. You are a control freak who not only play games to control men. You also like to enforced your backward opinions onto others.
I read the post again and can't find anything that suggested she baked just for him. Also why is baking a wifey thing? Guess Jamie Oliver and Gordan Ramsey really makes good wives.
You and your retarded opinion can get back into your crabshell. Stop spreading drama on dxp just because you can't control your emotions
Where are my emotions? I thought u were the op, but you're not.
So why you coming at me when my perspective is probably different than yours?
Then I realised your that idiot who created a thread because you don't have the balls to talk to your online date about his correct age.
Yep your emotions are written here.
Keep projecting you bitter idiot.
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The more you talk the more of an idiot you seem to be. It proves that you are either too lazy or stupid to
@arielle83 The more you talk the more of an idiot you seem to be. It proves that you are either too lazy or stupid to read my post. That's not some online date I've never met. We met once already. I've also confronted him in person regarding his age, he immediately verified his real age by showing me his ID
You are pretty smart with men though. Manipulated your husband to be ok with you to having your "friendship" with all of your exs.
It's obvious this cancer guy is not ever his ex. He is brutally honest with the OP that he is putting effect to keep the ex in his life because he cares. He made it clear that they weren't ready 4 years ago. He is indirectly telling her he is waiting for the day he feels he is ready or he feels she is ready for him. OP show really cut her loss and move on.
Posted by Illuminati
@arielle83 The more you talk the more of an idiot you seem to be. It proves that you are either too lazy or stupid to read my post. That's not some online date I've never met. We met once already. I've also confronted him in person regarding his age, he immediately verified his real age by showing me his IDYou are pretty smart with men though. Manipulated your husband to be ok with you to having your "friendship" with all of your exs.
It's obvious this cancer guy is not ever his ex. He is brutally honest with the OP that he is putting effect to keep the ex in his life because he cares. He made it clear that they weren't ready 4 years ago. He is indirectly telling her he is waiting for the day he feels he is ready or he feels she is ready for him. OP show really cut her loss and move on.
I was surprised too with Arielle having friendship with her ex's, but then I remembered that she and her husband are dominant libra. they don't mind that. (maybe that's part of it, they need the "other" kind of energy??) beats me.
Posted by Keres
He's over her. I'm friends with all of my exes except the most recent one. Romantic feelings can fade, but you can still care about someone ever after that happens. I'm sure you'll hear from him soon.I will take your word as he also has sun and moon in cancer like yourself.
What are the rest of your placement like?
Cap rising, Gemini Venus, Cancer mars
He has aqua rising, Leo Venus, gemini Mars and mercury
I'm virgo sun, aqua moon, virgo mercury, leo venus, leo mars, aqua rising
Looks like a good match 🙂
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had to look for the placements, and saw the leo and aqua axis in there.
I don't know about Gemini.
but maybe it's upbringing.
me and my husband have the leo/aqua axis going on, but not as many as you two.
and we don't keep friendship with ex's.
so maybe it's just circumstances and keeping people (like a possession maybe?)
it's not really a cancer man thing I don't think. it's just an individual thing.
Posted by Illuminati
@arielle83 The more you talk the more of an idiot you seem to be. It proves that you are either too lazy or stupid to read my post. That's not some online date I've never met. We met once already. I've also confronted him in person regarding his age, he immediately verified his real age by showing me his IDYou are pretty smart with men though. Manipulated your husband to be ok with you to having your "friendship" with all of your exs.
It's obvious this cancer guy is not ever his ex. He is brutally honest with the OP that he is putting effect to keep the ex in his life because he cares. He made it clear that they weren't ready 4 years ago. He is indirectly telling her he is waiting for the day he feels he is ready or he feels she is ready for him. OP show really cut her loss and move on.
I was surprised too with Arielle having friendship with her ex's, but then I remembered that she and her husband are dominant libra. they don't mind that. (maybe that's part of it, they need the "other" kind of energy??) beats me.
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She said she is cancer in this thread
Posted by Illuminati
@arielle83 The more you talk the more of an idiot you seem to be. It proves that you are either too lazy or stupid to read my post. That's not some online date I've never met. We met once already. I've also confronted him in person regarding his age, he immediately verified his real age by showing me his IDYou are pretty smart with men though. Manipulated your husband to be ok with you to having your "friendship" with all of your exs.
It's obvious this cancer guy is not ever his ex. He is brutally honest with the OP that he is putting effect to keep the ex in his life because he cares. He made it clear that they weren't ready 4 years ago. He is indirectly telling her he is waiting for the day he feels he is ready or he feels she is ready for him. OP show really cut her loss and move on.
I was surprised too with Arielle having friendship with her ex's, but then I remembered that she and her husband are dominant libra. they don't mind that. (maybe that's part of it, they need the "other" kind of energy??) beats me.
She said she is cancer in this thread
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yes she is, but i'm talking about dominant energies in her chart. since this is also an astrology forum, and that the OP put up their charts too.
so when you wrote this:
"You are pretty smart with men though. Manipulated your husband to be ok with you to having your "friendship" with all of your exs."
maybe her husband also has friends with his ex's, that's why he isn't worried? So it's a two way street with them.
as for what you mentioned that he's not over his ex.
" It's obvious this cancer guy is not ever his ex. He is brutally honest with the OP that he is putting effect to keep the ex in his life because he cares. He made it clear that they weren't ready 4 years ago. He is indirectly telling her he is waiting for the day he feels he is ready or he feels she is ready for him. OP show really cut her loss and move on."
-- I agree! at least the guy is straight with the OP, actions speak louder than words. he doesn't need to say it,he shows it.
Posted by SensitiveBlues
are we going to be hand holding this virgo through out the whole relationship.this fuking sucks, why can't virgos just go with the flow and just be honest.
How is she not honest? Did you mean to tell her to get the guy to admit he is not over his ex? Lol
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Went on a great third date with him last night, we talked about a lot of things. He told me he is only in touch with one ex. They broke up 4 years ago and been together for 4 years. I asked why they broke up. He said because he got so familiar with her and felt like she is a sister and he also believed if you are not getting married after 4 years it's better you break up. Since then he's been in relationship but nothing last longer than a year. He said he is in touch with her and only catch up in person once a year, like catching up with a family member.
This seems odd to me. He said we should see each other soon at the end. I told him yes keep in touch... he look disappointed and I quickly corrected my meaning. I meant I like to hear from him,. He felt relieved and thought I friendzoned him. I admitted I got a bit nervous and shy around him and not sure why I said that. Then we had our first kiss. I was feeling shy and he could see it, he laughed and said he likes that I'm shy... we kissed 3 times before I went home.
Before I left he told me he will finish all of my baking on his way home, he asked if I want the container back. I said up to you (i have plenty at home) he goes so you want it? I repeated up to you.. he goes ok I will bring it back to you next time. then we said good night and I went inside my house.
Almost 24 hrs went by and haven't heard from him....