Do cancer men like when you open up to them?

(I posted this on relationships and astrology but i decided to post it here too because i didn't know which was better)

He's born on july 21 and i'm born on sept 19 so i'm a virgo/libra cusp and he's a cancer/leo cusp. I don't open up about my feelings a lot and I wanted to tell him some of my problems for advice because he is the only one I feel like i can trust. When I tell people my problems it makes me feel weak and vulnerable. I hate when people give me sympathy because it makes me feel like they are either feeling sorry for me or I feel powerless. I know cancer are usually good with advice but i didn't know about him because he is not just a cancer since he was born on the cancer/leo cusp so i don't know much about it. When I'm feeling sad I know he can tell because he will come up to me and ask if everything is okay and i usually say i'm fine. And when he was drunk one time he was huggin all up on me and tried showin me his "thing" (i said no) I don't know if that means he likes me or he was just drunk. Can someone give me advice please.

Show u his thing? That was the liquor talking and if you're feeling him then just talk to him. I can't say hell give u what u need but he looks like he cares enough to be there for you

Posted by StarChild63
Show u his thing? That was the liquor talking and if you're feeling him then just talk to him. I can't say hell give u what u need but he looks like he cares enough to be there for you

Ok but the thing is that he has a girlfriend and i'm gay but I never told him that I was but I guess he can tell. But would he do something like that with his straight friends? I don't know how to take that because it would feel weird because his girlfriend comes into work sometimes and I see her. I do like him but I never told him. I personally don't consider him gay if he likes me since i'm more feminine but idk its weird. I've never been drunk before so i don't know. I'm just confused.

That makes you a dude? If you're a dude and he wanted to show you his junk he's straight up gay. The gf is a cover.

Posted by StarChild63
That makes you a dude? If you're a dude and he wanted to show you his junk he's straight up gay. The gf is a cover.

wait so its not just the liqour talkin?

Not at all

Posted by caster721
jparis, please help me understand..... u a gay guy or girl (lesbian)? I didn't get that right!

gay guy

um well, this just went in a totally different direction...Yeah I think he likes you. And yes, us Cancers do like when people open up to us and are vulnerable.

Posted by Moonbutter
um well, this just went in a totally different direction...Yeah I think he likes you. And yes, us Cancers do like when people open up to us and are vulnerable.

The thing that confuses me tho is that he doesn't hug all up on me and stuff when sober. He will poke me and stuff but he doesn't show me that much affection. So half the people I ask say its alcohol and then other half say its because he likes me. Do you think he would do that sober to if he really liked me? (I'm not trying to change your opinion i'm just trying to figure this out) It's not like I pushed myself on him he pushed his self on me but he was drunk. So do you think he still likes me orrr? Sorry but I just really like him and I'd rather get others opinions before I talk to him more about it. Thanks!!

Only thing Alcohol does it to make us drop our inhibitions.... Hope I don't offend you with my comment I'm not homophobic or anything.... But I'm super straight girl confirmed and all that... and I have only kissed another girl once.... but in true reality I got bi curious about her, almost all girls at some point go throught that at some point in life.... One time alcohol helped getting the "courage" to do what I would never do sober...

But in that same regards, I know that if I wouldn't be curious or interest even remotely, no matter what alcohol won't make me do it... Alcohol is just a catalyst..

In my opinion this guy maybe he is curious about you but being straight kind make it confusing for him, and somehow being drunk helped him to explore getting affections without being judge

my bf is a cancerian. These folks can be very moody.I don't know about all but my bf definitely has mood swing issues. One time he can be all so affectionate and passionate and the next second he's slightly detached or absent minded. At 1 am he'd say he feels like making love to me and at 1:05am he'd be off sleepy or feeling like doing something else. But again,as you said he has leo in him too so things might be different than a pure cancerian.Also, as far as my cancerian bf goes,the more I open up to him/share with him the more he opens himself to me. Thats how we connected at the first place. They behave the way you behave. If I stay reserved,he'd be reserved with me too. He told me that he's a very reserved person in general,doesnt open up to others on a personal level. The reason he opened up himself to me is because I did it. Try talking personal about yourself. They are good listeners. They can be bit judgemental at times but he would open up to you too. That's how a good bond is created anyway 🙂

Posted by gia
my bf is a cancerian. These folks can be very moody.I don't know about all but my bf definitely has mood swing issues. One time he can be all so affectionate and passionate and the next second he's slightly detached or absent minded. At 1 am he'd say he feels like making love to me and at 1:05am he'd be off sleepy or feeling like doing something else. But again,as you said he has leo in him too so things might be different than a pure cancerian.Also, as far as my cancerian bf goes,the more I open up to him/share with him the more he opens himself to me. Thats how we connected at the first place. They behave the way you behave. If I stay reserved,he'd be reserved with me too. He told me that he's a very reserved person in general,doesnt open up to others on a personal level. The reason he opened up himself to me is because I did it. Try talking personal about yourself. They are good listeners. They can be bit judgemental at times but he would open up to you too. That's how a good bond is created anyway 🙂

Yeah he is kinda like that too. At first I didn't understand why until I found out that he was a cancer but he would be so nice and talkative and joking one day and then the next he would be very quiet and seem depressed. Me being a virgo I used to think it was something that I did wrong. But they just get that way because they are moved by their feelings. However he is not as reserved as most cancers because he does have some leo traits. For some reason the first day I started work I saw him and instantly felt an attraction.

Posted by fullwaterpisces
Only thing Alcohol does it to make us drop our inhibitions.... Hope I don't offend you with my comment I'm not homophobic or anything.... But I'm super straight girl confirmed and all that... and I have only kissed another girl once.... but in true reality I got bi curious about her, almost all girls at some point go throught that at some point in life.... One time alcohol helped getting the "courage" to do what I would never do sober...

But in that same regards, I know that if I wouldn't be curious or interest even remotely, no matter what alcohol won't make me do it... Alcohol is just a catalyst..

In my opinion this guy maybe he is curious about you but being straight kind make it confusing for him, and somehow being drunk helped him to explore getting affections without being judge

Yeah I feel the same way. Because If I see a manly woman I will be attracted to them but that doesn't neccesarily make me straight. So if I'm feminine it may make him curious and mess with his head a little because he doesn't see himself as "gay"

Posted by fullwaterpisces
Only thing Alcohol does it to make us drop our inhibitions.... Hope I don't offend you with my comment I'm not homophobic or anything.... But I'm super straight girl confirmed and all that... and I have only kissed another girl once.... but in true reality I got bi curious about her, almost all girls at some point go throught that at some point in life.... One time alcohol helped getting the "courage" to do what I would never do sober...

But in that same regards, I know that if I wouldn't be curious or interest even remotely, no matter what alcohol won't make me do it... Alcohol is just a catalyst..

In my opinion this guy maybe he is curious about you but being straight kind make it confusing for him, and somehow being drunk helped him to explore getting affections without being judge

Yeah I feel the same way. Because If I see a manly woman I will be attracted to them but that doesn't neccesarily make me straight. So if I'm feminine it may make him curious and mess with his head a little because he doesn't see himself as "gay"

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Posted by Moonbutter
um well, this just went in a totally different direction...Yeah I think he likes you. And yes, us Cancers do like when people open up to us and are vulnerable.

The thing that confuses me tho is that he doesn't hug all up on me and stuff when sober. He will poke me and stuff but he doesn't show me that much affection. So half the people I ask say its alcohol and then other half say its because he likes me. Do you think he would do that sober to if he really liked me? (I'm not trying to change your opinion i'm just trying to figure this out) It's not like I pushed myself on him he pushed his self on me but he was drunk. So do you think he still likes me orrr? Sorry but I just really like him and I'd rather get others opinions before I talk to him more about it. Thanks!!

I think it doesn't matter whether he likes you or not. He won't do ANYTHING about it if he is still in the closet. And if you try to get him out, height just get angry at you and backfire your intentions with him.

I suggest you just let this go and focus on other people. He will come out when he's good and ready.

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Yeah you're right. But I don't really like gay men. I honestly wouldn't care if it was only between just me and him that knew as long as he doens't play me. But I'm just going to let it ride out and see what happens. If it don't work oh well.

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by jparis

Posted by Moonbutter
um well, this just went in a totally different direction...Yeah I think he likes you. And yes, us Cancers do like when people open up to us and are vulnerable.

The thing that confuses me tho is that he doesn't hug all up on me and stuff when sober. He will poke me and stuff but he doesn't show me that much affection. So half the people I ask say its alcohol and then other half say its because he likes me. Do you think he would do that sober to if he really liked me? (I'm not trying to change your opinion i'm just trying to figure this out) It's not like I pushed myself on him he pushed his self on me but he was drunk. So do you think he still likes me orrr? Sorry but I just really like him and I'd rather get others opinions before I talk to him more about it. Thanks!!

I think it doesn't matter whether he likes you or not. He won't do ANYTHING about it if he is still in the closet. And if you try to get him out, height just get angry at you and backfire your intentions with him.

I suggest you just let this go and focus on other people. He will come out when he's good and ready.

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Yeah you're right. But I don't really like gay men. I honestly wouldn't care if it was only between just me and him that knew as long as he doens't play me. But I'm just going to let it ride out and see what happens. If it don't work oh well.