How to get back a cancer man?

I really need some tips about how to win back a cancer man. We loved each other but my aggressiveness seem to be too much for a cancer 😢
I read something which says "To win back a Cancer ex, finding as many ways as you can think of to say —I love you?? makes for a good start! Suggestions include apologizing profusely. The last resort? Burst into tears to get their sympathy."

Cancer men feel free to share your opinion about this

From someone who's been thru a lot of downs with a Cancer guy...

It doesn't matter what you do, it just has to be genuine and honest. Admit your mistake(s), apologize, and go from there. Just know that depending on the level of transgression, it may already be too late. As many a Cancer will say on this board, if they're your ex, it's already too late. They've already given you as many chances as you're going to get.

But like I said, the most important thing is to be real. If you "burst into tears" because a site or someone told you to, and not because that's what you felt in the moment, they will absolutely 100% know and you'll push them away even further.

Again, that's from a non-cancer who's been in the position of having to deal with a Cancer. 🙂

Posted by phEnyxBull876
From someone who's been thru a lot of downs with a Cancer guy...

It doesn't matter what you do, it just has to be genuine and honest. Admit your mistake(s), apologize, and go from there. Just know that depending on the level of transgression, it may already be too late. As many a Cancer will say on this board, if they're your ex, it's already too late. They've already given you as many chances as you're going to get.

But like I said, the most important thing is to be real. If you "burst into tears" because a site or someone told you to, and not because that's what you felt in the moment, they will absolutely 100% know and you'll push them away even further.

Again, that's from a non-cancer who's been in the position of having to deal with a Cancer. 🙂

This happened some time ago. I've been thru the silent treatment, I apologized and again some time passed. He messaged me these days and now there we are. I don't want to communicate thru messages or call. I want to be face2face with him and be honest. You think I should go visit him at his house?

How long is "some time"? I'm currently a spectator in the various levels of cancer relationship burnouts, and depending on how far out it is from that person and what they did, they will be cordial and friendly and talk to you. Theyll only ignore if they are tryinf to heal to prove a point. But they never forget and there usually is no hope for reconciliation.

I'm cancer moon and I feel double like a cancer , so I say from my perspective. If I arrive in a point when I talk to you blunt, direct and I'm very sincere with you which can be name rude .. this means I give you 1000 chances in my heart to you ..but somehow you blow it....This mean I don"t have trust in you , I don't have courage to give my heart to you again and I can say I love you , but I can't be with you because I'm afraid that you are not for long run like I do ..

..Your persona don't have behavior trustfully for my future with you... This is my statment in my heart..And for this if I give you another chance it is usually for confirm my theory that you are not good for me..

Depends on what a person did, and how deep the hurt/betrayal went. If it's bad enough, there's absolutely no getting a Cancer back. Period.

Posted by phEnyxBull876
How long is "some time"? I'm currently a spectator in the various levels of cancer relationship burnouts, and depending on how far out it is from that person and what they did, they will be cordial and friendly and talk to you. Theyll only ignore if they are tryinf to heal to prove a point. But they never forget and there usually is no hope for reconciliation.

This happened 3 months ago and after the silent treatment he messaged me and seem to be happy and friendly like in the past. I don't betrayed him or his trust, I just was agressive at once😢

Over all, you think it's a good idea to make him a visit?

Posted by aquavita8
Yes go naked.

That would really work hahaha

Posted by phEnyxBull876
How long is "some time"? I'm currently a spectator in the various levels of cancer relationship burnouts, and depending on how far out it is from that person and what they did, they will be cordial and friendly and talk to you. Theyll only ignore if they are tryinf to heal to prove a point. But they never forget and there usually is no hope for reconciliation.

So in which stage are the when they are cordial and friendly and talk to you?

I didnt understand the part "they will ignore if they are trying to heal to prove a point" did you meant to say "they are trying to heal or to prove a point"

Posted by fullwaterpisces

Posted by phEnyxBull876
How long is "some time"? I'm currently a spectator in the various levels of cancer relationship burnouts, and depending on how far out it is from that person and what they did, they will be cordial and friendly and talk to you. Theyll only ignore if they are tryinf to heal to prove a point. But they never forget and there usually is no hope for reconciliation.

So in which stage are the when they are cordial and friendly and talk to you?

I didnt understand the part "they will ignore if they are trying to heal to prove a point" did you meant to say "they are trying to heal or to prove a point"

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I have the same question: in which stage are the when they are cordial and friendly and talk to you?

If I've blown someone to the curb and I then act nice to them.....I'm always using them for information, and if they didn't take the hint of "go fuck yourself, we're not friends", but want to play ball some more, and if they're stupid enough to take my being polite and cool as "we're still friends" while I carefully pick them clean for info....well then, not my fault they didn't listen to the "fuck yourself, we're not friends" part.

Posted by MoonArtist
If I've blown someone to the curb and I then act nice to them.....I'm always using them for information, and if they didn't take the hint of "go fuck yourself, we're not friends", but want to play ball some more, and if they're stupid enough to take my being polite and cool as "we're still friends" while I carefully pick them clean for info....well then, not my fault they didn't listen to the "fuck yourself, we're not friends" part.

He is also dropping subtle hints to me several times. What does this mean?

The being cordial and friendly is final stage. And exactly like MoonArtist said...to serve a purpose. Not because they miss you and need you and love you. They've already moved on.