Emotional Affairs

My cancer exbf/current friend got busted yet again for having an emotional affair. Actually, he didn't get busted. He confessed as he usually does. He tends to date Virgo and Gemini.
If you found out your mate was having an affair would it be more painful to deal with it their relationship was emotional or physical? For me, I'd be more upset if it were emotional.

Really? What would be the first thing out of your mouth?
A) "Did you have sex with her?" or
B)"Do you love her?"

I'd say B.

I don't understand the idea that we make agreements to limit your connections and experience with other people. It seems like this decision is based on our insecurities. Which is seems sad.

Alright, so what would your first initial response be? What would be the first thing out of your mouth?

lol, the first thing out of my mouth would be silence, because I would just listen. I might ask a few simple leading questions as he spoke, to help him clarify and keep him talking.

You have that much patience? Huh, if I get quiet after finding out something like that it means I'm about to get violent.

Maybe you could question why? And there's really only two answers...

either there is something he feels is lacking with his relationship with you, that he is finding somewhere else.

or, there's something lacking in him. Which usually boils down to his insecurities and feeling the need to seek validation from other people.

lol@Aries coworker reading over my shoulder
she says, "depends. Is he paying my rent? Cuz if he's paying my rent, all I wanna know is did he wear condom."

To me, an affair is an affair, no matter how you want to sugarcoat it.
It is better for him if he confessed than if I find out myself.
Although I have no sympathy for anyone who fuck with my heart, I won't get violent though.
I have had my share of men who do whoring better than women.
Although they do me a favor by having an affair, it is so EASY to get over those whores.

Emotional definitely for me.
I find it hard to connect emotionally to guys. I usually just connect on other planes so when I finally make an emotional connection it's a big deal. So for that person to genuinely be my one & only and for them to turn to someone else for "more" or something "different" that would hit a true insecurity for me. So I imagine that would hurt me big time.

Physical would just give me laugh. A scoff really.

But regardless I'd break up & cut off both promptly.
I'll just cry in the shower because of the former though that's if I don't go numb. I'm sure.

HA! i've got the answer for you right here

Posted by Infinite8

Posted by Kim31
You have that much patience? Huh, if I get quiet after finding out something like that it means I'm about to get violent.

I think getting violent would be the last thing that I would do. Not sure is be interested in asking questions either.

I'm sorry... All this is speculation for me. I've never been in this scenario.

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^This +1 If you're getting to the point where you think you're about to get violent, it's best to just stop, walk away, get in your car and just drive and don't come back until you've calmed down. I think Infinite is right here.

LOL wth?

It seems cancers are pretty good about owning their shit. I like that.

Intersting topic, hmm.... lol

I agree with the comment that it boils down to their own innate Cancerian insecurity,... I find they regularly have to look for attention elsewhere, completely superficial. They need to get their feathers fluffed. Feel needed or desired. So while the partner can be providing them EVERYTHING...it's more about quantity and not quality in those specific moods/moments. They want to know that the WORLD wants them, not just one person, even if it's THEIR person.