Fellow Crabs: Any run ins with Sags?

So here I am back..With another love dilema and im starting to think Im the cause of all things going sour.
(Ill try to keep this short)
About 8 or 9 months ago I met a sag, she was eclectic, artsy, starving artist, and sooo down to earth; something I never fell for.
Of course I was still battling my feelings and wants for my Aqua ex, so I kept declining to be her girlfriend.
Im a crab with a scorp moon; shes a sag with a cancer moon and I was falling for her yet keeping her at arms length. For a long time she couldnt understand why I didnt give in to her, she did everything for me, she was really treetrunking awesome but I was stuck on stupid.
So during this period we had many arguments, stopped speaking, then came right back and during the last dissagreement I went on vacation and she went to Seattle to do a show..I paid it no mind, i never did because she was alwys on the phone with me.
As I retured from vaca and so did she we did link up again and started this whole (me: im not ready/her: but im in love with you) I left for my 3rd trip and began realising i was no longer thinking about Aqua and I was missing Sag. I told her I missed her and I joked about her going out that night to meet a new girl, and she did just that, but that didnt last but it really made me decide quickly to tell her what I wanted. but when I got back and we talked, thats the truth came out. She met and slept with someone in Seattle, and they were keeping in contact heavy. She told me this when I returned. She also cursed me out for waiting this long when she wanted me for so long, and expecting her to just jump and be with me.
Fast forward to now, Maybe a week after her telling about her romping in seattle, I cried and poured my heart out and she told me shes not going to stop seeing her because I decided to love her, following that she and I spoke again she asked me if I really wanted her and a family...IThe next day she explained that she is going to give this a try but she didnt want to hurt the girl or me. Eventually her and the girl talked and "called it off"
Now is the issue...Shes there again "for another show" im paranoid and she began reassuring me that shes not seeing her....But weird things keep happening. 1. the girl was angry over her decision when with me then unfollowed her on instagram 2. sag lands she follows sag again 3. sag looses phone day of the seattle girls dance show. Sunday night she poured her heart out.. Now she bareley talks to me, or

(Continued) answered My Text messages.

Ive never seen this side of her, the whole time we spent together.
She keeps telling me how much of a family she wants, she also speaks about how shes in love with me....After an argument theres never a moment she doent say I love you.....

Is this an ego trip?
Is she lying to me?

Is she testing me?

Im hurt, confused and blaming myself for wanting her too late.....

Yeah this is a hard situation. My Sags have big hearts and never lie. Well they try then they fess up shortly after. They can't stand it. It could be an ego thing. They do love the attention but they love giving it back. Like I said big hearts.

I had a chat with her mom, she said shes either trying to push you away because shes afraid of commitment, and or shes trying to see how much I care.

I think the 2nd one. Girl Sags want to be sure someone actually cares about them. Guys too but they will move on to someone who they think actually does. It's just what I noticed. Can some Sag girls back me up on this? I don't want to generalize you. I hate that myself.

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. Are you female?

Sorry I get the feeling she probably had sex with the person in Seatle again when she was there for the second show and now she is avoiding you.

I have had my run ins with sags and I don't trust them with matters of the heart. I always feel that their love does not go deep enough and neither does their loyalty. But as a taurus my love is always steadfast and strong.. I would never give into temptation no matter what was out there. I have a feeling your sag gave into temptation and now can't face you...

I am a female, and I believe she has too......

Posted by kissmygrits
I think the 2nd one. Girl Sags want to be sure someone actually cares about them. Guys too but they will move on to someone who they think actually does. It's just what I noticed. Can some Sag girls back me up on this? I don't want to generalize you. I hate that myself.

no you would be exactly right about me. I dont hang around lovers who i dont know where i stand with them. I go to hang out with someone who i know exactly where i stand.

if im getting alot of back and forth from you, i will stick around for a quick minute but then i get bored.

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Posted by kissmygrits
I think the 2nd one. Girl Sags want to be sure someone actually cares about them. Guys too but they will move on to someone who they think actually does. It's just what I noticed. Can some Sag girls back me up on this? I don't want to generalize you. I hate that myself.

no you would be exactly right about me. I dont hang around lovers who i dont know where i stand with them. I go to hang out with someone who i know exactly where i stand.

if im getting alot of back and forth from you, i will stick around for a quick minute but then i get bored.

I agree here..

I want to know where I stand before I put everything in and come out looking foolish. Which it looks like she already tried that, now you've pissed her off.

Try a different approach.

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Well I have been being a bit psycho and controlling so now shes using that to stay away.....supposedly and says if i cant trust her then this isnt going to work.

Ill just keep my distance....Im always fucking shit up :/

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Posted by kissmygrits
I think the 2nd one. Girl Sags want to be sure someone actually cares about them. Guys too but they will move on to someone who they think actually does. It's just what I noticed. Can some Sag girls back me up on this? I don't want to generalize you. I hate that myself.

no you would be exactly right about me. I dont hang around lovers who i dont know where i stand with them. I go to hang out with someone who i know exactly where i stand.

if im getting alot of back and forth from you, i will stick around for a quick minute but then i get bored.

I agree here..

I want to know where I stand before I put everything in and come out looking foolish. Which it looks like she already tried that, now you've pissed her off.

Try a different approach.

Well I have been being a bit psycho and controlling so now shes using that to stay away.....supposedly and says if i cant trust her then this isnt going to work.

Ill just keep my distance....Im always fucking shit up :/

No you are not.

The timing in love is not always easy. But the right person for you will wait and wait and wait and wait... At least by my own standards.. If she is for you then it will happen... If not, have no fear.. There is a big ocean out there!!

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So I did 2 things, her best friend called and said I better apologize.
So I did, I also made a love collage of our pics she said it made her sad smh
Then I put her up on my page and she sent me a blush face.
Other than that...shes been dry, very passive and doesnt use any cutesy nick names or respond to anything. But now shes calling and chatting telling me about her meetings....but its soo dry....

Posted by Finbuff
I do not know if this is relavent, but I, as a 2nd Decan Cancer have had two signficant "friends" relationships with male Sags. Both could either be my best friend or worst enemy, and in the end I actually haven't seen either in 20+ years, and hope I never do.
Bottom line it was a terrible clash of personalities that appeared so good on the surface.
I had one acquaitenance with a Sag woman, and that was a clash too, where we could never really date or be friends.
I had to keep her at "arms length" because she grated on me all the time, and I had to work with her.

We never had any arguments...We actually got along great until she revealed this to me and we made official....
Thanks fopr your input though.

Posted by MissGemmi
I'm not a sag and I probably should shut up when it comes to these matters(cuz Im not doing any better in my involvement with Cancers) but it might be that she doesn't feel like you are genuine. You only showed her that you wanted her after she slept with the other girl. For her it might feel like you are competing and only want her after she has found other happiness. She has been chasing you hard repeatedly and you kept her at armslength. Eventhough you tried to make things right it does feel confusing. She might think you'll brush her off again as soon as she gives in. She wants a steady relationship with you. Cutsies are nice and sweet but she needs to hear from you that she'S the ONE you want to be with. It's something that drives me crazy about Cancers. They will do all the sweet things to make up, but somehow you will always keep wondering what the true intentions are.

This is true 😢

She's being cautious. Like we do. So we're dry to people when we're sniffing around for weapons? I guess so.

Better show up at her house in a long jacket, short skirt, standing in the rain while holding up a boom box.

Posted by kissmygrits
She's being cautious. Like we do. So we're dry to people when we're sniffing around for weapons? I guess so.

Better show up at her house in a long jacket, short skirt, standing in the rain while holding up a boom box.

I thought about something like this.
But why is she looking to be cautious shes the one whos fed up with me because I went Psycho...

She's scared of the psycho repeat. Y'all just need to sit down and apologize to each other then do the hand salute of "I'll try not to go crazy on you, you also try to let me know when I go crazy..." Make that pact.

Posted by kissmygrits
She's scared of the psycho repeat. Y'all just need to sit down and apologize to each other then do the hand salute of "I'll try not to go crazy on you, you also try to let me know when I go crazy..." Make that pact.

She's gone completely dry, cold, distant..... Not use to this side of her.
It's quite scary but she still says I love you and I miss you, she's saying she's in meetings and will call later but I feel like she's avoiding me and has lost interest. 😢

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Kissmygrits- yes you are correct about Saggi wanting to make sure the person truly cares for us.


OP- she thinks you're playing with her bc now that shes found someone else, you decide to let your feelings show. She doesn't know if youre being sincere.

We actually got passed the part of her thinking about my intentions.

She seems to
Be turned off by my actions _ ? and not trusting her

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Kissmygrits- yes you are correct about Saggi wanting to make sure the person truly cares for us.


OP- she thinks you're playing with her bc now that shes found someone else, you decide to let your feelings show. She doesn't know if youre being sincere.

We actually got passed the part of her thinking about my intentions.

She seems to
Be turned off by my actions _ ? and not trusting her