First time dealing with a Cancer male and i am so confused....

So as the topic title says this was my first dealing with a cancer male which will probably be my last! So we met on a dating site and we talked for awhile and out of the blue he blocks me. I was like what the hell happened?! We were texting and having a convo about his fear of flying and my fear of snakes and then boom he blocked me. So I track him down on fb a few days later and wrote him a nasty message and got a response pretty fast. See I am an Aries and well I was pissed and wanted my last word. He tried telling me it was not me and that he just had a breakdown and that he just shut down and I was like wtf?! He kept saying it was nothing to do with me and that he was sorry. So it just shocked me he went from one extreme and mind you he was telling me how he had high hopes for us after a few days of talking and then he blocks me like that out of the blue! So anyway we start talking again and a few times i was like well hope you find what you are looking for not sure we should continue to talk at this point but his charm kept pulling me in mind you we have still not met at this point. He says us not meeting is a mistake and kept pulling me in so finally after a week of back and forth we meet. Date went really great and he was so sweet and told me how beautiful i was and well the date i thought went amazingly well. When we went our separate ways that night he was texting me like crazy and that next morning he was also and he even called me. I was like wow he must really be liking me so far and had even said that he hoped i liked him as much as he did me. Well that day after our first date he kept saying he could not wait to see me again so i said well if you want to hang out tonight we can and told him he could come to my place. He lives about 45 minutes away but works not far from me so i offered him to stay over because that is a lot of driving and he agreed and came over. Only thing besides a bit of cuddling we did was kiss and so we just went to sleep that night nothing more. He had told me he doesn't have sex if not in love and i am not doing all that so soon anyway. Well the next day he just seemed a bit off and i was like hmmm what is this about so i texted him and i said maybe we should take a few days and think about things because i felt maybe he was confused and needed some time. He said he didn't ask for a break and i said no that isn't what i was asking for either and well it all turned to this big misunderstanding and then he just said this is over. He blocked me yet again on everything but being the crazy Aries i can be i have other fb pages hahaha so i wrote him on one of those. He gave me this whole we are not meant to be stuff and that it was just done. He said there is no going back now. Before he wanted to find his forever love and all this other crap and was talking like we had a future and like a switch its done with and over a misunderstanding. Sorry so long just trying to understand wtf just happened here!

I so agree! I also sense that there was someone else myself. Not sure why but i had the nagging feeling that something was not right. I will for sure be moving on but this was hard for many reasons. It was the first time putting myself out there again after some pretty bad life changing stuff the past 2 years and it just makes me wonder if i just need to stay alone forever. Toooo old for all this i am starting to think and only attract the worst of the worst!

Thanks furtureseeker! I did try telling him in a nice and calm way that this was all justa misunderstanding and that i really liked him and wanted to see where things might go and i even said sorry. Yesterday he kept acting like i broke it off with him that we ruined this is what he kept saying yet we didn't make it to a relationship yet to even break up soooo i am so confused. This is the last thing he wrote me.

.Yesterday did change everything. I am sorry. I'm not interested in going forward with anything or anyone for a while. I am sick and no it had nothing to do with meds. There is no going back. Thank you for trying to love me and giving your time and opening up your life to me but we are not meant to be. I know that with absolute certainty. Again I am sorry. I hope everything gets better for you soon. Good bye

So i get that things are over with whatever we even were and that he wont be coning back and all but i mean WOW!

Wow finbuff that is crazy! I would never go that far at all but i feel that i should have a right to respond or tell someone... hey that is not alright what you did! I mean he was the one moving all fast and i was taken back by it some. He was fast then brakes pulled and then just gone and then fast again just all over the road lol. He told me a few times he was not good enough for me. I mean yes acting the way he has he is right but if it was not for that i would never think he was not good enough for me. He had said that he was also really liking me but didn't feel he had his shit together enough when he realized that he freaked but we talked that out and thought that was past us. Guess he just likes playing games.

Cant agree more futureseeker! He is a bit that way for something so new! When he came to hang out with me he was sick and was all even though i didn't feel good i came over and had a wonderful time with you. Also threw in right before he sent me that last message that he had hoped i was the one. Like really?!?!

Big time Koniucha! I am for sure moving on because yes if we had not even become a couple and it is like that ugh no thanks! I hear once they are done they don't come back he had said he never does. hoping that is the case. I am a sucker at a fault with thinking i can help someone or with love they will change and with his charm he makes it so easy to pull you in. Hopefully he wont contact me after this! I simply said "alright good bye" to what he wrote and will leave it at that now! Thank you all so much for the responses it is a big help!

See something tells me he has other women he plays games with also. He asked me many times if i was unattached and completely single which i am and said yes. I told him when i am seeing someone or seeing where it might lead i don't date other people. I tried telling him he was good enough and that he had no need to worry. He kept saying he was looking for his forever and well that is what i would like to find also. I really was as sweet and gentle and reassuring with him as one could be and only showed what a fire sign i can be by lashing out at his childish behavior but was fast to drop it and go back to being all sweet again. Just such a whirlwind of a mess and now i am left with so many questions and thoughts and just a ball of emotions!

I could have written that post, only im the Libra doing the blocking to the cancer man.
Im blocking him because i cant handle my feelings for him and so im trying to protect myself. Stupid way of looking at it i know but we get close and then i block because i dont want to get hurt. My cancer man now isnt talking to me hardly and i miss him. Ive told him this but he is ignoring me. Who knows if we will be friends again. Maybe he doesnt want to get hurt and he has genuine feelings for you and he just cant handle it.

Not sure that is even close to why he is doing what he has done. I just know that he is fine telling his feelings when he is full of crap saying all the sweet and charming things he says one minute and then telling me how we are not meant to be the next. The only thing that i feel is the truth out of him after all this is that he is done and we are not meant t be together. I mean after the few bumps at the very start and after our first date and the second night well i was thinking that maybe this would end up being something. I didn't think we were going to end up in a breakup before we ended up in an actual relationship! I doubt i would hear from him again i mean saying

"Thank you for trying to love me and giving your time and opening up your life to me but we are not meant to be. I know that with absolute certainty."
That ^^ sounds pretty final haha. Then again he changed up so much in such a short time that time will tell i guess!

They do say cancer men always come back at some point, when they are good and ready and not a moment before. It may sound final but then ive had all that with the cancer man i like and he came back. If he does care he will be in contact again. He sounds like he needs time to figure out what exactly he does want. Give him space, get on with having fun and wait and see.. i hope it works out for you..

He is 33 Koniucha

Thank you Kestrelfairy and i do plan on doing just that! He had told me his ex contacted him the night we went out after not hearing from her in months. I have a feeling he was maybe just trying to play around and see what was out there while he played with his ex or who knows who else. He swears there was no other women or anything like that and that he has never gone back to an ex before but i don't trust a word out of him regardless now! If he does pop back up i feel it will be because he needs something like attention or something but not because he cares. I cant see someone who cares doing all this i just cant wrap my head around it!

Hahahaha he will be a long lost memory by then! Hopefully for the next woman he gets with he will mature by then! I wont lie and say i am not hurt but i know after years of pain and mistakes when to walk away!

My only problem with that is he was causing the problems. I am glad it happened now and not later at least.

I have zero plans on contacting him! I did find it odd he blocked my number and my fb when he thought i could not contact him. Yet when i wrote him from my other fb he had no idea about (use it for playing the fb games) he has yet to block that one. That is why i would not be shocked if he pops back up at some point or why not delete anything i contact you on?! Just going to take me a bit to digest what happened i guess but i agree with him on not being meant to happen!

My cancer man is 33 also ugh

But my BFF cancer man got married pretty quick at the age of 35. He knew her from high school but didn't keep in contact with her they started catching up on FB. They dated about a year she was very well off financially and not controlling as his previous ladies have been and they've been married about 2years. Can't remember her sign.

Seems all cancer cases are nightmare, judging from the boards on this sites. Cameron ppl are unbearable. Maybe a specialist could deal with them - for $ 100/ hour of course.
I feel for you! Even if you think cancer is right for you, believe me, there are many species like him on the road.

Yes i will be staying far away from this point on! I mean this has pretty much scared me from trying again period. I am thinking the single life was meant for me. Sad thing is that is the complete opposite of what i want but oh well. I know this guy is for sure not right for me or anyone the way he is now. Scary how they can fool you and make you think wow where has a guy like this been all my life and boom! Thankful it did not invest much or waste a lot of time! Could have ended way worse that is for sure.

Posted by CrazyConfused
So we met on a dating site and we talked for awhile and out of the blue he blocks me. I was like what the hell happened?! We were texting and having a convo about his fear of flying and my fear of snakes and then boom he blocked me.

He has a girlfriend/wife/SO who found out that he was on the dating app and had him delete.

Those dating apps are just dudes looking to cheat with minimal effort or dudes looking to hookup. Theses maybe like 2 genuine guys.

Get off the dating sites and meet people in person.

No that is not what happened but long story how I even came to be on there. I was not looking to meet anyone when we started talking actually. I am also not on dating sites either. It was one site and for a few days. People do have lives that do not make it easy to just go out and meet others fyi.

He is not interested in you, that's all.

That is what I figured. I wrote him today just for my own closure and told him I did not want or expect a reply. He did reply and we have talked back and forth a bit. I feel he was playing games and he said he was not. However going from all the feelings and things he told me he was feeling and then saying no you are not the one... this is not meant to be... in a matter of a few hours is crazy! So I told him... he ended it and that we had to agree that we would disagree on how and why and he said this just now....


Agreed
Just so you have an idea of how far off you are I am not seeing or talking to anyone. Your assumptions could not be farther from the truth.

I had told him that I have no doubt I am the only one he has played this game with. If he is so done why should it matter? Why throw that in there? I keep trying to end the convo but he keeps having to have the last word which is hard very hard for me not to do myself! I am done replying now but this has been a first for me big time! Thank you for the replies 🙂

He seemed that way the few times we were around each other as far as the space thing. Wont be getting a chance to find out about the rest!

Cancer and Aries isn't a good match Aries are too rash and brash after awhile that wears on a Cancer man. Then Aries are stubborn they want their way all the time so do Cancers so there is fights then the Aries throws a temper tantrum. Aries are impulsive Cancers are not Aries do things without thinking it through that drives a Cancer man nuts as we do plan things and think about our decisions.

All in all Aries and cancers make good friends and no more than that we would kill each other. Sure we would want to bang each other's brains out as Aries are nympho maniacs but that would complicate the friendship.

I'm a cancer rising. I honestly think the issue is just with him and that you didn't even do anything wrong. He obviously has skeletons in his closet or he's hiding something. That is coward behavior to just block someone without an explanation. That should show you that he's imature and also selfish. He didn't consider your feelings when he ran away or how his actions would effect you. He's not worth it. Usually what people show you at the start of a relationship is how they always will be. If you're stressing now just imagine how much worse it could get. It's his issue at the end of the day. Be glad you dodged a bullet.

I could not agree more PancakeFace! I am for sure feeling I did just that and can deal being a bit hurt. It is a much better trade off since it could have been much worse! I get what you are saying Stihl46 but we had not even had a chance to show all that before this happened lol. So things I am sure would have ended much nastier and I should walk away be glad they didn't. Still being as stubborn as I am that does not make it easy to let go of the whole thing so fast. However letting go of him is what I am going to do!