Gay man married to a women

So here it goes..

I had a friend back in high school almost 12 years ago now. He was good and close friend of the family, he was especially close with me and my younger sister Liz. Much so that he was more like a brother to us then a friend. Towards the end of the school year right before summer he decides he wanted to tell my family that he was gay and has been so his entire young life he says he more then 100% sure he is and will always be gay.

Sooo This wasn't a big deal per say except for the fact that he has a long term girlfriend. Who we have become very close with. Also to add she is very attractive nice and just fun person. Me and my sister kind of paused for few seconds we both didn't know what to say other then we support you. But what about your girlfriend who is Mad in love with you?

He said he would tell her before summer, then his eccuse was they had plans so he would do it in July then it was before school starts. Long story short it took him 2 years to tell her. It was mostly due to his parents being strick and very religious and suspectiing he might be gay. So he pretty much used her til he was able to escape his parents home. Also the way he broke up with her was more like o.k i dnt love you and you disgust me type of way. Not the "I'm gay and I dnt want continue to lead you type of way. Needless to say she was devastated and cried for weeks calling us begging us, wanting to know What happened, what did she do wrong, since he was pretty close and confident in us as family.

Fast forward 12 years later and he is back in the neighboring city . He reached out to my sister via FaceBook. But This time he is newly married to a beautiful women and has a 3 year old and a 6 month old. He has invited me and my sister to his new home tonight.

This is soo wrong my and Liz have talked about his actions and we both dnt think we can deal with it again.

Then don't.

Let the guy decide for himself.

Yeah we both decided to not go. He will get the picture sooner or later.

I know it's hard for him to be the only son and trying to please his parents and to b.. But me and my sister have made our decision to ex him completely out of our lives.

..*and to be living his life on DOWNLOW.*

@Arielle

I dnt know where he meets ppl

I have no issue with him being gay, but my only concern is when his secrets are at expense of others.

Who knows she may know and be ok with it.

He's a complete wacko and will end up catching HIV and passing it to his wife.

He's a fucked up closet case.

Good that you axe him out of your lives.

Even if he's an only child, he should know better than to mislead people like that. If he was financially dependent on his parents, then that's understandable. But judging from what you say, he sounds financially independent.

Screw him and men like him.

My sister is taking to him and his wife. I just kind of sat in the room ease dropping on the conversation. He says he's found God and a church to help him he has had all sins washed away. At the same church is where he met his wife. She is the daughter of 1 of the church elders. My sister asked him what about his erges and he beat around the bush saying God has performed miracle you won't believe. He goes on and on and on..blah blah blah all b.s to me.

Posted by DXV1
My sister asked him what about his erges and he beat around the bush saying God has performed miracle you won't believe. He goes on and on and on..blah blah blah all b.s to me.

Because it is BS.

Sounds like he went through reparative therapy.

The truth will catch up with him eventually.

My sister is a cancer and she wants to support him she has always treated him like a baby brother. I think he is a

Sun cancer

moon Gemini

Mar Aquarius

I just try to read him. He seems like a good person he seems careing but cold blooded and selfish as hell.

I really don't want get involved with him ever again. I'm trying to convince my sister that he's a lost cause. His secret was our secret for years and after all that he disappeared with out single call for years like he did a vanishing act then he pops back up like it's ok. No its not and I'm at verg of telling to stop contacting my mom and sister.

His exact words where he was 100% sure if he had said 50% or even 80-20 I would given him benefit of doubt as Bi but he said I'AM 100% SURE

Like WTF

You do know that people can be Bisexual. Maybe he likes both sexes.

Posted by Ssuperman
You do know that people can be Bisexual. Maybe he likes both sexes.

It's one thing to be bisexual. It's quite a different thing to lie to people around you, especially those you allegedly care about.

He's not bi he's is lieing again he is preying on sombody again to make him look as if he is not going against his religion and his belief

But he lives his real life under everybodies noses.

I know him I know his pattern.

I know I'm not perfect I'm not too religious I'm not judgmental either. I just dnt like it I do not understand him bed making his life complicated and complex by not excepting who he is.

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Posted by Ssuperman
You do know that people can be Bisexual. Maybe he likes both sexes.

It's one thing to be bisexual. It's quite a different thing to lie to people around you, especially those you allegedly care about.

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He was probably trying to figure his sexuality out and was probably feeling ashamed.

He has to make his own choice and he is responsible for those choices.