HELP with Cancer-Leo Cusp

So I met someone a few months ago who is a Cancer-Leo Cusp. On paper, he is everything I would ask for (intelligent, supportive, funny, old-fashioned, attractive) and we see eye to eye on a lot of different things from as much as I can tell so far. I am a Leo sun sign, but I feel like I act more like a Libra or Cancer in romantic relationships. As far as I know what that means anyway. Well this gentleman currently has a girlfriend, but they seem to be off right now and they have a daughter together and live together for that reason, but recently he stated that he is starting to look for his own place because he can't take living there anymore and I can tell that he is very depressed and feels stuck. We started as friends, but we seem to be clicking very well. He seems to be very interested because he will text me all night and we hang out 2-3 times a week-sometimes just sitting and talking and venting about life. Other times, he will hold my hand or just want to kiss and do things, but I really love how much we click on a personal level and how comfortable I feel with him. My main concern is getting attached to someone who will never be interested in me long-term. He has been very up-front about wishing that he was completely single and that we would be together and he has also said that I need to be patient and not rush anything. I feel like in my experience, most guys after this period of time would just get bored and move on. How can I know if we may work or if it's worth my time? And most importantly, how do I know he isn't playing me and maybe has other girls on the side?

Hmmn.. but he's not single though is he? He can make whatever excuse he wants but he's still with the mother of his child.

If anything he's not that keen to rush into a romantic relationship with you telling you to wait and be patient. In all honesty, I think you should give him a wide berth.

Out of curiosity, do you go out in public together?

@Zodiaclove88

the thing that might be holding him back is the crab nature,we tend to hold on to thing,me might not love her,but he might be holding on to her because of children or some other reason,children are rly important in our life,we love them so much....so that might be the case,but if he say's he would like to be together dont take that for granted,he means it,you have to help him thru this,somehow you can use the children situation,you could say children need to see a father happy,if he isn't happy kids feel it,say you must become happy yourself to make your children happy and be there for them fully with joy happyness and everythin,dont just go straight leave her or i'm leaving,because this will get him hiding in his shell,because he will be thining you're thinking only of yourself and dont have any empathy for him and children situation,just try your best to support him,be there for him,make him make a beter decisions ,ask him for advise yourself,show him that you care what he thinks and things like that,show that you don't mind that he has children and say that you like children,show that if you can,they will like it,they like romantic people ,they are family man,so just make him feel like one,and seem like one yourself,just dont be fake,he will feel that,be yourself and talk honest,but don't push straight to the point,he might missunderstand

Posted by Pisces1803
Hmmn.. but he's not single though is he? He can make whatever excuse he wants but he's still with the mother of his child.

If anything he's not that keen to rush into a romantic relationship with you telling you to wait and be patient. In all honesty, I think you should give him a wide berth.

Out of curiosity, do you go out in public together?

We do go out in public together. We just don't want our friends to see us, so we are selective on where we go. But it's not physical everyday and we have a lot of fun wherever we go.

Posted by rakac
@Zodiaclove88

the thing that might be holding him back is the crab nature,we tend to hold on to thing,me might not love her,but he might be holding on to her because of children or some other reason,children are rly important in our life,we love them so much....so that might be the case,but if he say's he would like to be together dont take that for granted,he means it,you have to help him thru this,somehow you can use the children situation,you could say children need to see a father happy,if he isn't happy kids feel it,say you must become happy yourself to make your children happy and be there for them fully with joy happyness and everythin,dont just go straight leave her or i'm leaving,because this will get him hiding in his shell,because he will be thining you're thinking only of yourself and dont have any empathy for him and children situation,just try your best to support him,be there for him,make him make a beter decisions ,ask him for advise yourself,show him that you care what he thinks and things like that,show that you don't mind that he has children and say that you like children,show that if you can,they will like it,they like romantic people ,they are family man,so just make him feel like one,and seem like one yourself,just dont be fake,he will feel that,be yourself and talk honest,but don't push straight to the point,he might missunderstand

He does state that's the only reason that he is with her and gave up his whole life for his little girl. He seems firm on the idea of doing everything that he can to have the daughter's birth parents be together as she grows up. He mentions how unhappy he is and told me this is her last chance. He drinks all the time now (almost daily and shows up drunk at work) and I feel like he enjoys it sometimes, but other times he is just depressed and trying to get his mind off of it. so sad. I also read a lot of stuff about cancers commonly doing a side chick thing, but never leaving spouse. Then I read something recently stating that cancers generally don't really have multiple hook-ups and multiple side-chicks. That's probably my largest concern other than him leading me on..

Posted by Zodiaclove88

Posted by Pisces1803
Hmmn.. but he's not single though is he? He can make whatever excuse he wants but he's still with the mother of his child.

If anything he's not that keen to rush into a romantic relationship with you telling you to wait and be patient. In all honesty, I think you should give him a wide berth.

Out of curiosity, do you go out in public together?

We do go out in public together. We just don't want our friends to see us, so we are selective on where we go. But it's not physical everyday and we have a lot of fun wherever we go.

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You said you do go out in public together. Who's decision was that? To me it sounds like you're the other woman and that's why it has to be on the down low.. either both you and he are well aware of that. I'm afraid you'll be the one that ends up hurt., waiting and wasting time on something that's going nowhere.

I wouldn't waste anymore time on this and steel your heart and get some strength and let him go.

Sweetheart, don't start feeling sorry for him and getting sucked into his problems.

He will just use you and lead you on to think there's a future for the two of you..and then he will wake up one day and tell you that he no longer feels the same way about you.

There is absolutely no chance?

It was both of ours. More his. We are just selective of where we go.

Posted by Zodiaclove88
Well this gentleman currently has a girlfriend, but they seem to be off right now

And most importantly, how do I know he isn't playing me and maybe has other girls on the side?

There's no way you can know that your the only side chick. Only he knows his intentions.

For all you know his sad story about having to stay with his baby momma for the sake of his kid is just that...a story. He can string you along with this lie while happily screwing her as well. And you will never win out over her because she has given him a kid.

My advice to you is to drop him and date single men.

But you probably won't take that advice...

So if you insist on continuing to see him you MUST cut out all physical contact with him!! Tell him you feel wrong about being the other woman, even if he's living unhappily with her. See if he's going to back up his words with actions and actually get a place of his own. If you keep giving up the goodies for free he has no incentive to follow through with what he's promised.

Is this a typical cancer trait?

Hi, I'm a cancer-leo cusp. How are you?

Posted by rabidtalker
Hi, I'm a cancer-leo cusp. How are you?

Hello! So what would be your method of handling this if you were in the same situation? His moon sign is Libra also. Mine is Leo for my sun sign and Libra for my moon sign as well.

I would do as LadyNeptune advised. His next course of action will tell you what you need to know. Good luck xx

Posted by Zodiaclove88

Posted by rabidtalker
Hi, I'm a cancer-leo cusp. How are you?

Hello! So what would be your method of handling this if you were in the same situation? His moon sign is Libra also. Mine is Leo for my sun sign and Libra for my moon sign as well.

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Hi, I am not anything like this other cusper, my moon is in pisces and rising sign is leo, making my sun a 12th house sun. Regardless of all the astrology, I think what the others have said is sound. You should get out of this situation. You are not being fair to yourself.

Posted by Zodiaclove88
There is absolutely no chance?

Sweetheart, please don't hold onto this thought. It will only hurt you more. Let him go and find someone who would be happy to show you off and to be seen out in public with you. Someone with less baggage then this man you're trying to hold onto.

It will hurt, but you will heal but if you try to hold onto this relationship for it to eventually be something more..you could spend days/months/years and in the end be disillusioned when it doesn't pan out.