How do I deal with Aggression/Domineering People as a sensitive,agreeable, laid back Taurus?

Hi,

I am a sensitive, agreeable guy, I am a type B personality. That characteristics seem to hinder me, when I deal with your typical aggressive, domineering alpha People.

When I came across "Rockstarassholes",they could easily make me speechless when they were mean. I am usually quickwitted. You know the type

Did you sensitive water people grow a thick skin, or are just good at hiding and suppressing your hurt feelings? I find senstivity is often a problem, if you are feeling when you should be unfazed and proactive.

Esspecially during confrontations, aggressive banter/power struggles with women, when I deal with

competition at work etc I feel paralyzed and helpless, in other words I am weak in those situations. How do Scorpios handle that when they are sensitive at the same time?

My Aries ex often tried to emasculate me and took charge, whereas I was busy reflecting and slowly.

I would just never give in. There is this scorpio woman who would always watch our fights from afar and then walking up to me. She told she knows that Taurus people are indomitable but at the same time just not aggressive and driven enough in order to be assertive. I would have to use energy once in a while

and get over my laziness. I think we are prone to endure problems, but very often it is better to speak up.

My question is, how do I handle feeling hurt, how do I handle aggression as a laid back and agreeable Person? Because at the same time I will never ever be submissive. That seems to be my only option.

Someone has to be in charge. Till you grow balls, gather thoughts and decide what's good or not it has to be done already, by someone else. Being on the alpha side doesn't necessarily imply aggression. Be grateful someone's there for you to make decisions based on your likes and dislikes. Surprisingly I always come across to guys who are laid back to the point that it drives me absolutely insane. They are confused, lost souls, can't speak up their minds, always struggling to express emotions, silent types etc. Listen my friend, life is too short, you have to learn to keep up with the rhythm, otherwise you gonna end up feeling left alone. Why are you hurt? I don't understand what's the problem. Give me an example and I'll give you my fair answer

Posted by pisceanloves
Someone has to be in charge. Till you grow balls, gather thoughts and decide what's good or not it has to be done already, by someone else. Being on the alpha side doesn't necessarily imply aggression. Be grateful someone's there for you to make decisions based on your likes and dislikes. Surprisingly I always come across to guys who are laid back to the point that it drives me absolutely insane. They are confused, lost souls, can't speak up their minds, always struggling to express emotions, silent types etc. Listen my friend, life is too short, you have to learn to keep up with the rhythm, otherwise you gonna end up feeling left alone. Why are you hurt? I don't understand what's the problem. Give me an example and I'll give you my fair answer

Okay, here are a few Examples:

I am in the club talking to People. All of the sudden someone says: That s because you are stupid.

Insults, being constantly interrupted, evasive people who poke my chest, feisty people, direct people. Every Aggressive Situation puts me in a freeze state, I am unable to think and act clearly. I had traumatic

experiences with verbally abusive people, maybe that is why I switch into a state of fear and helplessness.

Which is funny, because I have aggressive tendencies too. I love heavy metal and combat sports, I love aggressive banter with people. I have a lot of aggression,but I am unable to express it.

Posted by Parkourler

Posted by pisceanloves
Someone has to be in charge. Till you grow balls, gather thoughts and decide what's good or not it has to be done already, by someone else. Being on the alpha side doesn't necessarily imply aggression. Be grateful someone's there for you to make decisions based on your likes and dislikes. Surprisingly I always come across to guys who are laid back to the point that it drives me absolutely insane. They are confused, lost souls, can't speak up their minds, always struggling to express emotions, silent types etc. Listen my friend, life is too short, you have to learn to keep up with the rhythm, otherwise you gonna end up feeling left alone. Why are you hurt? I don't understand what's the problem. Give me an example and I'll give you my fair answer

Okay, here are a few Examples:

I am in the club talking to People. All of the sudden someone says: That s because you are stupid.

Insults, being constantly interrupted, evasive people who poke my chest, feisty people, direct people. Every Aggressive Situation puts me in a freeze state, I am unable to think and act clearly. I had traumatic

experiences with verbally abusive people, maybe that is why I switch into a state of fear and helplessness.

Which is funny, because I have aggressive tendencies too. I love heavy metal and combat sports, I love aggressive banter with people. I have a lot of aggression,but I am unable to express it.

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I don't get it honestly, now tell what happened exactly, whole story, without cutting details. Someone threw an insult what does that even have with you.

People have to change when being who they are is hurting them.

This is the main theme I get from what @Parkourler is saying.

It's very encouraging that he is attempting to be introspective instead of blaming others.

I have a Taurus son and I was so scared of his pleasant, laid back, and even lazy ways. As an Aries, I had to teach him that it was okay to go off. He was more irritated at being disturbed. I taught him to let the irritation build, let the discomfort build... and, release. I told him I will never punish him for his anger because, as his mother, I know he is a pure soul (and, too lazy, I mean laid back, to do anything wrong).

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge
You need to set boundaries, so that others respect you. Without respect, people will step allover you.

Also, having a thick skin helps and protecting what you enjoy from negative people works for me too.

And try to surround yourself with less aggressive people

Yeah I am getting rid of a lot of people right now. I assume kind aries people exist too, I just came across assholes. I need a thick skin. The only thing I need to figure out is to how to be assertivel, because I am so passive and lazy and I never get angry. I think the passiveness has to do with my traumatic experiences.

I ve got healing to do maybe even therapy.

Posted by Impulsv
AH security buys me trips to beliz, Guatemala maya exploring, northern lights. So I get my experiences that way

You were married to a Taurus. You'all's materialism (and/or his cheating) drove you all to destruction.

You were living with your parents trying to rebuild your life (or, finances... as it appears to be life to you). And now, after all you've been through you are looking down on people you percieve as having less. Shame on you!

Why is it that some people who survive something look down on people who are going through the same? Strange hypocrisy.

You don't have a bad thing to say about Taurus but Aries are to be persecuted for natural body function?

"A fool and his money are soon parted"

That's what I dislike about advice. You tell people about a situation and they're stuck on it. Once you see the bigger picture through introspection, they can't go there with you.

Good on him to be introspective, see the big picture, connect the dots. Some people are forever stuck in life like a broken record because they refuse to grow and learn from what life experience is teaching them.

I believe the basic problem is this idea you have for yourself as the sensitive and agreeable person. I am not saying these people don't exist. You also seem to have accept the fact that this is your personality and you are OK with it even though it causes you problems.



I was and still am a bit stuck and obsessed on this personality mindset that I used as protection and defence to not act. I used to say I am shy, I am introverted, I am scared, I get anxious.

All through high school years I pushed myself and anxiety got worse.

After that on university.... I let go of everything, I didn't go to classes and I would stay home reading that stuff like pop psychology and drive myself crazy.

I lost around 2 and a half semesters and I developed phobias.

Then I visited a psychologist. Things got a bit better.

What I am doing now is to face every fear and phobia step by step, little by little. I never thought I would put myself in such an uncomfortable situation until I realised that's the only way.

My life had been pretty boring the last two years I am in college and that's at least sad. Even though I am fighting the phobias I kept putting the real deal later and later saying I am not ready.

What happened then was I got excited for a certain class in University an important one, stills triggers my phobia just to be in class. But I thought we'll it's all or nothing. Better play all.

And I signed up. I didn't postpone. I accepted the real thing. And I am so excited. My life after a long time is exciting again and I have something to wait on every week even though I get some anxiety.



And what I thought exactly to sign up on this: You need to surpass yourself and the idea you have of you.



Stop putting yourself in boxes to protect you and get out there and do what needs to be done 😉

I need to vent:



I do disagree, I just use the term to describe myself. I am like Libras I like to compromise and deescalate.

I just read an Article about feisty women, written by a feisty women. What I learned from this article is that being around a hot tempered, unpredictable, witty woman is supposed to be charming and exciting - I guess? Dear Fire sign men, please date and befriend them so I dont have to deal with them.There is nothing endearing about that, for me at least. You can have them.

I guess I dated a feisty independent women to prove my manhood.

I wanted to see if I end up as doormat. Yes and no. I didnt give in, but I had trouble holding my own in

aggressive conservation. I got outwitted and put down a few times. But I learned a lot, I am desensitized to aggression and I am better at comebacks.

But I was never happy. It is one thing to get out your comfort zone to challenge yourself, it is another thing to be in a place where you are constantly on edge, because nothing matches your needs

and values. I never made that distinction.

Loud, opinionated and demanding people just irritate the hell out of me. I like people who listen more than they speak, I like down to earth people who dont for granted that, people to cater them, I dont want to be around noisy people. I like soft spoken people.

I guess need to surround to myself with gentle and laidback people, like libras and taurus, cancers, pisces and virgos.

Whenever I want a challenge, I will date scorpio or cap woman, Fire sign woman are off limits from now on.



I feel burned out, I lost a lot of energy in the last 6 months.