How do you handle distance

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Jhene
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Have you ever felt distant in a relationship. A total disconnect you want to be there but you dont feel connect to you emotions or you partner. I guess its the constant hurt and heart string pulling but i feel very disconnected from my partner and I know she feels it too.

Once she communicated the relationship feels strained. Now i have this lingering guilt shes only here because of me and not necessarily because she wants to be. im a cancer mooner and shes Leo sun but with asc ,moon and most her other planets in cancer. We both can agree we need space.

Its weird when im around her i feel this detactment and when im around her theres this intensity thats almost suffocating like a strain in my throat and pulling on my chest.
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claro
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I like distance, but disconnect in a romantic relationship would riddle me with fear.
aren't they both similar, if not pretty much the same thing?
With distance I mean giving each other space to do your own things. I think it's vital to center focus on personal growth aswell.. to re-align with yourself. It solidifies and keeps romantic relationships strong.

Disconnect blocks developing feelings for each other, it's a scary place to be in for a romantic relationship.
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now i see what you mean. thanks.

yes you can have your own space but still be very connected.

disconnect happened in my previous relationship. he seemed to take it in his stride naturally but inside i was screaming. in some ways we were just too different, i think.
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Posted by whatthecrab
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Posted by whatthecrab
Posted by clare
Posted by whatthecrab
I like distance, but disconnect in a romantic relationship would riddle me with fear.
aren't they both similar, if not pretty much the same thing?
With distance I mean giving each other space to do your own things. I think it's vital to center focus on personal growth aswell.. to re-align with yourself. It solidifies and keeps romantic relationships strong.

Disconnect blocks developing feelings for each other, it's a scary place to be in for a romantic relationship.
now i see what you mean. thanks.

yes you can have your own space but still be very connected.

disconnect happened in my previous relationship. he seemed to take it in his stride naturally but inside i was screaming. in some ways we were just too different, i think.
Guys like him think disconnect will make women hung up on some fantasy about them.

Eugh, their self-indulgent delusions are insufferable.
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hmm, i never looked at it that way.

i don't know i assumed his default way of connecting was mentally whereas mine was emotionally but there could have been an element of that at one point in time, i guess.