The Cancer Man I'm Trying Hard to Move On From

I think he liked me a lot.

I think he was so afraid & so he blocked the feelings, pretended it isn't, played up the sex & put up a facade.

I think he guarded very strongly from me, to the point he would snapped at little petty thing not to his comfort.

I understand this very well coming from someone with fixed Sun and Moon of him with a lot of fixed signs in his personal planets.

Anyway, I have used up everything to tear the walls down without avail.

There wasn't enough to get to him.

Perhaps, we are truly not the most compatible for each other if all I do only pushes him further away.

I need to stop hoping and trying.

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Yeah, I used to be with a cancer guy. If he's snapping at you than your annoying him. Mine was very patient and snapped at me once and i told him that it was not nice of him, He apologized. We stayed friends after breakup until recently when he did something to hurt me so i messaged him saying that i can't be his friend but that i wish him the best. Now he looks at me with a sad face when ever he sees me.

Never lose your temper with a cancer. You play the same emo games that they play. If he goes silent than you do the same and if you never do anything mean to anyone (not just cancers) people usually end up feeling bad themselves. Always take the high road...wish him well and move on.

He will respect you more even if you two don't get back together.

Posted by beautifulday
Yeah, I used to be with a cancer guy. If he's snapping at you than your annoying him. Mine was very patient and snapped at me once and i told him that it was not nice of him, He apologized. We stayed friends after breakup until recently when he did something to hurt me so i messaged him saying that i can't be his friend but that i wish him the best. Now he looks at me with a sad face when ever he sees me.

Never lose your temper with a cancer. You play the same emo games that they play. If he goes silent than you do the same and if you never do anything mean to anyone (not just cancers) people usually end up feeling bad themselves. Always take the high road...wish him well and move on.

He will respect you more even if you two don't get back together.

was it a mutual break up

No he broke up with me but it was coming. He knew it and i knew it. I try never to break up with people-I have a hardtime after with the guilt.

@Arielle83 I know I annoyed him whenever he snapped. There seems to be a pattern to this. The thing is when we are able to have calm conversations & banters, I always tell him he could tell me if I'm annoying him. Yet he always assures me I'm not annoying him. I know (can feel) that he's always waiting for me to approach him.

I also admit that all this, his whole intention & motivation is just to get to sleep with me.

Posted by taupixie
I think he liked me a lot.

I think he was so afraid & so he blocked the feelings, pretended it isn't, played up the sex & put up a facade.

I think he guarded very strongly from me, to the point he would snapped at little petty thing not to his comfort.

Your in a fantasy world. What you 'think' about him having feelings and how he is afraid of how much he likes you...is purely in your head.

Look to his actions for the reality on where you stand.

He pursues you hard for the sex and you give it up mistaking his interest in getting his dick wet as he must want a relationship. When you attempt to 'tear down his walls' he's not into it.

Let that sink in.

Even your pussy isn't enough to keep him around for your attempts at conversational bonding.

@LadyNeptune he told me himself he "likes" me. When we get into technicality and I asked him if he likes any other girls, he said no. So I'm not fantasising it. I'm processing everything he said.

And I'm also not deluding that he also said he doesn't wanna deal with feelings and emotions and he doesn't want any attachment.

So I understand all this.

I'm not fooling myself.

I'm doing all this because I like him. I've been as direct & honest with him. I understand what I'm getting into.

He comes back again with our plan to have sex. So I reminded him that I had refused his demand & him getting pissed off hence I thought we are not gonna have sex. He asked would I be okay with sex if he won't make that demand. So I said okay & we are back again talking about having sex.

And I realise he does enjoy talking about the act, the details, the preferences, the experience... The only thing he does willingly talk to me in length. Is this a sort of aphrodisiac or foreplay for him?

Posted by taupixie
@LadyNeptune he told me himself he "likes" me. When we get into technicality and I asked him if he likes any other girls, he said no. So I'm not fantasising it. I'm processing everything he said.

And I'm also not deluding that he also said he doesn't wanna deal with feelings and emotions and he doesn't want any attachment.

So I understand all this.

He's after sex. So yes, he will say anything to make that happen. That's how the game is played.

He tells you he's not interested in any other female to make you feel like you have a chance at something long term with him.

But once you give up the pussy I doubt he'll stick around. He was upfront enough to tell you he's not looking for attachment. If you value a relationship you won't get it from him.

Walk away before you become more emotionally involved.

Regardless of zodiac placements he just wants to bang. You're dense enough to let him use you. He "likes" you enough to fuck but not enough to respect and love you.