How to say i don't want you in my life as nice as possible?

Hi there guy's so you prob know about my hearbreak with pisces because i've created the topic in this forum,and now i'm going step by step,today is the last day in my room i'm going off for 7day's ,need to find myself because 2much is going on right now,also i want to ask you guys how to say no to the girl the nice way,i was in relationship with a scorp woman a while back,prob 2-3years back,she just cheated on me and then vanished,i found out she was with another guy,engaged in half a year,now after these years,she has a child and has no man,she wants to comeback to me,she says she always was thinking about me,she needs me,i talk to her,but i don't feel anything for her,and rly i don't want to talk with her,it's hard as it is for me,and she cheated on me and after her guy failed me she expects me back,i deserve beter than this,so the thing is i'm asking you,how do i go about this,do i just say no i don't want anything to do with you, or just try to fade away little by little,i don't want to hurt her feels,but i don't know should i just shout it out to her face that i don't want us,i'm broken as it is,i couldn't even be with her if i wanted to be,because i can't feel it,takes a while to heal,should i just fade away and stop talking with her,or i just go straight to the point and say i don't want us,i want to be alone for now,i'm healing,and even after healing i wouldn't accept you,you deserve to be happy and so do i,but we can't be together anymore,you should move forward as should i.any advise from scorp woman or cancers?how to make this easier for them so they could move on faster and forget me,cuz i don't rly want anything to do with her anymore,nor as friend nor as boyfriend.any help or advise would be appreciated,thank you.

I would never forgive a person like this let alone consider taking them back. No one is perfect, I know, cheating is not the biggest insult, coming back after a child is...

Anyways I'd fade, it's the easiest way out cause you owe her NOTHING!

Tell them the problem is you and not them.

Posted by mrpepperidge
just don't say have a nice life coz that's passive aggressive as fuck and they will come back when that is how you word it.

naah i wouldn't say have a nice life,i'd go with i want to you be happy,but without me,in your life,something like that,or just be happy,without me,don't know rly,thats why i'm asking advise for you guys,afraid to say something that will make this even worse.don't want to be to harsh on her

She sounds like a dangerous personality btw.

If you do allow her back in your life, you can expect her to cheat on you again.

I'm not allowing,i just want to part,but i want to do that with as easy for her as possible,she's the past,i'm a cancer guy,i get over my breakups slow,might take me a year or 2,and in that time if person comesback i might let them,but if they don't and im totaly over that person and i'm aware how bad she treated me and what i deserve,i will not accept that🙂 everyone deserves respect,trust and love in relationship,if one of them fades,relationships starts to collapse bit by bit 🙂 i've seen some couples go past cheating and they are stronger than ever,but because they worked on it and didn't leave each other,they loved each other so much they got over that,and now the bond is stronger than ever,but in this situation its been over 2-3yrs ,naaah,ain't worth it 🙂 i think as a cancer our worst and best trait might be empathy for people we love,we empathyse so much,we forget ourselves and get in their shoes,for example when she cheated,she explained me everythin and i felt so bad for her,confed her and made love to her,was with her,but only after a day or two i understood how much she hurted me and started cryin like a b1tch...empathy is one of the best gifts,yet,they can distract you from you own feels because you start feeling what other person feels.scince we cancers are so glad to help people and are so carrying we might become blind for a moment,and when reality kicks in,hurts.

You've already told her.

oh sorr guys i left a huge gap between the story,the girl that i had breakup now and the girl thats coming back is a dif woman,not the same,i love a dif girl,and i'm healing from her,not from the one that wants me back,sorry ,was prob rushing to post this so didn't watch my words close,they just were coming out like a flow of river from my fingers 😄

It's your own problem if i drive you bonkers,get a real life and prob a person on forum will not make such a big difference in your life 😄

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by rakac
It's your own problem if i drive you bonkers,get a real life and prob a person on forum will not make such a big difference in your life 😄

you're one of the most lamest retarded posters on DXP

i mean man up bytch! be a man.

fuking wacko dumpster

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wow ,seems like you know me in person to talk such things about me,thats a nice relfection of who you are you know 🙂 nice too meet ya 😄

Posted by SensitiveBlues
you have zero control of your life or your emotions.

you sicken me.

you're that bytch boy crab every chick on here talks about


its disgusting to witness.

zero control of emotions? talks the person who posts angry and hateful comments on the forum just because of some guy he doesn't even know or understand.im asking for advise and you get angry and pissy,if you can't offer what i want so why comment at all,you're the one who can't control emotions and gets angry at post who wasnt even made for him,get beter and get healthy ,hope the best for you,go see a doc or somth,keep hating,people like you crack me up 😄

Posted by SensitiveBlues
dude start making better decisions, you shouldn't have to come here to figure these basic things out

you don't go across country to get at a girl who has a bf

you tell people who you don't want in you life you don't want them in your life

wtf don't you have parents/friends that you can emulate

you're kind of really stupid and i hate stupid.

you do everything if you love,that not might be the thing for you,but it is for me,i just wanted to get things clear,and i did
i tell them,but i like to do it the way that they don't get hurt,or get hurt as little as possible,it's funny,you're angry because some crabb hurt you and you're lashing out and hating in forums,how unhappy your must be in real life ,i'm sorry for you,for love and for my vission and my dreams i would sacrifice anything,even for the chance of 1% that might keep me going,but when i'm done i'm done,thats my char i either give nothing or i give everything,it's not like i went to sleep with her,i just had some talk and good moments with her and thats it,i couldn't do anythin more because of the respect for myself and for a person i love and if you hate it ,hate it,but you don't even know me in person,these comments you make just shows that in real life you're not a happy person,maybe angry,maybe heartbroken or lacking something,but you ain't happy,i hope you get beter pal ,you call me stupid,and you're the one posting hateful comments,doing that you don't sound smart yourself,smart boy 🙂 heal and calm down 😄

@SensitiveBlues I'll be off for a week so you can rest while i'm not here,hope you're healed and well when i comeback because i'll have new topics and stories to tell,so try and heal yourself or skip my topics if you don't want to feel bad once again ^^

Posted by SensitiveBlues
dude start making better decisions, you shouldn't have to come here to figure these basic things out

you don't go across country to get at a girl who has a bf

you tell people who you don't want in you life you don't want them in your life

wtf don't you have parents/friends that you can emulate

you're kind of really stupid and i hate stupid.

^^^ She's right though. You act, sound and behave like you let the world happen to you. No control of anything or anyone, basically any girl can break your heart, anyone can hurt you. That is WEAK even for a girl. Smh!!

@Namy

Well everyone you let inside your heart you basicly give a permision to break it,you just hope they don't do it,trust and respect a person,no relationship or friendship doesn't come with a waranty or anything like that,about control i can control my anger the best,the hardest thing for me to control is empathy tho,sometimes i just feel like that person and i get in his shoes,i feel sorry for him and forgive him,but after i few days i might only realise how they betrayed me and get rly sad,everyone i love can hurt me,because when you love your heart is wide open for the people that are under my cancer shell,for others,they might see how i look but don't know who i'm,and for controling part,i don't thing people should be controled or controling,you might give them an advise ir give them a hand when you feel or see they need,but other than that,controling just fuucks up,no one wants to be a bird in a cage,atleast i don't think so,everyone should accept a person as they are ,and not try to change them for what they want for them to be,thats selfishness,you look look from a lot of aspects at people,but there is never no right and no wrong,it's just peoples options about things,about people,about judgment and so on. 🙂 i might let anyone thats under my shell to break my heart and forgive as many times as i can,but when i'm done i'm done.and this girl ain't breaking my heart,i just don't want to make her feel like butter sayin some cruel butter and making her cry thats all,she is 3years back,i don't feel anythin for this one,because i'm just after another break up 🙂 thanks for advise tho guys,nice to see many options and advises from dif people,i would just like to talk nice with everyone with no hatin or judging,sad that there is so much hate and so on in these places,why spread some hate while you can spread some love or help someone,thats just my thoughts tho 🙂

Posted by Impulsv
Tell her it's done n over n never to contact you again.
Tell her you want nothing to do with her.
Then change ur number cuz seems that will be the only way to avoid all her contacts that she will do

thanks ! 🙂

Posted by Impulsv
By u being firm you are giving her a very important lesson in her life. That she can't treat people like crap n get away
In that way u are showing kindness If that is your concern
Biggest favor ever to disappear from her life.
In the future she will appreciate a good man.

sounds good 2 me!thanks 🙂 will do

Guard your heart, it's a cold coldddd world. That's all.

Posted by Namy
Guard your heart, it's a cold coldddd world. That's all.

I know,i've been guarding my heart for a long time,but this year i realised a lot...when i kept my heart open,i felt most alive in my entire lost,most pain and sadness 2 ofc,but thats the price you have to pay,because if you guard your heart to much,you live live never completely satisfied or complete sad or happy,you just live kind of satisfied with your life ....that love i felt for that pisces woman was rly best and most painful experience in my life,i felt i was becoming a beter person,i was growing,my values and life perspectives changed more to positive,i started to undestand more,uncover some of my quolities i never knew existed in me,might sound stupid for other people or crazy,but i'm proud of myself that i did so much for the girl i loved even if in the end she didn't love me,now i know how much i would sacrifice for love,fly half country,leave the job,and be with person you love,i could do that,and i'm proud of that,and now i understand,if i could do this for love,i could also do this for my dreams,because they are not less important in my life.......this year i'm taking alot of risks,usually i don't take so much,but damn,this year feel so alive,so much happyness and sadness,can't explain how much growth i feel in character,everyone can read books and give advise,but your real character builds with experience ,and now that i know i could do so much for love i feel like i deserve so much in this life,i respecy myself more,love myself more,and want more from life,don't know if this makes any sense,but thats how i feel atm 🙂 thanks for adv tho! 🙂

Posted by Namy
Guard your heart, it's a cold coldddd world. That's all.

I know,i've been guarding my heart for a long time,but this year i realised a lot...when i kept my heart open,i felt most alive in my entire lost,most pain and sadness 2 ofc,but thats the price you have to pay,because if you guard your heart to much,you live live never completely satisfied or complete sad or happy,you just live kind of satisfied with your life ....that love i felt for that pisces woman was rly best and most painful experience in my life,i felt i was becoming a beter person,i was growing,my values and life perspectives changed more to positive,i started to undestand more,uncover some of my quolities i never knew existed in me,might sound stupid for other people or crazy,but i'm proud of myself that i did so much for the girl i loved even if in the end she didn't love me,now i know how much i would sacrifice for love,fly half country,leave the job,and be with person you love,i could do that,and i'm proud of that,and now i understand,if i could do this for love,i could also do this for my dreams,because they are not less important in my life.......this year i'm taking alot of risks,usually i don't take so much,but damn,this year feel so alive,so much happyness and sadness,can't explain how much growth i feel in character,everyone can read books and give advise,but your real character builds with experience ,and now that i know i could do so much for love i feel like i deserve so much in this life,i respecy myself more,love myself more,and want more from life,don't know if this makes any sense,but thats how i feel atm 🙂 thanks for adv tho! 🙂