I NEED TIPS

okay, its ruining my life, he is very destructive..... HOW ON EARTH DO I GET OVER A CANCER MALE.
please... any suggestions, cuz i obvioulsy cant do this on my own.

you need to give more information so we can help, i think i know cancers very well, my ex(a bastard) for 3 years, was a cancer, my present boyfriend is a cancer, i would like to help.....what happened?

it is the same guy, and obvisouly i KNOW i need to stop tlkaing to him, and stop seeing him... my question is HOW DO I GET MYSELF TO DO THIS ONCE AND FOR ALL.
like tips on how i can do this successfully, any ways to distract myself.

basiclaly
me and cancer best frineds
he get gf,
no pay attention to me
then we cross line
become fuk buddies
now he took a 180 turn for the worst
treats me liek shit

me afarid of losing him ( for some god forskaen reason, has become weak and continues to talk to him even tho he makes it clear he dont wnat to be my friend, just wants sex)

any ways to manipulate myself even lol

i usually laugh about it, and continue on lol

but i can only laugh for so long until it starts to affect me again and i SNAP.
HOW DO I CUT HIM—
jsut cancel my phone maybe lol

I will be the first to admit I forgive far too easily and because of this a certain person is taking advantage. It isn't because I can't stand up for MYself or that IM trying to prove something to others. MY willingness to overlook a friend's awkward behaviour has a lot to do with how much I care for them and MY reluctance to make them feel even more inept. The question is: AM I making life too easy for them by doing this? I find it hard to ignore someone who is acting in a hurtful or destructive way.

When will you ladies understand fuck buddy never works. Most women are not built for that shit (says the feminist)...Im sorry its the truth.

lil ladie good lord you are a stubborn bull..but to answer your question when you finally start loving yourself you will find it easy to cut this clown out of your life..he isn't doing anything for you but causing more pain..

Lil.ladie.taurus, its sad to say but I'm finding that most Cancer men are pussy's.
They lie, cheat, and avoid people who call them on there bad deeds. I would just leave him alone...he's miserable and he wants company. But Cansir you seem to be the exception to my findings...maybe it has to do with maturity...

I apologize in advance if I insulted anyone that is not my intention...its just from my experience.

They lie, cheat, and avoid people who call them on there bad deeds. I agree with you libradiva.....but there is a remedy. Lie, cheat and steal with him and he will love your dirty drawls.

Hey, Cansir!

lie , cheat, steal.....i thought i had accidentally clicked on the libra boards for a secound.lol

LadyT,

You have to do it Cold Turkey. Anything of his that you have just throw it away. Get rid of it all. Change your phone number and don't go to places where you two would hang out. You don't have to do it forever, but do it for now. No drunk dialing...nothing. Take care of yourself, do things you haven't done before, travel, just clean house and be nice to yourself. Blammo!

Everything deiselcancer said!

Lil.ladie.taurus, what happened to the rest of 3 billion men left on the planet—are they no good?why do you have to put up with one like that, find one that deserves your attention, there are planty of nice guys out there, and if you are looking for a serious relationship, find yourself a mature cancer they can make you feel like a Lady, you'll know what heaven means!!!good luck

I don't understand. I am a cancer (obviously) and I broke up with my long time boyfriend and I haven't talked to him since.
I find that having respect for yourself is enough to cut him off.
I think you aren't letting yourself get over it and no matter how many tips you get you'll still find a way to talk to him.
The fact that you went back as a fuck buddy doesn't help your case.
It just makes it harder for you to move on.
Which exactly what you need to do. There are plenty of guys out there.
No matter how much it hurts.

Lil.ladie.taurus....it will be ok, all things come to pass. Once you get your mojo back you'll make the right decision for YOU. Love is great...just remember not every love is good for us. One day you'll look back and laugh about all this....you are strong by nature so I have confidence that you will prevail...Good luck

Lil.ladie.taurus....it will be ok, all things come to pass. Once you get your mojo back you'll make the right decision for YOU. Love is great...just remember not every love is good for us. One day you'll look back and laugh about all this....you are strong by nature so I have confidence that you will prevail...Good luck

tahnkyou everyone for ur kind words...... i was going for a walk, and i actually saw him parked in a parking lot mackin some other chick, and it hurt me so much, and got mee sooo anrgy....

but... its not owrth my anger..... at work, and everywhere ppl constantly tell me how refreshing i am to be around, so why let this one guy kill my spririt. cuz he will.

tahknyou so much, i do need to start loving myself, have a talk with me, and take this summer for myself. and yes i agreee cold turkey is the ONLY way to do it.


thankyou again

From my experience, Cancerians do lie and sometimes a lot....I guess it depends on how comfortable they are with you. If for some reason, they are holding back, they WILL lie. But in my opinion, there's a limit to how much lying a person can take....I mean, you need to give the benefit of the doubt in any kind of relationship...if you lie around all the time, eventually it's going to get bad....that's my personal experience with a cancer male...he lied even after we'd been friends for 2 years....so I snooped around his back, msged his sister too, and eventually told him what I did and why....I even called him up several times but it seems like he doesn't ever wanna talk to me again....it's been 3.5 months adn I still haven't heard from him...that makes me wonder how strong our friendship was in the first place...hmmm....

Bottom line of the story: They DO lie mostly because they are too insecure to break out of their darn shells and confront the beautiful world around them....in which case, they should sit there and sulk for the rest of their lives...

And regarding what you should do to break off, get BUSY. Go OUT, do stuff! If you don't feel like dating, there's other things to keep you busy. Join clubs, VOLUNTEER! If you really want to get your mind and body busy, you can. As for me, I'm keeping busy with school and since I just moved to the US, am exploring the city and finding stuff I can do within the community. I know it's hard to break it off, I cry sometimes thinking about how much I miss talking to my friend...but hey, life goes on and you deserve better than some #% &*##*@** cancerian toying around with your feelings!

yes, bijou! And that is exactly when you realize you've had enough, you deserve better and can "BREAK OFF" or "AWAY" from that person....It's amazing how much of our everyday lives are more self-controlled than we normally think...