Ugh already having problems with this guy. We met up Thursday in the car he asks "how's Mike? Do you guys still talk?" Mike is a guy I talked to for a few months. I told him no. He asked if I've hooked up or dated anyone in the two months we weren't speaking. I said no. Basically he was being nosy. We had plans to hang out again today, but things got in the way. We were quickly texting back and forth, and I asked "Whatever happened to that girl?" He went on a date with some girl back in Feb. And he just stopped answering. He has done this in the past, we'll be quickly texting and then he just stops. I find it incredibly rude!! Usually I'll mention it, but after that no response I just haven't sent any other texts. How should I go about this? Should I just wait it out, confront him? I want to snap so bad at him, but I know it won't end well.
I'm in this forum way too much

Is he a Virgo? Mine was like that. I finally cut him off. Too much drama

Posted by busyeyes88
@OP. I have to agree with GG. I have been having 'issues' with a virgo. Too much drama also. I cut him off!!
+1. Sometimes it's best to just put them on perm block. Too much gameplay and drama. Best to just let it go and go find your happy!!
Posted by GeminiGem
Is he a Virgo? Mine was like that. I finally cut him off. Too much drama
No lol, this guy is a cancer

Just give him some space and make it clear what you will and will not tolerate. Leave it at that.
Ball in his court he can do what he wants with the info you give him.
Take back control. If it doesn't change, block him. He's playing.
Ball in his court he can do what he wants with the info you give him.
Take back control. If it doesn't change, block him. He's playing.

Posted by mgmtlovePosted by GeminiGem
Is he a Virgo? Mine was like that. I finally cut him off. Too much drama
No lol, this guy is a cancerclick to expand
LOL! Saved by the graceful crab and his sideways n backwards approach to relationships....smh @ instantly thinkin Virgos are hot n cold drama queens/kings....(even though some of us can be)...lmao!!!! There truly are other signs that pull this crap besides us Virgos...(sighs!)
Posted by LovelyisisPosted by mgmtlovePosted by GeminiGem
Is he a Virgo? Mine was like that. I finally cut him off. Too much drama
No lol, this guy is a cancer
LOL! Saved by the graceful crab and his sideways n backwards approach to relationships....smh @ instantly thinkin Virgos are hot n cold drama queens/kings....(even though some of us can be)...lmao!!!! There truly are other signs that pull this crap besides us Virgos...(sighs!)click to expand
I've never experienced this with a virgo. Just Cancer and Taurus.

I don't think it's a sign thing. This is a man thing....specifically, this is a "man doesn't want to be called out and put on the spot" thing.
Posted by MoonArtist
I don't think it's a sign thing. This is a man thing....specifically, this is a "man doesn't want to be called out and put on the spot" thing.
Should I tell him I think it's rude? or just leave it?

Cancer intervention required? I need to understand this cancer behavior, super communications, bwam!! down to zero, for days... WTF? is that avoidance? is very common thing I read around here...
Posted by fullwaterpisces
Cancer intervention required? I need to understand this cancer behavior, super communications, bwam!! down to zero, for days... WTF? is that avoidance? is very common thing I read around here...
smh I'm not even sure and we had such a nice day Tursday..
thursday*

Posted by mgmtlovePosted by MoonArtist
I don't think it's a sign thing. This is a man thing....specifically, this is a "man doesn't want to be called out and put on the spot" thing.
Should I tell him I think it's rude? or just leave it?click to expand
Sure, but I would clarify and communicate that better. Put him on the spot a bit more. Granted, remember that you did this in retaliation. So, it's better to go to the heart of the problem rather than beat around the bush of a new problem that stemmed from that first problem.

Posted by MoonArtist
I don't think it's a sign thing. This is a man thing....specifically, this is a "man doesn't want to be called out and put on the spot" thing.
MoonArtist....sometimes u make too much sense around here....I'm really going to need u to dial down ur "normalcy"....LMAO!!! Good stuff lady! 🙂

Posted by mgmtlovePosted by MoonArtist
I don't think it's a sign thing. This is a man thing....specifically, this is a "man doesn't want to be called out and put on the spot" thing.
Should I tell him I think it's rude? or just leave it?click to expand
OP if u truly feel that u can't find a way to communicate this message in a non-confrontational way, then I would probably leave it for now and revisit it a bit later when u feel u can, especially if it's not a disagreement you urself are not up to having and going all the way thru with it....as we all know "snapping" on someone takes a bit of energy out of all involved at times.

Posted by LovelyisisPosted by MoonArtist
I don't think it's a sign thing. This is a man thing....specifically, this is a "man doesn't want to be called out and put on the spot" thing.
MoonArtist....sometimes u make too much sense around here....I'm really going to need u to dial down ur "normalcy"....LMAO!!! Good stuff lady! 🙂click to expand
I've had enough experience with men (of more than 1 sign) pulling this stunt to know how the game is played. Just, NO....the game won't be played, and more getting called out will happen.
I better pull my "Imma Freak" skirts down so the normal doesn't show so much. 😆

Posted by MoonArtistPosted by LovelyisisPosted by MoonArtist
I don't think it's a sign thing. This is a man thing....specifically, this is a "man doesn't want to be called out and put on the spot" thing.
MoonArtist....sometimes u make too much sense around here....I'm really going to need u to dial down ur "normalcy"....LMAO!!! Good stuff lady! 🙂
I've had enough experience with men (of more than 1 sign) pulling this stunt to know how the game is played. Just, NO....the game won't be played, and more getting called out will happen.
I better pull my "Imma Freak" skirts down so the normal doesn't show so much. 😆click to expand
+111111 LMAO!!! *hugs* MoonArtist!!!!! 😉
Basically I just put
"I could understand if you didn't want to answer, but I just thought I'd ask since you ask that stuff all the time. I feel like I deserve some sort of respect in a response a simple "I don't want to talk about that" would have sufficed. Anyway..enjoy the rest of your day" Then I turned my phone off.
My heart was beating so fast, it honestly makes me SO livid. I hope I worded it right.
"I could understand if you didn't want to answer, but I just thought I'd ask since you ask that stuff all the time. I feel like I deserve some sort of respect in a response a simple "I don't want to talk about that" would have sufficed. Anyway..enjoy the rest of your day" Then I turned my phone off.
My heart was beating so fast, it honestly makes me SO livid. I hope I worded it right.
Posted by Gemican01
If you make him feel forced to respond, it won't work out the way you want.
I could get that..but it happens way too often. And if Ido it to him he catches an attitude. One time we were driving somewhere and he said something I felt was rude. And I said "The way you said that was mean" And he kept on asking what I said. I finally answered and he was like "Ok you heard me ask the first 4 times" like wth...
Cancer are like kids and they will do whatever they want. They are selfish emotionally, they want all the love they can get, but they only give it back in words. They don't communicate well either, they live in their imagination a lot. If things don't go as they want them to, they just ignore them and hope they will go away. Don't let him treat you like that, speak up and defend your point of view. I wouldn't ask him about other girls tho, it's not a pleasant conversation. Just be yourself and if something bothers you, tell him. He will have to deal with it. If not, let him hit the highway.
Posted by energycreature
Cancer are like kids and they will do whatever they want. They are selfish emotionally, they want all the love they can get, but they only give it back in words. They don't communicate well either, they live in their imagination a lot. If things don't go as they want them to, they just ignore them and hope they will go away. Don't let him treat you like that, speak up and defend your point of view. I wouldn't ask him about other girls tho, it's not a pleasant conversation. Just be yourself and if something bothers you, tell him. He will have to deal with it. If not, let him hit the highway.
I suppose. But! The next time he asks about other guys, he won't get a response.
He ended up apologizing and Idid not bring it up anymore. He's a cool guy. We had good times I remember once I was doing something and I looked up and he was just kinda smiling at me and I said "what?" and he was just kinda like "I don't know you just remind me of a mom...or grandma" Lol anyways,it went well. 🙂

^^^^ love the honesty

*roll eyes*
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