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Interesting story - your views
Nothing?
I think she'd continue on with the man that is able to cover her needs at the present moment. The fact that she got involved with the second man to begin with means she's not the "wait around" type. If #2 remains consistent in giving her nurturing/attention, she probably won't bail on it. #1 has an uphill battle (and probably one that due to his position, he will never fulfil) or proving he can provide her with the same sort of treatment, and remain consistent about it.
^^Isn't it a pity though? The military commander is responsible for the lives of many and she knows that, the other guy isn't responsible for anyone and sleeps safely in the night because of the military officer. But from an emotional perspective I see what's going on here. She can't wait for a long time for him and he really cannot change things substantially. He will do his duty but unfortunately he will be alone sleeping two hours a day and taking on an inordinate amount of stress
Oh btw, the other guy came along just when she lost her baby.
I agree, it is a pity. I'd still cling to the military guy for years, baby lossage or not (V in Tau, grrr!). Yeah, you know the timing (is everything), and she may be with #2 out of convenience for her sad emo time, and come around later with #1.
#1 is obvi an admirable guy - takes a particular type of woman to be willing to put her own needs aside, I guess (and and even more particular and strong having just lost a "child")
#1 is obvi an admirable guy - takes a particular type of woman to be willing to put her own needs aside, I guess (and and even more particular and strong having just lost a "child")
Posted by DeeGee
This is one of those things where time is the only solution....
Hahah I think I just alluded to that before I saw yer comment. The ever magical ingredient of "timing"
Damn deegee - I don't think I've ever been so spot on with a gem! Yer all water besides that right?
If I was the military guy ?
I'd move on.
1- Already have enough on my plate. Not only I have a developing situation, the responsibilities that come with this role require a dedicated sense of peace and harmony. Drama should be out of the question, permanently.
2- Most importantly.. the woman is emotionally confused and influenceable. She almost kissed another guy, loyalty and commitment aren't high up in her character traits list (but then again in this scenario I cheated on my wife with this woman..so...).
Personally.. I would have the "I love you but i'm not in love with you" talk with this woman. Focus my attention in the developing situation at work and regroup/refocus my energy on other relationships/prospects all together.
I'd move on.
1- Already have enough on my plate. Not only I have a developing situation, the responsibilities that come with this role require a dedicated sense of peace and harmony. Drama should be out of the question, permanently.
2- Most importantly.. the woman is emotionally confused and influenceable. She almost kissed another guy, loyalty and commitment aren't high up in her character traits list (but then again in this scenario I cheated on my wife with this woman..so...).
Personally.. I would have the "I love you but i'm not in love with you" talk with this woman. Focus my attention in the developing situation at work and regroup/refocus my energy on other relationships/prospects all together.
If I were the girl I would go with guy #1
Because two cheaters deserve each other no matter how much stress it entails. 😄
Guy #2 should run.
Because two cheaters deserve each other no matter how much stress it entails. 😄
Guy #2 should run.
Threesome? 😛
Posted by sugaries
I don't much care for the woman in this scenario. She seems very selfish and has a weak character.
I see what you're saying however he just wasn't there for her in her difficult moments. Hell, he didn't even indicate he had feelings for her until he saw her with another man. Why should she keep waiting for him? Will he even change? What's your view?
Posted by LunarMaiden
If I were the girl I would go with guy #1
Because two cheaters deserve each other no matter how much stress it entails. 😄
Guy #2 should run.
He cheated, she didn't. He hasn't given any indication to her in months that their relationship is still on. The only time he came close was when he found out she was carrying his child, he came to her and said that no matter what happened he would be there and make things work for them.
Ladies, I really want to know what YOU would do in this situation. Don't judge her. 🙂
I'm weak and stupid - I'd end up going back to the Military guy (with obvious unresolved feelings for him).
Posted by deezie
I'm weak and stupid - I'd end up going back to the Military guy (with obvious unresolved feelings for him).
I don't think that's weak or stupid. He is not treating her badly, he just can't give her the attention she needs currently.
Posted by sugariesPosted by incandescentcancerPosted by sugaries
I don't much care for the woman in this scenario. She seems very selfish and has a weak character.
I see what you're saying however he just wasn't there for her in her difficult moments. Hell, he didn't even indicate he had feelings for her until he saw her with another man. Why should she keep waiting for him? Will he even change? What's your view?
I guess I don't like the fact that she can find solace with *any* man. The person you love isn't around so any other man that shows attention will do. I didn't watch the show so I don't know all of the details but it rubs me the wrong way.
click to expand
You have all the facts that you need, the show won't provide you any further info. I see your perspective and I quite like it because I would sort of expect a woman with whom I have shared a portion of my life to understand my situation. If she went away like that it would feel terrible. In a way I am sympathetic to her situation as well though. How would you deal with this man if you were that woman? How would you reach out to him?
Posted by BommyKnocker
If I was the military guy ?
I'd move on.
1- Already have enough on my plate. Not only I have a developing situation, the responsibilities that come with this role require a dedicated sense of peace and harmony. Drama should be out of the question, permanently.
2- Most importantly.. the woman is emotionally confused and influenceable. She almost kissed another guy, loyalty and commitment aren't high up in her character traits list (but then again in this scenario I cheated on my wife with this woman..so...).
Personally.. I would have the "I love you but i'm not in love with you" talk with this woman. Focus my attention in the developing situation at work and regroup/refocus my energy on other relationships/prospects all together.
I like most of the things you said there. However I wouldn't have that conversation with her that you proposed at the end. I will just let things be. Further, I don't think she is influenceable or naive, I just think that she takes his behaviour as a signal that he doesn't care.
Posted by DeeGee
getting back to the story....it seems like this is the set up/prelude to something bigger to come for all of them.
Unfortunately nothing bigger is going to come up for them since the show was cancelled. That's what makes it so tantalizing! There is no end to this other than through our imagination! What would you do if you were in the woman's position?
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11
Threesome? 😛
Woman, I like how your mind works 😛click to expand
Hahaha...seriously though, that is the first thought that popped into my head after reading the story. win win all the way around 😉
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11
Threesome? 😛
Woman, I like how your mind works 😛
Hahaha...seriously though, that is the first thought that popped into my head after reading the story. win win all the way around 😉click to expand
How every Virgo of you to think up a practical solution that suits all 😛
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11
Threesome? 😛
Woman, I like how your mind works 😛
Hahaha...seriously though, that is the first thought that popped into my head after reading the story. win win all the way around 😉
How every Virgo of you to think up a practical solution that suits all 😛click to expand
touch? sir ...touch?! 😉
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11
Threesome? 😛
Woman, I like how your mind works 😛
Hahaha...seriously though, that is the first thought that popped into my head after reading the story. win win all the way around 😉
How every Virgo of you to think up a practical solution that suits all 😛
touch? sir ...touch?! 😉click to expand
Oh shoot! I love these verbal jousts with you virgos, can't really get enough of it. Very stimulating! 😉
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11
Threesome? 😛
Woman, I like how your mind works 😛
Hahaha...seriously though, that is the first thought that popped into my head after reading the story. win win all the way around 😉
How every Virgo of you to think up a practical solution that suits all 😛
touch? sir ...touch?! 😉
Oh shoot! I love these verbal jousts with you virgos, can't really get enough of it. Very stimulating! 😉click to expand
Oh you really have no idea 😉 (well maybe you do) hahaha
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LostinmyMind11
Threesome? 😛
Woman, I like how your mind works 😛
Hahaha...seriously though, that is the first thought that popped into my head after reading the story. win win all the way around 😉
How every Virgo of you to think up a practical solution that suits all 😛
touch? sir ...touch?! 😉
Oh shoot! I love these verbal jousts with you virgos, can't really get enough of it. Very stimulating! 😉
Oh you really have no idea 😉 (well maybe you do) hahahaclick to expand
I do 😛
Posted by incandescentcancerPosted by LunarMaiden
If I were the girl I would go with guy #1
Because two cheaters deserve each other no matter how much stress it entails. 😄
Guy #2 should run.
He cheated, she didn't. He hasn't given any indication to her in months that their relationship is still on. The only time he came close was when he found out she was carrying his child, he came to her and said that no matter what happened he would be there and make things work for them.click to expand
Hmmm, I was under the impression she was still in a relationship with Guy #1.
Posted by incandescentcancer
Ladies, I really want to know what YOU would do in this situation. Don't judge her. 🙂
Okay for me, if I were her; guy #1 and I would have never gotten involved due to the fact that he is married.
However, just for fun I would honestly try to make it work with the guy I love. If that is guy #1 I would make an effort to find a way.
However, if guy #1 is leaving me in limbo and an attractive, charming, financially secure guy #2 comes along I would forget about guy #1 and let him go save the world.
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