@Peanutbutter
14 Years1,000+ Posts
I just wanna f***
Understanding Your Sexual Desires and Boundaries
Expressing your sexual needs is important in any relationship. Clear communication helps ensure both partners are comfortable and fulfilled. It's essential to discuss boundaries, consent, and expectations openly to build mutual understanding and respect.
Yes it is too much to ask unless you are asking a prostitute. If so, Im pretty sure your wants can be accommodated if the price is right.
Posted by Nala13
Yes it is too much to ask unless you are asking a prostitute. If so, Im pretty sure your wants can be accommodated if the price is right.
She's a chick not a dude 😛
Let me hear a huzzah for stereotypes!
It also doesn't hurt to seduce him when he comes over for a visit... red lit candles, rose pedals, dim lights, wine, maybe skip the meal part over dessert hehe,
😛
Posted by xxnightbynight
it's impossible for a woman to have good sex and not catch feelings. - we release "love hormones" during climax. - Just sayin'.
Very true.
Posted by Peanutbutter
Is that too much to ask from you?I dont care about bonding, watching tv together, cuddling.
I just want you to fuck my brains out. sigh.
lol who's the "you" - maybe direct that at a guy next time you see one 🙂
Posted by Nala13
Yes it is too much to ask unless you are asking a prostitute. If so, Im pretty sure your wants can be accommodated if the price is right.She's a chick not a dude 😛
Posted by incandescentcancer
Let me hear a huzzah for stereotypes!click to expand
You do realize that dudes can be prostitutes—
Talk about stereotypes.
^^You know and I know that Nala thought PB was a dude. Why the attempt at manipulation....
Posted by incandescentcancer
^^You know and I know that Nala thought PB was a dude. Why the attempt at manipulation....
What do you mean?
I don't see in her post where Nala is gender specific?
Seduce him howwwww!! Ive tried but when I come over he just wants to sit in front of the TV and joke around with his roommate... And then I go to bed and he doesnt wanna give me any til the AM!!!!!!!!! I dont hate morning sex I just prefer it as a continuation of PM sex LOL
Last time I put on a sexy black lace top + lace booty shorts and he was too tired for sex. Hes only 30 yrs old and we used to have sex atleast twice before going to bed and then twice again in the AM if he had to work, and then all day if he didnt lol
Posted by Jynja
Awww Peanut butter, you do know Cancers can be kinna kinky, yeah? *runs and hides*
Yes I know. My crabs super kinky, im not complaining about that at all... But how can I bring it to the surface more often?
The whole seduction thing is awkward for me especially after I got shot down last time :C
Hey PB, Don't take getting shot down personally, it's not you it's a mood thing I think. Try blindfolding him and playing with his senses. A few drops of wax from a scented candle or use an ice cube - or both. You can try using food or scented oils and different kinds of touch in different places and see where that gets you 😉
Posted by Peanutbutter
Last time I put on a sexy black lace top + lace booty shorts and he was too tired for sex. Hes only 30 yrs old and we used to have sex atleast twice before going to bed and then twice again in the AM if he had to work, and then all day if he didnt lol
Damn...maybe he's losing interest.
How about simply telling him what your needs are directly...
Posted by Peanutbutter
Last time I put on a sexy black lace top + lace booty shorts and he was too tired for sex. Hes only 30 yrs old and we used to have sex atleast twice before going to bed and then twice again in the AM if he had to work, and then all day if he didnt lolDamn...maybe he's losing interest.
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Maybe this^. What's his sign? Talk to him about it & what your needs and wants are, not in bed either. Talk about during the day.
^^I know right, it never ceases to amaze me. People just won't talk to eachother honestly.
Posted by Jynja
Awww Peanut butter, you do know Cancers can be kinna kinky, yeah? *runs and hides*Yes I know. My crabs super kinky, im not complaining about that at all... But how can I bring it to the surface more often?
The whole seduction thing is awkward for me especially after I got shot down last time :C
do it slowly... communicate first.. see what he likes.. and go from there. 🙂
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yeah, Ive seen this side of him Im just being selfish and want more and more sex everytime... he has a pretty physical job and is tired most nights and isnt revved up til the AM.. LOL. im guess what im trying to find out is how to get him untired at night hahaha. im a horrible gf... blah
Posted by Peanutbutter
Last time I put on a sexy black lace top + lace booty shorts and he was too tired for sex. Hes only 30 yrs old and we used to have sex atleast twice before going to bed and then twice again in the AM if he had to work, and then all day if he didnt lolDamn...maybe he's losing interest.
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Nah, hes crazy about me. I have seen him for two days and hes already bitched my ear off about that being way too long. He also just messaged me saying "I ♥ you" which Im not sure how to reply to that yikes.
Posted by virgodreamz
Hey PB, Don't take getting shot down personally, it's not you it's a mood thing I think. Try blindfolding him and playing with his senses. A few drops of wax from a scented candle or use an ice cube - or both. You can try using food or scented oils and different kinds of touch in different places and see where that gets you 😉
Yes, thank you! 🙂
Posted by incandescentcancer
How about simply telling him what your needs are directly...
yeah, plan A is talking bout this when I see him Wed night after work. but heres how I see this goin:
Me: I want more sex
Him: Im tired after work
Me: Pout.
I cant be a bitch n b like screw your tiredness lol.
Maybe hes getting comfortable... so what if we decide to commit? Am I gunna have to deal with only having sex once or twice a day!? X___x And then itll go down to what once or twice every other day?!?!?
Thats a scary thought.
Posted by xxnightbynight
key word: GOOD SEX.😉
We have tons of it, Im just insatiable. I love having sex with this man and hes said the love we make is the best hes ever had too. I seriously cant get enough and I fear that itll prove to be a problem later on.. What if I become demanding or addicted to sex? What if i already am!!!!!! :O Waa.
Omg... maybe he is losing interest. Fuck. and hes just being xtra nice to overcompensate for his guilty conscious!!!!1
besides being insane you mean?
Posted by PotHeadVirgo22
@ peanut butterCome back to the Earth Side.😉
Lol, man you know I love my Earthlings... But there is nothing like a good sensual/sensitive water sign...
What earth lacks in clingyness water makes up for hahaha
Virgo influenced people (planetary influences anyway) are hard to please indeed.
Posted by incandescentcancer
How about simply telling him what your needs are directly...yeah, plan A is talking bout this when I see him Wed night after work. but heres how I see this goin:
Me: I want more sex
Him: Im tired after work
Me: Pout.I cant be a bitch n b like screw your tiredness lol.
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Yah, that conversation would go that way because it's probably the worst way to do it.
LOL! I actually have a female virgo friend who talks a lot like you do. She's absolutely nuts but we are inseparable in many ways. 🙂
Pull my hair...
I know how you feel, Peanut! But you know what has worked for me? Talk SAP. Sappy sappy sap sap. It's like he doesnt want to do it when its obvious but just on a whim, especially when we talk about the future. I think emotions turn him on. Another thing is when he's watching tv, snuggle up..start talking and look into his eyes and just make out...it will lead to sex. From what ive observed, he wants it if he thinks it was his idea, lol...try it and lemme know, maybe you'll discover something else.
Posted by Peanutbutter
Virgo influenced people (planetary influences anyway) are hard to please indeed.So I'm guessing your hard to please?
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Virgo honesty makes me laugh unless its directed toward me 🙂
Posted by Peanutbutter
Last time I put on a sexy black lace top + lace booty shorts and he was too tired for sex. Hes only 30 yrs old and we used to have sex atleast twice before going to bed and then twice again in the AM if he had to work, and then all day if he didnt lolDamn...maybe he's losing interest.
Nah, hes crazy about me. I have seen him for two days and hes already bitched my ear off about that being way too long. He also just messaged me saying "I — you" which Im not sure how to reply to that yikes.
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Yeah...mmkay. He should've been crazy about that lingerie you had on. To hell with being tired.
Posted by incandescentcancer
^^You know and I know that Nala thought PB was a dude. Why the attempt at manipulation....What do you mean?
I don't see in her post where Nala is gender specific?click to expand
Thanks Lunar. I started to defend myself but realized I just didn't care that much.
Glad to know you had my back.
If I am tired, I am tired. If I pressurized a girl every night when she didn't want to, it would be considered domestic abuse, doesn't the same thing apply to men? It can't all be me, me, me in a relationship.
State your needs to the guy and he will find a way to make you happy, all this other duplicitous stuff will not get you guys anywhere with a Cancer man. He will see it for what it is and think it's pathetic and desperate. This is the Cancer male view.
Posted by incandescentcancer
If I am tired, I am tired. If I pressurized a girl every night when she didn't want to, it would be considered domestic abuse, doesn't the same thing apply to men? It can't all be me, me, me in a relationship.State your needs to the guy and he will find a way to make you happy, all this other duplicitous stuff will not get you guys anywhere with a Cancer man. He will see it for what it is and think it's pathetic and desperate. This is the Cancer male view.
Stop making sense. I still stand by what I said about drugging him up.
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Alright, I like the chloroform idea. Creating dream dates since 1847.
Posted by incandescentcancer
How about simply telling him what your needs are directly...yeah, plan A is talking bout this when I see him Wed night after work. but heres how I see this goin:
Me: I want more sex
Him: Im tired after work
Me: Pout.I cant be a bitch n b like screw your tiredness lol.
Yah, that conversation would go that way because it's probably the worst way to do it.
LOL! I actually have a female virgo friend who talks a lot like you do. She's absolutely nuts but we are inseparable in many ways. 🙂
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Dont I get any points for being self aware though? I realize I lack tact lol tis why I need your help Cancer O__o...
Posted by Peanutbutter
Virgo influenced people (planetary influences anyway) are hard to please indeed.So I'm guessing your hard to please?
Virgo honesty makes me laugh unless its directed toward me 🙂
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Haha yeah... we can b a bit too frank at times and its always easier to laugh at others than yourself I guess.. ha. Though, I do find myself laughable most days... 🙂 but I'm just a snazzy spazzy nerd
Ok, where can I get roofies n chloroform? Hahahahaha.
RT, mo you're right he didn't give me any til he wanted to, which was the AM but I was so mad at him for rejecting my lingerie bravado the night b4 that I wasn't in the mood so I sent him on his way all randy n all.... Maybe he is tired of me, I was thinking it was this aswell... Tis why Ive been doin my thing n haven't seen him for 4 days now cus I get the feeling he will get bored of seeing me everyday... He's been begging me to see him but I've just been busy.... :C Idk what to do to get his interest back or if I even want to... I'm not into keeping men who don't want to be kept, you know?
Dunno what to do now... :/
Dont I get any points for being self aware though? I realize I lack tact lol tis why I need your help Cancer O__o...
Dude, there is a simple way to go about this. Tell him you understand he is very busy and this makes him tired. However this also makes you feel unwanted quite often and for you the way to now this is a very physical and emotional requirement. Tell him that sex is the way through which you feel wanted and needed by him, it's not so much about the physical act itself but how it brings the two of you close together. Then tell him that you have given it a lot of thought and you don't want to pressurize him knowing he is tired and would love to come up with a solution together with him. Once he hears this he will retreat a bit to give it a think and analyze then he will do what needs to be done. If he doesn't do anything then you have your answer whether he is still into you or not. There you go 😉
Posted by Peanutbutter
Ok, where can I get roofies n chloroform? Hahahahaha.RT, mo you're right he didn't give me any til he wanted to, which was the AM but I was so mad at him for rejecting my lingerie bravado the night b4 that I wasn't in the mood so I sent him on his way all randy n all.... Maybe he is tired of me, I was thinking it was this aswell... Tis why Ive been doin my thing n haven't seen him for 4 days now cus I get the feeling he will get bored of seeing me everyday... He's been begging me to see him but I've just been busy.... :C Idk what to do to get his interest back or if I even want to... I'm not into keeping men who don't want to be kept, you know?
Dunno what to do now... :/
For the love of god, don't fuck it up by overanalyzing and leaping to incorrect conclusions. Communicate honestly and give it a chance like I suggested in my previous post.
Lol, you're right ^... Im over at his place now, decided I missed him n all the begging was enough so I cMs over ans guess what?
Instant boner! Lmfao :'D
I've learned time apart is good n put it into practice. Thanks for the advice IC, I'll def put it into practice if needed. I suck at expressing my feelings and needs out in a way that's neutral... Thanks so much again ^___^
I came* over and*
Damn cellphones these days..
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Is that too much to ask from you?
I dont care about bonding, watching tv together, cuddling.
I just want you to fuck my brains out. sigh.