Do you watch 'em?

Dear Cancers, do you watch your date eat and form opinions? Share your thoughts 😛

I'm not a cancer...obviously lol
but my friend told me that I eat slowly...like I take a bite and put my food down and chew. He asked why I did it...idk why I just eat lol.

Then when we went out to eat...I made sure I told the waitress what exactly I wanted and how...and he got all critical about it...saying why dont you just eat it the way it comes, why all the extra. I think he was embarrassed!? Its not like I was rude...she asked and I told her lol.

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
I don't care if you eat food off of floor but PLEASE don't be a picky eater, it'll hurt my soul!!

It annoys me more when I go out on a date and every time women eat only salads or have a soup. The only girl who wasn't like that was my cancer ex, now she was a fine girl who knew how to enjoy good food. The worst is when women tell me I am not a finnicky eater and then follow it up by ordering a soup. WTF!

Posted by LostinmyMind11

Then when we went out to eat...I made sure I told the waitress what exactly I wanted and how...and he got all critical about it...saying why dont you just eat it the way it comes, why all the extra. I think he was embarrassed!? Its not like I was rude...she asked and I told her lol.

hahahaha....we would get along great. I am exactly the same way, I like my food a certain way and I prefer to order precisely. I am very particularly for example that my steak is done medium rare. I am not overbearing at restaurants but I am very precise about the food I eat. 😛

Posted by Poisson
I'm more curious as to why would you watch them? I'd expect this from a nit-picky Virgo, but not from the crabs...

If they chew like a cow... yeah, you can't help but notice.

How someone eats and what they eat tells me a great deal about them. I can't help myself, I always note what my dates eat and how they go about it 😛

well i wish my cancerian would watch me eat to follow my example of how to eat with your mouth closed and without making a whole load of chomping noises. it's kinda gross. i told him that perhaps i should serve him dinner in a nosebag

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Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by Poisson
I'm more curious as to why would you watch them? I'd expect this from a nit-picky Virgo, but not from the crabs...

If they chew like a cow... yeah, you can't help but notice.

How someone eats and what they eat tells me a great deal about them. I can't help myself, I always note what my dates eat and how they go about it 😛

hahaha... So would you be annoyed if she ordered the steak and lobster and ate only a third of it? "Woman, we're splitting the bill!"

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Oh hell no, that's not bill splitting time, that's doggy bag time and she is going to carry out of the restaurant. I really don't like people who waste unless there is a very very valid excuse.

As long as they have proper table manners and it's not over the top pigishness I don't really care.
I would rather watch 'em cook. 😉

Posted by LunarMaiden
As long as they have proper table manners and it's not over the top pigishness I don't really care.
I would rather watch 'em cook. 😉

But don't you watch'em to get an idea about their personality? How carefully they eat or how much they savour their food etc.

Claro, no malice involved here. It's more to get to know someone's personality rather than judging them. Personally, I like ladies who love food. 🙂

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Posted by LunarMaiden
As long as they have proper table manners and it's not over the top pigishness I don't really care.
I would rather watch 'em cook. 😉

But don't you watch'em to get an idea about their personality? How carefully they eat or how much they savor their food etc.

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In certain instances I do but that's not the best way to get to know someone's personality.
The best way to get an idea of someone's personality is by spending time with them.
Although I am picky, I'm not a nit picker.
People can get nervous and make mistakes.
I watch how he treats me, how he communicates with me. I watch how he treats other people.
I even watch him when he thinks no one is looking. Very important.

Nose digging while driving is a total turn off.
I once went out on a date with a Cap and while we were driving back he sneezed and got mucous all over his hand and I was DONE! I thought he did it on purpose.

If the tip is too small or nonexistent, I'm done. Can't stand cheap asses.
And if he rushes through the meal like he's in a hurry to catch a bus that's a turn off.
Eating with hands, unless it's Ethiopian, is out of the question.
Wiping knife and fork on your shirt is an absolute no no.
BLOWING NOSE at the table. Ack!

Posted by incandescentcancer
Claro, no malice involved here. It's more to get to know someone's personality rather than judging them. Personally, I like ladies who love food. 🙂

But isn't it more of a process of elimination you are talking about?

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Posted by incandescentcancer
Claro, no malice involved here. It's more to get to know someone's personality rather than judging them. Personally, I like ladies who love food. 🙂

But isn't it more of a process of elimination you are talking about?

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Au contraire, it's actually to know someone better without them having to spell out everything.

For what it's worth, have you ladies considered the possibility that some people cannot breathe when they eat?
They may have physical problems like obstructed nasal passages.
Might politely ask them why they eat with their mouth open.

Just suggesting that it might not be a bad idea to not be so quick to judge others.

do what you will, though.

I understand the soup and salad thing. Most girls that I know think its polite to order something that wont break a guys pocket on the first date or so. They also dont want to give you the impression that...."wow she eats more than I do."

Just the girls that I know though....

I think I owe you guys an explanation, I didn't really intend for this thread to go down this route. It's not so much about forming iron clad opinions about someone based on what they eat, how much they eat etc. It's more about noticing the subtle aspects like whether they eat very carefully, do they play around with their food indicating nervousness etc. This I do think gives you some interesting insights. Some people are very particular about eating certain things or not eating them, others like food to be in a certain way, some can't stop complaining about their food. All this I think gives you a sort of window into their personality about how they might behave under certain circumstances.

For example, some people ask you whether what you ordered is good and satisfactory and others simply don't. It reflects to a certain extent on how they perceive someone else's comfort or otherwise. Hope this is clearer.

You can totally ignore inconsequential things like how fast they eat etc. It wasn't really the purpose of this thread. I am focusing more on the subtle and certain mannerisms.

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Posted by incandescentcancer
Claro, no malice involved here. It's more to get to know someone's personality rather than judging them. Personally, I like ladies who love food. 🙂

Ok. I love food and I have good manners but food and eating are intimate things to me. Am I the only one who thinks this?

I could never cook for someone very early on either, it would be like giving away a piece of myself.

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This I understand. I like to cook too on occasions when I am not too lazy and I invite only special ladies home and offer to cook. Cooking for someone is undoubtedly an important step and is not a free for all. 🙂

Posted by Poisson
I don't watch how they eat, but I do pay attention to what they eat... I think you can tell how adventurous a person is by what they are willing to try.

I've never ordered a salad on a date. Hell, if you're paying then I'll get something good! omnomnomnoms.

agreed on the adventurous part.

Hells yeah, you better be doing somethin' real nice post dinner if I got to pay all the time 😉

Posted by coldwater
I understand the soup and salad thing. Most girls that I know think its polite to order something that wont break a guys pocket on the first date or so. They also dont want to give you the impression that...."wow she eats more than I do."

Just the girls that I know though....

That's an interesting perspective. I didn't think of it that way, my invitations are honest so if I offer to buy a girl dinner I keep my budget fairly flexible. And usually if I offer to buy dinner I pick the restaurant depending on the girl so I know how far I am willing to go for that particular girl. So I don't really worry about what she orders or how much she eats.

Usually girls who eat a lot tend to have large appetites in other things as well if you catch my drift 😛

Posted by crabcakesandmayo
I don't care if you eat food off of floor but PLEASE don't be a picky eater, it'll hurt my soul!!

lol I like this one...food is a big part of me because I love to cook. I like to be adventurous and try new things. If somebody is too picky that would drive me crazy!

Recently a guy took me to a food court at the mall for a first date...lol He turned out to be a nice guy but not for me.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11
I'm not a cancer...obviously lol
but my friend told me that I eat slowly...like I take a bite and put my food down and chew. He asked why I did it...idk why I just eat lol.

Then when we went out to eat...I made sure I told the waitress what exactly I wanted and how...and he got all critical about it...saying why dont you just eat it the way it comes, why all the extra. I think he was embarrassed!? Its not like I was rude...she asked and I told her lol.

I can relate to your friend. Because he was afraid they servers in the back is going to spit in your food and put a pube in it or something for being picky. LOL.But I think that's only if you asked in a rude manner. I've been with people like that and feared eating what I ordered...

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Well you can be nice to the servers and they can still spit in your food etc. I'm never rude to servers...I cant imagine what they go thru everyday :/

Question for Cancer women, are you thrilled if your date takes you to this little hidden jewel of a restaurant or cafe (not a fancy or famous place but cozy and special for something) which he knows in particular? I know this might be a more European concept but could also be extended to a city like New York, so just curious. How do you react to that? I have done this many times with women here and there is a huge sense of appeal to them. I wonder how Cancer women in particular react to this.

Why are men so silly?
Soup and salad is a meal!!!

Posted by Claro de Luna
I feel like I have to bring up this soup and salad issue you guys seem to have. 2 Cancerian's that have mentioned this now as bommyknocker said something very similar not so long ago.

If I were to go out for a meal with a guy, there might be a chance I would order soup or salad, but the reason wouldn't be because I felt awkward ordering anything else like coldwater mentioned some of her friends admitted. Nor would I be self conscious about my weight or what my date thinks about how much and what I'm eating.
If there is a certain soup on the menu that looks different and I want to try the flavours I would order it. Also, I happen to really like salads, so I will order one if that's I am in the mood for.

But here it seems I might be judged going off what you (incandescent) and bommy said. If I didn't explain my order would you think something negative of my ordering a soup or salad? Be honest. 🙂

I wish people would just eat and enjoy themselves instead of watching where I place my fork.

Posted by Claro de Luna

If there is a certain soup on the menu that looks different and I want to try the flavours I would order it. Also, I happen to really like salads, so I will order one if that's I am in the mood for.

But here it seems I might be judged going off what you (incandescent) and bommy said. If I didn't explain my order would you think something negative of my ordering a soup or salad? Be honest. 🙂

No that's reasonable to try something because it's new or different. However, If every time we went out it was always a soup or salad it would just feel abnormal and I would feel it's a bit pretentious.

Posted by LunarMaiden
Why are men so silly?
Soup and salad is a meal!!!

Soup AND salad is a meal, in fact I would do that too if as Claro mentioned it's different or new. Soup OR salad is not really a meal unless it's summer time lunch.

oh btw, how do you guys feel about a guy ordering a salad?

Hmmmm...

Got to have some meat and potatoes somewhere...sometimes. If he ordered an occassioanl salad thats ok, but all the time.....hmmmm. I love grabbing my man and he feels like a man to me. Plus...how can you give a good bear hug eating salads?

Posted by Poisson
I don't know. If I take him home is he going to go through my underwear drawer and try my panties on?
Srsly, not a big deal. unless, it's the only thing he has eaten all day. Then he and I can share dieting tips...

Hmmmm interesting, eating meat is equated to masculinity. I eat meat but I just find it funny how socio-cultural norms work in these things. In the summer I do eat only salads the whole day on occasions, we can share dieting tips 😛

Posted by coldwater
Hmmmm...

Got to have some meat and potatoes somewhere...sometimes. If he ordered an occassioanl salad thats ok, but all the time.....hmmmm. I love grabbing my man and he feels like a man to me. Plus...how can you give a good bear hug eating salads?

Interesting, kinda similar to what aurora said about thin men. How much difference two continents can make, in Europe being thin is a virtue.

Thanks alot... Now every time I eat around my cancer im gunna b self conscious!!!!! Lol.

Not really..

But I can add that the pair that loves eating good food together, stays together 😛! hehe. Im not a shy eater, not the type to follow "dating rules" and order a salad and something that barely fills me up. I do eat slowly though, I just do for some reason...

Hes never said anything about the way I eat, Ive just noticed hes a quick eater. He gobbles his food down quickly when hes enjoying it lol. Its quite interesting to observe him when hes eating.. He loves his food.

Posted by incandescentcancer

Posted by coldwater
I understand the soup and salad thing. Most girls that I know think its polite to order something that wont break a guys pocket on the first date or so. They also dont want to give you the impression that...."wow she eats more than I do."

Just the girls that I know though....

That's an interesting perspective. I didn't think of it that way, my invitations are honest so if I offer to buy a girl dinner I keep my budget fairly flexible. And usually if I offer to buy dinner I pick the restaurant depending on the girl so I know how far I am willing to go for that particular girl. So I don't really worry about what she orders or how much she eats.

Usually girls who eat a lot tend to have large appetites in other things as well if you catch my drift 😛

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If someone asks you out and youre being "nice" by not filling yourself up with food, which is the purpose of-- you know-- going out to eat, then dont even bother going out! lol.

And leave it to a Cancer male to make eating feel so kinky hahahah.

Claro, what did you post? 😛

^^LOL! Now I am just so curious!

Posted by crabcakesandmayo

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Posted by incandescentcancer
Question for Cancer women, are you thrilled if your date takes you to this little hidden jewel of a restaurant or cafe (not a fancy or famous place but cozy and special for something) which he knows in particular? I know this might be a more European concept but could also be extended to a city like New York, so just curious. How do you react to that? I have done this many times with women here and there is a huge sense of appeal to them. I wonder how Cancer women in particular react to this.

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!! *jumps up and down*

Also, I'm European.

Where in europe are you from, crabcakesandmayo? 🙂

Stockholm, Sveeeeden

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Beautiful town! Spent a new year there. I have been to kiruna too to see the northern lights (albeit unsuccessfully)!

Posted by Poisson

Posted by LunarMaiden
Why are men so silly?
Soup and salad is a meal!!!

a head of lettuce is not a meal!

I think what incandescentcancer is trying to figure out if his date is good in a the sack by how and what she eats....

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You haven't eaten a salad before?
Romaine lettuce; with chicken or salmon, tomatoes, bell peppers, eggs, croutons, onions, etc
Then eating soup can be very filling.

It's been obvious from the first post that IC wants to know if a woman who scarfs a hardy meal and how she scarfs it; will suck chrome off a 1957 Buick.

I knew you girls would somehow turns this on me. I saw it coming...😛

1957 Buick hey....did you try that LM? 😉

This is a tough question to answer in logical terms. I just have a sense for it, I feel that some women are just going to be evry good in bed and usually (8/10 times) I am right. There is just this comfortable air around them and very little fear of their own sexuality, this is a very good indication atleast for me. There isn't more logical or practical stuff I can add to it. Generally they are experienced women, willing to try and are very comfortable with themselves.

I can point out some obviously stuff though:

1) Men like hot women and from my experience a lot of so-called hot women tend to be very bad in bed. This is simply because they are used to getting things their way without having to try too hard, so they don't care if they please you or not. I am therefore usually cautious about "hot" women.

2) If a girl tells me she has only ever had one or two men in her life I am done. she is inexperienced and I am not running a sex-ed school. a lot of guys would fall for these girls.

3) Women who have a heightened sense of taboo about several sexual acts, again struck off my list since they are not open to experiences.

I have had very few bad experiences because I just have well developed sense about women.

slaughtered again incandescent 🙂

Posted by Poisson
I have to admit. For me it's a crapshoot. I can't tell for shit. But this much I know: Any man who brags they're a stallion in bed are the ones who are usually horrible at it.

Hm. Do they volunteer this information or do you ask?

Yeah bragging is usually a sign of inadequacy.

I just let the conversation move in that direction, I don't ask any pointed question.

Food is big deal for me, possibly more than sex. If she doesn't enjoy food the way I do, its a major flag for me. I would never order soup and salad in a restaurant, which is why I wouldn't want to date someone who would order soup and salad. I can guarantee her another date if she orders for herself something that I would've ordered to myself.

Posted by incandescentcancer
Question for Cancer women, are you thrilled if your date takes you to this little hidden jewel of a restaurant or cafe (not a fancy or famous place but cozy and special for something) which he knows in particular? I know this might be a more European concept but could also be extended to a city like New York, so just curious. How do you react to that? I have done this many times with women here and there is a huge sense of appeal to them. I wonder how Cancer women in particular react to this.

I love it.
I especially enjoy a stroll after supper.
Lately I haven't been to fond of restaurants I don't go that often.

Posted by BommyKnocker
Food is big deal for me, possibly more than sex. If she doesn't enjoy food the way I do, its a major flag for me. I would never order soup and salad in a restaurant, which is why I wouldn't want to date someone who would order soup and salad. I can guarantee her another date if she orders for herself something that I would've ordered to myself.

+1
soup and salad soo boring! healthy but boring.

I think you guys are over thinking this.
Just worry about what's on your plate and enjoy the meal.

YAY!!! Another soup lover. I love butternut squash soup. Absolute Heaven.

I am going to cook a steak, a two finger salute to all you soup lovers 😛

Posted by incandescentcancer
I am going to cook a steak, a two finger salute to all you soup lovers 😛

I'm gonna fight you for that stead dude.
And eat it with my soup. 😛

I will cut it up and put it in my salad.

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Posted by incandescentcancer
I am going to cook a steak, a two finger salute to all you soup lovers 😛

I'm gonna fight you for that stead dude.
And eat it with my soup. 😛

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