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Letting go seems so difficult
I think Taurus particularly do this to Cancer
The connection is so strong at the time I have found and feels so different to other signs it's really hard to not obsess about when for whatever reason it has served its purpose
Taurus men just seem better than many men of other signs I think in relation to dating at least
The connection is so strong at the time I have found and feels so different to other signs it's really hard to not obsess about when for whatever reason it has served its purpose
Taurus men just seem better than many men of other signs I think in relation to dating at least
Did I give you advice last time too?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Hmmm, you didn't. You just asked me what kind of advice do I want. Hahha, I guess there's no cure for this obsessive thoughts of mine -_-;;.
Did I give you advice last time too?
I get obsessed thoughts too. I really meant that what kind of advice to what situations was presented when I asked you. I don't remember you replying so guess I was wondering how to give advice to which problem you have or had.
Posted by soundsunsceneHmmm, I don't think he did anything wrong. Its just me that is being so obsessive of him. I did have a strong connection with him. At times I felt like he understood me like nobody else and we were able to connect on such a deep level too. And the fact that he is soo patient with me no matter how many tantrum I throw at him, but I hurt him too much and can't do that anymore. Thats why made the decision to let him go several days ago. Unfortunately, I still think about him. Lol.
I think Taurus particularly do this to Cancer
The connection is so strong at the time I have found and feels so different to other signs it's really hard to not obsess about when for whatever reason it has served its purpose
Taurus men just seem better than many men of other signs I think in relation to dating at least
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Oh I see what you mean now. Truly I don't know how to explain it, but I will give you a long example and a little bit of background so bear with me.
I get obsessed thoughts too. I really meant that what kind of advice to what situations was presented when I asked you. I don't remember you replying so guess I was wondering how to give advice to which problem you have or had.
In the past, I only consider him as a friend and don't see a future with him. Now over time, I developed feelings for him. Just this past year, I came to realize I like him a lot and see him as a potential lover because he has proven himself to be a great guy that exhibit the trait I desire. Now the thing is, ever since I started liking him as more than just friends, my ways of thinking changed and so does my behavior towards him. I am the type that is cautious and want to make sure that the person is someone that I can love the rest of my life. Now the thing is, I had two short term relationship. None of them were that long to where I would develop deep feelings for them and being able to exbibit such behavior like clinginess, neediness, obsession, and possession. (I know that sound crazy -_-;; but bear with me).
Anyway, being that I see him as someone that I could be in a long term relationship with, I became somebody would call a "crazy cancer". I would get sooo jealous of him talking to another girl even if its a platonic friend. I would be relying on him for the littlest thing and wanting his attention like a little girl. I wouldn't flat out say "hey I want to talk to you more," but in my mind I would be wondering to myself and being impatient and think when is he going to text me back. If he text me a day or two later I would get frustrated. I don't tell him these stuff, but on the inside, it drives me insane. Ever little things he said or don't said, made me sensitive. Like one time he mentioned his ex briefly that is relevant to one of our conversation and I got pissed, even though I shouldn't be. If he hangs out with his buddy or traveling somewhere, I would want him to be with me instead. And its driving me insane that I want to have him all to myself (I know so selfish, right).
Now onto the obsessive thoughts...so ever since I like him a lot, I keep on thinking about a future with him. In addition negative thoughts also surface and I would think of scenarios where he cheat on me with another girl. Keep in mind, I have not been cheated on and is very wary if a guy shows sign he might have potential to cheat. In this case, he has a lot of female friends and is still talking to his ex fwb who currently is in a relationship with someone else. These little things keeps making me run into scenarios where he might cheat on me with one of these ladies. Now the down side to this is that, where ever some thing evoke memories of him, I think about him again. It doesn't matter where I am at or what I am doing, as long as it provoke my emotion, I would think about him again. Like the other day, I was out having fun with my friends and one of my friend mentioned a dish she cook and somehow I thought of the time me and him ate at this restuarant and how good the dish was.
Every so often stuff like that would happen and its driving me insane. For one, I realize that the traits I exhibit currently, obsession, possession, clinginess, and neediness is not good for me and him. Because of these behavior I tried to distance myself from him and shut him out. In addition, with many events that happened previously in my life, I shut him out.
Like I truly, I don't want to causw him anymore harm thats why I made that decision to him go, but those thoughts resurface again and again.
P.s we are not in a relationship or anything, we are just friend and I shouldn't behave like that, but I did. *sigh* it suck to like him so much.
Damn breathe girl. I get it probably been there myself. When this happens detach and evaluate things and do your own thing, and minimize the obsession it's deadly. Will cause awhole bunch of mishaps and next thing is they don't want that with you because it's too much for a person to get used to that behavior.
Especially free flow types of guys. It's restrictive. There will be one guy who will embrace those clingy, nurturing sides but also give space and trust. Trust when I say talk to him ask him if he wants to hang out and see if the feelings mutual.
Especially free flow types of guys. It's restrictive. There will be one guy who will embrace those clingy, nurturing sides but also give space and trust. Trust when I say talk to him ask him if he wants to hang out and see if the feelings mutual.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Couple days ago I was being quite emotional and decides to let him go because I didn't want to overwhelm him. I am unsure if the decision I make is the right one...but yeah you are right, it might be best so that he wouldn't be too overpowered by my emotions. Looks like I will have to practice living life without him and see how it goes from there even though it hurts a lot T-T...*sigh* I hate these emotions. Looks like no more boys for me for awhile until I am stable. Thanks for your kind advice, I truly appreciate that.
Damn breathe girl. I get it probably been there myself. When this happens detach and evaluate things and do your own thing, and minimize the obsession it's deadly. Will cause awhole bunch of mishaps and next thing is they don't want that with you because it's too much for a person to get used to that behavior.
Especially free flow types of guys. It's restrictive. There will be one guy who will embrace those clingy, nurturing sides but also give space and trust. Trust when I say talk to him ask him if he wants to hang out and see if the feelings mutual.
Posted by dolluxeUnfortunately no. If it is, it would be so much easier to let him go.
Is this long distance?
Posted by gensaddictionThanks, I hated this feeling inside of me. I can't control or surpress that emotion. He is the first guy I felt this way towards. For other guy, I got over them easily since my relationship with them wasn't long enough for me to develop deep feelings. Besides, I didn't befriend with them long and simply dated them just for the heck of it and when we broke it wasn't anything emotional.
You must feel horrible. I can relate. I'm currently going through the same thing. But think back to someone else you had similar feelings for, and how you got over them eventually by either meeting someone else who was amazing or simply realizing why the relationship couldn't be what you wanted it to be.
But with this guy friend we didn't even date and yet I felt this way toward him.
Thsnks for your advice, I will have to keep in mind and think of a thousand reason why this relationship wouldn't be good and think of all thr negative traits about him so I can try to forget him easily.
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