Reading the Cancer man threads is terrifying me! hahaha

I just got exclusive with a Cancer man a few weeks ago. He was very slow to open up, still seems very guarded emotionally but is so sweet and affectionate. I keep reading all these terrible things about Cancers being cheaters, selfish, etc. its making me nervous!!! haha Is this all true?! How does this mans chart look!?

Sun Cancer 26°45'48 in house 9 direct

Moon Capricorn 3°01'22 in house 2 direct

Mercury Leo 2°51'17 in house 9 retrograde

Venus Virgo 9°06'20 in house 10 direct

Mars Capricorn 14°57'57 in house 3 retrograde

Jupiter Pisces 22°46'37 in house 5 retrograde

Saturn Sagittarius 3°20'04 end of house 1 retrograde

Uranus Sagittarius 18°58'00 in house 2 retrograde

Neptune Capricorn 3°49'16 in house 2 retrograde

Pluto Scorpio 4°32'33 end of house 12 stationary 🍹

True Node Aries 25°22'50 in house 6

no usually cancer men and libra women make a great pair, I personally know two long marriages of the combination. no they're not liars or cheaters more than Librans so it tackles that I guess lol but Capricorn moon might add some caution to his chart

Posted by heliumfiasco
I keep reading all these terrible things about Cancers being cheaters, selfish, etc. its making me nervous!!! haha Is this all true?! \

yup we are the devil. Says so in our sun sign

Its just odd to me. I like to read up on all signs, and I do realize Sun signs are very minimal in how someone is overall. There is just an abundance of negative first hand accounts on here. And, I thought the Scorpio board was bad for those poor boys.... This is brutal! 🙂

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Posted by heliumfiasco
I keep reading all these terrible things about Cancers being cheaters, selfish, etc. its making me nervous!!! haha Is this all true?! \

yup we are the devil. Says so in our sun sign

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We arent complete unless we aren't breaking hearts and getting emotional over petty things. Part sarcasm, might be partly true tbh lmo

Nah but just see if he is serious, if he flip flops and cant keep his word, boot him like a ball through goal

Nah but just see if he is serious, if he flip flops and cant keep his word, boot him like a ball through goal

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He hasn't been hot and cold at all! He was unsure at first if he was ready for a relationship, he said he had been badly hurt a year ago and he had massive walls up. However, from our first date he continuously kept in contact, has kept plans, been honest and after two months forgot about his walls and asked to be exclusive. I feel insecure in general at times in relationships because of my own past. I'm actively working on that, but I read these threads and I was like "OHHHH NOOOO!" haha

Posted by heliumfiasco
He hasn't been hot and cold at all! He was unsure at first if he was ready for a relationship, he said he had been badly hurt a year ago and he had massive walls up. However, from our first date he continuously kept in contact, has kept plans, been honest and after two months forgot about his walls and asked to be exclusive. I feel insecure in general at times in relationships because of my own past. I'm actively working on that, but I read these threads and I was like "OHHHH NOOOO!" haha

It sounds like he is an ok guy who has been hurt.

If he has been as you say, no problem s.

As far as the horror threads....more often than not they're more a reflection on the OP rather than the guy in question.

The only advice I would give is keep on keeping on, and don't let your own insecurities get the best of you-that's where a lot of women (and men) start to screw things up.

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Posted by heliumfiasco
He hasn't been hot and cold at all! He was unsure at first if he was ready for a relationship, he said he had been badly hurt a year ago and he had massive walls up. However, from our first date he continuously kept in contact, has kept plans, been honest and after two months forgot about his walls and asked to be exclusive. I feel insecure in general at times in relationships because of my own past. I'm actively working on that, but I read these threads and I was like "OHHHH NOOOO!" haha

It sounds like he is an ok guy who has been hurt.

If he has been as you say, no problem s.

As far as the horror threads....more often than not they're more a reflection on the OP rather than the guy in question.

The only advice I would give is keep on keeping on, and don't let your own insecurities get the best of you-that's where a lot of women (and men) start to screw things up.

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So true and excellent advice!

I think when people behave badly in relationships and hurt you - it is often down to certain characteristics.

Like fear of vulnerability

Insecurity

Defensiveness

Jealousy

Those characteristics create certain behaviours in a person - and those characteristics tend to be pretty rife in Cancer men.

I just broke up with my Cancer and he was the best person in the world, but also so insecure, so afraid of being vulnerable, so defensive and unable to take criticism in a healthy way, so jealous and no matter how much you like someone if they are coming from that mindset it can be really difficult.

You're in the first month, so don't get too comfortable. Crabs can be incredibly seductive and sweet in the first few months or if they don't like you that much. When they fall for you hard, if they have deep seated fears or insecurities they may surface and then things change.

Fear you will hurt them, jealousy of every guy who speaks to you, the belief they are not good enough and you are going to let them down.

Like with every guy of every sign how they behave depends a lot on life experiences, maturity and how evolved they are. Sooner or later though you are going to have to deal with a hurt and moody crab and that can be tough, so read up and remember he is a lot more fragile than he appears to be.

i'll be waiting for your follow up cancer man left me thread

🙂

Good luck!!

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Posted by heliumfiasco
He hasn't been hot and cold at all! He was unsure at first if he was ready for a relationship, he said he had been badly hurt a year ago and he had massive walls up. However, from our first date he continuously kept in contact, has kept plans, been honest and after two months forgot about his walls and asked to be exclusive. I feel insecure in general at times in relationships because of my own past. I'm actively working on that, but I read these threads and I was like "OHHHH NOOOO!" haha

It sounds like he is an ok guy who has been hurt.

If he has been as you say, no problem s.

As far as the horror threads....more often than not they're more a reflection on the OP rather than the guy in question.

The only advice I would give is keep on keeping on, and don't let your own insecurities get the best of you-that's where a lot of women (and men) start to screw things up.

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Im gonna have to respectfully disagree with that. Sometimes, there is simply NOTHING you can do...they are too scared and self absorbed and sabotage their own relationships....sucks but its true. he sounds pretty good so far, just keep your wits about you.

Posted by MondayMorning
I think when people behave badly in relationships and hurt you - it is often down to certain characteristics.

Like fear of vulnerability

Insecurity

Defensiveness

Jealousy

Those characteristics create certain behaviours in a person - and those characteristics tend to be pretty rife in Cancer men.

I just broke up with my Cancer and he was the best person in the world, but also so insecure, so afraid of being vulnerable, so defensive and unable to take criticism in a healthy way, so jealous and no matter how much you like someone if they are coming from that mindset it can be really difficult.

You're in the first month, so don't get too comfortable. Crabs can be incredibly seductive and sweet in the first few months or if they don't like you that much. When they fall for you hard, if they have deep seated fears or insecurities they may surface and then things change.

Fear you will hurt them, jealousy of every guy who speaks to you, the belief they are not good enough and you are going to let them down.

Like with every guy of every sign how they behave depends a lot on life experiences, maturity and how evolved they are. Sooner or later though you are going to have to deal with a hurt and moody crab and that can be tough, so read up and remember he is a lot more fragile than he appears to be.

This. For real.

I appreciate every ones insights so much. I've really tried my best to make him feel very secure and appreciated. Like gone above and beyond in that area. One, because I feel he should feel those things. Two, because I am aware of these tendency's. I do feel very sure that he does really like me. I was very concerned about the cheating threads I've read for my future and about them lying and what not! I wonder if us both having Venus in Virgo will make us critique the shit out of each other. haha I have Virgo in Mars and Venus. He has a Capricorn Mars though. Do lots of Earth placements help these mean have more stable and secure emotions?

Are you still with him?

haha. Yes, i've made it another day. He just actually called to ask me to go to dinner again with his mom and dad tomorrow. And to see if I wanted to go on a day trip with his family from California, that are flying in next weekend! So, I think he likes me for now. I told him I read some not nice things about Cancer men on here and he laughed at me 🙂

Us cancer men suck and are not masculine. Do not date us 🙂

END IT IMMEDIATELY!

All my best friends are Cancers (17 plus years), and my daughter. I love them.... Just never dated one. So far its been really amazing. No head games or push and pull. I was actually really surprised to read so much negativity. I did have a Scorpio friend who had a horrid experience with a Cancer man...he was a pathological liar and cheat... But that has more to do with mental health than Sun sign, i'm sure.