Cancerians are full of contradictions, what makes y'all tick? Inquiring (many might I add) minds would like to know.
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For me, I hate dating, it never works out for me I much prefer starting as friends first or at least acquaintances and then slow from there. It takes awhile to build a connection and that's what I need to even consider dating someone seriously. Also, because of this I've either had relationships last a few weeks or few years no in-between. Let me know if you have any questions or would like further explanations Š
Moonbutter, thanks for the response! Well my last "relationship" (started off as friends +++) was with a Cancer man, he drove me nuts, but I still love him. I'm asking for future reference, ya never know! 😉 And i'm wondering about specifics. Like i've read, you like your space, but still want to know that the other person is still thinking about you, y'all hide your emotions, yet need total honesty and openness in a relationship, you can fall in love fast, but want to take things slow—? Soooo confusing lol! What was it, that made you feel the stability to stay in a LTR?
Hmm yes space is important but it's really only for like a day and then back to normal ‰ I stayed with my ltr because I had mental and emotional connections with them. Once I have decided I want someone seriously I hold on because I enjoy viewing myself as "their woman and their my man" they were sensitive men( Geminis) yet very witty and talented which I admire. They flew under the radar as one was s co-worker and another was good friends with a roommate so it was like friends first but I grew attached and then that's it €
So daaaays away isn't normal? Would it be for a Cancer that feels insecure about the relationship, or doesn't want to become TOO attached (in fear of getting hurt)? Did y'all ever become bf/gf, or you just "were"? Sorry for so many questions lol!
I would say days away not normal...because with my bf I want him around even more if I'm feeling down. My ltr were boyfriends. The only time I've felt insecure at all was when I was in the relationship but even then not really. Spends on Venus and Mars I think too
Hmmm, well that sucks to hear. I do still live with my ex though, so I think that could definitely be a hindrance for any man. My "ex" works grave, I have my 2 daughters, so our schedules are definitely not synced. But that's probably me just making excuses for his actions.
Urgh ramparts, please help me lol! So what should I do? Just forget about him? And yes, I am driving myself insane.
Virgos are notorious for NEEDING to know, it's a curse I tell ya.
Lol SensitiveBlues, yet men are soooo good at hiding it if they are as well. I just have diarrhea of the mouth, what I think, I have to say, then I regret it after. 3 years? That sucks, i'm sorry. 😢
I just may need to do that, my mind and well being can't take much more of this. The saying is definitely true, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.
That it is, and he probably can sense it, which in turn makes me look very desperate. No bueno.
I did reach out to him again (you can viral slap me lol), he read my message, now what?
I did reach out to him again (you can viral slap me lol), he read my message, now what?
*e-slap*
Lol Moonbutter, I deserved that! I love too hard, that's my problem. I'm an all in kind of girl, love is not a game to me. I hate games.
WTF, 2 weeks, you're torturing me lmao! Ok, I NEED to do this, because obviously my past actions, are making me look like I belong in the nut house. I swear, I am not normally like this, I just haven't "dated" in so long, and my ex (fiance), who's a Taurus, never acted this way. But I guess he was not the norm, or Cancer men are just that puzzling.
Your advice is gold, thank you SO much! I'm gonna follow you so I can keep you updated. 🙂
Your advice is gold, thank you SO much! I'm gonna follow you so I can keep you updated. 🙂
They're all bastards anyway, hate them all virgin!
Too much emotional display is very overwhelming for me, especially if I'm not attached yet. Actually yes, this is what makes me run and never look back. You gotta be subtle and patient with Cancerians‰
Lol, but you're a Cancer and I don't hate you! You seem very levelheaded and chill. 😉
Posted by JkatsThat's because I am like the Joker, I laugh at world and don't give a shit.
Lol, but you're a Cancer and I don't hate you! You seem very levelheaded and chill. 😉
Just despise all of them, you'll be better off.
Aye yi yi, but I thought Cancerians appreciate people who are in touch with their emotions Moonbutter? And he's said that he's in love with me (which i'm hoping is true), so idk why me expressing my emotions would scare him away. Aren't relationships about communication, being open and honest with each other?
JKats tell me more about the situation with your Cancer. How long you have known him, dating, what he does to show you love... Etc I need a feeling on the big pic here.
Posted by MoonbutterWasn't this the story of the mad bastard who wanted to impregnate her as a sign of love?
JKats tell me more about the situation with your Cancer. How long you have known him, dating, what he does to show you love... Etc I need a feeling on the big pic here.
incandescentcancer, I dare you to post that on the Cancer board lmao!!!! I never thought i'd hear those words coming out of a Cancer's mouth, let alone a male Cancer!
Funny story. Like a week ago, I joined up to a Cancer group on Facebook to gain more insight on Cancerians, and this chick posts, "why are other signs in this group?!". Me not giving a shit, was honest that I was not a Cancer and stated my reason for being there, and some dude replies under my comment that " they need to go find their own group". I immediately left, seeing that I wasn't going to get any answers, only hostility. Jesus Christ, talk about territorial! That left a bad taste in my mouth, but then I found you lot, and I think y'all are super nice overall.
Funny story. Like a week ago, I joined up to a Cancer group on Facebook to gain more insight on Cancerians, and this chick posts, "why are other signs in this group?!". Me not giving a shit, was honest that I was not a Cancer and stated my reason for being there, and some dude replies under my comment that " they need to go find their own group". I immediately left, seeing that I wasn't going to get any answers, only hostility. Jesus Christ, talk about territorial! That left a bad taste in my mouth, but then I found you lot, and I think y'all are super nice overall.
Posted by rampartsNow don't you go around spoiling the character of good Cancer men...lol.Posted by JkatsOkay, I got your back til the end. Fasten your seatbelt though because cancers take you on a roller coaster
WTF, 2 weeks, you're torturing me lmao! Ok, I NEED to do this, because obviously my past actions, are making me look like I belong in the nut house. I swear, I am not normally like this, I just haven't "dated" in so long, and my ex (fiance), who's a Taurus, never acted this way. But I guess he was not the norm, or Cancer men are just that puzzling.
Your advice is gold, thank you SO much! I'm gonna follow you so I can keep you updated. 🙂click to expand
Yuppers incandescentcancer, that's me! Obviously I like putting myself through torture hahaha!!!
Posted by JkatsWhat a crabby bitch lol
incandescentcancer, I dare you to post that on the Cancer board lmao!!!! I never thought i'd hear those words coming out of a Cancer's mouth, let alone a male Cancer!
Funny story. Like a week ago, I joined up to a Cancer group on Facebook to gain more insight on Cancerians, and this chick posts, "why are other signs in this group?!". Me not giving a shit, was honest that I was not a Cancer and stated my reason for being there, and some dude replies under my comment that " they need to go find their own group". I immediately left, seeing that I wasn't going to get any answers, only hostility. Jesus Christ, talk about territorial! That left a bad taste in my mouth, but then I found you lot, and I think y'all are super nice overall.
Posted by rampartsRoller coasters dominate all fun parks for a reasonPosted by JkatsOkay, I got your back til the end. Fasten your seatbelt though because cancers take you on a roller coaster
WTF, 2 weeks, you're torturing me lmao! Ok, I NEED to do this, because obviously my past actions, are making me look like I belong in the nut house. I swear, I am not normally like this, I just haven't "dated" in so long, and my ex (fiance), who's a Taurus, never acted this way. But I guess he was not the norm, or Cancer men are just that puzzling.
Your advice is gold, thank you SO much! I'm gonna follow you so I can keep you updated. 🙂click to expand
Posted by JkatsWhat? I have said worse things about Cancer, religion and all kinds of other subjects. People really don't know how to react to the audacious things I say....rofl.
incandescentcancer, I dare you to post that on the Cancer board lmao!!!! I never thought i'd hear those words coming out of a Cancer's mouth, let alone a male Cancer!
Funny story. Like a week ago, I joined up to a Cancer group on Facebook to gain more insight on Cancerians, and this chick posts, "why are other signs in this group?!". Me not giving a shit, was honest that I was not a Cancer and stated my reason for being there, and some dude replies under my comment that " they need to go find their own group". I immediately left, seeing that I wasn't going to get any answers, only hostility. Jesus Christ, talk about territorial! That left a bad taste in my mouth, but then I found you lot, and I think y'all are super nice overall.
I simply don't give a shit. Being territorial is idiotic, the more the merrier.
Cancer men successfully date women of every sign, literally every sign. I think they should all come here and tell everyone how good they are or what bastards they are. Whatever,,,lol
Posted by JkatsDon't, that's just stupid. It absolutely defies logic, I know Virgos are not as Vulcan as people make them out to be but this is a bit too much. You'll get hurt and probably affect your children as well, don't do it.
Yuppers incandescentcancer, that's me! Obviously I like putting myself through torture hahaha!!!
Moonbutter, go find my post "Is my Cancer man in love with me", or something along those lines.
However, what I failed to mention in that post, probably because I was too embarassed, was that I would constantly ask him about our future over and over again (which may have led him to believe that I didn't trust him), perhaps was too clingy/needy, repeatedly accused him of not loving me, and have broken up with him like 10 times. Though in my defense, about 7 out of those 10 times was because I wasn't aware of Cancerians tendencies, and chalked it up to him not loving me.
Epic fail on my part I know. So either I drove him away for acting the way I did, or he's just a douche lol!
However, what I failed to mention in that post, probably because I was too embarassed, was that I would constantly ask him about our future over and over again (which may have led him to believe that I didn't trust him), perhaps was too clingy/needy, repeatedly accused him of not loving me, and have broken up with him like 10 times. Though in my defense, about 7 out of those 10 times was because I wasn't aware of Cancerians tendencies, and chalked it up to him not loving me.
Epic fail on my part I know. So either I drove him away for acting the way I did, or he's just a douche lol!
Posted by rampartsDo both! Although it's never as good as the first time, so just find a new coaster to ride☺ï¸Posted by MoonbutterLol no arguments there. But when it's over you don't know if you want to puke or do it all over again.Posted by rampartsRoller coasters dominate all fun parks for a reasonPosted by JkatsOkay, I got your back til the end. Fasten your seatbelt though because cancers take you on a roller coaster
WTF, 2 weeks, you're torturing me lmao! Ok, I NEED to do this, because obviously my past actions, are making me look like I belong in the nut house. I swear, I am not normally like this, I just haven't "dated" in so long, and my ex (fiance), who's a Taurus, never acted this way. But I guess he was not the norm, or Cancer men are just that puzzling.
Your advice is gold, thank you SO much! I'm gonna follow you so I can keep you updated. 🙂click to expand
Posted by rampartsThat's because you haven't dated the right Cancer rammy. It works great for me with Aries women, I love your short fuse. It makes me laugh uncontrollably that you get mad so fast. That said, I also know how shy and loving Aries women can be. You dated idiots, that's why it didn't work for you.Posted by incandescentcancerGood Cancer men? Where can I find those? :pPosted by rampartsNow don't you go around spoiling the character of good Cancer men...lol.Posted by JkatsOkay, I got your back til the end. Fasten your seatbelt though because cancers take you on a roller coaster
WTF, 2 weeks, you're torturing me lmao! Ok, I NEED to do this, because obviously my past actions, are making me look like I belong in the nut house. I swear, I am not normally like this, I just haven't "dated" in so long, and my ex (fiance), who's a Taurus, never acted this way. But I guess he was not the norm, or Cancer men are just that puzzling.
Your advice is gold, thank you SO much! I'm gonna follow you so I can keep you updated. 🙂
I'll remain as objective as possible. I'll give credit where it's due and be honest about the bad.
Cancer sun men don't work for me because I'm actually pretty sensitive in relationships and they hurt my feelings a lot. But it's mutual. As an aries, we are squared so we don't necessarily "get" each other all the time. Our natural dispositions rub each other the wrong way.
though it may not work for me, I can see how they're good for other signsclick to expand
No one can tell me that Cancer-Aries doesn't work, one of the best fucking matches there is.
Posted by rampartsI don't have the right answers for you but I do have a similar situation. I have Earth, Water and AIr in balanced proportions in my chart but absolutely no fire, I notice that I attract fire women. Even if they have a sun sign like Virgo or Pisces or whatever they have a ton of fire in their chart. I think your chart naturally seeks out what you lack. I don't try to fight it.
@incandescentcancer
See above. Stuck with Cancer moon for now. Can't ever completely escape it. I think it's because Cancer completes the missing leg of my t-square. My Cancer house is empty and the apex of a cardinal square. Those are my suspicions anyway...I can't really find much information on how to conquer it though.
Have any insight?
How are y'all pulling up posts in those box thingies from other people? Would make for a lot easier time to reply back lol!
Posted by rampartsYes, that's usually the logic behind it. You must seek out what you lack because that's your learning experience of this life.Posted by incandescentcancerMakes sense. I need to learn something from them.Posted by rampartsI don't have the right answers for you but I do have a similar situation. I have Earth, Water and AIr in balanced proportions in my chart but absolutely no fire, I notice that I attract fire women. Even if they have a sun sign like Virgo or Pisces or whatever they have a ton of fire in their chart. I think your chart naturally seeks out what you lack. I don't try to fight it.
@incandescentcancer
See above. Stuck with Cancer moon for now. Can't ever completely escape it. I think it's because Cancer completes the missing leg of my t-square. My Cancer house is empty and the apex of a cardinal square. Those are my suspicions anyway...I can't really find much information on how to conquer it though.
Have any insight?click to expand
incandescentcancer I like you very much, I don't get butthurt over much. Too many people let everything offend them, it's really sad actually. Like, get a sense of humor would ya?! And I swear, if after the two weeks are through and either he doesn't come back or changes his ways, i'm out. What can I say, love makes you blind and stupid sometimes.
Thank you ramparts, and damn, i've already been on this roller coaster for so long, i'm beginning to feel sick lol! But yet, i'm still on for the ride.
Posted by JkatsAlright, just take care. Know when to cut your losses, Virgos can do that when it doesn't involve personal relationships. In this case you need to be clear headed about when to walk away.
incandescentcancer I like you very much, I don't get butthurt over much. Too many people let everything offend them, it's really sad actually. Like, get a sense of humor would ya?! And I swear, if after the two weeks are through and either he doesn't come back or changes his ways, i'm out. What can I say, love makes you blind and stupid sometimes.
I agree.with everyone we all fall for someone..obsess and want to know every detail about them and the sign. Always be yourself though and whats meant to be will be. For me in general all cancers are not the same. It takes alot for me to tick....i mean alot....im very chill laid back. Yes i dont fall for ppl easily. But when i do as a woman we obsess lol. You will have to be extremely foul to make me mad or tick. But i can say what turns me off is dirtiness. Rude ppl, ppl who dont have empathy and sympathy those who talk over you and are one sided. Other than that.im agreeable if your positive we will get along and nothing u can do will make me tick
Posted by incandescentcancerSooo insightful. Never dated an aries before. HmmmPosted by rampartsThat's because you haven't dated the right Cancer rammy. It works great for me with Aries women, I love your short fuse. It makes me laugh uncontrollably that you get mad so fast. That said, I also know how shy and loving Aries women can be. You dated idiots, that's why it didn't work for you.Posted by incandescentcancerGood Cancer men? Where can I find those? :pPosted by rampartsNow don't you go around spoiling the character of good Cancer men...lol.Posted by JkatsOkay, I got your back til the end. Fasten your seatbelt though because cancers take you on a roller coaster
WTF, 2 weeks, you're torturing me lmao! Ok, I NEED to do this, because obviously my past actions, are making me look like I belong in the nut house. I swear, I am not normally like this, I just haven't "dated" in so long, and my ex (fiance), who's a Taurus, never acted this way. But I guess he was not the norm, or Cancer men are just that puzzling.
Your advice is gold, thank you SO much! I'm gonna follow you so I can keep you updated. 🙂
I'll remain as objective as possible. I'll give credit where it's due and be honest about the bad.
Cancer sun men don't work for me because I'm actually pretty sensitive in relationships and they hurt my feelings a lot. But it's mutual. As an aries, we are squared so we don't necessarily "get" each other all the time. Our natural dispositions rub each other the wrong way.
though it may not work for me, I can see how they're good for other signs
No one can tell me that Cancer-Aries doesn't work, one of the best fucking matches there is.click to expand
Yes, something's gotta give eventually, I can't go on like this forever. And fuck yeah we can. Piss us off, and we won't give a shit and will pretend like you don't even exist. I've done this pleeenty of times. I'm going to follow you as well so I can keep you updated. Have a great night!!!!!
Posted by lovely77Here here
I agree.with everyone we all fall for someone..obsess and want to know every detail about them and the sign. Always be yourself though and whats meant to be will be. For me in general all cancers are not the same. It takes alot for me to tick....i mean alot....im very chill laid back. Yes i dont fall for ppl easily. But when i do as a woman we obsess lol. You will have to be extremely foul to make me mad or tick. But i can say what turns me off is dirtiness. Rude ppl, ppl who dont have empathy and sympathy those who talk over you and are one sided. Other than that.im agreeable if your positive we will get along and nothing u can do will make me tick
Posted by JkatsHit the "quote" button up over there on the right side of the bar (your name is on the left side)
How are y'all pulling up posts in those box thingies from other people? Would make for a lot easier time to reply back lol!
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A lot of things make me tick, and sometimes they seem contradictory. There's a method to my madness, though.
Posted by lovely77I'm glad i'm not the only one lol, I was starting to feel a little crazy! My problem is that I have too much time on my hands, so what do I do, obsess and analyze the shit out of everything, which in turn, drives me insane. I'll be so thankful once I find a job, because it will keep my mind busy, and perhaps the time apart from my Cancer man will make him miss me, and will give him time to mull things over. Lol and your turn offs I think are pretty are pretty much universal, it's good that you don't let much bother you! I need to go back to how I was when I first met this guy, that's who he fell in love with.
I agree.with everyone we all fall for someone..obsess and want to know every detail about them and the sign. Always be yourself though and whats meant to be will be. For me in general all cancers are not the same. It takes alot for me to tick....i mean alot....im very chill laid back. Yes i dont fall for ppl easily. But when i do as a woman we obsess lol. You will have to be extremely foul to make me mad or tick. But i can say what turns me off is dirtiness. Rude ppl, ppl who dont have empathy and sympathy those who talk over you and are one sided. Other than that.im agreeable if your positive we will get along and nothing u can do will make me tick
Posted by GalOnTheCuspAha, got it, thanks so much hon!Posted by JkatsHit the "quote" button up over there on the right side of the bar (your name is on the left side)
How are y'all pulling up posts in those box thingies from other people? Would make for a lot easier time to reply back lol!
Hit enter a few times and reply. 🙂click to expand
Posted by MoonArtistOh you Cancers lol! Would you mind giving me a couple of examples of your "methods to your madness" please?
A lot of things make me tick, and sometimes they seem contradictory. There's a method to my madness, though.
Awww yes. I feel you. Sometimes we lose ourselves dont ever lose yourself keep busy and remember your last wording the person who fell in love with. Dont change that.
Posted by lovely77Yes ma'am! If anything comes out of all of this, even if he and I don't end up together, it's taught me a lot about myself, and how I can improve, so it wouldn't be a total loss. Nobody is the end of me, only God decides that fate. Have a good night!!! 🙂
Awww yes. I feel you. Sometimes we lose ourselves dont ever lose yourself keep busy and remember your last wording the person who fell in love with. Dont change that.
Posted by JkatsWell, gut feelings and intuition go a long way in helping follow clues, sometimes, and when there's an inkling of something being off, it's an easy thing to set up some well placed traps to see if the inkling is right or not. Also, I rarely forget things. I pretty much mentally catalog everything someone says/does, etc. and that's used for getting to know someone better, for doing nice things for them, and for knowing when they're lying.Posted by MoonArtistOh you Cancers lol! Would you mind giving me a couple of examples of your "methods to your madness" please?
A lot of things make me tick, and sometimes they seem contradictory. There's a method to my madness, though.click to expand
An example is me getting an inkling my supposed best friend wasn't trustworthy while I was planning my divorce. I couldn't quite locate the why of it all, just lots of little things that made me go on high alert with her, made me purposely lie to her so she would be in the dark and clueless about my divorce plans (I was keeping it a secret from nearly everyone but those closest because I couldn't risk my then husband finding out before I got away). After I left him she made it clear who's side she was on (his) even while she tried to play the loving/caring/concerned best friend to me. I hadn't confronted her, hadn't given her a reason to suspect that I knew she had betrayed me (she's been having an affair with my husband for years), so I posted a very vague thing on facebook about how much it hurts to have someone you love betray you. I didn't name names, and I didn't specify what the betrayal was. I could have been talking about my husband for anyone knew. It didn't take long before she texted me demanding to know why I posted on fb that she had betrayed me. I played innocent and asked why she thought that she was the target. She started dodging the question and refusing to give an answer, other than to keep demanding to know why I posted that about her. Obviously she was guilty or she would have never thought that was about her. No one else thought it was about themselves. lol
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