Major Milestone with Cancer Man

The very very very first text initiated by him

That isn’t a much delayed response or continuation from a previous abandoned conversation

Actually his very first text initiative was last 2 weeks but it was fuelled with sexual suggestion (more like sexting kind of message) so I didn’t count on it to be elated

But this time it was non sexual, purely with good intention, a simple greeting of sort

I’m on cloud nine ☺️

Don’t mind me 🤗

@CancerontheCusp - You gotta see this.

@taupixie is this the same guy of the last year or so?

I'll tell you something. Today I haven't been at my best because I was dating a really nice girl and it ended up not going anywhere. Do you know, it lasted just over two months, a few dates and lots of interaction from both sides. Dozen of texting hours, great conversations, both of us sharing personal things, photos, stuff we liked. I guess the usual when you are interested in someone and seeing where it might go no? And you know why it ended? I actually started to like her and she felt a more serious vibe. Not even a specific line I've said but a couple of things here and there. And she was just dating, looking for something but with a light heart and decided to step back. As much annoyed and even sad as I might be, that's just what it is. She was quite especial but there will be another one. I'm not saying this out of any superficiality, it's just it as good as it was, it only lasted two months. Not two years of a relationship.

Now back to you. If you are waiting so long for a first text from a guy.. Yes cancer guys and guys in general can be quite bad with communication. It's our forte. (I'm actually closer to the opposite with texting maybe because of my gem moon, I text too much). But how long have you waited? And how especial was the message? Did he invited you out? Did he confessed his feelings? Or was it just a casual nice message? Most people try to be nice to each other. I've recently met a friend of a friend and she invited me out this week. Do I think she is interested in me? Probably yes, otherwise she wouldn't have texted me or taking her the initiative of inviting me out. Do I think that she is really into me, wants to be my gf or marry? Certainly not. We get along well and maybe after one meet up there's another. And how much interaction have you been having with this guy? I normally don't like to give this type advise but here it goes: you are living in a cloud nine fantasy. And it's not his fault. You might think that at some point you might get him, but to what expense? And how much time will you waste? And for what benefit? Don't tell me it's love. Love takes years to develop and it's built with someone. It doesn't come with a good night here and there and a few texts. It's just an obsession or an illusion. Don't think that I'm saying this because I don't like you or your online persona. I couldn't really care about your persona, I don't know you. But I also went through illusions in the past (not the one I described above, that was irl) and it's a pattern that you need to break and as soon as possible. Keep talking to him if you want. You never know, maybe you'll get him at some point. But look around, try to find passion and love somewhere else. Enjoy your days, don't seat next to the computer waiting for a message, stalking him or waiting to see a blue tick. Why are you still here after everyone else's advice?

@caramelizedcoffee explain

@carrazeda - It was his first initiative text, not that they haven't texted during the 2 weeks.

Posted by nikkistar
@carrazeda - It was his first initiative text, not that they haven't texted during the 2 weeks.

But if it's the same guy from before it's his first initiative in how many months?

A lot of people always respond because they like the attention and think everything is very clear from the other side.

Posted by carrazeda

Posted by nikkistar
@carrazeda - It was his first initiative text, not that they haven't texted during the 2 weeks.

But if it's the same guy from before it's his first initiative in how many months?

A lot of people always respond because they like the attention and think everything is very clear from the other side.

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I can count the number of times my Cancer has initiated a text or call in two years, and I am still 100% a priority. I can also count the number of times my two bestfriends that are Cancers, initiate calls or texts as well. Most of all the cancers I have dealt with, don't give a crap about their phone. lol

Posted by nikkistar
@CancerontheCusp - You gotta see this.

I really didn't have to, but now...



Maybe the text was a photocopy of the judge's restraining order....

Hello people! I’m surprised to see the unexpected number of responses here.

@nikkistar, good to see you again. Nice to know someone is keeping track of my narrative & helping to clarify if any discrepancies 🙂👍🏻

@carrazeda, thank you for your time to share your story, opinions & advices. I’ve known Cancer man for more than 10 years now. We were coursemates at university when we used to attend some classes together & he used to pick me up regularly for a period of time to university. We lost contact after more than 1 year & moved on in our own lives. Back about 9-8 years ago we started chatting online again but I remember he pissed me off with a disclosure & I remember shutting him out after that. Until about 3 years ago I contacted him again. He admitted he “really liked” me then while at university but throughout all these years he never told me at all. He said he thought I didn’t like him & he was “more into games” (computer games) then. I never changed my phone number so he would have my number all along yet he never ever initiated any contact with me. So yeah, I understand that a guy would put effort to initiate & chase someone he really likes & I’m not saying this Cancer man is not, but I would say his style is very different. We missed our chance at university & I realise I might have hurt him when I shut him out 8 years ago, so this time I just want to make no stones are left unturned when it comes to us. Also, I’m not really closing off myself from other “passion and love”, I do keep myself open & I’d be happy if anything else come up that I believe is worth the shot. Thank you 😘 are you Cancer sun yourself?

@hydorah, hi! Can’t wait for @caramelizedcoffee to come onboard! 😁 did I ever say I love coffee & I wouldn’t be able to resist a good cup of caramelised coffee!

@CancerOnTheCusp, you’re the one still owing me a prize, aren’t you? 🤣

Nothing wrong with being patient towards something you see worth in.

If everybody were to give up & move on at the slightest hint of bad feelings, no wonder love doesn’t last these days.

yeah you have to give it some time - in the interim I focus on myself