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Meeting After 10 Years
Oh, I forgot to add. He asked me how old I am & when I answered (I'm a year younger than him), he went "just nice..." So I asked him playfully, "just nice for what?" He said, "It's a nice age, not too young, not too old." *raise eyebrows*
@sunkisses26 technically fwb
he probably has a girl at every port.
@sunkisses26 he's pursuing his studies somewhere about 9-hour flight away, though I can't say we are in a relationship.
@Illuminati if he doesn't tell & not being honest, I wouldn't know 😉
@starwars I contemplated that. Thank God we recognised each other immediately 🙂
@Illuminati if he doesn't tell & not being honest, I wouldn't know 😉
@starwars I contemplated that. Thank God we recognised each other immediately 🙂
Posted by starwarsEven better.
I would go to the airport holding a "ten years later" sign
Send a ten year old to the airport holding a "ten years later" sign
@_@
Posted by starwarsAnd then a disco ball descends from the ceiling, while the general public burst into spontaneous flash dance singing "we're all in this together"Posted by wagtailBrilliant! or a 10 ft person who is 10 years old holding 10 sings that says "ten years later"Posted by starwarsEven better.
I would go to the airport holding a "ten years later" sign
Send a ten year old to the airport holding a "ten years later" sign
@_@
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Posted by starwarsPosted by wagtailin red and white,to match the glasses of wine!Posted by starwarsAnd then a disco ball descends from the ceiling, while the general public burst into spontaneous flash dance singing "we're all in this together"Posted by wagtailBrilliant! or a 10 ft person who is 10 years old holding 10 sings that says "ten years later"Posted by starwarsEven better.
I would go to the airport holding a "ten years later" sign
Send a ten year old to the airport holding a "ten years later" sign
@_@
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I....like it *strokes beard*
@sunkisses26 he's someone I hold in regards, I like him. If that's what you're asking
It's just small talk.
Just saying always assume he has someone else unless he wants to make it official and exclusive.
Guys often says I'm not dating or sleeping with anyone else to buy time. Whilst he is telling the truth, he is not with you either.
Guys often says I'm not dating or sleeping with anyone else to buy time. Whilst he is telling the truth, he is not with you either.
You've known him for 10 years, and he didn't know your age?
I'm so lost!
I'm so lost!
@kissmygrits simply I want to hear this to put my mind back to perspective. Indeed. Although I'm surprised he shared pretty personal stuff about himself, but then I always know him like this. I guess this is also 1 of the main points that confuses me as to his real motive. I myself don't share unrelated personal stuff to people who doesn't matter
@Illuminati yes sir. I can't expect him to not have anybody or to only have me. He's very sensitive about this. He has vocally said he doesn't want to talk about feelings & emotions & doesn't want attachment. He gets frustrated at me being clingy & needy & said I was paranoid when I asked him about a female friend of his. He would not let me have any control over him. Although he himself has asked for me to tell him if I sleep with other guys because then he would to (implying exclusivity)
@Skitty I teased him about it too. He simply said he thought I could be a few more years younger. We met in college as coursemates
@sunkisses26 he does say he likes me too, & he also claim he only likes me & he has no other girls he likes. This is also a point of argument with other DXPers from my other threads. Yada yada I got it. He would say anything nice to get in my pants. Though he doesn't want to keep in touch. As mentioned, he doesn't wanna talk about feelings & emotions (in his own words, they tend to get complicated & he has no time for it) & doesn't want attachment
@Illuminati yes sir. I can't expect him to not have anybody or to only have me. He's very sensitive about this. He has vocally said he doesn't want to talk about feelings & emotions & doesn't want attachment. He gets frustrated at me being clingy & needy & said I was paranoid when I asked him about a female friend of his. He would not let me have any control over him. Although he himself has asked for me to tell him if I sleep with other guys because then he would to (implying exclusivity)
@Skitty I teased him about it too. He simply said he thought I could be a few more years younger. We met in college as coursemates
@sunkisses26 he does say he likes me too, & he also claim he only likes me & he has no other girls he likes. This is also a point of argument with other DXPers from my other threads. Yada yada I got it. He would say anything nice to get in my pants. Though he doesn't want to keep in touch. As mentioned, he doesn't wanna talk about feelings & emotions (in his own words, they tend to get complicated & he has no time for it) & doesn't want attachment
@taupixie sorry for spamming your thread @_@
@wagtail it's fine. You guys are hilarious indeed 😄
Sounds like he is stringing you along, he is also using guilt to make you second guess your needs to get any closer.
What sign are you?
What sign are you?
Posted by IlluminatiI know very well it's a futile effort to have him in my control. I only can follow his flow.
Sounds like he is stringing you along, he is also using guilt to make you second guess your needs to get any closer.
What sign are you?
I'm a Taurus sun.
Posted by taupixieSweetie you don't have to follow his flow. If he is not giving you want you want you can walk away.Posted by IlluminatiI know very well it's a futile effort to have him in my control. I only can follow his flow.
Sounds like he is stringing you along, he is also using guilt to make you second guess your needs to get any closer.
What sign are you?
I'm a Taurus sun.click to expand
Posted by Rapunzel
This how u date a cancer man 😉
All you have to do is let HIM date YOU. Period. Let him plan & lead. The most you do is just show up, be sweet & be beautiful. Do nothing else! Don't chase him, stalk him, initiate too many calls/texts/emails. Know that YOU are the PRIZE. Don't lose YOURSELF when dating these men.
How to act with cancer man:
Once he's won your time, u can really start to shine. When u two are around each other give him the time of his life. Focus on being unforgettable. Make him smile & feel relaxed. Be fun and sweet but not too mushy or emotional (don't turn him into your therapist) Just Be Yourself ! Try to SHOW HIM how u feel about him rather than telling him you cant breathe without him. Show him your feelings with out words. If you & him are just starting out, break the ice by touching him first. While you two are talking, touch his shoulder or knee. Let him know you are interested with your gestures. If you are bold like me, give him a girly kiss on the cheek! Or throw your arms around him. This will help if you're a really gorgeous girl, he won't feel too scared of u. The key is to be friendly with a little innocent flirting. If u are shy, be girly & smile a lot. Always laugh at his jokes & look feminine. Shy girls are very hot too.
How to speak to a cancer man:
Speak with tenderness. Don't say one critical thing about him. Don't be all forceful with him. If he doesn't do something u want, don't complain about it...just do it your darn self and get over it. Always choose your words carefully. Let him see that u are a safe haven or shelter to go to. When the world says he's crabby, moody, blah blah....u think he's absolutely awesome just the way he is!
If cancer man is ignoring:
DO NOT chase him. U disappear too! Turn the tables and make him miss u! Stay busy. Whatever u do, don't get CLINGY. Give him space & time to remember how fun & awesome & loving u are. Snapping or begging or making him jealous does NOT draw him closer to you...Silence is a secret weapon. Lastly, don't be afraid of losing him....Please don't. Don't waste days hoping he calls u. He should be afraid to lose YOU! Get your fire back. If u have done all u can to get him back & nothing has worked, please STOP TRYING! Let him come to u for once. He will return If u meant anything to him
This is my first post on this site. Been dating a cancer man for three years & learned him well. I hope this helped 🙂
@Illuminati thank you for the advice & sharing. That's the problem with my Cancer man. He NEVER EVER makes the first move.
I'm starting to associate this due to his Scorpio Mars & Aquarius Moon. He only shows his interest in a subtle yet sure way through what he told me. Yet, at times, I think his Aquarius Moon is very afraid of losing his independence if he were to let me in.
I would have thought he wasn't interested in me at all. Yet, he affirms that he has always liked me a lot since 10 years ago. So I asked him why he never pursued me. He said he thought I liked someone else, he thought I didn't like him, he thought I hated him & he admitted he was timid. So for the 10 years of liking me a lot but he would do nothing about it, now I've learned I could not hope for him to make the first move. I think he has immense fear & insecurities I suspect he always feels like he's not good enough for me. Truthfully, I got this even with my previous 2 exes. I don't know why I give out this kind of vibe. I think Cancer man himself is a great catch. I don't know why people around me thinks I must be on pedestal. Maybe because I carry myself confidently, always seem trouble-free & I never wallow in self-pity. LOL. I have Leo Moon. I want so much for him to understand I'm on the same level as him & that he can completely trust me, open up to me & let me be a part of his world.
I'm starting to associate this due to his Scorpio Mars & Aquarius Moon. He only shows his interest in a subtle yet sure way through what he told me. Yet, at times, I think his Aquarius Moon is very afraid of losing his independence if he were to let me in.
I would have thought he wasn't interested in me at all. Yet, he affirms that he has always liked me a lot since 10 years ago. So I asked him why he never pursued me. He said he thought I liked someone else, he thought I didn't like him, he thought I hated him & he admitted he was timid. So for the 10 years of liking me a lot but he would do nothing about it, now I've learned I could not hope for him to make the first move. I think he has immense fear & insecurities I suspect he always feels like he's not good enough for me. Truthfully, I got this even with my previous 2 exes. I don't know why I give out this kind of vibe. I think Cancer man himself is a great catch. I don't know why people around me thinks I must be on pedestal. Maybe because I carry myself confidently, always seem trouble-free & I never wallow in self-pity. LOL. I have Leo Moon. I want so much for him to understand I'm on the same level as him & that he can completely trust me, open up to me & let me be a part of his world.
Hm people change in 10 years ask questions be friends again.
@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428 yes, we agreed we might have changed in 10 years. But he didn't wanna hang out as friends months ago when I tried to ask him out. He told me he would only go out with girl 1-on-1 with the girl he sleeps with. That was a conversation we had months ago. So I told him to come & sleep with me, since he left me with no option of getting closer to him. Then he stayed up 1 whole night thinking about my proposal & did nothing. He thought I was angry & apologised to me in the morning. I think he didn't expect me to be that bold although he technically forced me to that. Things progressed very slowly from then, with a lot of push-and-pull. Throughout, I'm also beginning to see & continuously learning his patterns. What pushes him away and what pulls him in. But it is still very unpredictable. It's very tricky all the time needing to be careful with my words & the timing. But whenever he gives that very small encouragement & hint of interest, it means soo much to me, my heart flutters :/
Hm I guess so you both know what you need.
I'm like that too one man woman and loyal is my middle name and I got to know where things may head so I can act appropriately for my own.
I'm like that too one man woman and loyal is my middle name and I got to know where things may head so I can act appropriately for my own.
@FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428 I hope we know what we indeed want 🙂
@Instantkarma thank you for your input here. I really appreciate your personal chart reading for me. I didn't notice our Ascendant-Moon synastry, since mine is on Pisces & his on the hard-to-handle Aquarius! xD but yes, it's actually a conjunction! 😄 I read up a bit on this, & now I totally get it why he would tell me so freely all his personal & private information. Now I think about it, I could've been more receptive but I probably made him feel more vulnerable & insecure when I don't respond much 😢 my Pisces ascendant makes me shy & unsure how to respond & I usually provide my empathetic reaction but I guess I could've reacted more...
I wish I would still have more opportunity to see him physically. It's not easy to coax him out. I hope I would have the courage to be more emotionally receptive to him. Truth is, I know I may sometimes lack emotional depth in reality
@Instantkarma thank you for your input here. I really appreciate your personal chart reading for me. I didn't notice our Ascendant-Moon synastry, since mine is on Pisces & his on the hard-to-handle Aquarius! xD but yes, it's actually a conjunction! 😄 I read up a bit on this, & now I totally get it why he would tell me so freely all his personal & private information. Now I think about it, I could've been more receptive but I probably made him feel more vulnerable & insecure when I don't respond much 😢 my Pisces ascendant makes me shy & unsure how to respond & I usually provide my empathetic reaction but I guess I could've reacted more...
I wish I would still have more opportunity to see him physically. It's not easy to coax him out. I hope I would have the courage to be more emotionally receptive to him. Truth is, I know I may sometimes lack emotional depth in reality
@Instantkarma also just noticed we have Moon-Saturn square both ways :/
Don't mean to rain On your parade. Your Leo moon and his Aquarius moon are in opposition. There are lots of physical attractions but in terms of the emotional level you guys can clash as you are open and expressive and crave closeness. His Aquarius moon is aloof and detach. He can be there talking to you and you wonder if he is there. He value space.
Another thing about opposition is there is lots of push and pull dynamic. He will probably step forward when you step back and vise verse.
Moon alone is not enough to determine the compatibility. I'm only telling it like it is if we are only focusing on your moon synastry.
Another thing about opposition is there is lots of push and pull dynamic. He will probably step forward when you step back and vise verse.
Moon alone is not enough to determine the compatibility. I'm only telling it like it is if we are only focusing on your moon synastry.
Haha I have Aqua moon could of told you that can detach quicker than Leo moon. With expressing emotions damn.
But I just don't detach for no reason got to be something.
But I just don't detach for no reason got to be something.
Just a quick reply for now, @Illuminati & @FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428, to point out, Cancer man has his Mercury & Venus in Leo. He must be struggling himself with emotions & expression
I'm back 🙂
@Instantkarma I've tried reading up on North Node & IC but I'm not getting much information. What kind of dynamic does this provide in synastry? His birthday is coming up in July & you have just gave me some ideas I could use. However, learning of this Saturn influence we have, I have to admit how real this fear of rejection is. I'm not sure how I could plan a birthday celebration with him because he just might reject me & that's gonna not feel nice. He does have a knack for rejecting me.
@SensitiveBlues I've experienced how difficult it is to deal with his Aquarius moon but on the other hand I'm pretty thankful he has Aquarius moon to balance his watery signs of Cancer sun & Scorpio Mars. I won't be able to deal with extremely watery people.
@sunkisses26 we don't actually set any rules/arrangement. He only said to tell him if I were to sleep with others because then he would too. We don't exactly talk about dating others. He isn't the type to date around based on his character & what he told me. He told me how he was busy with studies he didn't even went out to explore the city he is studying in now, how he had a tight budget paying his own tuition fees...
@starlover why would you think I have no standard or that he isn't respecting me? It's just a rhetorical question by the way, I'm not expecting your reply.
@Instantkarma I've tried reading up on North Node & IC but I'm not getting much information. What kind of dynamic does this provide in synastry? His birthday is coming up in July & you have just gave me some ideas I could use. However, learning of this Saturn influence we have, I have to admit how real this fear of rejection is. I'm not sure how I could plan a birthday celebration with him because he just might reject me & that's gonna not feel nice. He does have a knack for rejecting me.
@SensitiveBlues I've experienced how difficult it is to deal with his Aquarius moon but on the other hand I'm pretty thankful he has Aquarius moon to balance his watery signs of Cancer sun & Scorpio Mars. I won't be able to deal with extremely watery people.
@sunkisses26 we don't actually set any rules/arrangement. He only said to tell him if I were to sleep with others because then he would too. We don't exactly talk about dating others. He isn't the type to date around based on his character & what he told me. He told me how he was busy with studies he didn't even went out to explore the city he is studying in now, how he had a tight budget paying his own tuition fees...
@starlover why would you think I have no standard or that he isn't respecting me? It's just a rhetorical question by the way, I'm not expecting your reply.
Posted by taupixieJudging from the chart he is probably full of internal conflict.
Just a quick reply for now, @Illuminati & @FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428, to point out, Cancer man has his Mercury & Venus in Leo. He must be struggling himself with emotions & expression
Just remember you are not responsible to change him nor can you. People are capable of changing, only when they genuinely want to.
Either you wait it out or look for someone who is emotionally available for you.
Since our last meeting which was the first meeting after 10 years, except for some small talk on that same day after our meeting, Cancer man has not replied to any of my messages since then. So I got discouraged to keep up without any feedback, I sort of told him it's okay & I wished him a happy birthday in advance for his birthday coming in July. I had initially been upbeat & excited & considering doing something for his birthday. He totally left me in this state of uncertainty I could not tell if there is any interest from him. I'll stop here.
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