my Cancerboy was like having Cancer!!!

Ok, I can't deal with this BS anymore!!! After my cancerboy being there & dissappearing & then acting like nothing was wrong, I have had enuf. I was trying to be patient as he was stressed about looking for a new job & his dad who left 10 years ago wants to get back in his life.

BUT, on friday me & him had some wine & were heading to meet my friends for his first time. We all got along great. But, we all drank a little too much wine. Anyways, he said he was going out for fresh air. He asked me if i wanted to come. I said no. Then 2 minutes later, i realized maybe he wanted to talk or something, so i went outside. His car was gone. I was so depressed, he ditched me infront of my friends, never mind , he left ME!!! Well he left his only phone (cell) there and I have not heard from him since.

I don't even know what to think. This guy is f'ed in the head and I've had enuf. Problem is, i don't even know what happened. This is how it is with him, it's hot and then he's gone, not mad, or anything, just GONE. I am losing my self esteem here!!!

I think you must have hurt him in some way...remember Cancers are very sensitive. He probably wanted your attention and you didn't give it to him and it hurt him do he just left. Cancer boys NEVER come right out and tell you that you've hurt them!!! They think you should know how they feel..but we aren't mind readers. But if he suddenly leaves or pulls away...I think it means you've hurt his feelings in some way. Just try talking to him and try to see if he gives you a hint about why he's hurt. Good Luck =)

we are our rotten festering cancer ridden turning black from the inside out emotions.



(lol)

Blah,blah,blah,f-k him already.Thats rude and selfesh and oh yeah a lie.Who cares if his little feelings were hurt,did he care if he lied and ditched her,no.

What all of you have said about Cancers is so true. I have cancers all over me..My mom, brother, ex-husband, 4 serious relationships, favorite cousin, AAAANNNNDDDDD...tatatadaaaaa(trumpet sound) My rising sign is cancer!!! I can tell you that you probably did hurt him cuz he did want your attention and you didn't read his mind as most cancers want and expect their mates to do. They have down right temper tantrums..but not in the traditional way..when they don't get their way...such as start fights...some very intense fights...walk away, brood, sulk, withhold conversation and affection..ect They very rarely come out and say what they need. We are supposed to know already!!!! Oh and did I mention that they know everything??
I would say they are the neediest and the most emotional of all the zodiac. Especially the men and especially JULY Cancers OY VEY!! They can suck one dry emotionally...

Haha Tiamat, you make me laugh!

He is an asshole & seems very selfish but I did send him an email in hopes of good closure:


Not sure what happened last friday night. I really wish we hadn't had so much wine. If I did something to offend you, I didn't mean to. I didn't want things to end bad. I had wanted to wake up beside you and start a beautiful saturday morning.

Anyways, that night is done, and although I can't say I had good thoughts about you after leaving me there stranded, I will have no bitterness. I know you are a good person, and I know you have a lot on your mind too. If you do need someone to talk to or even do nothing with let me know, even as friends. Just take care yourself, babe.

Love,
Gwendolyn Joy

I am too nice to this shitehead. You know, I know the cancerboys are supposed to be sensitive and stuff, but for real! GROW UP!!!

-blunt taurus woman (what else is new?!! lol)

Welcome to the world of CONFUSION ...if you have never been in a more confusing situation WELL dating a cancer will make you learn

I have DATED and I mean only dated a CANCER for the past five years ..he is so confused he does not know if he wants a real woman or not ........or should I say he wants to be in a relationship or not ................we go out.... we have a great time and I mean a great time he is really nice but two days after he is MIA ....he dont answer callsand i dont hear from him ....................................and then BAMMMMMMMMMMMMM he is back in my life as if nothing has happen ..and his excuse is he is going thru something and he went into his shell ................

I cant tell you if you should stay in this because I have dealt and continue to deal with this confusion as well as his fucked up Behavior... Attitude... Personality ...for the last FIVE YEARS

I can only say if you want a real relationship this is the wrong person to want..pursue or even consider as a match to be with it will only get worse and the only reason I have not gone MAD is because at this point I dont take him seriously and I dont let it get to my head ...so when he disappears i dont let it bother me GOOD LUCK

My Best Friend(Hey scornedscorp) and I are both dating CANCER'S and this was our posting a few weeks ago ...imagine what we talk about..............MADNESS

Message posted by: ScornedScorp on 7/13/2005 1:32:04 PM

The Libra(diam2cute) has been dating a Cancer Born June 22nd for the last five years
JUST DATING we go to exclusive restaurants and he treats me very well ...BUT and I must say but he acts as if I am his GIRLFRIEND/WOMAN and then on another day he acts as if we are just the best of friends or for days upon days we don't even speak ...... this relationship is very weird because he acts as if their is something he is holding back which makes it hard for him to commit I do not understand him and at this
point I would rather walk away from him rather than add another five years
to this weird situation ....

The Scorpio has been dating a Cancer born July 13th for the last year
......... Just Dating, barely speaking, who even knows what's going on, he
acts so cold, but then he acts like he wants to be with me but something is
standing in the way. We get along very well, we enjoy the same activities and are very attracted to each other. He knows that I care, I've been very sweet and caring.
Still giving him the space he needs, but he still seems to be running away.
It can't be just sex, since he's a good catch himself!!! So why is this still
going on? How can a man that you have been dealing with for this amount of
time, act cold, desire you but say no to intimacy (as if it was brand
new)....giving you the explanations like "I want you, but something is not right,
I don't know how I feel"!!! When did he develop feelings? I want to tell him
I love him, but don't want to get hurt. Do I stick this out or move on?
Please help us.


Please help because we don not understand these confuse individuals
..should we wait or should we go out separate ways —

Thank you
Libra and Scorpio

Oh my God!!! That is EXACTLY how it's been with this guy!!!

I gotta think about this.

Agressive expression of your EXACT frusturations may help with making up their minds.

Cancers actually love drama; the more you let them get away with their behavior, the more they will take advantage of it.

Tell him you are worth more than this, just be at his house when you tell him.

He left my Cd's in my mailbox yesterday with a phone number on it. I still haven't dropped off his cell, so I guess it's his new number. Why doesn't he call me?!! He's the one that left! Am I supposed to call. This is drama-hell as far as I'm concerned & it's a little gameshow to him!!! Probelem is, he's a little puppet in his show too.

Yup,he's testing you to see how much you want him.

THIS IS HOW A CANCER seeks attention...if you really like the dude smother him with Attention because if you do not show any support to this emotional behavior he will run ........good luck

website: http://www.miltonblack.com.au/compatibility/taurus/cancer.htm

I thought giving him space was what he needed to think or something. He didn't reply to my email either. Just drops off a phone number. He's the old fashioned Mr. Romantic, why would I have to do the chasing? I still gotta drop off his phone, I was hoping to see him in person then. I'm not even sure to act sad, missing him, or confident supportive and loving. I've felt every emotion already.

Who knows, maybe I'll just never see him again. I hate when a d*amn good thing just ends without even seeing it coming.

CANCERS ARE SELF CENTERED ......EGO MANIACS, LOW SELF ESTEEM ....INSECURE AND EMOTIONAL PERSON THEY REPRESENT CRABS HARD ON THE OUTSIDE BUT SOFT AND MUSHY ON THE INSIDE

Sounds like him. Not sure if I should run or try to save it. Not even sure if he wants to save it. I have no clue, he left me with nothing at all to base any decision on. Only sweet memories with cold patches in between.

WELL

Diam2cute...Libras are Shallow, Indecisive, and Gulliable in addition to being self-centered ego-maniacs so no wonder you guys don't get along...Remember the pendulum swings both ways! You have your faults too, but I'm sure you haven't given those any consideration because you are so busy making him into the bad guy.

and Taurusgoddess...I have told you this before and I think the reason you guys WILL NOT work out is that you are WAY too demanding. It seems like you want him to follow your every whim but when he is OBVIOUSLY going through a really hard time, all you can think about is how YOU are not getting exactly what you want. Perhaps you should move on...

Cancerlady

He's the old fashioned Mr. Romantic, why would I have to do the chasing?

Why? So he can know that you really and truly want him too. We have the hard shell to protect those soft insides...When we love...we love COMPLETELY and unconditionally and it takes a long time to move on when you really loved or cared about a person and you do all you can to make them happy and they are still unsatisfied.

It seems to me from what YOU have written AND what I already know about Taurus women (Two of my VERY best friends and one ex-roommate) that he gives and gives and gives and you take and take and take. Not only are you not giving back, but you don't appreciate what he gives. NO Cancer is going to stand for that. Male or female. Sorry to break it to you like that, but it is the truth.

CL

Ok, enough is enough. Ms. Cancerlady, first of all like all Cancers you are making excuses for unacceptable behavior. If someone brushes you off and completely shuts down on you, do you just turn your other cheek? Hell NO!!!!!!!! If you keep trying to get close to someone and they keep running do you continue to chase NO!!!! When the day is done no matter what sign a person is, THEY HAVE FEELINGS. If someone is treating or doing hurtful things to you, you need to leave them alone and go after someone who can appreciate your love and attention.

As far as your insult to diam2cute, she isn't self-centered, egotistical or shallow. She's a great person, which makes her a better sister, girlfriend, and BEST FRIEND!!!!! She knows her worth and is sensible enough not to let her Cancer Man or anyone else rent space in her head for free. Her motto and style knocks all what you say out the box.

By the way I know quite a few Cancer females, they have a tendency to make negative comments just to have something to say!!!!!!!!! Hopefully you don't fall in this bunch.

Thank You Cancer Lady for your kind words but I think You missed out on my what I was exactly saying i did not say we DONT get along I said I DON'T UNDERSTAND HIM and I said that as SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS CANCER MAN FOR FIVE YEARS YES AGAIN FIVE YEARS I CAN SPEAK FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE ...I DO FEEL CANCER ARE VERY SELF CENTERED ......EGO MANIACS, LOW SELF ESTEEM ....INSECURE AND EMOTIONAL PERSON THEY REPRESENT CRABS HARD ON THE OUTSIDE BUT SOFT AND MUSHY ON THE INSIDE

I ALSO SAID IF SHE WANTS TO BE WTH HIM SHE HAS TO SMOOOOOTHER HIM WITH ATTENTION BECAUSE OF THEIR LEVEL OF SELF ESTEEM AND NOT BEING SURE OF ANYTHING ...IT IS UP TO taurusgoddess TO KNOW IF SHE WANTS TO END UP IN A MENTAL INSTITUTE/JAIL OR CONTINUE TO CHASE SOMEONE WHO WILL NEVER TELL HER HOW HE FEELS

Message posted by: diam2cute on 7/27/2005 9:36:43 AM
THIS IS HOW A CANCER seeks attention...if you really like the dude smother him with Attention because if you do not show any support to this emotional behavior he will run ........good luck

Damn?

Cancers are Cancers?.Jesus people? have respect for those who got CANCERS?!!

Unless you meant Crabs..! That?s another story..!

lol .........................ha ha haaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ms. ScornedScorp...Please reread my post because you are WAY off in left field.

"As far as your insult to diam2cute, she isn't self-centered, egotistical or shallow."

If you'll notice I said LIBRA'S ARE...I generalized JUST like she did to let her know that each and EVERY sign has what another sign might see as a fault. I did NOT say Diam2cute YOU are blah, blah, blah. I just simply reversed the tables on her to let her see how it feels for a person to negatively generalize another sign, HOWEVER I do know plenty of Libra's who have these traits.

Secondly, I did not excuse his behavior...I said that TAURUSGODDESS was very demanding and she wants a good relationship to come to her easily. If she really cares about him...WHY NOT put in a little extra effort? If he is hurting inside as I imagine he is, WHY NOT give him the benefit of the doubt...if you CARE so much? Hmmm...She has said herself all of the WONDERFUL things he does for her and I'm sorry if it offend you or her that I feel this way, but I really don't think she appreciates what she has or had...Unconditional love means loving "despite" not loving "if" that's where many people screw up. It's like I'll love you, but ONLY if you do this, this, this, and this. Where as unconditional love is I'll love you despite the fact that you do this, this, and this. Why not fight if you think it is a good thing?

I really wasn't even commenting on Diam2cute's man but maybe I should have rephrased it to say that if two people are both so self-centered(which ALL of the Libra's I know tend to want people to WORSHIP them), then you will never understand another self-centered person because BOTH of you will be too focused on your own needs to fulfill the others. AND I have said before of myself...sometime I do messed up stuff to a man which causes a messed up reaction from him, but I fail to see where I messed up...only his faults. Get what I mean?

Then I said...perhaps you should move on...DID I NOT? My reasoning behind saying that might be different, BUT it does not change the fact that if she is unhappy, she SHOULD move on despite who is at fault and with ALL of the posts she has written, I don't know how unhappy she really is with him per se or if she is unhappy because he is not behaving EXACTLY as she thinks he should.

"If someone is treating or doing hurtful things to you, you need to leave them alone and go after someone who can appreciate your love and attention."

By the way...ScornedScorp SWEETIE, I don't make negative comments unwarranted. She asked for opinions, I gave them to her. If that was not what she wanted to hear...SORRY but I did apologize for being blunt. If that's not acceptable I don't know what is. FURTHERMORE many of the people who have been here for a LONG TIME KNOW that I am one of the LAST people who is going to put another person down or belittle them UNLESS they do it to me first more than a few times. Looking at the situation through Cancer eyes...I say she is demanding because if I had a man with her attitude (again based only on what she wrote) I would say he was too demanding for me. It's nothing personal because I DON'T KNOW HER!

By the way, just curious as to how you can be an ego-maniac and have a low self-esteem at the same time? Perhaps my definition varies from yours...

Cancerlady

Q LOL...You are crazy!

Cl

By the way I know quite a few Cancer females, they have a tendency to make negative comments just to have something to say!!!!!!!!! Hopefully you don't fall in this bunch.

Funny thing is...why would you even SAY this in reference to me when YOU wrote me a PERSONAL e-mail about your man and I responded as positively and tried to be as helpful as I could.

Things that make you go hmmm....

SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS CANCER MAN FOR FIVE YEARS YES AGAIN FIVE YEARS I CAN SPEAK FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE ...I DO FEEL CANCER ARE VERY SELF CENTERED ......EGO MANIACS, LOW SELF ESTEEM ....

So why didn't you say MY Cancer is so and so...Why did you say ALL Cancers...do you know every Cancer in the world? Is your opinion based on this ONE man so important that it cancels out all others?

Why is okay for you to generalize, but when I do the same thing, I am bad bad bad.

Hmmmm...

TO KNOW IF SHE WANTS TO END UP IN A MENTAL INSTITUTE/JAIL OR CONTINUE TO CHASE SOMEONE WHO WILL NEVER TELL HER HOW HE FEELS

Just because this is the case with you, does this mean this will be the case her? Oh yeah, it will be...I forgot you are the PREMIER expert on Cancers. You know all about every single one of them because of your experience with ONE MAN!

Whatever was I thinking! Bad Cancerlady Bad!

Ok, enough is enough. Ms. Cancerlady, first of all like all Cancers you are making excuses for unacceptable behavior.

AND your best friend is the other expert...I guess you guys got Cancer's all figured out and that's why your relationships are going SO WELL! I should ask you guys what all my next moves should be because you are SOOOO well-informed on Cancers.

Oh wait...let me stop because it's probably alright for you two to be sarcastic, but if I do it...I should be drawn and quartered! Certainly goes that way for generalizations.

mmm I disagree. Its not like were these "me-me-me-mine-mine-mine-I-I-I" jerks. I tend to put in 120% in my relationships. Sure we get into "moods" and stuff but to suggest that we want it all our way is obsurd. And yes if we fell too vulnerable, we SOMETIMES will pull away.

Its always the steriotype that were these irrational babies that pull up on these amature websites. Its so insulting. Am I the only one?

OH LAWD YES THEY LOVE DRAMA!!!! THEY THRIVE OFF OF IT!!!!

Not much of a player of games so...ya know.It's not very honest and kinda mean to the person who is trying but it's still not enough to prove it,it'd be insulting,hurtful and one sided if the coin side was reversed.People gots limits if they aren't appreticiated for what they do do thier going to leave in most cases it's not really a they don't care issue,thier tired and feel used.Give and take on both sides should go both ways all the time not just half the time.Which ever side is the one doing it,niethers really at full fault they need to communicate rather than hiding problems and toying around with mind games.Mind games are the most useless and uneffective way to get what you really want because it's reaction is usually false and to appease the person.Acting like shes happy and understands it when she doesn't know what happened would be false so.....(fill in blank here)

Tiamat...

You are better at explaining what I was trying to say all along. That there are two sides of EVERY coin and you must look within yourself for answers also when a relationship is in trouble. Don't just blame it all on the other person AND realize some people are not as good as communicating as others...doesn't mean they don't care, just they don't know how to express themselves.

Sorry about yesterday's tirade...I went a little crazy with all these damn pregnancy hormones plus like ABCR said, I'm tired of being insulted and generalized. It sucks!

CL

^5, Tiamat, everyone has their limits. Its no fun to be toyed with, or to get your feelings hurt. Its unavoidable sometimes, but when there is a pattern you must then look inside yourself and ask DO I DESERVE THIS?

OMG!!! What did I start here? You guys are all crazy!

Anyways, all your advise and comments were useful. My cancerboy is overly sensitive and I am overly insensitive, well when it comes to others. I caught My boy online and told him exactly how I felt. HOw I missed him & why, and he said he felt like I didn't care. He said he wanted me to really think about what I wanted & that he had to think too. After work I dropped off 3 roses and a letter explaining that I was withdrawing b/c I felt he was too.

So whatever happens, happens. But I know I've already learnt a valuable lesson. Treat your sweetie right, and never assume anything to save your pride.

"HOw I missed him & why, and he said he felt like I didn't care. He said he wanted me to really think about what I wanted & that he had to think too. After work I dropped off 3 roses and a letter explaining that I was withdrawing b/c I felt he was too."


Misunderstanding and Miscommunication break up relationships all the time, but I sincerely think that because you did this...you BOTH will feel much better about the relationship because it is OBVIOUS that you two care about each other alot. We all make mistakes but it is the better person who can forgive, move on,& learn from them. I already knew that was how he was feeling because I know that is how I would have felt putting myself in his shoes, which is why I made the comments I did.

I really hope everything works out for you and him...I am rooting for the fairy tale ending! By the way, TaurusGoddes you are right...Pride ALWAYS comes before the fall!

Cancerlady

What did i miss i tried to put a comment it was deleted hmmmm,anways i see there was a war of words but I must defend my cancer brethrens and sisterens,lol. Yeah so what we we sensitive but it makes us more da desirable. Ego tistical hmmm maybe to some extent but doesn't every have sense of ego and pride in themselves in their accomplishments. So all in all every sign have their dominant behavioural patterns. So no bashing, a lady came fo advice, and hope she got it. Hope everything works out ms taurusgodess.

Everything is all fine Cancer lady I think we all take it personal when someones speaks on ASTROLOGY especially when it it the negative aspect of our signs ..I totally agree with you on why and MY CANCER get along.....we both have the same disgusting attitudes and only two people with similiar personalities and atitude can go for FIVE YEARS without killing each other

as for Taurasgoddes hey if u like to chase buy yourself a new pair of sneakers and getting the running ..lol


scornedscorp you dont have to tolerate anyhting that is not good for your HEART


Love
the
LIBRA

I'm not going to chase. I told him how I feel, the balls in his court. He said he needs to think and I told him why I wanted to be with him and why I withdrew from him in defence of my ego, and how that was wrong. If he really cares about me the same way, he will try from his end too.

Some things are that simple, in this complicated astrological world.

If he really cares about me the same way, he will try from his end too.

And you are absolutely correct. If he does, GREAT! If not, he probably never really cared in the first place and SCREW THE BASTARD!

I have a feeling that he does though...If he doesn't come around, I'll truly be shocked going of what you have said about him.

CL

Lol taurusgoddess.Crazy Thats what they tell me yeah.Yeah cancerlady,the generalizing does get off pace of the post questions,doesn't it.I don't know,it seems to be reading to much into water sign hinting and stuff,some of us will talk if the person we're with ask us directly rather than trying to guess what certain things mean,half the time it comes out a little twisted version if theres a fear then what is the truth to the other person but shouldn't allow yourself to be used as well.Part of the reason discussing it here won't give you a correct answer to the problem you want answered for your boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband.Communication is a tool even though this sign may not be social.Im a scorpio,the supposedly most secretive(there are some people who see it that way too with me)of all signs but honestly half the time im willing to say whatever the thing is,if asked about it im not as much of a mind reader as im supposed to be,so you gotta speak up with water signs too.So your not beating yourself up over nothing or allowing yourself to be used.

Thanks again for all the love! I feel so good today already.

1. I just found out I'm gonna be another aunt (last time 13 years ago when 12)
2. Going to see Cancerboy next tues.
3.Taking day off to go to RED LAKE FALLS!!! yayyyyyyyy tubing down the river & party for cAnAdIan long weekend!

Don't get too crazy guys while I'm gone! 😉

By the way, CL hows things with your man & the baby to be?

HAVE SO MUCH FUN!!!

Don't fall in the water LOL!

As far as me and the BABIES!!!! Well yes we are fine. Yes I did say babies....I just found out this morning I am having twins. CRAZY! huh? My little peanuts as I have started calling them since they looked that way on the ultrasound.

Mr. Pisces doesn't know yet. Actually he doesn't even know I am still pregnant because I never told him. I wanted to tell him in person rather than over the phone but now I REALLY have to tell him in person. He is supposed to be here this weekend so I'll be sure to let you know what happened. He is going to FLIP!

"Excuse me sweetie but not only am I STILL pregnant, I am having TWO babies! Okay have a nice day!"

CancerLady/Mamadeuce!

Don't wanna bombard you whith these but you might try http://mizian.com.ne.kr/englishwiz/library/names/zodiac/cancer.htm#_Toc6671993

4th paragraph of "the cancer man" might help a bit if you haven't already heard it all before. seems genuine to me.

Yup some say we clingy, it is true u have to admit cancerbuddy,sometimes we are,cause we want it to work out. But as for the rest of the stuff u are very correct. When we give our all some people CANNOT handle that. We are too much and if that's the case I move on myself.

When we give our all some people CANNOT handle that.

I think this is it more than anything...The intensity of our love knows no bounds and the lengths that we will go through to satisfy our partners may scare alot of people away because they are unable to be as intense as we are.

Honestly I don't know why when we do it, it is called clinginess, but when a libra does it, it's called they just don't like to do things alone. Double standards suck!

CL/MD

CANCER'S do not know when to let go of anything and LIBRA'S dont like to be alone we (LIBRA) do not hold on to anything that is not worth our while ....as for understanding a CANCER that is like understanding why a LIBRA cannot make any decisions .........................lol