New cancer roomate

OK, a friend Cancer moved in. I like her a lot, she's very happy & enthusiatic. me & my scorp figured she can rent with us cuz she's inbetween places.

Problem. She uses ALL my stuff. From shower, cleaning bath products, makeup, laundry...invading my living room with her new f toy for LAST # DAYS.

But, but, she's so sweet & nice, & u cancers have feelings,

& worst of all, I HATE confrontation. What can I do? She's a great person. I already took my shower stuff out of the shower. I can't live like that.

# - 3 days, i meant.

oh & there's the food too. U know bulls & our food!!! lol

you need to set boundaries and you need to set them now before everyone starts getting on each others nerves. just approach her in a cool way. a way that will not put her on the defensive and lay it out there..if she is your friend or appreciates you letting her stay she will understand.

thanks guys, she really is a sweetie, never had such a nice cancer friend. Everyone just has their own boundaries. I'll get things straightened out. 🙂

mmm fooooddd, lol. Was it strawberries with cream and peach pecan pie ,mmmmmmm Oh i guess wants its there and noone touches its there for the taking..AYEEEEE ME MATEYS thaaarrs a food tuh plundeeeerrr,lol. ANd yes put a do not touch sign on ur food or put a stciky oh sharpie the food. ANd tell her pleeassseeeee i worked really long and hard to get this food if u want some just ask .simple.

Last I heard from you was on the Scorpio board regarding breaking up with him. Are you and the Scorpio working things out? What is it like having a female roomate with your boyfriend in the house?

Yeah,

I would set up some boundaries, or I would simply put my things up out of reach. I don't know, I like sharing and giving alot, but I don't like being taking advantage of in certain situations. If you don't want confrontation, just put your belongings away and if she comes in your private area, ask her in a cool way to help you replace your items, or ask her to buy her own.

Overly sweet people are the ones you have to worry about .. it's a cover up. If you believe they are angel nice than it makes it harder to be forceful, and Cancers do this kind of manipulation so people tend to overlook when they take advantage of you. If she was just normal niceness, then this would allow you to be direct without worrying about offending her .. but, she's a Cancer .. she wants you to feel worried about offending her, that's WHY she is overly sweet.

Think about that .. how sweet is a person REALLY, if they are taking advantage of you?

Appearances mean nothing .. actions are who the person really is.

Simple solution, without being rude or confrontational .. tell her that you hadn't realized the cost of keeping up with food/cosmetics used (shared) .. so, you'll have to make a new rental amount to compensate for the expenses.

"tell her not to touch your stuff just like that."

I agree 100% . Don't sweet talk it, be straight and to the point. I do not touch other people's stuff without asking or have persmission because I hate it when people do that to me.